Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[CryptSafe]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I can think of only 3 reasons why that colleague would behave in this way.

1. He wants to stay low because he doesn't want many people to know about his winning. We know that lots of money brings unwanted attention and may be that's why he is keeping distance from everyone until he figures out what to do with this money.

2. He would be thinking that his colleagues would ask him for money and he doesn't want to give them any.

3. He might be busy enjoying his reward elsewhere.

Most times people only think one way when it comes to matters of this nature.  Sometimes some people react back in the way they were treated when the journey was rough and tough. Possibly your reasons are correct but what if it is possible to meet with that gambler and ask him questions pertaining his actions then you will be able to hear his story and do not be surprised of him telling you his experience with his friends who were mean on him when they were together trying to make an earns meet through gambling.

That's a possibility as well. People learn from their experiences and sometimes the experiences are not good.
In such situations, people adapt what has happened to them and do the same.
There are many reasons why the gambler would have behaved in this way and there's nothing wrong in it.

Everyone is entitled to their actions likewise the gambler so if he decided to act that way you would not blame him because they say, experience is a teacher. He has learnt alot from his friends and was quiet following them and when it happened to him that he won big time, he fled for his safety and did not tell his friends because possibly he could not trust them to protect him but rather would want to run.him.down. I believe this was his logic before running away with his wins.

[maydna]

Everyone is entitled to their actions likewise the gambler so if he decided to act that way you would not blame him because they say, experience is a teacher. He has learnt alot from his friends and was quiet following them and when it happened to him that he won big time, he fled for his safety and did not tell his friends because possibly he could not trust them to protect him but rather would want to run.him.down. I believe this was his logic before running away with his wins.

As you said, he has the right to do that, especially if he sees that his friends cannot be trusted. He would probably prefer to hide his win rather than tell his friends and only tell it to those close to him. But whatever the reason, he is entitled to his win, and to say or hide it also depends on him. He will choose whichever is comfortable for him, and if he feels he can say something about his win, he will say so. His other friends also had no right to force him to tell them about what happened with the bet because he had avoided them.

[CryptSafe]

Everyone is entitled to their actions likewise the gambler so if he decided to act that way you would not blame him because they say, experience is a teacher. He has learnt alot from his friends and was quiet following them and when it happened to him that he won big time, he fled for his safety and did not tell his friends because possibly he could not trust them to protect him but rather would want to run.him.down. I believe this was his logic before running away with his wins.

As you said, he has the right to do that, especially if he sees that his friends cannot be trusted. He would probably prefer to hide his win rather than tell his friends and only tell it to those close to him. But whatever the reason, he is entitled to his win, and to say or hide it also depends on him. He will choose whichever is comfortable for him, and if he feels he can say something about his win, he will say so. His other friends also had no right to force him to tell them about what happened with the bet because he had avoided them.

Of course if one trust his or her friends, one would be able to own up to them whatever the case maybe but the reverse was the case here he did not tell his friends anything but rather he chose to hide and run away from them. This goes a long way to tell you who they are. Probably they might have been making jest of him and unknown to them he knew what they were doing to him but he chose to remain silent about it till he win redeemed his win and he fled from them. Although he has the right whatsoever to do whatever he wishes to do with his wins and that does not really concerns anybody.

[shogun47]

You are right, these situation when it becomes public without your consent can of course happen. The lottery in some countries is a good example because for some time they required their players to consent to becoming publicly known or announced when they are the jackpot winners. There are still some lottery formats that work that way. And this reminds me of problems that occurred with the Italian mafia. Google "lottery win, mafia, Italy" and it's really frightening how these people may have been hunted down for their winnings. In one case there was a group in an Italian village announced as winners in public and they really had to hide from there on. It is unknown whether they were hunted down. 

I had no idea the Italian Mafia used the resources and man power to hunt down lottery winners in their own villages and cities, which is frightening. If lottery operators are aware of those problems in their societies, then they should completely give the option to their winners so they can claim their jackpots anonimously. One can understand that the lottery, as a company, wants the public to know they are legitimate and they indeed pay to their big winners, but FORCING their winners to risk their physical integrity for money is simply utter selfishness and stupidity.
There could even be some link between the Italian Mafia and the lottery operators to carry out those crimes against winners, but I don't have any proof of such corruption, neither would dare to try to write much about it, for my own personal security, mafias and crime syndicates are not to be underestimated. 

You understand how it works and I agree that there is a high possibility for this to be true and it would also explain why the lottery would make it a requirement (or did so in the past) for winners to come out in public. Because if they didn't get mentioned publicly, how would the mafia know who won the money? That would allow for the only conclusion that someone from the lottery operation is giving out names secretly.

Having a lot of money is amazing and solves so many problems, but it changes life in a different way and I think people who go from no money to millions in a short period of time often underestimate the true consequences of that. People who have been rich for a long time learned and know what to do, whom to trust and how to behave in certain situations.

[LUCKMCFLY]

I am very jealous about these things, I am not one to be with friends, because I consider most of them that at any moment they cannot betray, they can talk too much, I try not to give them too much encouragement, my friends are few, they do not even reach 5 fingers the hand, why? because people nowadays are quite bipolar or betrayal, disappointing most of the time, my wife is a woman who told me that she had friends, then those friends, two of them were very bad, the good thing is that she I let her know with tests, one I discovered that she was a lesbian and a witch because she did witchcraft on her when spirits came to kill them, and since I'm not afraid of that I just got scared and realized that it was her, and I told her that I didn't even want to see her. that woman more, and another one was quite biolar and toxic, then I also told her the same thing, and I told her what friends? Those who try to harm other people are not friends, but I can't understand why people focus on harming other people? What do they gain from that? I don't understand it, instead of worrying about getting money, or business, something that produces them.

Although that story has nothing to do with this, I tell it because there is a certain analogy and that is that people like to use others to climb and they don't mind trampling them as long as they clarify, so this means that when we do certain things like those friendships, which for me are not, and what this man did when he earned that money, well, they are things that show that when they do not have a common interest they use others and when they get what they want they leave , that is not about friends, so companions are one things and a friend is another, that is what we must differentiate, so when we do the analysis it is difficult when there are friends and money mixed at the same time, that is why when we We see the money and friends, we should not mix them, it is always more likely that there will be problems that will arise.

You don't need to be jealous of all that because we can be friends with whoever we want. From these friendships, we have to select friends who can truly be friends so that they will be our friends whatever the conditions and situations we face so that we can give and receive well from each other. There won't be many and maybe it will only be 5 people or fewer because finding friends who can become friends is not easy and we can find them after having a few friends. And those who understand us and vice versa will maintain good friendships and not hurt each other. And if someone succeeds in winning at gambling, they will invite all their close friends to share their winnings but no one is jealous of what their friend has got because they know that it depends on their own luck and the luck of each person will be different.

Many people like to use other people for their own interests and when they get it, they will just leave it, especially if nothing is left to use. Friends like that don't need to be approached because they will approach us, especially when they need something. This has often happened to us and other people, so we have to be careful in socializing and always look for people who can be our friends in every situation and condition. Good friends are hard to find but friends who are just friends are easy to find. It's possible that the man knew that he didn't have any friends who were really close to him, so he started to stay away from people who weren't close friends because he knew that the people around him only wanted to take advantage of his winnings. He doesn't want to be lied to by friends who pretend to be nice to him but they have a specific purpose behind their good attitude.

You would really be able to see on whose your real friend and whose are really just that good when you are that beneficial to them because we know that there are friends who are really that taking advantage into someone which they do know that they could really be able to benefit out or something that could really be able to help but on the time that you arent that already needed then you would really be dumped and trashed and this is really that indeed happening and this is something that we do really know that do happen in real life.On the situation on which if you are someone who are really that able to hit up some huge win
then why would really be trying out to hide from your friends, what for? Afraid on getting asked out for some money? It would be normal but doesnt mean that they do really mean out since they cant really be able to force you out on giving or not.If you would then its good but if its not then its still good. Its not really that worth on putting up your friendship in line just because of money.

Somewhat its not really that bad on making yourself that able to give some small amounts on showing up some compliments into your friends specially if you do win up big
then it wont really be that hurting you on giving out some money that they could make use of but not necessarily for it to be big. It would really be just that sufficient or something not that big and not that small too.

What I think about this is that when we are people who can share sessions in a cafe or anywhere, it can happen that When at least I Know that I can help someone , I do it without further ado, because I like that people people are Fine , who have taken Advantage of me in real life ? Yes , many times it is like that , because when things are given in favor of someone it is understood, what I don't like is when one of those people starts doing bad things for you , because it is another bear, it is a betrayal, and that It's something that at least I'm not a co-descendant with that , because when that's the case, Well , I cut off all friendship at once, and I don't want to know Anything and I don't Even want to have contact with that person , that's why I say, that one can look like a fool, others think that one is a fool, but one is not, in part friends will Always be beings that we do not know if they are real or No t, they can spend 10 years being friends, or even more, But if they betray you , it's because they Were never your friend.

There are many People in the World who can take Advantage of others , the World is full of that, but what are you going to do about it? If the majority are like that, we can't fight against it, what we can do is that with a lot of decency we can Choose and tell people the thing to Their face , Which is what made that promise of not Going with each other anymore. because he only has money, it is obvious that some people, not all, Change money , but the money runs out, and when it Runs out he Remains at the same level as Everyone, obviously if that person does not take a legal course towards a process financial at the top, that is, looking for the best Investment so that that money goes much higher, if you do nothing, at some point you Spend Everything you have , then these things , Money does not buy friendships, many can You can be Anywhere with a lot of money, but friendships Cannot be bought , true friends are known When you are in Bad Times.

[Samlucky O]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Truth be told, not only in gambling even in other aspects of life if people becomes rich, dey run from there colique reason being that if you are reach every body will start bringing up there problem to you.  Naturally human has that mentality of  complaining anytime they see a rich person. That's why you see rich people always do that.
Rich people always want to discus matters with people of there class, because those that don't belong to there class has nothing to add to there life rather than cooking up story that will always make you to spend more.

[Blitzboy]

You are right, these situation when it becomes public without your consent can of course happen. The lottery in some countries is a good example because for some time they required their players to consent to becoming publicly known or announced when they are the jackpot winners. There are still some lottery formats that work that way. And this reminds me of problems that occurred with the Italian mafia. Google "lottery win, mafia, Italy" and it's really frightening how these people may have been hunted down for their winnings. In one case there was a group in an Italian village announced as winners in public and they really had to hide from there on. It is unknown whether they were hunted down. 

I had no idea the Italian Mafia used the resources and man power to hunt down lottery winners in their own villages and cities, which is frightening. If lottery operators are aware of those problems in their societies, then they should completely give the option to their winners so they can claim their jackpots anonimously. One can understand that the lottery, as a company, wants the public to know they are legitimate and they indeed pay to their big winners, but FORCING their winners to risk their physical integrity for money is simply utter selfishness and stupidity.
There could even be some link between the Italian Mafia and the lottery operators to carry out those crimes against winners, but I don't have any proof of such corruption, neither would dare to try to write much about it, for my own personal security, mafias and crime syndicates are not to be underestimated. 

You understand how it works and I agree that there is a high possibility for this to be true and it would also explain why the lottery would make it a requirement (or did so in the past) for winners to come out in public. Because if they didn't get mentioned publicly, how would the mafia know who won the money? That would allow for the only conclusion that someone from the lottery operation is giving out names secretly.

Having a lot of money is amazing and solves so many problems, but it changes life in a different way and I think people who go from no money to millions in a short period of time often underestimate the true consequences of that. People who have been rich for a long time learned and know what to do, whom to trust and how to behave in certain situations.

The idea that lottery organizers and crime might be exchanging information in secret is interesting. This "under the table" conversation would badly hurt the ideas of fairness and privacy. Unsettling to think that lottery winners might be thrust into the spotlight for more than just proving that the lottery is real. How do you tell the difference between being honest and having a secret agenda?

One's life changes irreversibly when they go from being poor to having a lot of money very quickly. The innocence of a new millionaire is very different from the learned caution of someone who is always rich. Going through this huge change is a Herculean job that requires more than just financial knowledge. People who are about to get a huge gain might need to get some training in how to handle their money and keep themselves safe.

[Hispo]

You are right, these situation when it becomes public without your consent can of course happen. The lottery in some countries is a good example because for some time they required their players to consent to becoming publicly known or announced when they are the jackpot winners. There are still some lottery formats that work that way. And this reminds me of problems that occurred with the Italian mafia. Google "lottery win, mafia, Italy" and it's really frightening how these people may have been hunted down for their winnings. In one case there was a group in an Italian village announced as winners in public and they really had to hide from there on. It is unknown whether they were hunted down.  

I had no idea the Italian Mafia used the resources and man power to hunt down lottery winners in their own villages and cities, which is frightening. If lottery operators are aware of those problems in their societies, then they should completely give the option to their winners so they can claim their jackpots anonimously. One can understand that the lottery, as a company, wants the public to know they are legitimate and they indeed pay to their big winners, but FORCING their winners to risk their physical integrity for money is simply utter selfishness and stupidity.
There could even be some link between the Italian Mafia and the lottery operators to carry out those crimes against winners, but I don't have any proof of such corruption, neither would dare to try to write much about it, for my own personal security, mafias and crime syndicates are not to be underestimated.  

You understand how it works and I agree that there is a high possibility for this to be true and it would also explain why the lottery would make it a requirement (or did so in the past) for winners to come out in public. Because if they didn't get mentioned publicly, how would the mafia know who won the money? That would allow for the only conclusion that someone from the lottery operation is giving out names secretly.

Having a lot of money is amazing and solves so many problems, but it changes life in a different way and I think people who go from no money to millions in a short period of time often underestimate the true consequences of that. People who have been rich for a long time learned and know what to do, whom to trust and how to behave in certain situations.

The idea that lottery organizers and crime might be exchanging information in secret is interesting. This "under the table" conversation would badly hurt the ideas of fairness and privacy. Unsettling to think that lottery winners might be thrust into the spotlight for more than just proving that the lottery is real. How do you tell the difference between being honest and having a secret agenda?

One's life changes irreversibly when they go from being poor to having a lot of money very quickly. The innocence of a new millionaire is very different from the learned caution of someone who is always rich. Going through this huge change is a Herculean job that requires more than just financial knowledge. People who are about to get a huge gain might need to get some training in how to handle their money and keep themselves safe.

What lotteries usually do to convince people they are being honest when drawing the lucky numbers is implementing some measures and have third parties to certify their results, so no one would easily doubt of their honesty. Here in my country it is specially popular for lotteries to draw those winners numbers on live television, instead of being a recorded program, they also use a neumatic machine to move the numbers around in a very unpredictable way, before choosing one at random. Finally, they also invite some engineer or scientist each week so they can verify by their own eyes there is nothing fishy going on during the drawing of the numbers. That is what one of the biggest lotteries used to do here, I don't know what other smaller ones managed to keep their trustworthiness, without all those measures.

[maydna]

~snip~

Of course if one trust his or her friends, one would be able to own up to them whatever the case maybe but the reverse was the case here he did not tell his friends anything but rather he chose to hide and run away from them. This goes a long way to tell you who they are. Probably they might have been making jest of him and unknown to them he knew what they were doing to him but he chose to remain silent about it till he win redeemed his win and he fled from them. Although he has the right whatsoever to do whatever he wishes to do with his wins and that does not really concerns anybody.

He should do it like that because he already knows who his friends are, rather than later having trouble having to comply with his friends' requests. Hiding our winnings from friends who would only ask for something from us is sometimes necessary so that they don't come to us just because there is something they want. We don't need friends like that because they are only there when we are happy, but they won't be there when we are experiencing difficulties. We already know who our good and bad friends are, and we choose which ones we will invite to celebrate the win and which ones we will leave alone. They also can't force their will on us to celebrate their win if we don't want to.

[Casdinyard]

While I believe in the saying that "Money reveals Evil" I don't think the guy who's been hiding from his friends are in the wrong here. And I'm not just saying this for the sake of being the devil's advocate or whatever the fuck.

First off, let's set things straight, he won a lot of money, did he win it because of his friends? Did they win it through the power of friendship or whatever the fuck? I don't think so. From that alone you would understand that the winner is in no way liable to give anything to his friends, he's not indebted to them monetarily or whatever, and if he would be generous to give his friends something back, it's all from good will and not because he owes his friends something. You people act like people owe you for your existence or presence when everything's just a matter of circumstance. Everyone who's saying the winner's on the wrong here should get off their high horses cause most likely, if you were in his shoes you'd probably do something even worse lol.

100% agree with ideas like this. Heck, even if they did somehow influence him say, by telling him to bet on this or on that with this amount and he managed to win big because of that, it does not give them any right to want to take a part of the winnings. If he ever did say treat them to food or something, then as you've said, good will. If not, well, I see no need to judge him, man might have some problems to pay so the winnings were basically gone the moment he got them.

Selfishness isn't wrong imo, especially in this dog shit economy. I'd avoid all matters of money-related issues as well if possible and just save up as much as I can if I could.

I guess we're too used with the idea or concept of social contracts that we tend to think that what that person should've done is the right thing and the norm and that the thing that he's done was decided by some to be the wrong thing to do, that never should've been the thing in the first place but as I've said, we used to think that there's only one right action to a certain event that any other action will be deemed by the society as wrong thing, maybe that's why these people didn't get these much treat from their friend, they probably were too pressuring on the fact that their friend has won and that they're in a way part of the reason why that person won, pretty impressive of that guy to not treat his friends during that win and as you've said, the man probably got problems that need solving with the money he's won.

[Lida93]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Truth be told, not only in gambling even in other aspects of life if people becomes rich, dey run from there colique reason being that if you are reach every body will start bringing up there problem to you.  Naturally human has that mentality of  complaining anytime they see a rich person. That's why you see rich people always do that.
Rich people always want to discus matters with people of there class, because those that don't belong to there class has nothing to add to there life rather than cooking up story that will always make you to spend more.

A very straight point you have made as to why the rich commune with the rich, for they are not a parasite to the other as they do discuss about business and investments on how to grow each other which is something you hardly find around the poor, they are at every moment with one demand after another.
What they forget is that the rich man is a human like them that has personal problems too to solve but because he's rich they every poor persons around him is consumed with the thinking that his money will solve his problems for him but there are issues in life that doesn't need money for solution but acquittance.

[demonica]

Probably because the situation can be a bit harder for that winner. Of course there's a thought that his gambling colleagues would ask for money since he won a big amount of money. And I think that's a very common thing, and he probably just don't want to share it with them that's why he's hiding from them.
I can't really tell whether it's a good thing or not cause I don't want to be biased. If that circle of friends are just purely about gambling, it can be toxic since he might end up overspending his winning on gambling as well, if he continues to hang out with other gamblers. Being surrounded with gamblers can influence your gambling habits, and it's a big deal especially he just won a huge amount of money. But if it's a case where they're really friends for a long time, and their friendship isn't just only about gambling, then I don't think that friend was a good friend. Cause why wouldn't you want to at least treat your friends if you win a jackpot?

But to be honest, if you win such a huge prize on gambling, for me it's best to distance yourself in gambling for a while since if you continue gambling, you might just end up losing all that winnings. Winning a huge amount isn't something we can all experience nor something a person can experience a lot of times throughout our lives. So it's really better to spend it smartly.

[Dewi Aries]

~snip~

Of course if one trust his or her friends, one would be able to own up to them whatever the case maybe but the reverse was the case here he did not tell his friends anything but rather he chose to hide and run away from them. This goes a long way to tell you who they are. Probably they might have been making jest of him and unknown to them he knew what they were doing to him but he chose to remain silent about it till he win redeemed his win and he fled from them. Although he has the right whatsoever to do whatever he wishes to do with his wins and that does not really concerns anybody.

He should do it like that because he already knows who his friends are, rather than later having trouble having to comply with his friends' requests. Hiding our winnings from friends who would only ask for something from us is sometimes necessary so that they don't come to us just because there is something they want. We don't need friends like that because they are only there when we are happy, but they won't be there when we are experiencing difficulties. We already know who our good and bad friends are, and we choose which ones we will invite to celebrate the win and which ones we will leave alone. They also can't force their will on us to celebrate their win if we don't want to.

Basically money is very sensitive in any case, with money you will be able to find out how the original character of the person, not only in gambling but in real life also problems that originate from the involvement of money often occur. In gambling, everyone has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money from their winnings, whether they will use it for their own needs or choose to share a small portion of their winnings with one of their good friends. And also yes quite agree with your statement, sometimes hiding the winnings will not always be a bad thing even though on the other hand if one of your friends finds out there will definitely be less favorable talk behind your back, but I think if you hide the winnings from people who also always do that to you or are stingy to you in any way then I think there is nothing wrong with doing it, it's like a lesson for them indirectly, don't let them come when there is a need, but when you experience difficult conditions they never participate in helping you.

So I think it depends more on the background of you and your friend in terms of friendship, if indeed you always participate in anything and have a good relationship then there is nothing wrong if you want to share a little of that victory.

[Sanugarid]

Everyone is entitled to their actions likewise the gambler so if he decided to act that way you would not blame him because they say, experience is a teacher. He has learnt alot from his friends and was quiet following them and when it happened to him that he won big time, he fled for his safety and did not tell his friends because possibly he could not trust them to protect him but rather would want to run.him.down. I believe this was his logic before running away with his wins.

As you said, he has the right to do that, especially if he sees that his friends cannot be trusted. He would probably prefer to hide his win rather than tell his friends and only tell it to those close to him. But whatever the reason, he is entitled to his win, and to say or hide it also depends on him. He will choose whichever is comfortable for him, and if he feels he can say something about his win, he will say so. His other friends also had no right to force him to tell them about what happened with the bet because he had avoided them.

To me, the only weird thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won, if you don't tell them that you won big in gambling that's normal but if you avoid your friends just because you won big in gambling I think that is not normal. Yes, that's his right, but I don't think that's normal.

I think their friend's head has grown up, there are many people like this that when they make a lot of money they forget, they become arrogant. It's not bad to be picky if you need it, the bad thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won a lot of money in gambling even though they don't do anything to you. They will understand if you can't give them because they are your friends.

[God bless u]

It is the habit of humans that they always share their losses with others but they don't tell about their victory to anyone because they think as they share losses so money will also be divided among them. Its a bad habit of gamblers that they don't thinks about friendship and money is everything for them. Even if they need money then they threaten their family members to provide them money so how we think that they will share their profit with friends. Simple is that stay away from gambling and gamblers if you want a happy life. In every field you have to keep your money with yourself and also don't share your loss with anyone because those who are dependents on others always have worries in their lives.

[Hatchy]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I think he had a personal reason for his actions, but if they were truly close friends and not just gambling buddies, he wouldn't behave that way. Sometimes, celebrating victories with friends is great, but it's not necessary every time. In life, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success some might be envious and pretend to join your celebrations. Personally, I usually bring all my close friends along whenever I have a victory.

[nara1892]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I think he had a personal reason for his actions, but if they were truly close friends and not just gambling buddies, he wouldn't behave that way. Sometimes, celebrating victories with friends is great, but it's not necessary every time. In life, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success some might be envious and pretend to join your celebrations. Personally, I usually bring all my close friends along whenever I have a victory.

I think if they are close friends and not close because of gambling involvement I don't think they should avoid their friends when they get a win, a win in gambling doesn't have a strong enough reason for them to avoid one of their friends, although maybe I can't say that's entirely true because it depends on their personality too, and if they are a stingy person then no matter whether it's a close or distant friend they will still behave stingy by hiding their winnings.

So I think it depends on the friendship between the two people and also depends on the personal nature of the person who gets the winnings, and also on the other hand actually the person who wins has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money, there is no other person's right to your luck, and maybe if you are generous then you can share a small portion of the winnings with others. Of course, while on the other hand enjoying the winnings with friends is fun, I always do that because there is a thrill and enjoyment in itself, honestly I don't care whether or not people are jealous of my luck but what is certain is that I have increased solidarity by doing good to them, and as for whether or not they will be happy with my luck is up to them.

[maydna]

~snip~

Basically money is very sensitive in any case, with money you will be able to find out how the original character of the person, not only in gambling but in real life also problems that originate from the involvement of money often occur. In gambling, everyone has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money from their winnings, whether they will use it for their own needs or choose to share a small portion of their winnings with one of their good friends. And also yes quite agree with your statement, sometimes hiding the winnings will not always be a bad thing even though on the other hand if one of your friends finds out there will definitely be less favorable talk behind your back, but I think if you hide the winnings from people who also always do that to you or are stingy to you in any way then I think there is nothing wrong with doing it, it's like a lesson for them indirectly, don't let them come when there is a need, but when you experience difficult conditions they never participate in helping you.

So I think it depends more on the background of you and your friend in terms of friendship, if indeed you always participate in anything and have a good relationship then there is nothing wrong if you want to share a little of that victory.

If any of our friends are not happy with our actions of hiding the winnings we get, we don't need to think about it because it is the winning money that we got. They can't accuse us of being stingy or anything else just because we hide our winnings from them. It is our choice because we already know the disposition and character of the friends around us, so we decide to act like that. If they can be better when they hang out with us and don't just look at it from a material perspective, we won't hide our victory. We will tell him about our victory,, and we will also invite him to celebrate the victory. All of that is from what they do to us. If they are good to us, we can be more than them, and vice versa.

If we have made really good friends, we must maintain friendly relations with them because they will always be there with us in all situations, and so will we. And yes, we also definitely want to share that victory with those who are truly our friends.

~snip~

To me, the only weird thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won, if you don't tell them that you won big in gambling that's normal but if you avoid your friends just because you won big in gambling I think that is not normal. Yes, that's his right, but I don't think that's normal.

I think their friend's head has grown up, there are many people like this that when they make a lot of money they forget, they become arrogant. It's not bad to be picky if you need it, the bad thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won a lot of money in gambling even though they don't do anything to you. They will understand if you can't give them because they are your friends.

It depends on their attitude towards us because if their attitude towards us is good, we will not hide or even avoid them and instead invite them to celebrate our victory. But there must be another reason why he avoids his friends we don't know about. Therefore, his friends could come to his house and ask the cause to clear up the misunderstanding between them. But usually, they don't want to do it because they feel uncomfortable.

Yes, there are indeed many people like that who avoid their friends when they get lucky. We don't need to imitate this, especially if we have more good friends around us. Instead, we have to tell them about the good luck we have had and invite them to join in celebrating with us.

[Synchronice]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money.

Probably these guys were about to demand money for hair transplant from the winner and that's why he was avoiding them Okay, I'm kidding.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Imagine you won 1 million dollar. Then there are your friends, you have to give 10K or whatever it is to your close friends, to your family members, you have to do this, do that, everyone expects financial help from you, many even ask you for a big loan to start a business and so on. Finally, your 1 million dollar slowly fades away because of people who are around you. It's also fair to mention that there is a very high chance, so called friends will abandon you if you lose a lot of money and ask them for financial help.

[Fredomago]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I think he had a personal reason for his actions, but if they were truly close friends and not just gambling buddies, he wouldn't behave that way. Sometimes, celebrating victories with friends is great, but it's not necessary every time. In life, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success some might be envious and pretend to join your celebrations. Personally, I usually bring all my close friends along whenever I have a victory.

There's always a reasn behind and we can't conclude if they are close friends or just a gambling buddies but if it's happen that they are close friends it's better to give that decent reason on why you needed to avoid them, else, the one who win that big amount was been eaten by the money that he acquired, we can't remove that fact, people change either because of power or because of money.