Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[LUCKMCFLY]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

I think he had a personal reason for his actions, but if they were truly close friends and not just gambling buddies, he wouldn't behave that way. Sometimes, celebrating victories with friends is great, but it's not necessary every time. In life, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success some might be envious and pretend to join your celebrations. Personally, I usually bring all my close friends along whenever I have a victory.

I think if they are close friends and not close because of gambling involvement I don't think they should avoid their friends when they get a win, a win in gambling doesn't have a strong enough reason for them to avoid one of their friends, although maybe I can't say that's entirely true because it depends on their personality too, and if they are a stingy person then no matter whether it's a close or distant friend they will still behave stingy by hiding their winnings.

So I think it depends on the friendship between the two people and also depends on the personal nature of the person who gets the winnings, and also on the other hand actually the person who wins has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money, there is no other person's right to your luck, and maybe if you are generous then you can share a small portion of the winnings with others. Of course, while on the other hand enjoying the winnings with friends is fun, I always do that because there is a thrill and enjoyment in itself, honestly I don't care whether or not people are jealous of my luck but what is certain is that I have increased solidarity by doing good to them, and as for whether or not they will be happy with my luck is up to them.

Sometimes we have to be people who should not get attached in some way to others, get attached to the fact of considering friends to people who in reality are not just, but are companions, who mainly noticed that what there was was a companion where there was no He had no type of connection with others, merely as playmates, where each one shared a meeting or something like that, because a friend does not really forget the people who have helped him, in part the people who are from this style they have to clarify to others what they are, because if they are like that then you must be very clear so as not to have false expectations, in a casino in anything that is going to be done by risking money, you have to be very clear, obviously They were 3 friends, colleagues, they should have agreed on something first of all, so that any of the 3 when they have a high income of money, then in some way give some percentage and in this way many things are avoided, that is why everything has to be balanced .

Money is power, if you want to have a revelation of what is in the heart of a poor man give him money a lump amount he has never had in his possession as rightfully belonging to him before. That's when you'll be sure if that man was definitely meek, humble and friendly with you or it was just poverty that humbled his ego and real nature.

Majority of us are hanging around people we call friends who deep inside they don't see us as friends but mere companions. For the very fact that we receipt them as friends based on how we have been together doing things together for a long periods of time doesn't mean they in same vein mirror us in same manner.
 Many friendships and acquaintance that is still intact today is because money hasn't come into the center of things to test that supposed union. We got to be careful the type of people we quickly call friends for the sake of  our own sanity.

Yes, unfortunately many people claim to be our friends because they only seek to benefit so that we can help them out of some particular interest. I have friends who have gone to the USA, for us the USA, Europe are and we see it as a work Opportunity for get ahead with a Little more Salary than normal with hard work, but there are some people whose ego gets so high, that they are just there, and I don't write to them, because every time they write to them they have that thing in their mind. mental scheme that since they are in those Countries they are going to ask them for money, so I don't know, because they believe that, they are people who here even helped them a lot, even to leave, they were advised, sometimes they have even been helped with money , and then they Believe that , then if the same people they have shared with one become like that, what can you expect from people you meet in Casinos , in nightclubs, of course not everything is like that, there are people who are actually human , who help, sometimes it is not money that is needed, sometimes good care is worth more than money and they do not value that.

I have many cases of people who are like that, that when they get what I could give them, or what someone can give them, then they leave, they forget that Someone helped them, made them see that things can be wrong. So they benefited, they leave and just like that, although I no longer give importance to that, because I know that at some point in life those people are going to need help again, and that is when one should tell them, and I think that sometimes they don't even Write or something because it will make them sad, or they will feel, so sometimes we have to be people who must accept that the majority in the world are like that, maybe the nature of some of us It's like things aren't like that, that you can achieve more things, that there will always be Affection , because it has been shared, but it's not like that, but in the case they're Talking about here it's Something that I already see as normal.
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[CryptSafe]

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On a normal, it is not everything one should be telling their friends. These days things happens even in the family too. Friends should not every time be in the know of your updates as these days friends are not what you think they are. So he has a reason why he did what he did. Only him is liable to his actions and owe no explanations to anyone why he took that steps to relocate and refused to tell his friends about hi is success. Like I said initially in other posts that " their is no smoke without a fire".

You are right. We should not tell all our personal things to friends because not all friends can protect what we say. We may only tell it to close people in our circle, but we also have to tell them not to tell it to other people. Actually, other friends don't need to be curious about why he did this, but because we are a society, it will make other people feel the need to know what is happening to the people in their environment. But moving to a new environment might solve everything because they won't meet those curious people, so they will be calmer in living their lives.

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with.

Family is always family and there is no two ways about it when it comes to things of this nature. One can be able to hide things from their friends but not from family as it would definitely not be easy to do if one try it. Actually, with respect to keeping things private to ones self, it is true that one can do that but at some point, one can no longer keep that particular thing a secret to oneself because at some point it would be obvious that you yourself knows it is time you say something about it to a trusted confidant for instance your spouse or son or your brother but let it be a trusted one that you can trust information to and he or she keeps it a secret no matter what happens down the lane.

[Jody.Drummer]

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with.

Family is always family and there is no two ways about it when it comes to things of this nature. One can be able to hide things from their friends but not from family as it would definitely not be easy to do if one try it. Actually, with respect to keeping things private to ones self, it is true that one can do that but at some point, one can no longer keep that particular thing a secret to oneself because at some point it would be obvious that you yourself knows it is time you say something about it to a trusted confidant for instance your spouse or son or your brother but let it be a trusted one that you can trust information to and he or she keeps it a secret no matter what happens down the lane.

Yes that's right, and also no matter how or in whatever way they worship their gambling to their family, I still think it can't be completely successful, because of course over time like a carcass that over time will definitely be smelled by both parents or other family members. One indication that can be found out is from your financial factors which are gradually getting weaker due to gambling, and with that, your closest people will suspect about why you are very wasteful lately but there is no reason they can believe in the reasons you say regarding where the money has disappeared, and also with that means that gradually your gambling activities will definitely be found out.

On the other hand yes maybe you can tell about your gambling activities to one of your closest people who of course like you said on condition that they must be trusted in order to keep this secret, but on the other hand in my opinion you should not only tell it but also find the best solution to overcome your problems such as trying some actions to reduce or even stop, because after all the best thing is when you can get out of this activity so as not to cause any problems later.

[CryptSafe]

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with.

Family is always family and there is no two ways about it when it comes to things of this nature. One can be able to hide things from their friends but not from family as it would definitely not be easy to do if one try it. Actually, with respect to keeping things private to ones self, it is true that one can do that but at some point, one can no longer keep that particular thing a secret to oneself because at some point it would be obvious that you yourself knows it is time you say something about it to a trusted confidant for instance your spouse or son or your brother but let it be a trusted one that you can trust information to and he or she keeps it a secret no matter what happens down the lane.

On the other hand yes maybe you can tell about your gambling activities to one of your closest people who of course like you said on condition that they must be trusted in order to keep this secret, but on the other hand in my opinion you should not only tell it but also find the best solution to overcome your problems such as trying some actions to reduce or even stop, because after all the best thing is when you can get out of this activity so as not to cause any problems later.

Telling someone about your gambling lifestyle is not bad so far as the person knows how to respect boundaries and keeping secrets as the case maybe between the both of them. If you feel like telling someone about it, then it must be that person you trust enough to keep it to him or herself. However getting out of it, you must be prepared to do it because it wouldn't be that easy as you think it is as it has to do with addiction which has become part of the gambler lifestyle and would need some approach to gradually divert the mind of the gambler to another thing.

[AicecreaME]

It's saddening that it happened to them. Having a strong bond to other people whom you aren't related by blood should be a big deal and should be cherished especially if they had been with you during the highs and the lows. It's just so cheap that he had to distance himself just because he won a huge amount of money. The saying that has always been told to me is really true, money matters really reveal what kind of people you are being surrounded with.

I guess they can tell and just consider it as a blessing in disguise to distinguish as early as that time that he is not really a true friend that will be with them whatever happens. Because if he is indeed true, he would have celebrated with his friends. Winning is a good news, and sharing and celebrating that with them who has your back althroughout is a great thing to do to show your gratitude. Unfortunately, their friend turns out to be fake and only wants to be in during the times he can benefit from them.

[maydna]

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Sometimes it's not just all about privacy that most gamblers avoid their friends after winning big. There are friends that are very consuming and likes squandering of money whenever they see it and would definitely advice their friends to also do same whenever they have money at their disposal and I don't think it's bad to avoid such friends whenever one wins because failure to avoid them would definitely result to spending like them and still not make good use of the money gotten from the big win in gambling.
So in other to wisely invest one's big winnings in meaningful things that'll in return be source of income to the gambler, I think it's absolutely fine to avoid such friends

This usually happens in our friendships, so if several friends do it, they will also advise us to do it too, even though we need the money for something more important. We can avoid friends like that and prepare the right reasons so that they can understand why we do it, and as good friends, they will understand the reasons we give. They may help us to solve the problems we are facing because I have experienced something like that before. My friends came to my house because they heard I was having a problem, and they helped me find a solution. So it will depend on the friendship we have and how much they care about their fellow friends. If they really care, they don't mind it, and instead, they will help us to solve the problem.

[Jody.Drummer]

On the other hand yes maybe you can tell about your gambling activities to one of your closest people who of course like you said on condition that they must be trusted in order to keep this secret, but on the other hand in my opinion you should not only tell it but also find the best solution to overcome your problems such as trying some actions to reduce or even stop, because after all the best thing is when you can get out of this activity so as not to cause any problems later.

Telling someone about your gambling lifestyle is not bad so far as the person knows how to respect boundaries and keeping secrets as the case maybe between the both of them. If you feel like telling someone about it, then it must be that person you trust enough to keep it to him or herself. However getting out of it, you must be prepared to do it because it wouldn't be that easy as you think it is as it has to do with addiction which has become part of the gambler lifestyle and would need some approach to gradually divert the mind of the gambler to another thing.

Yes, as I said above, as in general, gambling activities are quite negative in the eyes of the community, especially if their environment, including their family, forbids these activities, so with that, of course, if we really want to tell your close friend or for example a family member, then yes, as you also said, make sure that the person is trusted in terms of keeping your activities secret, I hope you choose someone who is not only trusted but on the other hand they can also at least consider giving the right advice on what you should do, because it's useless if you just tell him and tell him to keep it a secret if on the other hand you don't find a way out.

Yes it's true, it is difficult to get out of this gambling activity, especially if you are already quite addicted, but I think it's not impossible, I'm sure everyone can stop or just reduce it as long as there is a strong will and intention, but even so you will still need a long time to be able to stop completely because obviously this is about changing your habits and mindset, and believe me the process will not betray the results.

[summonerrk]

At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Your topic touches on a very important and really relevant aspect of the lives of people whose friends have become rich. The fact is that all relationships have their reasons, someone is friends sincerely, and someone for the sake of profit. But all this while people are in the same financial situation. For example, being representatives of the middle class. But once one of them gets rich, it is no longer a fact that they will communicate. A lot of money makes any person free from pretense - he does not need to play a role anymore. You can forget about those to whom you have served before, because you are rich, and you no longer need to answer to anyone for your actions and words

[angrybirdy]

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Probably you didn’t know what’s the customary when winning a huge win. Probably the person who won the prize wants to enjoy himself the prize money and wants privacy because you will tons of requests asking for share on the huge profit since they are acquainted to you. It’s some kind of socializing to maintain good connection with the community.

I will the same if I win huge jackpot since your life might put into danger once you soak in on that spotlight since having a money comes with greater risk of being robbed.

His friends gonna rob him?  Or maybe he avoids them because those guys are bad luck.

We can only assume what the guy is thinking but these are never facts. He could just be needing another set of new gambling friends since he now can afford to become a high roller.
Something bad is going to happen to him thats for sure. If he avoids them for good then he will not have good friends anymore. Sooner the new friends he would meet are the ones with motives.

Some speculations that they aren't that close to call them friends, Maybe you're right that those guys are bad luck to the winner? Kidding aside, We will know the reason behind this topic if The winner itself explain his side why he avoids his friend after the winning. If I were in the situation, I would choose to remain silent even they knew that I won the prize, just to protect my privacy but I will treat my friends as a token of my appreciation for being them as my companion while gambling.

[danherbias07]

It's saddening that it happened to them. Having a strong bond to other people whom you aren't related by blood should be a big deal and should be cherished especially if they had been with you during the highs and the lows. It's just so cheap that he had to distance himself just because he won a huge amount of money. The saying that has always been told to me is really true, money matters really reveal what kind of people you are being surrounded with.

I guess they can tell and just consider it as a blessing in disguise to distinguish as early as that time that he is not really a true friend that will be with them whatever happens. Because if he is indeed true, he would have celebrated with his friends. Winning is a good news, and sharing and celebrating that with them who has your back althroughout is a great thing to do to show your gratitude. Unfortunately, their friend turns out to be fake and only wants to be in during the times he can benefit from them.

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

[Fredomago]

It's saddening that it happened to them. Having a strong bond to other people whom you aren't related by blood should be a big deal and should be cherished especially if they had been with you during the highs and the lows. It's just so cheap that he had to distance himself just because he won a huge amount of money. The saying that has always been told to me is really true, money matters really reveal what kind of people you are being surrounded with.

I guess they can tell and just consider it as a blessing in disguise to distinguish as early as that time that he is not really a true friend that will be with them whatever happens. Because if he is indeed true, he would have celebrated with his friends. Winning is a good news, and sharing and celebrating that with them who has your back althroughout is a great thing to do to show your gratitude. Unfortunately, their friend turns out to be fake and only wants to be in during the times he can benefit from them.

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

There are really differences from how a person will take his winning I mean in terms of money there are changes that can take place, it's good that for you there's nothing should matter, you will stay and continue your freindship with the people that surrounds you, like what you mentioned, if things not going to work after having that huge amount of money, your freinds is the common place or comfort that you'll going to lean on.

It's your take and how you balance that kind of situation, better to have the same mindset and stay at low with your freinds who always there with you win or lose you should keep them as how it should be.

[Hirose UK]

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Some speculations that they aren't that close to call them friends, Maybe you're right that those guys are bad luck to the winner? Kidding aside, We will know the reason behind this topic if The winner itself explain his side why he avoids his friend after the winning. If I were in the situation, I would choose to remain silent even they knew that I won the prize, just to protect my privacy but I will treat my friends as a token of my appreciation for being them as my companion while gambling.

Of course there will be different reasons for problems like this and as OP has said, they may also be different from you or me.
We know that friends are the people around us besides family who are always there when times are bad or good.
If I personally win especially in fairly large amount, I will invite some close friends to have fun together and spend little money to get together and enjoy the results of the win.

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True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

Indeed, sometimes when we have close friends who are truly always there for us they will feel like relatives like family who really want to accompany us in any condition.
Spending a little money when you win for them is also not difficult thing, but still the family at home must be prioritized first, as you said setting aside certain amount of winnings to be able to enjoy with the family.

But saying that act selfishly when you win and forget your friends is not correct because there will always be a reason behind it all.
When there are people like that, it is better to think and consider if the person really needs the winnings, such as to support their family or whatever they should prioritize.

[nara1892]

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Sometimes it's not just all about privacy that most gamblers avoid their friends after winning big. There are friends that are very consuming and likes squandering of money whenever they see it and would definitely advice their friends to also do same whenever they have money at their disposal and I don't think it's bad to avoid such friends whenever one wins because failure to avoid them would definitely result to spending like them and still not make good use of the money gotten from the big win in gambling.
So in other to wisely invest one's big winnings in meaningful things that'll in return be source of income to the gambler, I think it's absolutely fine to avoid such friends

This usually happens in our friendships, so if several friends do it, they will also advise us to do it too, even though we need the money for something more important. We can avoid friends like that and prepare the right reasons so that they can understand why we do it, and as good friends, they will understand the reasons we give. They may help us to solve the problems we are facing because I have experienced something like that before. My friends came to my house because they heard I was having a problem, and they helped me find a solution. So it will depend on the friendship we have and how much they care about their fellow friends. If they really care, they don't mind it, and instead, they will help us to solve the problem.

And that means that environmental factors will have a big influence on a person's life, it is clear and I believe that if the character of their friends is a person who likes to waste when they have money then surely when they know that you get a win from gambling then they will advise you to do what they usually do. Basically, everyone has their own life and there will also be times when they really need money for their personal affairs, if they need money for their personal affairs and at the same time they get a win from gambling then obviously the main thing they will do is fulfill their needs first before thinking about the advice of their friends.

In this condition if you remain firm to hide your victory then I think it is quite risky for your friendship, because obviously if only they know about what you are hiding then maybe they will not consider you as a friend anymore, it is very possible. So yes it's true that when we are in a condition like that there is no other way but you prepare a very reasonable reason such as for example to pay debts or whatever it is, it doesn't matter if you lie because it's better than you follow their way to squander money. But on the other hand there are also friends who understand your condition and some who don't, some come for profit and some come because they are sincere, it is a human character that is beyond anyone's control.

[maydna]

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And that means that environmental factors will have a big influence on a person's life, it is clear and I believe that if the character of their friends is a person who likes to waste when they have money then surely when they know that you get a win from gambling then they will advise you to do what they usually do. Basically, everyone has their own life and there will also be times when they really need money for their personal affairs, if they need money for their personal affairs and at the same time they get a win from gambling then obviously the main thing they will do is fulfill their needs first before thinking about the advice of their friends.

In this condition if you remain firm to hide your victory then I think it is quite risky for your friendship, because obviously if only they know about what you are hiding then maybe they will not consider you as a friend anymore, it is very possible. So yes it's true that when we are in a condition like that there is no other way but you prepare a very reasonable reason such as for example to pay debts or whatever it is, it doesn't matter if you lie because it's better than you follow their way to squander money. But on the other hand there are also friends who understand your condition and some who don't, some come for profit and some come because they are sincere, it is a human character that is beyond anyone's control.

Indeed, it has something to do with the environment in which a person lives and how his friendship with his friends is because if his friends are like you said, someone who wins will definitely not have the personal time to do something related to their life. After all, they will be bothered by the desires of their friends who ask them to celebrate winnings from gambling. He wouldn't be able to prepare and carry out his plans because his friends wouldn't let him do anything outside of what they were currently doing, so the person could only obey his friends. But if that person has strong intentions and can refuse his friend's invitation to party, he will definitely do it even though there is a risk that he could be ostracized from his environment. But even though he was ostracized from his environment, he could move to a new environment far from his old friends so he could carry out his plans well.

And it is our choice to hide the winnings we get from them because they are not good friends who are only there when we are happy and even invite us to party for a few days, and that is actually a waste that is not worth doing. We should immediately get rid of various excuses and not have to think about whether we can't accept them because this is our life, and we have the opportunity to win prizes from gambling. We must immediately carry out our plans, especially now that we have so much money that we don't need to postpone them. Good friends will always support our plans and give us the best advice so that if we want to do something, they will definitely offer help and will do it wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return from us.

[Youngkhngdiddy]

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

 I think is base on people behavioral patterns, not every friends are considered as friends talk less of becoming brothers, your friends should be able to have your back irrespective of the condition, and you should have theirs too as well, splurging on your friends after a win shouldn’t be a thing to think twice because it y’all are really close and do everything together, they should also be there to celebrate with you. They are always red friends when dealing with people it is either we are too carried away to see the signs.
  They say that money brings the true identity of a person, and even the most loyal ones will switch up when they finally get what they want. But then it shouldn’t be so for someone who was there all through the tides and for us that’s still have loyal friends irrespective of the status or class that still uphold that friendship we should try and keep such people in our circus cause they are really the real gem. We still have good and healthy friendships out there, some way back from childhood and still maintain the bond till adulthood. It’s very rare to meet the loyal ones when we do we should on our part uphold to the friendship.

[348Judah]

 I think is base on people behavioral patterns, not every friends are considered as friends talk less of becoming brothers, your friends should be able to have your back irrespective of the condition, and you should have theirs too as well,

If this would have been everyone's scheduled mindset towards each other maybe things would have been better than ever, friends that are not of benefits are contributing nothing to one's life than nuisance, there's no reason to have a continued relationship with them except we allow them ruined us the way their own life has completely been battered.

splurging on your friends after a win shouldn’t be a thing to think twice because it y’all are really close and do everything together, they should also be there to celebrate with you.

Can you count on successful occassions whereby you have received good positive impacts from your friend, have you ever been out of finance and that same friend came around for your rescue to offer you the money needed to gamble, maybe we should just take our time to examine the impacts of friends in our lives and the truma or troubles they have caused us to see which is more weighter than each other.

[Blitzboy]

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

 I think is base on people behavioral patterns, not every friends are considered as friends talk less of becoming brothers, your friends should be able to have your back irrespective of the condition, and you should have theirs too as well, splurging on your friends after a win shouldn’t be a thing to think twice because it y’all are really close and do everything together, they should also be there to celebrate with you. They are always red friends when dealing with people it is either we are too carried away to see the signs.
  They say that money brings the true identity of a person, and even the most loyal ones will switch up when they finally get what they want. But then it shouldn’t be so for someone who was there all through the tides and for us that’s still have loyal friends irrespective of the status or class that still uphold that friendship we should try and keep such people in our circus cause they are really the real gem. We still have good and healthy friendships out there, some way back from childhood and still maintain the bond till adulthood. It’s very rare to meet the loyal ones when we do we should on our part uphold to the friendship.

Friendship reveals when  win or lose. Yes, not all friends are "brothers." True friendship can withstand life's challenges. Its easy to work together when things go well, like when everyone wins the jackpot. But what about the bumpy parts? True bonds are tested there.

Money's role is noteworthy. Its said to bring the nature. However, is it too simplistic to focus solely on profit or loss? Share experiences, esteem each other, and make each other feel better .These are the currencies of true friendship, arent they?

Those who value long-term friendships should cherish them. They're rare for some reason. It warns some to be careful. Friendships should go beyond moody phone calls. Find friends who will support you during good and terrible times. Keep these uncommon gems—they're worth more than any win.

[xSkylarx]

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with.

Family is always family and there is no two ways about it when it comes to things of this nature. One can be able to hide things from their friends but not from family as it would definitely not be easy to do if one try it. Actually, with respect to keeping things private to ones self, it is true that one can do that but at some point, one can no longer keep that particular thing a secret to oneself because at some point it would be obvious that you yourself knows it is time you say something about it to a trusted confidant for instance your spouse or son or your brother but let it be a trusted one that you can trust information to and he or she keeps it a secret no matter what happens down the lane.

On the other hand yes maybe you can tell about your gambling activities to one of your closest people who of course like you said on condition that they must be trusted in order to keep this secret, but on the other hand in my opinion you should not only tell it but also find the best solution to overcome your problems such as trying some actions to reduce or even stop, because after all the best thing is when you can get out of this activity so as not to cause any problems later.

Telling someone about your gambling lifestyle is not bad so far as the person knows how to respect boundaries and keeping secrets as the case maybe between the both of them. If you feel like telling someone about it, then it must be that person you trust enough to keep it to him or herself. However getting out of it, you must be prepared to do it because it wouldn't be that easy as you think it is as it has to do with addiction which has become part of the gambler lifestyle and would need some approach to gradually divert the mind of the gambler to another thing.

This really indicates that we are in an era where we are scared of what people will say to us when we gamble because they do not understand why we do gamble, which does not mean that we are addicted to it. Sharing with your friends about your gambling activities is kind of useless if they don't gamble because they can't relate, but it might be good if you just want to share it with them. For myself, I prefer sharing it with those who do gamble also as you are sure that they will keep it secret because they can relate to it.

[Latviand]

The saying "Money reveal people" is quite common. I usually don't believe this phrase, and I used to imagine that friends would always have nice intentions towards one another, but I later realised that this is not true because life is full of diverse individuals, each with their own personalities and viewpoints.

That's not really true, what we really are is already in the open, it's just that it's not that obvious for some people unless they really look at you and observe your behavior. No such need for revelation because there's nothing that money reveals when it comes to a person, the real saying should be "Money magnifies who you really are". The image below is where I got my argument that "Money reveal people" isn't the right phrase or saying.

[klidex]

It's saddening that it happened to them. Having a strong bond to other people whom you aren't related by blood should be a big deal and should be cherished especially if they had been with you during the highs and the lows. It's just so cheap that he had to distance himself just because he won a huge amount of money. The saying that has always been told to me is really true, money matters really reveal what kind of people you are being surrounded with.

I guess they can tell and just consider it as a blessing in disguise to distinguish as early as that time that he is not really a true friend that will be with them whatever happens. Because if he is indeed true, he would have celebrated with his friends. Winning is a good news, and sharing and celebrating that with them who has your back althroughout is a great thing to do to show your gratitude. Unfortunately, their friend turns out to be fake and only wants to be in during the times he can benefit from them.

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

There are really differences from how a person will take his winning I mean in terms of money there are changes that can take place, it's good that for you there's nothing should matter, you will stay and continue your freindship with the people that surrounds you, like what you mentioned, if things not going to work after having that huge amount of money, your freinds is the common place or comfort that you'll going to lean on.

It's your take and how you balance that kind of situation, better to have the same mindset and stay at low with your freinds who always there with you win or lose you should keep them as how it should be.

Everyone has different thoughts when they hold a lot of money, money can show a person's true character, and when they have a sense of care and respect for their friends, maybe they will think about celebrating the victory with their friends but still leaving some space for themselves and their families.
while those who do not have a sense of care and are selfish are more concerned with themselves and forget their friends because they feel that victory is their own result without help and support from their friends. As the like a word "the nut forgets the skin" therefore we can see someone from money they have whether to be arrogant or remain humble.