It's the first time I'm reading this thread and also the first time hearing this kind of story, and if that was really a true-life story, it is heartbreaking. For a man to take this kind of action with money that is meant for very important stuff like a wedding (his own wedding), that means he can even do worse in the marriage and may render the woman hopeless. Imagine a situation where the woman is working and earning a salary, but the husband is spending his own salary on gambling and also stealing his wife's money to spend it on gambling too (terrible, right?). It will be so heartbreaking for the woman after calculating how much she has contributed, her time, effort, and emotion—but if I were her, I would not get married to that man, and he would have to provide my money.
Imagine a situation, when you work and got blamed later because it turned to be own money in the end, as well as you are accused of stealing. You are missing the part that the guy also saved money that he gambled with. Look on this situation more global. That guy is not the only guilty here. Woman is also guilty for letting him gamble, havent realized that she is about to marry such a person. She would be a total different person, if he would have gambled and won. She would praise him. The point is, that money can always be earned, but would she (and he) be able to regain reputation.
In the end, dont blame that man so hard. I am sure he had used that money not just to gamble for fun or to have
more his own money in the end, but to have a bigger budget for a wedding. Look on the text, he did it because "he was trying not to put all wedding burden on her". You see, he was trying to make it better and easier for the family. Guy failed with choosing method of help
Should have invested instead
Lol, friend, I see how good you want to defend this man, but I don't take with unreasonable behavior by some people. Even if he was trying not to put all the wedding burdens on the girl, he should not have just thrown all the money into gambling at once.
Ok, think of this scenario: the woman said the money was five million (either five million dollars or what?) But let's imagine that the money was $20,000. Do you think that this man must have just collected this $20k and thrown it all into one single bet? Don't you think that this man perhaps started gambling with a small amount, but gradually he kept on losing until there was no money to gamble with again?
If perhaps he gambled with the $20k just on one single bet, that's crazy. If he also started gambling gradually with just a small amount until he lost all that money, that is also crazy.
If he were sensible enough, he would have stopped gambling when he saw that he had lost a lot of that money on his bad bet. If he was also reasonable, he will not bet with $20k just at once.
If I were in his shoes, I would only gamble with some part of that money; I would not spend it all. Even if he was trying to impress the girl by lifting so much bills off her shoulder, he didn't gamble responsibly .
Don't get me wrong; it's just my opinion.
