He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[junder]

But if couples fight about money, why would they plan to get married then? How are they going to solve other everyday problems? I though that when people get married, they must accept their second half with issues and freaky things they have. Money are such a strange object to argue about in marriage. The guy is a gambler and lost wedding savings. But what if he earns them back in few months? What if his wife buys expensive bag and shoes, should he also make a scandal?

Moreover, make this problem public was not the smart move either. If she did it now, then would she keep her mouth shut if they would have other problems? For example should this guy complain on public if she is bad at cooking?

indeed, when they are officially married, they should be able to accept each other's situation, with one of them being addicted, whether the partner knows it or not, but what is clear is that the addict must be able to minimize his addiction or even get rid of his addiction so that it doesn't happen. things that are undesirable, such as betting using savings, whether personal or joint savings, because of course betting using savings is not a good action. Just know that in gambling there are rewards that can result in winning, but it is very rare, especially with big wins, because what dominates more is losing or losing, especially if they are addicted, when they lose, it won't be able to make them immediately stop gambling, there is a big possibility that they will continue to gamble. and can use his savings.

Basically it's best to hide problems that occur when you're officially married, but when all the problems happen to be hidden away, it's not good. Sometimes we need other friends to listen to problems and provide solutions, but it depends on the problem too, if the problem is small then I think there's no need to worry about it. . like with him not being good at cooking, I don't think there's a need to raise problems like that, because it can be learned, moreover basically the wife should be able to cook and the husband should earn money. However, with financial problems, of course this is quite a serious problem because many families have been destroyed due to unstable finances.

[bakasabo]

I don't think so too, because it's not normal for a responsible person to gamble with money that's will be used for important things. If the woman should get the dude arrested then it will be fine , especially if the money the guy gambled with all and lose is the woman's own. Some times I doubt if people who don't think about the risks in gamble before they gamble really know whet they are doing, because It's in troubles fo see an adult do a thing a child is supposed to do.

I doubt that police would even bother for such a case. Nobody is being killed, harmed or robbed. Police dont solve such family conflicts. If we look on the first post, then you suggest to arrest a guy, who has used $500 from family or civil marriage budget. And dont forget, he gambled because he wanted to double money for them, not to earn money for himself. The guy who gambled is reckless, or unlucky. But that woman isnt perfect also. They are about to get married (and that money issues is he first test of their family and relationship), but that woman still divide problems into her and his.

Actually, that's what police does but in a case like this, if the husband to be gamble and lose the money that belongs to his wife to be, she can arrest him. I have seen a situation like that when the woman arrested her husband for using their money for unnecessary things. Some woman can do such a thing when they have money more than their man/husband. If clash can go in between spouses there is nothing that can also make people who are dating not have such. Husband can over react when their wife's or girlfriend gambles and losses the money that they both wanted to use for important things. The police officers won't do anything bad to the guy actually but they will only tell him to pay back the money to the woman if the money belongs to the woman.

I dont know on which part of the world such police exist, but I definitely wont wish to live there. I dont believe there is a law in any country, that will force one family member to be arrested, because he has spend money. That is an absurd. Even if they are not married yet, how can police force someone to repay money one person has spent? If there was a contract between, then with a help of lawyer it can be negotiated. Since they are family, they divide everything half and share. Its family budget. If wife can call police because husband has spend money, then this is a some kind of a jungle law.

[Jody.Drummer]

Actually, that's what police does but in a case like this, if the husband to be gamble and lose the money that belongs to his wife to be, she can arrest him. I have seen a situation like that when the woman arrested her husband for using their money for unnecessary things. Some woman can do such a thing when they have money more than their man/husband. If clash can go in between spouses there is nothing that can also make people who are dating not have such. Husband can over react when their wife's or girlfriend gambles and losses the money that they both wanted to use for important things. The police officers won't do anything bad to the guy actually but they will only tell him to pay back the money to the woman if the money belongs to the woman.

I dont know on which part of the world such police exist, but I definitely wont wish to live there. I dont believe there is a law in any country, that will force one family member to be arrested, because he has spend money. That is an absurd. Even if they are not married yet, how can police force someone to repay money one person has spent? If there was a contract between, then with a help of lawyer it can be negotiated. Since they are family, they divide everything half and share. Its family budget. If wife can call police because husband has spend money, then this is a some kind of a jungle law.

In the context above the title is that they have not officially become husband and wife because the money for the wedding ceremony is lost due to gambling losses due to the male partner, on the other hand I don't know about whether there are laws like the one you mentioned or not, but certainly in my opinion if the couple does not yet have an official family bond or that means if they are not yet husband and wife then of course report one of the partners to the police for something like for example the missing money is the money of the female partner then I think it can still be processed because the context of the problem is still fairly reasonable because the two of them have not become husband and wife.

But if for example the incident occurred in a domestic relationship or in the sense that they are officially husband and wife then what you say is quite reasonable that the police will not be able to make the incident a positive case that must be handled. But on the other hand I am not sure that the money belongs to the female partner, because usually it is the male partner who gives the dowry to the bride's family as a condition of marriage or the proposal process, especially in my place, meaning that if indeed the money is purely the property of the male partner then the female partner will not be able to claim anything to the court because she was not physically harmed.

[bangjoe]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

[HelliumZ]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

The husband gambled with the wife's marriage money in this case the husband showed his cowardice. Wives usually like to keep savings and they support the family with this savings in any need, this is undoubtedly a good initiative. But the husband gambles with the wife's savings and commits an abominable act which is dishonor to a wife. In this case I would recognize the husband as a man of greedy nature. He should in no way have participated in gambling with the money saved by his wife and should have consulted his wife in this regard.

[fullhdpixel]

If you're into a relationship, then try as much as possible in knowing much about your partner, its not possible that the two of them could have been together for a while and the other partner never knows about the nature of the way on how her husband behaves or gambles, we need to know how we are going to behave and live together with each other in peace, but the guy is a very desperate type to have make such decision and take action on his own.

The words that we can use to describe the guy here are reckless and irresponsible because no matter what the circumstances are, you can't use money that you can't afford to lose to gamble. I know some people might do that because they hope they can win and have more money and do more things with it, but they need to understand that gambling doesn't work that way, it's a luck-based thing where you may have the possibility of winning but you also have the possibility of losing, so you need to understand that you winning the bet isn't guaranteed.

So, a person needs to understand that they can't risk money that they are going to use for something useful and special in their lives, they shouldn't just think about the positives and start daydreaming but they need to acknowledge the downsides of this and realize that they are making a mistake.

[piebeyb]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

I think we should be able to see other points of view too, I also recently read this thread, I am in a country where prestige is a measure of human quality here, in fact marriage is free and cheap but the customs and desires of parents usually pressure their children to celebrating a big wedding because of their self-esteem in front of all their business friends or friends who ultimately to hold a wedding requires quite a lot of money, if we look at this man's side of gambling, maybe he wants to double his money so he can reach the limit of money needed for finance her wedding.

But I don't condone what the man did, but this also shouldn't have happened, if only their wedding could be held easily without having to celebrate on a large scale, of course it would be even better, the whole process would run smoothly and there wouldn't be a lot of money to spend. so it can be used to build a house when you are married and other things, I also don't blame the woman either, for example her family burdens the man to organize a big event for his wedding of course that will make the man do things we don't expect, there are many cases of things like that, but this all comes back to our own point of view in looking at the story in this thread so that it can be a personal experience in the future.

[Oilacris]

If you're into a relationship, then try as much as possible in knowing much about your partner, its not possible that the two of them could have been together for a while and the other partner never knows about the nature of the way on how her husband behaves or gambles, we need to know how we are going to behave and live together with each other in peace, but the guy is a very desperate type to have make such decision and take action on his own.

The words that we can use to describe the guy here are reckless and irresponsible because no matter what the circumstances are, you can't use money that you can't afford to lose to gamble. I know some people might do that because they hope they can win and have more money and do more things with it, but they need to understand that gambling doesn't work that way, it's a luck-based thing where you may have the possibility of winning but you also have the possibility of losing, so you need to understand that you winning the bet isn't guaranteed.

So, a person needs to understand that they can't risk money that they are going to use for something useful and special in their lives, they shouldn't just think about the positives and start daydreaming but they need to acknowledge the downsides of this and realize that they are making a mistake.

Totally irresponsible and this is something that should that women would really be thinking whether she would really be that still continuing to get marry with him or would really be backing out.
If we do really tend to see on what are the things that had been done then you could really be able to say that it is really that totally showing up that he doesnt care about being married
on which he do make use of the funds or budget which supposedly to be used into that very special day of his life on which getting married with someone whom they love.
It would really be that too far off or above the line when it comes into this situation on which making use of those funds on which are intended for those important things and not something
that you would really be that just be ignoring or throwing it away just because you do like only to gamble. lol

[Promocodeudo]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

This is unfortunate situation that can befall anyone, this is the height of what excesive gambling can do to anyone, just imagine how the was carried away by greed and deceit, how will a right thinking person use fund set aside for such important and remarkable event to gambling, this kind of risk is too much, i Believe that this story will make some people be it man or woman not to save with their fiance for wedding purposes again, even if anyone has plan of contributing for marriage purposes, it will now be an individual thing, gambling addiction is a disaster that we should always avoid at all time because once is involved it takes the grace of God to curtaile such situation, just imagine how committed this lady was to make sure their wedding becomes a successful one but the husband to be, ruined everything because of uncontrollable desire for unrealistic things.

This is the worst irresponsible gambling I have ever heard of, in as much I have said it that the man was irresponsible im his act, I think they would have planed a liitle event earlier may be such would have saved them from this menace but that's in the past now, people should learn to plan with the available, know one is in competition with you, unless you choose to be with one, you must not do what others do because you dont know their source of income, dont ruine your reputation because competition, although we dont know what triggered this man to behave like this, be it as it may, whatever triggered him to do this, is a sign of irresponsibility

[Dewi Aries]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

This is the importance of financial literacy and principles in gambling where we should use the money that we should use, where indeed gambling should be done responsibly and use money that is ready to be lost in gambling.

Of course as you said that this is a very annoying case or incident, and with this incident then I think we can really conclude that the man is an irresponsible person who while in a family relationship the man is the backbone or who has a big responsibility to support everyone in his family, meaning it is clear that he is someone who has a bad personality which can have various bad effects when they are married or have become husband and wife.

From this incident, I think that yes, of course the person is a gambler who has entered the addiction phase in his gambling activities because there is no doubt for him in terms of making such crazy decisions, and basically yes as you said that in gambling a gambler is always required to have good responsibility with a record of only betting small amounts or amounts that will not be a problem if in the end it is lost.

[Awaklara]

Of course as you said that this is a very annoying case or incident, and with this incident then I think we can really conclude that the man is an irresponsible person who while in a family relationship the man is the backbone or who has a big responsibility to support everyone in his family, meaning it is clear that he is someone who has a bad personality which can have various bad effects when they are married or have become husband and wife.

From this incident, I think that yes, of course the person is a gambler who has entered the addiction phase in his gambling activities because there is no doubt for him in terms of making such crazy decisions, and basically yes as you said that in gambling a gambler is always required to have good responsibility with a record of only betting small amounts or amounts that will not be a problem if in the end it is lost.

the gambler takes too high a risk with a bet he can't afford. I don't know why men save their future savings. even that is for the future plans of both of them. Usually, women will save money with a plan like that.
addicted or not, we don't know the real situation. Such gambling behavior is common among gambling addicts. but it doesn't rule out the possibility that it also happens to stupid beginner gamblers. What we know for sure is that the gambler made a big mistake for which he must pay.

[SUPERSAIAN]

I think the woman can continue her wedding and move on. After all, she has lost her money and will not marry the man she was going to marry, but if it is going to be a problem for a lifetime, maybe it would be better for her to sacrifice these things before they happen. Even if her fiancée really means well.

It seems difficult for them to maintain a reasonable marriage with someone who attempted such a thing before marriage. I've heard a lot of stories like this, sometimes men can behave in such a stupid way to get what they want as soon as possible.

[Huppercase]

I dont know on which part of the world such police exist, but I definitely wont wish to live there. I dont believe there is a law in any country, that will force one family member to be arrested, because he has spend money. That is an absurd. Even if they are not married yet, how can police force someone to repay money one person has spent? If there was a contract between, then with a help of lawyer it can be negotiated. Since they are family, they divide everything half and share. Its family budget. If wife can call police because husband has spend money, then this is a some kind of a jungle law.

I think sometimes the law enforcement are a little bit fair to some gender and that are the females, if it were to be  the other way round, no arrest will be done on them. However, I think there is a rule of law that can make a person to be arrested in a situation where the husband doesn't want to pay and because the lady doesn't have alternatives to make him pay, then she call police for assistance so he will know how serious she want her money back.

In a situation where an arrest was done, there is nothing bad in it but the suspect must not spend more than 24 hours in that prison, the lady must contact his/ her lawyer for legal proceedings so that the court will arranged a day for them otherwise the guy will be release and if court notice is not giving to the suspect, she can't do anything again. Though, sometimes this kind of situation are best handle at home amicably.

[Die_empty]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

The husband gambled with the wife's marriage money in this case the husband showed his cowardice. Wives usually like to keep savings and they support the family with this savings in any need, this is undoubtedly a good initiative. But the husband gambles with the wife's savings and commits an abominable act which is dishonor to a wife. In this case I would recognize the husband as a man of greedy nature. He should in no way have participated in gambling with the money saved by his wife and should have consulted his wife in this regard.

It is only a gambling addict who will have the guts to use money budgeted for such an important occasion to gamble. When someone is addicted to gambling you should expect any abnormal behavior from him. Some of them can sell valuables such as cars, clothing or even properties as cheaply as possible because they want to satisfy an uncontrolled urge. The thought of anyone having gambling disorder is that it is possible to make some gains from the money. And when they lose some amount, they end up chasing losses until they lose all the funds.

This issue is complicated because the owner of the money is presumed to be in love with the gambler. So she would have to forgive him if she still wants to marry him and the next step is to seek help. The guy needs to seek professional help which can assist him in breaking free from gambling addiction.

[Quidat]

I think the woman can continue her wedding and move on. After all, she has lost her money and will not marry the man she was going to marry, but if it is going to be a problem for a lifetime, maybe it would be better for her to sacrifice these things before they happen. Even if her fiancée really means well.

It seems difficult for them to maintain a reasonable marriage with someone who attempted such a thing before marriage. I've heard a lot of stories like this, sometimes men can behave in such a stupid way to get what they want as soon as possible.

Speaking about lifetime then this is something that woman would really be needing up to consider. If she do see already that the man she loved did make out such mistake then i do highly doubt
that anyone could really be just that easily move on and forget on what happened as if there's nothing which it would really be that impossible for such condition. Instead on moving on then
anger would really be that most likely be felt. How about if those funds are really that been struggled to be saved up and both the guy and the girl isnt really that financially well and really just that
relying on their own jobs salary on saving up those funds? For sure it would really be that a huge quarrel or argumentation basing up on what happened. This isnt really just that an ordinary
day that they are really that trying to save up with those funds but rather this is really that a very special day but ruined up with some gambling addict behavior which known by that guy.

[shivansps]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

I think it’s good that this happened now, and not many years later. It is better to understand now what a person represents and immediately make a choice regarding him. If this happened a few years later and they had children, then everything would be much more difficult.
I think that marrying such a person is very dangerous, there is a possibility that something similar will happen again and the money that was given through hard work will be lost in gambling.
I feel sorry for the girl, but it’s very good that her eyes opened now, and not a few years later

[Wiwo]

I think the woman can continue her wedding and move on. After all, she has lost her money and will not marry the man she was going to marry, but if it is going to be a problem for a lifetime, maybe it would be better for her to sacrifice these things before they happen. Even if her fiancée really means well.

The thing is that the intention of the guy may be good but then shit happened along the line, so regardless what the money is meant for, if he hard been lucky to have won the bet the woman could have been proud the of the man and happily married him.

Although the woman have every right to be angry with the man and base on that she have the right to call off the wedding since the guy did not inform her before taking those steps.

It seems difficult for them to maintain a reasonable marriage with someone who attempted such a thing before marriage. I've heard a lot of stories like this, sometimes men can behave in such a stupid way to get what they want as soon as possible.

For the fact that they are both saving money for the wedding shows that the guy is not financially buoyant and should have not taken such risk and if they both go along with the marriage it will be at the result of the guy showing some form of commitment.

[Su-asa]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

The husband gambled with the wife's marriage money in this case the husband showed his cowardice. Wives usually like to keep savings and they support the family with this savings in any need, this is undoubtedly a good initiative. But the husband gambles with the wife's savings and commits an abominable act which is dishonor to a wife. In this case I would recognize the husband as a man of greedy nature. He should in no way have participated in gambling with the money saved by his wife and should have consulted his wife in this regard.

They are not yet married that's why they were trying to saving and raise some money for their wedding. But unfortunately the lady's man who wanted to get married to the lady gambled with the money and still ended up losing them. That lady can't continue with that wedding because it's very obvious that the man will do same thing over and over again. Women are so stricted with their savings because they know the importance of it, so when a woman is saving and the husband is busy lavishing it on things that are not important it makes the family not to grow an inch.

[Issa56]

To some individual gambling is there last hope.

Why should gambling be among our hopes of making money? It doesn’t make any sense, if you depend on gambling as a way of making money, then that’s totally wrong. If anyone wants to make money, then they should look for something else to do other than gambling. If you are planning to make money from gambling, then you are setting traps for yourself.

This individual that did something like this is going to be a quick addict if he continues to gamble as he'll use money that was meant to be use for other things to gamble.

Someone who can gamble with the money meant for a wedding  is already addicted to gambling, because if the person isn’t addicted to gambling, then he won’t be trying to gamble with the money meant for his wedding. Addicted gamblers are the ones who do crazy things like this when they are gambling.

[Docnaster]

I just read the thread, maybe it's been a while too, but I still want to speak out about this because it's really annoying and I really feel that why he acted stupidly, gambling using money for his wedding, I can't help but feel annoyed at that person, if it was my friend I would definitely scold him directly.

The husband gambled with the wife's marriage money in this case the husband showed his cowardice. Wives usually like to keep savings and they support the family with this savings in any need, this is undoubtedly a good initiative. But the husband gambles with the wife's savings and commits an abominable act which is dishonor to a wife. In this case I would recognize the husband as a man of greedy nature. He should in no way have participated in gambling with the money saved by his wife and should have consulted his wife in this regard.

They are not yet married that's why they were trying to saving and raise some money for their wedding. But unfortunately the lady's man who wanted to get married to the lady gambled with the money and still ended up losing them. That lady can't continue with that wedding because it's very obvious that the man will do same thing over and over again. Women are so stricted with their savings because they know the importance of it, so when a woman is saving and the husband is busy lavishing it on things that are not important it makes the family not to grow an inch.

One of the things that can make a man take a huge risk like betting with such a huge amount of money that is saved by him and his partner is greed. Contentment is one important character a woman or a man that's going into marriage should look out for in his/her partner because an individual without contentment will always want to take unnecessary risks just to get what he can't afford at a certain time. For me, I think what her partner did was enough reason to call off the wedding because that same man can still go all the way and use their children school fees or money that's kept for other important needs to gamble in the future. The risk he took we know would've been celebrated if had turned out in his favor but it still doesn't worth it