Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

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The very first thing that comes to mind after hearing that story is that he wasn't a true friend and he just needed some people to hang out with and pass his free time because he is most probably avoiding them because he thinks that if he still stays with them, they might ask him for money since they are gamblers as well and we all know that gamblers tend to ask their close ones to lend them money so that they can gamble and repay it back when they have money.

So, I don't see that being surprising really, unless they are friends from a very long time, maybe from childhood, and the guy just ditched them recently because of the big win, but if that isn't the case, I'm 100% sure what I said above is the actual reason why is avoiding the two friends that he used to gamble with.

This might be true, but you know, there are many reasons why. The reason is not clear, that's why for the sake of their friendship, the two people have to talk to their friend and clarify the reason for the sudden change. Questions in their mind will only be answered by him. They will know if ever he really care about their friendship, if not, considering him as a friend is a waste.

Money reveals the true color of an individual, using it as a reason to distance himself to his friend, he think highly of himself and bad karma will surely hit him.

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[Hirose UK]

Money is neutral, basically money is the same as a knife, it all depends on who holds it. If money is held by someone who is not loyal to his friends, he will walk away when he has money. However, if the money is held by someone who cares about the people around him, he will use the money to help his friends.

He still cares with people around him, but he reduce his circle when he have money.

Before he have money, his priority:
1. Family
2. Girlfriend/boyfriend
3. His friend
4. Other people
5. Him

Hahaha, this is a good explanation and that is why many people may get along very easily or can always show kindness or concern for the people around them when they are just living as they are because there is purpose of being able to ask these people for help or other things.

When he already have money, his priority now:
1. Girlfriend/boyfriend
2. Him
3. Family
His friend & Other people

It's already nothing new because people think there's no real friends because they've experienced to become a royal with a fake friends. So they treat every friends are same and not deserved to get his money.

It is clearly very different if someone already has large amount of money perhaps some groups will disappear and there will only be one or two people who will still be cared about.
However this is an attitude that is not worth imitating because it seems selfish it just that most people probably do something like that and it not surprising if it makes us feel skeptical.

But if the money you get in large amounts comes from winning gambling then it won't last long or will quickly be spent entirely either for fun or to return to gambling.
Incidents like this have happened lot and are common.

[piebeyb]

But if the money you get in large amounts comes from winning gambling then it won't last long or will quickly be spent entirely either for fun or to return to gambling.
Incidents like this have happened lot and are common.

Yes, because gamblers are only talented at gambling, they are not very good at managing money, that's why we need a financial advisor when we win big from lottery gambling, for example, sometimes we need a financial advisor to manage our money or if we have friends who are good at managing it, why should we? Avoid friends, paying a financial advisor is quite expensive, but if you have a friend who can be used to organize and manage your money, why not, unless your friend is a gambler, you should not trust him to manage your money.

Gamblers' instincts will usually remain the same, spending their money at the gambling table or just having fun wasting money that doesn't need to be enjoyed by enjoying wealth which will usually just run out in an instant. As you said, it's true and the fact is that many gamblers win big in the lottery but it doesn't take long for their money to run out again and gamblers are poor again.

[Doan9269]

You one should make a big win and is not careful, everything will return back to the way it comes without having a tangible record of how the money was utilized effectively, people tend to celebrate with ones when things are rousy and when it became tough they all disappeared, but one will always be left with three set of people if the worst should happen, they are the family, wife or husband and yourself, so when spending the money also, we should have higher priority on this aforementioned personalities because they will always stand by us even at the peak of worst situation and stop making friends without benefits.

[LUCKMCFLY]

I think that when people earn some money, they get scared because they see God, so that's basically what happens, they believe that because they have a lot of money, they are more valuable than other people, so other people are not at their level, Which is totally Absurd, what I think is that you can't leave your friends stranded, does money change ? It may be that in some people it does change them, but personally a person should always be very kind, honest and above all humble, because the money runs out, and if the person who earned that money, if not invest it and put it to spending will not give you much, because the basis of this is that you can invest so that you have many more options to win, I would not hesitate to share all the bitcoin I can, but I don't know what others think , as I said before, the sperosnas a Sometimes they believe that because they have a lot of money, the others are less, and that is the worst, life will be responsible for teaching them that what they did is wrong, and that is not done because having money, or what should be done is better for the person. quality of life, not spending everything, Investing , and Above all being the same person, because one day we are at the top, tomorrow we don't know, then people believe that they have God by the beard and that is not the case, things are very Instead, life is the one that has the most Volaitiality, and the one that Sometimes shows you with the goals.

A person like that could simply not be a friend, he was simply a person who was taking advantage of the good will of the other two, or maybe he went traveling, but it is very bad taste for him to avoid his friends, the ones friends can be there in bad times, others you don't know, or money can give you a lot of happiness or make many things easier for you, but it's not the idea that you treat them like that either, because it's very ugly, I think that type of person won't have Not many friends either, because to act like this, it is quite obvious that he thinks only of Himself and that's it, he is Very selfish, in fact there are many people in the world.

[alastantiger]

I wouldn't do that. My friends has been with me through thick and thin. We are close knit and my win is theirs likewise my loss and vice versa. Knowing that my friends would not allow spend more that what is necessary, I will stick with them.

The person in the story has friends who are not his friends.

[ethereumhunter]

Right and I think also maybe most of them do this because of assumptions like what you said above, they prefer to minimize, honestly I wouldn't say they are stingy but maybe many factors could be the reason, it could be because they have other payments, or for urgent needs or it could be they want to pay off their debts, the point is for their own needs. And well maybe they can also avoid people who want to borrow money, but they prefer to keep it a secret because maybe the person who wants to borrow money is not responsible enough.

Yes, everyone has different reasons why they can do that, or rather hide the winnings from the gambling results and of course that is enough reason that they think it is better to do. But in my opinion maybe it is mixed, meaning between those who are stingy and also with those who really have many other needs that become their reasons.

Yes, it was because of reasons not told to his friends that ultimately caused misunderstandings. Having a lot of money from the lottery or other gambling games will certainly make many people want to get closer to that person so they can share in their winnings and this is what might cause problems if later someone wants to borrow the money. Maybe that's what he wanted to avoid so that people thought he was stingy, but they didn't know the reason for doing that. Maybe it would be better if the winner kept his win a secret from everyone else so that no one knew about it and nothing changed about his relationships with his friends.

By hiding your winnings from other people, you will be safe from various questions that your friends will ask and there will also be no people who might borrow your money. But those who win can invite their friends to eat to celebrate their victory but will not say that it was from their winnings playing the lottery.

But another common thing that I noticed where I live, a friend who achieved a big win was always a source of pride and every time we went out he never stopped showing off his win by watching replays. So far I have not found a single gambler who avoids borrowing from people or friends, because what is often found is fellow gamblers who give each other tips when one of us wins, at least enough to play for 1 hour.

It would be good if no one borrowed his money and made his winnings a source of pride. Maybe that's what he wants by saying or showing off his victory to other people because there are also people who do that to get attention from other people. Giving tips to friends so they can gamble is good because at least those who win can share them with other friends so they can also win like themselves. Later, if friends win, they will do the same thing so this is a good reciprocal relationship between them and will make their friendship even better.

[klidex]

But another common thing that I noticed where I live, a friend who achieved a big win was always a source of pride and every time we went out he never stopped showing off his win by watching replays. So far I have not found a single gambler who avoids borrowing from people or friends, because what is often found is fellow gamblers who give each other tips when one of us wins, at least enough to play for 1 hour.

It would be good if no one borrowed his money and made his winnings a source of pride. Maybe that's what he wants by saying or showing off his victory to other people because there are also people who do that to get attention from other people. Giving tips to friends so they can gamble is good because at least those who win can share them with other friends so they can also win like themselves. Later, if friends win, they will do the same thing so this is a good reciprocal relationship between them and will make their friendship even better.

Winning gambling is a matter of pride for oneself because winning big is a rare moment for one, so by showing off one's victory one will get praise from other people for having succeeded in winning the gambling.
However, showing off gambling will also cause bad things for yourself and it is very likely that friends who are not usually close to us, if they find out that they have won big, their friends will pretend to be close and hope to get a share of the winnings, even if it is just to buy food or liquor so they can enjoyed together.

If you're not careful, it's likely that the victory winnings will just disappear and just have to have fun with friends, even though we don't know each person character, there are friends who are always there when we don't have money or are in bad condition, and there are also friends who avoid us when we are in a bad condition, so we have to be smart in choosing friends to avoid friends who only take advantage of the situation when they are happy.

Sharing tips is a good thing for a friends to do so that his friend will too can experience victory like him, but it is not certain that the tips will be able to winner at gambling because gambling is a matter of luck and the victory he got from his previous friend was solely due to luck.

[ethereumhunter]

Winning gambling is a matter of pride for oneself because winning big is a rare moment for one, so by showing off one's victory one will get praise from other people for having succeeded in winning the gambling.
However, showing off gambling will also cause bad things for yourself and it is very likely that friends who are not usually close to us, if they find out that they have won big, their friends will pretend to be close and hope to get a share of the winnings, even if it is just to buy food or liquor so they can enjoyed together.

If you're not careful, it's likely that the victory winnings will just disappear and just have to have fun with friends, even though we don't know each person character, there are friends who are always there when we don't have money or are in bad condition, and there are also friends who avoid us when we are in a bad condition, so we have to be smart in choosing friends to avoid friends who only take advantage of the situation when they are happy.

Sharing tips is a good thing for a friends to do so that his friend will too can experience victory like him, but it is not certain that the tips will be able to winner at gambling because gambling is a matter of luck and the victory he got from his previous friend was solely due to luck.

Yes, it's true. I also feel it when I win, especially big ones, because I rarely win. I would consider it an extraordinary event that I could get, especially if the winnings could exceed $100. But I don't show it off to other people, including my friends, and just keep it to myself and my secret. I don't want to cause problems for myself by sharing my winnings with other people and if I want to buy them food or drink, I will buy it straight away but don't say that it is from my winnings in gambling.

Sharing our wins on social media will trigger various comments from our friends. Maybe some people don't like what we do, but others will approach and ask to buy food or drink. And the other people want to borrow money from us, especially if our win is a big win. It will also trigger bad people who want to take the money we get from our winnings. So, we must be careful if we want to share our victory with others and only share the news with people we know well.

Indeed, there is no guarantee that our friends can also win from gambling, but at least they will be happy to receive our money. They will be able to have fun without burden because it is not money they spend but from our gifts. And if they are lucky, we will be happy because the money we give them can give them a win like the one we got so we can celebrate together.

[len01]

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will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

but if we think instantly we will think how bad that person is when it is difficult and happy they are always together but when they win they disappear and avoid other friends and should win big amounts at least give tips whatever the amount to the people closest to them to give them a feeling of gratitude for getting a big win but after all, it was a decision he had taken and as a friend he did not have to think badly.

[noormcs5]

will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

Borrowing money will usually result in a bad way to relationship if the loan taker does not have the money to return the loan in time. This becomes even more serious if any family member or a close friend took a loan from you and now making excuses to return.

Sometimes, I feel that out of goodwill, you may give a loan to your friend as you have won big money in gambling, but the friend simply does not return it saying that you won so much money, you do not need this money. In most cases, the person who took the loan has the money to return it back, but still, he does not return it.

This is why better not to tell your gambling winnings to anyone and therefore no one will ask for loans from you and hence you are saved from all this hassle.

[Jody.Drummer]

Right and I think also maybe most of them do this because of assumptions like what you said above, they prefer to minimize, honestly I wouldn't say they are stingy but maybe many factors could be the reason, it could be because they have other payments, or for urgent needs or it could be they want to pay off their debts, the point is for their own needs. And well maybe they can also avoid people who want to borrow money, but they prefer to keep it a secret because maybe the person who wants to borrow money is not responsible enough.

Yes, everyone has different reasons why they can do that, or rather hide the winnings from the gambling results and of course that is enough reason that they think it is better to do. But in my opinion maybe it is mixed, meaning between those who are stingy and also with those who really have many other needs that become their reasons.

Yes, it was because of reasons not told to his friends that ultimately caused misunderstandings. Having a lot of money from the lottery or other gambling games will certainly make many people want to get closer to that person so they can share in their winnings and this is what might cause problems if later someone wants to borrow the money. Maybe that's what he wanted to avoid so that people thought he was stingy, but they didn't know the reason for doing that. Maybe it would be better if the winner kept his win a secret from everyone else so that no one knew about it and nothing changed about his relationships with his friends.

Well that's right, this can really make misunderstandings or end up with misunderstandings, and of course their friendship at least will definitely be tenuous, I really understand how when you are in such conditions and indeed I have also experienced the same thing. The role of money can indeed be an intermediary for us to find out how the real nature of the person is, whether our friends or relatives or whoever it is, money is very sensitive. Everyone wants money but not everyone wants to give money to others for free. If we really don't want to give a small portion of our winnings to others then it's better to keep it a secret, because of course if you tell but don't share the winnings at all then there will definitely be misunderstandings, even though there are other factors that are the reason why you don't give it, but other people won't care about all your reasons, they won't believe it.

By hiding your winnings from other people, you will be safe from various questions that your friends will ask and there will also be no people who might borrow your money. But those who win can invite their friends to eat to celebrate their victory but will not say that it was from their winnings playing the lottery.

There is nothing better unless you hide it, I'm sure you want your relationship to remain good with friends, so it's better to hide it, rather than causing problems that don't have to be a problem, if they don't know then obviously they won't ask anything or even borrow money, well it's true that if you still want to give your friends such as treating friends to food then you can just find another reason, the point is not to mention that the money is the result of gambling winnings.

[uneng]

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will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

but if we think instantly we will think how bad that person is when it is difficult and happy they are always together but when they win they disappear and avoid other friends and should win big amounts at least give tips whatever the amount to the people closest to them to give them a feeling of gratitude for getting a big win but after all, it was a decision he had taken and as a friend he did not have to think badly.

Actually, people shouldn't expect anything from others, because when you do, you end disappointing yourself quite often, due to the subverted human nature, which reached to a stage of being heavily deceiving and harmful to people around. As Holy Bible says: "...Cursed is the man who trusts in man...", and puts so much hopes on corrupted human beings, but don't trust their own potential and their own divine essence to cause impacting changes on their own lifes.

We can't rely on prizes earned by other people to change our own reality. Each one has its personal path which has to be trailed by the individual, not being possible to be carried on the back of someone else...

On the other hand, on the few exceptions to the rule, that is, when you find people willing to share what they have with you, make sure to be reciprocal and thankful for the oasis of fresh water you have found on the middle of the deadly desert.

[Lida93]

will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

Borrowing money will usually result in a bad way to relationship if the loan taker does not have the money to return the loan in time. This becomes even more serious if any family member or a close friend took a loan from you and now making excuses to return.

Sometimes, I feel that out of goodwill, you may give a loan to your friend as you have won big money in gambling, but the friend simply does not return it saying that you won so much money, you do not need this money. In most cases, the person who took the loan has the money to return it back, but still, he does not return it.

This is why better not to tell your gambling winnings to anyone and therefore no one will ask for loans from you and hence you are saved from all this hassle.

Money has destroyed many relationships because a friend loaned money to a friend or a relative loaned money to a relative with the mutual agreement of repaying back the loan within a stipulated time but they consciously felt unconcerned and uninteresting in paying the loan for reason best known to them.

Because of the close ties that exists these people feel you will do nothing about it if they don't pay that's why I don't give out loans to people I have any form of affinity with. If am to give you any money I'll do so with the intend of it not been a loan without you knowing, hence if you pay back or not I don't have to worry about it but it just a lesson never to trust you with my money some other time.

Just that in this case we don't know or not sure if these friends to the gambler that won the huge amount of money intend on requesting for money from him or not as to why he's avoid them. Which I had the chance to meet with the winner we would have being able to know the real cause of his avoidance.

[Rabata]

The very first thing that comes to mind after hearing that story is that he wasn't a true friend and he just needed some people to hang out with and pass his free time because he is most probably avoiding them because he thinks that if he still stays with them, they might ask him for money since they are gamblers as well and we all know that gamblers tend to ask their close ones to lend them money so that they can gamble and repay it back when they have money.

So, I don't see that being surprising really, unless they are friends from a very long time, maybe from childhood, and the guy just ditched them recently because of the big win, but if that isn't the case, I'm 100% sure what I said above is the actual reason why is avoiding the two friends that he used to gamble with.

This might be true, but you know, there are many reasons why. The reason is not clear, that's why for the sake of their friendship, the two people have to talk to their friend and clarify the reason for the sudden change. Questions in their mind will only be answered by him. They will know if ever he really care about their friendship, if not, considering him as a friend is a waste.

Money reveals the true color of an individual, using it as a reason to distance himself to his friend, he think highly of himself and bad karma will surely hit him.

Why that gambler isn't communicating with his friends is entirely up to him. But the other two friends who are discussing about the winner they are also not lying. There is nothing to be done if other friends perceive it negatively, but it can also be thought of positively. Since the fact is not clear, no comment should be made without knowing. But it is absolutely true that if one gets money it does not take time to change his color. However, it is also possible that the gambler will be devastated by a big win. In terms of relationship breakup is a harmful aspect but in terms of personal freedom he did not do anthing bad.

[Agbe]

Ahahahah, the guy was afraid of the taxation of the friends. Such is life, but at least he would have given them small amount so they can use it compensate themselves on their loses of the day. And now that he has done them this they would be very angry with him. And one thing the friend should know is that, a million naira is just a small chance in this present world because the cost of living is very high and the money can not carry him to a long distance. Though if he is wise, he can use it to start up a business and start making income from there or he can use it to invest in bitcoin and wait for the bull time to come.

[Blitzboy]

will not blame anyone in that situation and if we think logically I appreciate the person efforts to avoid his friends after a big win because in my experience history when a friend finds out another friend has a lot of money and tries to borrow a large amount promises to return it but in In the end, they did not return the money and the two parties quarreled and broke off their friendship. so if that person avoids his friends to avoid this situation, I really appreciate it because he wants to maintain his friendship with other friends because money can break someone good relationship.

Borrowing money will usually result in a bad way to relationship if the loan taker does not have the money to return the loan in time. This becomes even more serious if any family member or a close friend took a loan from you and now making excuses to return.

Sometimes, I feel that out of goodwill, you may give a loan to your friend as you have won big money in gambling, but the friend simply does not return it saying that you won so much money, you do not need this money. In most cases, the person who took the loan has the money to return it back, but still, he does not return it.

This is why better not to tell your gambling winnings to anyone and therefore no one will ask for loans from you and hence you are saved from all this hassle.

Man, isnt it something when the tables turn and suddenly, winning feels a bit like losing? You're riding high on that gambling win, feeling all king of the world, and BAM! Friends & fam turn into mini loan officers, right? Its crazy. Now, Im all for helping out when you can, but its important to keep the boundaries straight. Friends are friends, banks are banks. Mix them up, and its like pouring cola into your morning coffee. Just a mess.

You hit the nail on the head: the golden rule of gambling winnings is – hush-hush! Keep it under wraps, low-key, on the down-low... you get the drift. That way, friendships stay intact, and your wallet remains safe and sound. Win-win, or should I say, win without any loans?

[mindrust]

People are assholes… on the other hand friends are assholes too. I didn’t like him avoiding his friends first but then I realized maybe we don’t know the whole story. Maybe his friends were going to ask some “favors” from him. These things happen a lot in real life. I now think we can’t judge him for what he does. Even if his friends were all good people, maybe he just needs some time to plan his future and he is not really deleting his friends for good. Maybe this is just a temporary period. Or maybe… he just doesn’t want to befriends with them poor schmucks anymore. Since he is rich now, maybe he wants to be friends with them rich people. That happens too.

[jeha2015]

From your story we can conclude why after winning a large amount of gambling he left, it could be because he knew he had spent too much money at the gambling place and this was the first time he had achieved a big win in his gambling. So he didn't want to bother him because he was afraid that if he got close to his friend he would give him money.

Or vice versa, he deliberately distanced himself because he already knew his friend's stingy nature, and he didn't want their friendship to be damaged because of gambling money.

[wheelz1200]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Most likely because they are degenerates amd figures his "friends" will be begging him for money since he has some to burn.  If I won a significant amount of money like that and knew guys I hung with are always gambling I'd stay away too.  Second reason is he probably doesn't want to lose it all.  If he hangs with them, inevitably he is going to jam his money in the middle. And then there is an outside chance he owes them big money