Gambler avoiding friends after a big win.

[maydna]

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

Yes, that does happen, and we have probably experienced it up to now, so we really have to choose between making friends. Many friends will come to us when we are getting something, say winning the lottery, and congratulate us. But actually, many of them are not sincere in saying congratulations, but there is something they want. We have to be more careful in conveying things to people close to us and only tell it to people who are really our close friends so that only a few people will find out. In @ OP's situation, there may be a misunderstanding between them, so someone talked about someone who was always together at first, but because he won a lot of money, he avoided and disappeared from his friends.

Not only strangers or people you don't know, but your relatives, close ones, and so-called friends will make your life hell if they come to know that you've won something significant from gambling or something else and even those who never talked to you or paid any attention to what you do or how you are will come and try to be friendly with you just because you have a lot of money now, that's how the world has become, everyone out there is selfish these days except for your blood relations but even some of them are greedy sometimes, apart from your mother and father.

This is the reason why most people don't even tell their close ones about their winnings even if they win a significantly high amount because they know what is going to happen. I also suggest people do the same, never post statuses or stories, and let people know about what you've achieved, there are very less people who will be genuinely happy for you but more will be jealous and have bad eyes on your success and achievements.

That's why we have to choose anyone who can know about our big win, and they can really keep the secret so that only a few people know about it. Indeed, nowadays, many people easily change because of money, so we have to be more vigilant in establishing friendships with the people around us. And we also shouldn't easily trust people we have just met because we have yet to learn what their true character and nature are like. We could share the story of our win with our family and friends who are truly friends so that only with them we will celebrate the win.

We shouldn't tell people about the big win we got, even people we don't know, rather than endangering our safety because there will definitely be people who have evil intentions towards us and want to get the winning money. And, normally, more people will be jealous of what we get, so they will tell us about bad things or speak ill of us, and we don't know about it.

[junder]

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

Yes, that does happen, and we have probably experienced it up to now, so we really have to choose between making friends. Many friends will come to us when we are getting something, say winning the lottery, and congratulate us. But actually, many of them are not sincere in saying congratulations, but there is something they want. We have to be more careful in conveying things to people close to us and only tell it to people who are really our close friends so that only a few people will find out. In @ OP's situation, there may be a misunderstanding between them, so someone talked about someone who was always together at first, but because he won a lot of money, he avoided and disappeared from his friends.

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

[EarnOnVictor]

Simple thing, the person who had won big doesn't want to share or give little to his friends. If he keeps distance the friends also won't get an opportunity to request him for financial help. Money changes the minds of people and what we had seen is just an example. Someday he'll realise there is much more things that are more important than money.

That's right, that's what I saw and noticed, and I think most people here on this forum also know that. It's just sad that, because of money, he rejected or distanced himself from people who might consider you a friend.

That's why this is a reality that happens in real life. That's why there are only two types of people: those who control the money and those who are controlled by the money. We know that when we control the money, the end result will always be a bad one.

Sometimes, it is the habitual behavior of the supposed friends that does make gamblers to distance themselves from his friends whenever they win big because as much as I know, there are friends who are very envious of the success and progress of their friends and you don't expect anyone who has such people as friends to come close to them when they're winning.
That being said, if a gambler friends aren't the negative kind of friends, it's a very bad behavior to avoid them when he's winning.

We can't entirely blame friends' dissociation from other friends, we need to treat each case differently to ascertain the true cause of it whether it's worth it or not. Presently, I am trying to let go of the majority of my friends, and if I suddenly become rich, they would say it's because of the money, but it's not. And frankly, if I get got rich now, I know the friends that would benefit from it and those I would naturally cut off simply because of their ways of life and bad advice, some friends could be bad influences for real.

I'm tired of arguments, especially when they are not constructive, I hate backbiting and unproductive relationships and friends dragging me to the view that what is illegal is actually legal or doesn't make any difference whether it's legal or not, I just want to do the right thing. The company we keep says a lot about us and if you are the only one reasonable and productive always guiding them, then you might want to rethink the circle you associate. It's our lives and we are entitled to live it the way we want as long as the reason for our actions is reasonable and not wicked. The exception to this is those who had good friends but turned their backs on them when they made money, that is wickedness.

[Die_empty]

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

[AnonBitCoiner]

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

Everyone cannot find a friend that will be with him always no matters its a hard situation or happy situation. Some friends are always with us but they cannot see us successful. Gambler often change their way after getting money but his friend will never leave him to do such thing because a bad person attract more people in inappropriate places.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

This is a matter of trust and because of trust many people loss their life. People often calls others friends to meet with him but the reason behind their calling is to threaten him because they cannot see their friend more successful than him. I think if someone is hiding his success from his friend later so why he is not doing all of the work alone without the entry of second person. In such situations neither you will be dependent on other nor others will make any hope from you.

[Quidat]

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

Its really that impossible that you wont really be able to assess things on which if your friend is really worth keeping or something that could be easily ignored. There's indeed a different level when it comes to those kind of relationship with other people but if you are seeing that they are someone who would really be that opportunist then you can simply ignore and leave them out but it is really just that a waste of friendship if you are really just that simply avoiding them because of money or something a part of your winning. So its a personal choice and a personal action to be made.
We know that not all people would really be that looking after for money even if you do win big,so lets not generalize first because being judgmental does have its cons too.

[maydna]

~snip~

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

Yes, you are right in saying that, but we can actually also camouflage in front of our friends who are also camouflaging because I know what my friends will do. If my friends were honest, I would not be camouflaged and would act normally and appropriately because they are our friends. So it will depend on how our friends behave when they come to our house so that we can also determine the same attitude as them. If they are not sincere when they come to our house and we also show the same attitude, they will not stay in our house for long and will leave us disappointed because their plans did not work out the way they wanted.

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

[Fredomago]

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

Yes, that does happen, and we have probably experienced it up to now, so we really have to choose between making friends. Many friends will come to us when we are getting something, say winning the lottery, and congratulate us. But actually, many of them are not sincere in saying congratulations, but there is something they want. We have to be more careful in conveying things to people close to us and only tell it to people who are really our close friends so that only a few people will find out. In @ OP's situation, there may be a misunderstanding between them, so someone talked about someone who was always together at first, but because he won a lot of money, he avoided and disappeared from his friends.

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

True, if you are open sharing your winnings even in small portion of it then you must know your friends, as it's true that you can't avoid those people who are only beside becuase of their needs and if they don't have any they'll be out of sight, for sure most of us here understand the value of friendship and with how this topic went through. There are situation that we can't control when money start to control our minds.

[erep]

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

[uneng]

But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

We really shouldn't count on others winnings and personal thriving to take a slice of that for ourselves. That is a big mistake I see people commiting nowadays, because they forget living their own lives and working to make it beter, to pay attention to what their friends are doing and earning, so they imagine to have any rights over their profits and success as well, while in fact, that is not how things work and each one should be responsible for their own decisions and consequences in life.

Not that a friend can't help another to get a job or to acquire a new knowledge, but I believe help is more related to proportionating the tools for a friend, so he can work by himself, than giving him free money, as he didn't need to do his part in life, just because he got to have a wealthy friend.

[passwordnow]

True, if you are open sharing your winnings even in small portion of it then you must know your friends, as it's true that you can't avoid those people who are only beside becuase of their needs and if they don't have any they'll be out of sight, for sure most of us here understand the value of friendship and with how this topic went through. There are situation that we can't control when money start to control our minds.

Those are not friends but people called 'users'. They're users of their friends and are only there when you have something to give them or they see that you've got something that can be taken by them. These people are pro and they are not friends in times of needs but they will be there when they have some needs that can be seen to you.

Avoid these people and only give to your real friends that whether you give something or none, they'll be at your wings and they won't reject you whenever you have nothing to give them or it's just a casual day that you are going to meet them. It's hard to find real friends nowadays and you got to see them on how they do in life.

Because if they see that you're winning, they're also going to think that you're winning without anything to ask to you in return. But that's just a normal person that wants to see some of their friends win in life. But if you're the one that's going far away from your friends because you've won, well, it shouldn't be their problem as it's your personal decision of what has been done.

[348Judah]

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

But is it everyone that we share our gambling winning fund really deserves such, not everyone will be involved in sharing ideas together with us while making up the bet, we would have forgotten other times thst we don't have a y support to made our bets and yet win or looses, am sure some will be there only to witness what is going to happen and also partake in our philanthropist foolishness in sharing our money won with other fellow gamblers instead of using the money for doing something great in life.

[Docnaster]

But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

We really shouldn't count on others winnings and personal thriving to take a slice of that for ourselves. That is a big mistake I see people commiting nowadays, because they forget living their own lives and working to make it beter, to pay attention to what their friends are doing and earning, so they imagine to have any rights over their profits and success as well, while in fact, that is not how things work and each one should be responsible for their own decisions and consequences in life.

Not that a friend can't help another to get a job or to acquire a new knowledge, but I believe help is more related to proportionating the tools for a friend, so he can work by himself, than giving him free money, as he didn't need to do his part in life, just because he got to have a wealthy friend.

Entitlement is one character that's really destroyed so many relationships because some friends feel that since they're friends with someone, it's the responsibility of that person to financially help them as often as possible even when they aren't ready to do whatever their friends do to earn money.

Sometimes it takes a lot of losses in gambling before a gambler can win big and that's why I think it's absolutely wrong for anyone to think that a gambler who  wins big must help his friends from the most they won in am gambling. If a gambler wins and decides not to share his winning with anyone, I don't think he should be criticized for making such decision.

[junder]

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

And it seems that I think everyone can change, especially with the big win situation they get, people tend to change when they get a big win, because their financial situation improves quickly, I think everyone also agrees about money which is sensitive. Don't even friends, family can be problematic when it comes to money because it is sensitive. So it is natural that they change because it is certain that they will change when their finances improve, especially quickly, such as getting a big win that can change their lives, which were originally lacking, into sufficiency. But they shouldn't avoid friends who have accompanied them for a long time, maybe there will be one or two or three friends who will still be invited to hang out when they get a big win, because as I said friends are our environment, And maybe there are also people who leave all their friends and look for new friends, it all depends on each. It's just that they tend to avoid their friends a little when they get a win. Because there will definitely be friends who pretend to be good just to take advantage of us with the aim of living or seeking benefits with us, and friends like this should be avoided.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

If that's what's happening in your country, it's horrible, and I think physical encounters should be avoided if that's the case. In my circle of friends there are people who have no shame in coming as they please and behaving as they please without thinking about the feelings of others, and I can also distinguish which friends I should share the benefits of what I get, and which friends should be avoided, because as I said, there are friends who are shameless about what I have given even if I am forced to share it,  but what can it be, maybe they are destined to be shameless and ungrateful from birth.

So we should be smart and need to choose really good friends, because it seems that everyone does not want to have friends who only pretend to be good in front of them, the problem is that this can cause problems even with trivial things or things that are not too big. A big win can also change someone into a more powerful person like my friend who got a big win then he boasted about it, and I already knew that it was just an act, and in the end it was true that he was just making it up. In the end, he went back to begging me because he had been caught lying about his big win. If it's to get the attention of friends, it shouldn't be like that, by lying in a big way, because I myself am not stupid and not easily deceived.

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

Its really that impossible that you wont really be able to assess things on which if your friend is really worth keeping or something that could be easily ignored. There's indeed a different level when it comes to those kind of relationship with other people but if you are seeing that they are someone who would really be that opportunist then you can simply ignore and leave them out but it is really just that a waste of friendship if you are really just that simply avoiding them because of money or something a part of your winning. So its a personal choice and a personal action to be made.
We know that not all people would really be that looking after for money even if you do win big,so lets not generalize first because being judgmental does have its cons too.

I can distinguish friends who should be kept and friends who should be ignored or should be avoided, I avoid friends who are always opportunistic, because they only approach me when my finances are improving or I'm getting a big win, because they will ask or beg to share the winnings that I have gotten, and with a shameless expression he loudly asks even though he himself knows what he is doing is wrong. And also they do like that because they know I'm a person who has a nature that always feels sorry for them, but this becomes an opportunity for them by taking advantage of the weaknesses I have. Therefore, I choose friends to keep because I know that they are worthy of sharing the benefits I have gotten, even friends who deserve to be in my circle, I myself will provide more benefits that I get, maybe I will support them, but not with friends who only come when they need it. Because in my opinion friends like this should be avoided not worth keeping, because I myself also often feel annoyed when this shameless friend comes to me, and it's not just me who feels annoyed, maybe other friends will also feel annoyed with this shameless friend, because his face is thick so he has no shame. they do what they like, even if they harm others they will not realize it and this is what makes me annoyed.

~snip~

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

Yes, you are right in saying that, but we can actually also camouflage in front of our friends who are also camouflaging because I know what my friends will do. If my friends were honest, I would not be camouflaged and would act normally and appropriately because they are our friends. So it will depend on how our friends behave when they come to our house so that we can also determine the same attitude as them. If they are not sincere when they come to our house and we also show the same attitude, they will not stay in our house for long and will leave us disappointed because their plans did not work out the way they wanted.

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

I have experienced what you said, by treating this shameless friend so badly that it makes him uncomfortable to be in a group of friends, When he came to me in a situation where I got a big victory and wanted to share the victory that I had got, I did not treat him well at all, I did not start a conversation with him, did not offer to eat or drink, and if he invited to chat I only answered him briefly, and in the end he was mentally affected by realizing that his existence was not considered. I was satisfied that I was able to make him realize that what he was doing was wrong, because it is impossible for friends like this to do well continuously. I think it's natural that they are occasionally given lessons because it is also to make him realize that he always comes when he is in trouble and disappears when he is happy.
I only share the benefits with friends that I trust even though I have a lot of friends, I can also choose which friends deserve to enjoy the victory I get, the rest are just ordinary friends, but the name of a friend in my opinion is worth keeping and deserves to enjoy the victory I get because we must have friends who always accompany us in any situation, so he deserves to enjoy the victory I get not even just a little maybe all the victories will be enjoyed together.

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

Yes, that does happen, and we have probably experienced it up to now, so we really have to choose between making friends. Many friends will come to us when we are getting something, say winning the lottery, and congratulate us. But actually, many of them are not sincere in saying congratulations, but there is something they want. We have to be more careful in conveying things to people close to us and only tell it to people who are really our close friends so that only a few people will find out. In @ OP's situation, there may be a misunderstanding between them, so someone talked about someone who was always together at first, but because he won a lot of money, he avoided and disappeared from his friends.

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

True, if you are open sharing your winnings even in small portion of it then you must know your friends, as it's true that you can't avoid those people who are only beside becuase of their needs and if they don't have any they'll be out of sight, for sure most of us here understand the value of friendship and with how this topic went through. There are situation that we can't control when money start to control our minds.

The friends that exist in our neighborhood must exist because it is a requirement in life to have friends, but the rest of us must be smart in choosing friends.  Do not let us keep friends who do not have good ethics, because friends like that should be avoided  because it will harm us in the future if we always have friends like this. So even though they are our friends there is no way we will always keep friends like this who always harm us.

Maybe it can be avoided with a little lesson, namely by treating him as if he doesn't exist when we get together, basically to make them realize that they don't have good ethics. And it's natural that they are treated like that because if they continue to be given comfort until whenever they will not realize that what they are doing is wrong because they come when they need it, leave when they are happy That is very unethical,  maybe there are certain reasons they are like that, but the name of friendship will definitely judge how someone behaves to his friends, and it determines in the future if they are worth keeping or not. In my opinion,  friends who don't have good ethics should be avoided to maintain friendships as well. Because it could be that friends who do not have good ethics will become a problem and bring conflict between friends So it's better to avoid than to cure.

[maydna]

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Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

Yes, no one can forbid or allow us to give to whoever we want. They can only wait to see what we will do, and if we want to give a little money to other people they don't know, they also can't do anything because it's our money. And we will share this victory with friends who have been good to us so that they can feel the victory that we have achieved. Meanwhile, for friends whom we rarely see or who are not kind to us, we can hide our winnings and tell other friends not to say anything about our winnings. If there is a friend who is very calculating with finances and even hides his gambling winnings, that is not a good friend, and I think they will not make many friends.

~snip~

I have experienced what you said, by treating this shameless friend so badly that it makes him uncomfortable to be in a group of friends, When he came to me in a situation where I got a big victory and wanted to share the victory that I had got, I did not treat him well at all, I did not start a conversation with him, did not offer to eat or drink, and if he invited to chat I only answered him briefly, and in the end he was mentally affected by realizing that his existence was not considered. I was satisfied that I was able to make him realize that what he was doing was wrong, because it is impossible for friends like this to do well continuously. I think it's natural that they are occasionally given lessons because it is also to make him realize that he always comes when he is in trouble and disappears when he is happy.
I only share the benefits with friends that I trust even though I have a lot of friends, I can also choose which friends deserve to enjoy the victory I get, the rest are just ordinary friends, but the name of a friend in my opinion is worth keeping and deserves to enjoy the victory I get because we must have friends who always accompany us in any situation, so he deserves to enjoy the victory I get not even just a little maybe all the victories will be enjoyed together.

What you said is true because what they do, they can also experience from other people. If they can do good to other friends, other friends can also do good to them so that there is reciprocity in the friendship relationship. We also will not treat them badly because they can be pleasant friends who not only come when we are happy but will also come when we are experiencing difficulties and help us to solve them. Yes, we have had many experiences with various friends, so we can see which friends are good and which ones will only come around occasionally and expect something from us. Friends like this will not last long because they will leave. After all, they don't get anything from us, and we also don't give them anything because of their own behavior. We follow what they do so they don't do it to us again. We will celebrate with friends who can really be good friends and not friends who only come around occasionally. We don't need friends like that because finding friends who really understand and can be good friends is very difficult, so it makes us very selective in choosing friends.

[LUCKMCFLY]

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If the friends had reach you to free food after the big win news is acceptable,but if they use you like atm means it will be the biggest trouble for the winner.Some experienced gambler sometimes make the spread of fake win news to the co gambler to get the free food by saying they will help after getting of the winning dollars from the gambling site.So the two types of the gambler was using the same situation.The majority of the gambler will hide the win from their friends to avoid of the trouble because their friends use them for the expenses.The family members like brother and sister itself demand of the loan to the gambler after come to know about their win from the gambling sites.

And it has become a habit for people to ask for things from the winners even though things like that sometimes become annoying for the winners. They can't enjoy their winnings in peace, but there will be people who come to them to say congratulations. However, there is something they want. That's why gamblers who win a lot of money ask their casinos not to reveal the identities of the winners or publish them to the public to avoid things like that. They also want to protect their privacy from interference from people they don't know so they can enjoy their winnings in peace.

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

What you say is very true, because one has a very different vision of friendship from what is done, for me things always have to be Different, I have a sense of friendship that is very different from what they think, I know that there are people who do not Have any type of Impediments from doing things only for their benefit. I Might think that every time you have many things in common, you should make something clear when trying to make money Well, things have to be clear, in my country we have a very wise saying: "Clear Accounts keep friendships", so if there is a group like that they should quickly talk about what they should look for, it is not pro-nothing but I would think that the same thing happens when It is about Doing what is best for a group of friends , it is that things always turn out well and the friendship continues to be maintained. I am one of those who think that friendships are important, certainly not because of the support of the owner , but of the labor that It will always be there, even to save a life.

But a person who really acts as if it were only out of interest is not good, it is something that has to be clear, if a person who is within a group of friends, and they work together, then it must be something for everyone, not for one , Unless the gains that are obtained in a group in a particular way, then they are not touched, because that is how it is minimized that clear accounts, maintain friendships, is what we should always see, is what is recommended and as I said before When there is money involved, things are usually like that, I am the one who thinks like that. So when a person agrees to do things so that there are no misunderstandings in the future, always the businesses that happen by chance and if they become very serious, some rules have to be given so that there are no misunderstandings. like that, and much less to lose friendships that are very important later in the Future.

[junder]

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Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

Yes, no one can forbid or allow us to give to whoever we want. They can only wait to see what we will do, and if we want to give a little money to other people they don't know, they also can't do anything because it's our money. And we will share this victory with friends who have been good to us so that they can feel the victory that we have achieved. Meanwhile, for friends whom we rarely see or who are not kind to us, we can hide our winnings and tell other friends not to say anything about our winnings. If there is a friend who is very calculating with finances and even hides his gambling winnings, that is not a good friend, and I think they will not make many friends.

~snip~

I have experienced what you said, by treating this shameless friend so badly that it makes him uncomfortable to be in a group of friends, When he came to me in a situation where I got a big victory and wanted to share the victory that I had got, I did not treat him well at all, I did not start a conversation with him, did not offer to eat or drink, and if he invited to chat I only answered him briefly, and in the end he was mentally affected by realizing that his existence was not considered. I was satisfied that I was able to make him realize that what he was doing was wrong, because it is impossible for friends like this to do well continuously. I think it's natural that they are occasionally given lessons because it is also to make him realize that he always comes when he is in trouble and disappears when he is happy.
I only share the benefits with friends that I trust even though I have a lot of friends, I can also choose which friends deserve to enjoy the victory I get, the rest are just ordinary friends, but the name of a friend in my opinion is worth keeping and deserves to enjoy the victory I get because we must have friends who always accompany us in any situation, so he deserves to enjoy the victory I get not even just a little maybe all the victories will be enjoyed together.

What you said is true because what they do, they can also experience from other people. If they can do good to other friends, other friends can also do good to them so that there is reciprocity in the friendship relationship. We also will not treat them badly because they can be pleasant friends who not only come when we are happy but will also come when we are experiencing difficulties and help us to solve them. Yes, we have had many experiences with various friends, so we can see which friends are good and which ones will only come around occasionally and expect something from us. Friends like this will not last long because they will leave. After all, they don't get anything from us, and we also don't give them anything because of their own behavior. We follow what they do so they don't do it to us again. We will celebrate with friends who can really be good friends and not friends who only come around occasionally. We don't need friends like that because finding friends who really understand and can be good friends is very difficult, so it makes us very selective in choosing friends.

And I think everyone agrees that a friend who only comes when he needs it should be taught a lesson, because it is also to make him realize himself. Not everyone likes friends who behave like that, the attitude of such themes can make all friends uncomfortable because of their shameless behavior. And also all things will have reciprocity in accordance with what they have done, and this has become a natural law that cannot be denied, where a less good attitude will get less good treatment too.

A person's attitude will be easily revealed over time, especially when it comes to money. Because money has a sensitive nature for everyone even if the family itself when discussing money is very sensitive, so the attitude of a friend will be seen when we have a lot of money, then they will come by themselves without knowing the shame of wanting to ride and enjoy what we have, obviously if what he did was wrong, and this is not once because it has become a bad habit so naturally friends like this get lessons that make him uncomfortable.
Friends like this will last a long time if we still address them well, if they are treated badly then maybe they will leave with the awareness that is in them, and they will not last long if we treat them uncomfortably. But don't get me wrong, if we're like that it's not wrong, because they're the ones who are wrong by coming just because they need to. Generally we can all choose which friends are good and which are not, the winnings will be celebrated by those who are really friends like you said, if those who don't know themselves come when we have money maybe I will give them bad behavior to teach them a lesson. And anyway I myself am sick of a friend like this, friends like this are not worth keeping for a long time, it's better to give him a lesson to make him realize that he can behave well with other friends.

[klidex]

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

Yes, that's true, everyone has their own rights when they win, it's up to the person what they use it for because they gamble with their own money.
But if you intend to share your winnings with your friends, it's better if you give it to friends who are really close to you, don't occasionally give it to friends who only come when you win because usually friends will take advantage of your success for their personal pleasure, we can find out their attitude when we have won, a good friend will not ask for a penny from you and maybe just ask for food or drink, but if friends are just taking advantage of your winnings they will try to ask or borrow your money so they can enjoy the results you have obtained from winning gambling so it is true that we should not trust anyone too much except our own family or our partner.

[Blitzboy]

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Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

Yes, no one can forbid or allow us to give to whoever we want. They can only wait to see what we will do, and if we want to give a little money to other people they don't know, they also can't do anything because it's our money. And we will share this victory with friends who have been good to us so that they can feel the victory that we have achieved. Meanwhile, for friends whom we rarely see or who are not kind to us, we can hide our winnings and tell other friends not to say anything about our winnings. If there is a friend who is very calculating with finances and even hides his gambling winnings, that is not a good friend, and I think they will not make many friends.

~snip~

I have experienced what you said, by treating this shameless friend so badly that it makes him uncomfortable to be in a group of friends, When he came to me in a situation where I got a big victory and wanted to share the victory that I had got, I did not treat him well at all, I did not start a conversation with him, did not offer to eat or drink, and if he invited to chat I only answered him briefly, and in the end he was mentally affected by realizing that his existence was not considered. I was satisfied that I was able to make him realize that what he was doing was wrong, because it is impossible for friends like this to do well continuously. I think it's natural that they are occasionally given lessons because it is also to make him realize that he always comes when he is in trouble and disappears when he is happy.
I only share the benefits with friends that I trust even though I have a lot of friends, I can also choose which friends deserve to enjoy the victory I get, the rest are just ordinary friends, but the name of a friend in my opinion is worth keeping and deserves to enjoy the victory I get because we must have friends who always accompany us in any situation, so he deserves to enjoy the victory I get not even just a little maybe all the victories will be enjoyed together.

What you said is true because what they do, they can also experience from other people. If they can do good to other friends, other friends can also do good to them so that there is reciprocity in the friendship relationship. We also will not treat them badly because they can be pleasant friends who not only come when we are happy but will also come when we are experiencing difficulties and help us to solve them. Yes, we have had many experiences with various friends, so we can see which friends are good and which ones will only come around occasionally and expect something from us. Friends like this will not last long because they will leave. After all, they don't get anything from us, and we also don't give them anything because of their own behavior. We follow what they do so they don't do it to us again. We will celebrate with friends who can really be good friends and not friends who only come around occasionally. We don't need friends like that because finding friends who really understand and can be good friends is very difficult, so it makes us very selective in choosing friends.

And I think everyone agrees that a friend who only comes when he needs it should be taught a lesson, because it is also to make him realize himself. Not everyone likes friends who behave like that, the attitude of such themes can make all friends uncomfortable because of their shameless behavior. And also all things will have reciprocity in accordance with what they have done, and this has become a natural law that cannot be denied, where a less good attitude will get less good treatment too.

A person's attitude will be easily revealed over time, especially when it comes to money. Because money has a sensitive nature for everyone even if the family itself when discussing money is very sensitive, so the attitude of a friend will be seen when we have a lot of money, then they will come by themselves without knowing the shame of wanting to ride and enjoy what we have, obviously if what he did was wrong, and this is not once because it has become a bad habit so naturally friends like this get lessons that make him uncomfortable.
Friends like this will last a long time if we still address them well, if they are treated badly then maybe they will leave with the awareness that is in them, and they will not last long if we treat them uncomfortably. But don't get me wrong, if we're like that it's not wrong, because they're the ones who are wrong by coming just because they need to. Generally we can all choose which friends are good and which are not, the winnings will be celebrated by those who are really friends like you said, if those who don't know themselves come when we have money maybe I will give them bad behavior to teach them a lesson. And anyway I myself am sick of a friend like this, friends like this are not worth keeping for a long time, it's better to give him a lesson to make him realize that he can behave well with other friends.

Like a high-stakes poker game, friendships reveal their true colors when corrupted by money. Players only show hands when it helps. As in gambling, life deals us fair and unfair hands. The trick is understanding when to play and fold.

Your tough position is justified. Who wants a one-sided bet relationship? Constantly betting on a losing horse never pays off. Do these "friends" act like players faking their way through? Only appears when pot is full. A dose of their prescription may wake them awake. Remember, the house always wins. You're the house. You control the game by setting rules. Cutting off? Not only giving them a lesson, but recovering your authority in relational dynamics.

[Ever-young]

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

When I see stuff like this, it irritates me. Why do you have to change after winning money? Actually things like this happen frequently but it doesn't make sense. But use money to test people's behavior if you want to learn more about them. It Simply demonstrates that the guy is not a true friend. Why will you stop hanging out with your friend's now that you are wealthier than them? Perhaps he thing his friends will put all their financial problems on him, but if he is careless and ends up spending  the money carelessly, he will return to the friend's he avoiding when he was wealthy. Allow someone to be wealthy if you truly want to get a sense of their true character. Not everyone you call a friend is actually a friend, some are simply acting like one because they are getting something out of you, but once they have money, you'll be able to see what they're really like.

Do you that there's an amount of money that you'll have now your lifestyle will automatically drift from the way it used to be. There are people you'll start avoiding not because of pride but because you know too well if you hang around them, you will not make any resourceful use of your money, or maybe for security reasons too, if you become so wealthy today, bro there are people you call friends that you wouldn't wanna be around because you know what they are capable of, and you're sure your security isn't guaranteed if you're always around them. Have you not seen cases where people are poisoned by their friends just because they're more successful than them, so if you become rich today and find out one or few of your friends are a likes of that. Are you telling me that you'll still hang out with them and put your life and safety in danger. Or you don't know the same way money brings friends it also brings enemies and frienemies too?