He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[hedgeh0g]

This is very terrible. Things women experience in the hands of men can be unbearable at times. How can a grown-up man who wants to build a future with a lady think of going into a bet with the whole money saved up for an important event of once in a lifetime for bet winnings thinking he can double the money provided for the money?

Truly, people's desire to earn more through gambling is putting many people astray day by day and that doesn't seem like something that will stop soon.

That being said, I think the man in question is not in his real sense to think of considering gambling as a way to double the money meant for the wedding. forgetting the most important thing he can do with the money than throw it away without fruitful returns other than losses.

There is no doubt that this is a horrible experience for the bride-to-be, but at the same time she should give thanks that she discovered this before the weeding took place and she called off the whole thing, as she can just move on from this person that betrayed her trust and find someone that is worthy of it, and when it comes to the groom they have to change their ways, since this is the kind of thing that will be forever remembered by those close to them and will make it to social media too, which will make their quest for their significant other way harder than what it already is.

The bride, after disappointment and sadness, should gather all her friends who were going to her bachelorette party and go to the club with this group to properly celebrate all this. Because as you correctly mentioned, she should be glad that this happened after the wedding. In general, cases often occur when wives discover that there is not so much money in the family budget, and cannot understand where the money disappears, and then when their husband lost so much that now they owe everything to all their acquaintances and friends, this is a truly terrible surprise. It will take years to repay all the debts, and then the final decision will be up to the wife, because if she leaves at this moment, her husband will receive a second strongest emotional blow, not every man is able to withstand this and not break. But on the other hand, the wife also did not deserve debts that she did not take on.

[Sandra_hakeem]

This is very terrible. Things women experience in the hands of men can be unbearable at times. How can a grown-up man who wants to build a future with a lady think of going into a bet with the whole money saved up for an important event of once in a lifetime for bet winnings thinking he can double the money provided for the money?

It's really appalling that so many women pass through hell just in the name of marriage; Not all grown ups are actually matured. Maturity doesn't have anything to do with age and how huge a person might look.
If it were me, I'll quit and never look back no matter how much respect I had for that man. It's high time people learnt their lessons and avoid mistakes that'll ruin their lives in general.
Edit:

No one will actually see something bad and want to get involved in it in the first place.

love sees beyond everything. Sometimes, it's impossible for women to let go because of their nature;The question should be, what if the girl in question has no clue of what this man is?

[OgNasty]

This is a horrible story. Obviously you’d have to have serious addiction issues with gambling to do such a thing. I could see where his mind was at. Thinking he’d turn it into a bunch of money to surprise his new wife. Instead he now has to explain this story to everyone for the rest of his life if it doesn’t lead to divorce. Be smart…

[rachael9385]

This is purely a heartbreak, and the heartbreak didn't affect only the woman who wanted to marry the man, but it affects all the guests that was preparing to attend their family or friends wedding. However, no woman can tolerate such things. The risks that's involved in gamble when one is about to use the whole money to get have to gamble is like a 101% high and its not a thing a gambler should plan to do because what happen to this dude will not be far from what will happen to the gambler. However as a gambler it's important to wish other gamblers will but on a situation like this it's not advisable for anyone to do it.

On a norms, that woman would be very broken, and I doubt if she's going to continue with the marriage even though he begs for forgiveness, he's broke her trust and to be honest no woman can tolerate such act, however she should be thankful he displayed such character before the marriage cause who knows if such person could end up selling their property after marriage. People do strange things to satisfy their gambling desires and it's all falls back to addiction, every gambler needs to be very careful and avoid gambling habits that would make them turn addicts else they could even do more than that man did, just like most booking sites do display on their home pages, gamble responsibly.

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

[bakasabo]

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

[junder]

This is a horrible story. Obviously you’d have to have serious addiction issues with gambling to do such a thing. I could see where his mind was at. Thinking he’d turn it into a bunch of money to surprise his new wife. Instead he now has to explain this story to everyone for the rest of his life if it doesn’t lead to divorce. Be smart…

Indeed, this is a terrible thing, because not only in cases like this, there are many people who, instead of wanting to change their situation, think they can get a lot of money with the amount of money they bet, but with this thought it actually makes their situation worse. because they can't stop themselves from continuing to gamble when their gambling has ended in defeat. So it's not surprising that many people lose a lot of money, including their savings, of course this happens and is done by those who are definitely addicted to gambling so they can take big risk actions such as using their savings.

This big risky action certainly has very bad consequences and can even destroy their lives, with couples who will get married with the money they have collected together, but when the addict can't control himself, it can make the addict dare to use the money he has collected. of course it is a very sad event. or even with those who are officially married but one of them is addicted to gambling so that it can cause big problems, of course it can affect their relationship and can lead to divorce.

[bakasabo]

This is a horrible story. Obviously you’d have to have serious addiction issues with gambling to do such a thing. I could see where his mind was at. Thinking he’d turn it into a bunch of money to surprise his new wife. Instead he now has to explain this story to everyone for the rest of his life if it doesn’t lead to divorce. Be smart…

Indeed, this is a terrible thing, because not only in cases like this, there are many people who, instead of wanting to change their situation, think they can get a lot of money with the amount of money they bet, but with this thought it actually makes their situation worse. because they can't stop themselves from continuing to gamble when their gambling has ended in defeat. So it's not surprising that many people lose a lot of money, including their savings, of course this happens and is done by those who are definitely addicted to gambling so they can take big risk actions such as using their savings.

This big risky action certainly has very bad consequences and can even destroy their lives, with couples who will get married with the money they have collected together, but when the addict can't control himself, it can make the addict dare to use the money he has collected. of course it is a very sad event. or even with those who are officially married but one of them is addicted to gambling so that it can cause big problems, of course it can affect their relationship and can lead to divorce.

But if couples fight about money, why would they plan to get married then? How are they going to solve other everyday problems? I though that when people get married, they must accept their second half with issues and freaky things they have. Money are such a strange object to argue about in marriage. The guy is a gambler and lost wedding savings. But what if he earns them back in few months? What if his wife buys expensive bag and shoes, should he also make a scandal?

Moreover, make this problem public was not the smart move either. If she did it now, then would she keep her mouth shut if they would have other problems? For example should this guy complain on public if she is bad at cooking?

[dansus021]

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

Well I quite agree with you, I believe the police won't do nothing maybe the man can be charged for something else like stealing money but I think this case gonna hit some trial in the court.

I know this is an old thread, but after reading it, I felt very sad. That's why we need a budget for play and can't go over from it because something like this cant be happen if we can't control ourselves. At least we need to report this on police and just follow the flow from there

[Jody.Drummer]

This is a horrible story. Obviously you’d have to have serious addiction issues with gambling to do such a thing. I could see where his mind was at. Thinking he’d turn it into a bunch of money to surprise his new wife. Instead he now has to explain this story to everyone for the rest of his life if it doesn’t lead to divorce. Be smart…

True, and honestly I really can't imagine how devastated the female partner there felt due to the actions of her future spouse who indirectly destroyed all her beautiful plans, and by looking at the actions of the male partner then I think from here we can already conclude that he is already at a very chronic level of addiction.

So that he can take such crazy actions, and yes as you said that at first maybe he thought that with his actions he could make more money to surprise his wife-to-be by making the wedding party more festive, but his biggest mistake was that he didn't think about the actual impact of gambling, or I mean I'm sure that he didn't know and understand what he was actually doing, maybe he only saw gambling from the chances of winning so there was no doubt for him to take such crazy actions. One thing, this is why we often say that the impact of addiction is very bad.

[Dewi Aries]

 On a norms, that woman would be very broken, and I doubt if she's going to continue with the marriage even though he begs for forgiveness, he's broke her trust and to be honest no woman can tolerate such act, however she should be thankful he displayed such character before the marriage cause who knows if such person could end up selling their property after marriage. People do strange things to satisfy their gambling desires and it's all falls back to addiction, every gambler needs to be very careful and avoid gambling habits that would make them turn addicts else they could even do more than that man did, just like most booking sites do display on their home pages, gamble responsibly.

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

Of course, gambling is a for-profit activity, and that is why we are always advised to only gamble with minimal amounts, or as small as possible, or an amount that will not be a problem if it is lost, while money for marriage? of course it is a big problem, or what it means is that the decision to gamble with money for marriage expenses is a big mistake, marriage is an important thing, not that they will not be married forever by making this mistake, but the decision has disappointed many people, especially the families of both parties. For the issue of whether this incident will be taken to legal channels or not I think this cannot be confirmed, unless it is as you say in the sense that if the money is the female partner's money, but if it turns out that all the money belongs to the man then maybe the police will not interfere, because no one is harmed, and maybe the problem will only be resolved in a family manner, but if it turns out that they are in a country that really prohibits gambling then yes of course the female partner might be able to report to the police that her partner is involved in gambling in the sense of violating state regulations.

[Quidat]

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

Well I quite agree with you, I believe the police won't do nothing maybe the man can be charged for something else like stealing money but I think this case gonna hit some trial in the court.

I know this is an old thread, but after reading it, I felt very sad. That's why we need a budget for play and can't go over from it because something like this cant be happen if we can't control ourselves. At least we need to report this on police and just follow the flow from there

I dont believe about having some kind of legal actions that could really be thrown at this since this is something that do talks about savings for the wedding on which both have that taken in part.
It is really just that it was just that spent in means of gambling just because the other one did make out some consideration on taking out such act on which it turns out that he had lost on everything.
I wont be seeing any valid reason or views on how this one would really be ending up on legal actions but rather this is something that do talks about personal problems in between.

As of for that girl POV then it would really be that a solid thing that shows that your husband to be, isnt really that having a concern nor really that minding about your wedding
on which making up such spending with those funds and really make use of those funds just to cater out his addiction or leisure time on which its never been that
an appealing thing on what he had done.

[rachael9385]

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

Actually, that's what police does but in a case like this, if the husband to be gamble and lose the money that belongs to his wife to be, she can arrest him. I have seen a situation like that when the woman arrested her husband for using their money for unnecessary things. Some woman can do such a thing when they have money more than their man/husband. If clash can go in between spouses there is nothing that can also make people who are dating not have such. Husband can over react when their wife's or girlfriend gambles and losses the money that they both wanted to use for important things. The police officers won't do anything bad to the guy actually but they will only tell him to pay back the money to the woman if the money belongs to the woman.

[348Judah]

If you're into a relationship, then try as much as possible in knowing much about your partner, its not possible that the two of them could have been together for a while and the other partner never knows about the nature of the way on how her husband behaves or gambles, we need to know how we are going to behave and live together with each other in peace, but the guy is a very desperate type to have make such decision and take action on his own.

[Lanatsa]

If you're into a relationship, then try as much as possible in knowing much about your partner, its not possible that the two of them could have been together for a while and the other partner never knows about the nature of the way on how her husband behaves or gambles, we need to know how we are going to behave and live together with each other in peace, but the guy is a very desperate type to have make such decision and take action on his own.

This is why we do have that so-called dating phase on which we would really be trying to get to know with our partners and finding out whether it would really be fitting out or not according into your own taste.
If you do find out early that he/shes a gambler thing type then it would really be just that depending on you whether you would really be that still proceeding to be interested on her/him or would really be trying out to skip and look for another one? just because you dont really like those type of people who do engage on gambling just because you do project out those probabilities about certain conditions that in connection with money? It would really be just that a normal approach or reaction for someone to have on the moment that they will really be that dealing up with someone.

Somehow, not all the time we could really be able to see on everything because there were people or individuals on which they are really that good on hiding those things
to their loved ones or into the moment that they are still dating and thats why on the moment or time comes then you would really be just that simply shocked
on the decisions that they had made just because they are like that that we didnt known earlier.

[Rabata]

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

Actually, that's what police does but in a case like this, if the husband to be gamble and lose the money that belongs to his wife to be, she can arrest him. I have seen a situation like that when the woman arrested her husband for using their money for unnecessary things. Some woman can do such a thing when they have money more than their man/husband. If clash can go in between spouses there is nothing that can also make people who are dating not have such. Husband can over react when their wife's or girlfriend gambles and losses the money that they both wanted to use for important things. The police officers won't do anything bad to the guy actually but they will only tell him to pay back the money to the woman if the money belongs to the woman.

If a man loses his money in gambling without his wife knowledge, it is bad if that person is guilty and brought under punishment. But there are many wives who don't want to get into too much trouble with the police even if their husband loses money in gambling. Because she will think that getting involved in such trouble will further deteriorate the relationship between them. But it will depend on that couple thought. But of course a man should never bet with others money. The situation can be different if lose in gambling. In recent times, such incidents within families is increasing.

[Su-asa]

I also feel sorry for the lady but life goes on. If she called off the wedding, life goes on.

But I want to ask a question. The lady only called off the wedding and continue with the man or she also broke up with the man? The finance may not be a gambler but just want to try his luck, but that is stupidity.

I have seen something like this before but I did not know who contributed the money. Men like some risky. Some of them were luck but some were not lucky.

The best option for this lady is to call off the wedding because if she continues with the wedding the man will still gamble with their families savings or investment and property that they have gathered.  Even if the man isn't a gambler but wanted to try luck maybe he could win and double the money, what if after the wedding (of they still end up together) the man still make the same mistake? The important thing is in the future and not the past, he might want to chase his lose.
I think that the man that lost his wedding money on gamble takes a wrong advise, because if he's not a gambler but gambled with his wedding money it means he has been receiving advises from wrong friends who are gamblers or maybe addicted gamblers. It's not advised to gamble with something that when you lose it you also lose other important things that are attached to you.
However, everything in life deserves a second chance but few things doesn't deserve a second chance, so on a thing like this, the lady who affected have to make her own choice, if she will call off the wedding or continue.

[Stable090]

The best option for this lady is to call off the wedding because if she continues with the wedding the man will still gamble with their families savings or investment and property that they have gathered.

I really agree with you. Someone who can gamble with the money that is meant for important events like this can do anything just to gamble after the wedding. So it’s just better if the lady acts fast before it’s too late. Since the lady discovers that the guy is an irresponsible gambler before they marry, she should just call off the wedding because I know she will end up regretting it after marrying the guy. It’s just better the lady forget about the amount the guy lost in gambling and also forget about the guy, she should just get another person whom she knows she can settle down with.

[AYOBA]

This is the more reason why addiction to gambling is very bad, gamble as you can be able to endure and don't gamble because you want to meet up a target as you might end up running into more loses and may go broke. Gamble with your what belongs to you and don't gamble with other people's funds just because you feel you can double the money as gambling is an uncertainty. You may win or you may not win therefore focusing all energy is gambling is a bad habit. Now look at the shame this man has brought to himself all because of reckless decision.

Some people's don't know what addiction in gambling can be turned them in future, that's why they continue build there self in to gambling. And one thing about the gambling is that once you starting bet and win a huge amount of money, even thought they advice you to avoid gambling you will be thinking that they only want to put an eye on them, since they will be expecting that if they place another bet they can win more than what they have win in their before that is they will ne keep pushing themselves into gambling.

Gambling, though we gamble in other to make positive results (win) but more also we shouldn't take it as a habit like our life is dependent on it. It should be for fun even while we seek to win.

The most surprised things with some people's is not that they have so much knowledge about the gambling, some only want to copy what there friends are doing they won't ask in to details for them to the risks that involve; and which is why some people's fall in vistim of losing and some bring out a positive results of winning at the end of day.

[milewilda]

The best option for this lady is to call off the wedding because if she continues with the wedding the man will still gamble with their families savings or investment and property that they have gathered.

I really agree with you. Someone who can gamble with the money that is meant for important events like this can do anything just to gamble after the wedding. So it’s just better if the lady acts fast before it’s too late. Since the lady discovers that the guy is an irresponsible gambler before they marry, she should just call off the wedding because I know she will end up regretting it after marrying the guy. It’s just better the lady forget about the amount the guy lost in gambling and also forget about the guy, she should just get another person whom she knows she can settle down with.

So it would really be that impossible that you wont really be that to realize that the man that you are really that tending to engage with is someone whose really that addicted to gambling on which it would really be just that impossible that you cant project out on what your financial condition would be on the moment that you would be engaged to him? So it would really be just that depending on you whether you would really be still requiring up some time and see up if there would really be some changes or would really be just that totally making yourself blind and would really be still loving to engage with him even if you do know that you could really be having a potentially miserable life because of a gambler parnter.Its really hard to make out some conclusions but basing up with some common approach and sense then you do really know on where this one would really be heading and this is something that will really be just that depending on how you do make those outright decisions.

[Wakate]

This is a horrible story. Obviously you’d have to have serious addiction issues with gambling to do such a thing. I could see where his mind was at. Thinking he’d turn it into a bunch of money to surprise his new wife. Instead he now has to explain this story to everyone for the rest of his life if it doesn’t lead to divorce. Be smart…

This is a serious and annoying story no one would want to over because it seems like the actual gambler has been an addict for long without having anyone to tell him. Shit happens but this one look too extreme and it is not someone we can easily console. This is a serious gambling problem for a gamble to go has far as possible to use the funds that are meant for something important to gamble and finally lost all the money. If it was supposed to be part of the money, that would have been better but using all the fund is quite devastating and it is not something anyone could easily look away.