He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet

[Strongkored]

It is very sad to read the story where the husband of the woman who had saved her wedding money loses it instantly by taking part in gambling. The woman's husband was greedy and wanted to double the money by winning a bet together in gambling, so he gambled with his wife's savings.
But such a story is a regular occurrence in my country which often happens. Alcohol and gambling from wife's savings is a common occurrence in my region. These gamblers have never been convinced, but when they fail to manage the gambling money, they steal the wife's money, make gambling bets and get drunk.
A common issue of violence against women arises mainly from managing this gambling money. The dowry system, abuse of women, theft, robbery, murder etc. unusual events are mainly caused by managing gambling money.

Luckily it wasn't her husband that's what I read from Op's screenshot, meaning she didn't need to spend a lot of time on a man who had made a fatal mistake and that was a stupid act, because the money he had saved was actually used up in gambling activities even though the reasons when he gambled were sound It was good enough to be able to double the money because it turned out that the woman gave more for her wedding expenses later.
From this story the conclusion is that when you think about doubling your money in gambling it is stupid because even though the chances are 50/50 you will never be sure to make money in gambling in fact in my opinion losing is much more certain, even if it is on sports betting and you have tried to do the analysis as carefully as possible but there is still a chance that you will experience defeat and lose your money rather than doubling your money.

[DubemIfedigbo001]

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The wife was also careless with the way the funds were handled, maybe it was saved in an account he has control over. In recent times like this, joint savings are not left at the mercy of just one person. Both parties being present before any strong decision should be made or the money tampered is a condition that should have been put in place before the savings even kicked off...

You`re wrong here, she acted any good woman will act to are husband, don`t forget this is her husband to be if she did not trust him for such money for their marriage arrangement how will she trust him in their feature plans together. Also base on the story it seems like her husband to be was not really someone obsessed with gambling to say this was a red flag.

Listen buddy, its not always about trust, but about caution,  being her husband doesn't make him an AI robot or some kind of programmed device that is without mistakes or above temptation. Some cautious habits helps keep is in check, especially when finds are involved.

Let me sight a simple possibility for you. Both of them jointly consenting to the movement of funds from the account would've helped keep the man's excesses in check, and make him sought other alternatives  to make more money instead of using the savings for gambling since he cannot access it alone and his fiance cannot give in to such lame possibility. It helps create an atmosphere of diplomacy and not autonomy as dispensed by the man in question.

It  will also gives the fiance a sense of inclusion in the whole activity.

[rachael9385]

In fact, the lady who thinks the decision is good will actually be good for her. Although I think people should be checked with second chances, I would also say that it is better not to marry an addicted gambler, because they only put the family in a bad situation and never try to get out of that bad situation.

When I was reading this story I could not stop laughing because can you imagine. The moment kept for wedding used to gamble is just a lot insane because am wondering if he does not know the risk behind gambling but looks like he wants to get more money for their wedding but that is actually place to do that, and the lady needs to have a rethink of wether she will continue with the wedding or not, marrying someone that is addicted so gambling is like wise putting your finances at risk. Anything addiction will end up create more problems like gambling on debt and so many inappropriate things just because they want to gamble and even with all this they still will be having difficulties to win. Addicted people don't win except they want to be faking the whole winning. It is better to try and aviod anything that will be a difficult problem to solve than want to manage it because people like managing instead of them to end everything to protect them self.

The truth is a lot of gamblers ignores the risk and focus on winning only, I see no sense in a move like that. Even if the dude won the bets he played with his wedding mone, I will not be 100% happy with the wrong moves he toke because gamble is a luck thing. Anyone who's luck is far from him won't win from gamble in an easy way. However this is a good lesson to the dude and his wife to be.
Even if the dude receive the advise of gambling with his wedding money, he would have known that gamble is not like an ABCD thing, at least he would have given it a second thought before doing such things with his wedding money. From my own opinion, this is not the end of his insanely acts because he will still try to do some that's similar to what he did with his wedding money.

[I_Anime]

  Hi guys and ladies, here comes a very sad and heart-breaking story (true life confession) of a young lady who was contributing money (saving money) together with her husband-to-be (fiancée) in preparation for their wedding. The story in quote ..

My fiancee and I have been making arrangements for wedding, we are both contributing (saving) money because i know about his financial condition, in fact, i will say that i have contributed to about 60% of the total money in our savings, just for him to use nearly all the 5 million naira (approximately $5000) we saved to play betting and when i asked him about it, he said he was trying not to put all the wedding burden on me, that he thought he would be able to double the money.

I am really speechless and confused, and i think it's best for me to call the wedding off, what will i even tell people that already know about our wedding plans? this is the most disgraceful thing that has ever happened to me.

Even though i don't know this young lady in question personally, i felt true pity for her after coming across and reading her confession, i know how important weddings are to women and for the fact that she herself joined the man in saving, and even contributed about 60% of the entire funds they managed to save, shows or showed how committed she was to see that their wedding takes place, but unfortunately, the man gambled the money away, what could be more heart breaking than this?

Damnn this is really heart touching, after all their plans just in a gambling section everything turned upside down.  This is the reason we should always learn how to fight against that urge of gambling regularly. And we should always have the thought that any funds we stake there's a high probability or chances of us losing it . Because gambling is all about win or lose , we should also have good principles either as an investor, trader or gambler . We should always have good principles towards what we are doing

[imamusma]

The truth is a lot of gamblers ignores the risk and focus on winning only, I see no sense in a move like that. Even if the dude won the bets he played with his wedding mone, I will not be 100% happy with the wrong moves he toke because gamble is a luck thing. Anyone who's luck is far from him won't win from gamble in an easy way. However this is a good lesson to the dude and his wife to be.
Even if the dude receive the advise of gambling with his wedding money, he would have known that gamble is not like an ABCD thing, at least he would have given it a second thought before doing such things with his wedding money. From my own opinion, this is not the end of his insanely acts because he will still try to do some that's similar to what he did with his wedding money.

I agree with your opinion, taking a big risk by risking wedding money to seek momentary pleasure is a very wrong step, regardless of the winning opportunities available. I don't think his future wife would tolerate such actions, and if her mind was on track, she would choose to leave him. Besides, it's not just about risk, but about breaking established moral boundaries, I don't think almost anyone in any environment would tolerate such a bet. Besides that, if someone gambles with their marriage savings, you can be sure that they will not gain any trust from their surroundings. Gamble within reasonable limits, because if you act too crazy, the consequences will be quite big.

[Issa56]

Damnn this is really heart touching, after all their plans just in a gambling section everything turned upside down.  This is the reason we should always learn how to fight against that urge of gambling regularly.

I just don't know why most people think they can increase the money they have with them through gambling. How will someone gamble with money meant for an important event? Trying to increase money through gambling doesn’t make any sense. We should always know when we are suppose to gamble and when we are not suppose to gamble. We should always have money meant for gambling, and if the money is used up, then we should stop gambling immediately and never top it up. I felt bad for the lady, and I don’t really know what she’s going to do. Maybe she will start saving another money or end the relationship with the person.

[rachael9385]

The truth is a lot of gamblers ignores the risk and focus on winning only, I see no sense in a move like that. Even if the dude won the bets he played with his wedding mone, I will not be 100% happy with the wrong moves he toke because gamble is a luck thing. Anyone who's luck is far from him won't win from gamble in an easy way. However this is a good lesson to the dude and his wife to be.
Even if the dude receive the advise of gambling with his wedding money, he would have known that gamble is not like an ABCD thing, at least he would have given it a second thought before doing such things with his wedding money. From my own opinion, this is not the end of his insanely acts because he will still try to do some that's similar to what he did with his wedding money.

I agree with your opinion, taking a big risk by risking wedding money to seek momentary pleasure is a very wrong step, regardless of the winning opportunities available. I don't think his future wife would tolerate such actions, and if her mind was on track, she would choose to leave him. Besides, it's not just about risk, but about breaking established moral boundaries, I don't think almost anyone in any environment would tolerate such a bet. Besides that, if someone gambles with their marriage savings, you can be sure that they will not gain any trust from their surroundings. Gamble within reasonable limits, because if you act too crazy, the consequences will be quite big.

This is purely a heartbreak, and the heartbreak didn't affect only the woman who wanted to marry the man, but it affects all the guests that was preparing to attend their family or friends wedding. However, no woman can tolerate such things. The risks that's involved in gamble when one is about to use the whole money to get have to gamble is like a 101% high and its not a thing a gambler should plan to do because what happen to this dude will not be far from what will happen to the gambler. However as a gambler it's important to wish other gamblers will but on a situation like this it's not advisable for anyone to do it.

[irhact]

I just don't know why most people think they can increase the money they have with them through gambling. How will someone gamble with money meant for an important event? Trying to increase money through gambling doesn’t make any sense. We should always know when we are suppose to gamble and when we are not suppose to gamble. We should always have money meant for gambling, and if the money is used up, then we should stop gambling immediately and never top it up. I felt bad for the lady, and I don’t really know what she’s going to do. Maybe she will start saving another money or end the relationship with the person.

To some individual gambling is there last hope. They might have had other things they needed money for and couldn't use all the money they had for the wedding without having another one left. This is when the thoughts of gambling comes to the mind of the individual in this situation. This individual that did something like this is going to be a quick addict if he continues to gamble as he'll use money that was meant to be use for other things to gamble.

Gambling is not as simple as some individuals are thinking if you want to win but losing is vey simple, I think the lady shouldn't marry the man as he isn't a responsible man. Any Individual that is responsible will not use his wedding money to gamble. He'll put the family fast before gambling, having the little money in your hand is better than gambling with that money and hope that you're going to make more.

[MainIbem]

This is purely a heartbreak, and the heartbreak didn't affect only the woman who wanted to marry the man, but it affects all the guests that was preparing to attend their family or friends wedding. However, no woman can tolerate such things. The risks that's involved in gamble when one is about to use the whole money to get have to gamble is like a 101% high and its not a thing a gambler should plan to do because what happen to this dude will not be far from what will happen to the gambler. However as a gambler it's important to wish other gamblers will but on a situation like this it's not advisable for anyone to do it.

On a norms, that woman would be very broken, and I doubt if she's going to continue with the marriage even though he begs for forgiveness, he's broke her trust and to be honest no woman can tolerate such act, however she should be thankful he displayed such character before the marriage cause who knows if such person could end up selling their property after marriage. People do strange things to satisfy their gambling desires and it's all falls back to addiction, every gambler needs to be very careful and avoid gambling habits that would make them turn addicts else they could even do more than that man did, just like most booking sites do display on their home pages, gamble responsibly.

[junder]

I agree with your opinion, taking a big risk by risking wedding money to seek momentary pleasure is a very wrong step, regardless of the winning opportunities available. I don't think his future wife would tolerate such actions, and if her mind was on track, she would choose to leave him. Besides, it's not just about risk, but about breaking established moral boundaries, I don't think almost anyone in any environment would tolerate such a bet. Besides that, if someone gambles with their marriage savings, you can be sure that they will not gain any trust from their surroundings. Gamble within reasonable limits, because if you act too crazy, the consequences will be quite big.

Indeed, we should be able to allocate a certain amount of money to gambling, it is not money that will be used for other purposes, of course risking the wedding money is not a good idea because apart from losing the money, you can also experience serious conflict because you have risked the money for something more important. . with him daring to do this, I think it is because he is addicted to gambling. Because someone who is addicted to gambling, of course they can be reckless by doing other things that are at great risk just to be able to satisfy the taste they want, but this action will of course only make them suffer. there will be big problems in the future.

Of course, if their partner finds out about this, I don't think they will think twice, most likely their partner will leave them. Cases that are almost similar to what happened in my country have recently become popular where a husband and wife who both have quite prestigious jobs were destroyed because the husband was addicted to gambling using his wife's money, so this became a disaster for both parties. Indeed, the braver someone who is addicted is, the braver he will continue to be to do even crazier things, but as you said, the crazier his actions are, the greater the impact and consequences. This impact and consequences are negative.

[ethereumhunter]

Cases like this actually happen a lot out there, it's just that not many people want to publish them in the public space, usually they are more secretive in this matter, I once had a friend who used the money to pay for his wedding to gamble but instead of getting more money, he ended up lost a lot of money, obviously he felt guilty because he had spent all his future wife's money where the wedding was also held in a luxurious place, it seems he was in debt to cover all the money he lost, luckily my friend didn't try to gamble again and thought about recovering all the money he lost due to his defeat. instead he fixed it by borrowing money from other people to cover the costs of his wedding.

Obviously this will be an experience for him and even for other people who might read this message on the forum, it is important to protect yourself from things you don't want, don't be tempted by big wins at gambling, not everything we see is good is also good, Everything has its limits because not all gamblers become rich from gambling. Think before acting and trying to enter the world of gambling. There are risks that must be accepted gracefully.

We must thinks that we are difficult to earn money from gambling. No matters how hard you playing gambling, we will not wins the gambling games easily and even we can loses all of the money we have. That's what we must understand so we will not trying to makes money from gambling because we have many ways to make money and we can try one by one to have the money. Using the money for makes money to fills our daily needs or for our wedding or else will not gives us the money but we may loses all the money and we can be depress because of that.

That's a lesson for us too to playing gambling moderately and don't have any purposes besides of have fun in gambling. We must takes care of ourselves not to playing gambling excessively or makes money because we already see the bad things happens after other people lose their money from gambling. We can't be like them so we must be careful when we playing gambling because gambling can trick us easily and makes us keeps playing gambling until our money runs out.

[Julien_Olynpic]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

[Kelward]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

Some couples are so much in a hurry to wed and get married that they don't take their time to study their spouse to be and that is why the rate of divorce is on the increase. I think that it's better that the lady in the story found out about the gambling habit of her husband to be before the wedding, so that she can decide whether to live with an irresponsible gambler as a husband. The man's action of gambling with the money that him and his fiancee were saving for their wedding was a very foolish act, he's an addict and he needs counseling to help him over his addiction.

[Webetcoins]

From this story the conclusion is that when you think about doubling your money in gambling it is stupid because even though the chances are 50/50 you will never be sure to make money in gambling in fact in my opinion losing is much more certain, even if it is on sports betting and you have tried to do the analysis as carefully as possible but there is still a chance that you will experience defeat and lose your money rather than doubling your money.

Yes, and it's utterly foolish of someone to use the money that is supposed to be used for something as important as a wedding, I mean, how can one be so immature and irresponsible? I know that sometimes you can't control your thoughts and yourself and you do things that you are not supposed to do, but if it's about your personal life, you should at least be thoughtful about it and you should make sure you don't make any mistake that may affect your personal life so much.

It is okay if someone has some money that they know they can afford to lose and they go ahead and try their luck to see if they can double it or not, if the bet is lost, they wouldn't get in trouble of have any problems, and if it's won, they can use the money for something extra they have always wanted to do.

[hahay]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

It is obviously stupid if the bride and groom give permission to use their wedding savings to gamble,  for whatever reason when they want to gamble the results will be very bad. Maybe, they have high trust in their partner, but when it comes to gambling then ofcourse they must be able to realize that gambling is a game that carries a lot of risk, because it is very possible to lose  everything. After all, in gambling it is not right if we expect big wins, because in gambling one of the factors we have to be aware of is losses. Because if they were aware of the losses,then of course they would be more careful in gambling but unfortunately, they made a big mistake because they used their marriage savings to gamble.

[Dewi Aries]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

Some couples are so much in a hurry to wed and get married that they don't take their time to study their spouse to be and that is why the rate of divorce is on the increase. I think that it's better that the lady in the story found out about the gambling habit of her husband to be before the wedding, so that she can decide whether to live with an irresponsible gambler as a husband. The man's action of gambling with the money that him and his fiancee were saving for their wedding was a very foolish act, he's an addict and he needs counseling to help him over his addiction.

Yes it's possible, but I don't think it's always because someone didn't take the time to get to know their partner's personality thoroughly, because after all there is always a partner who tries to hide all his bad habits while in the dating period which ultimately makes his partner not know about his bad habits and these habits are known when they are both married, meaning that not all divorces are caused by a partner not taking the time to find out about his partner's habits thoroughly.

Traditionally couples take time to date in order to bond and adapt to each other and their respective families over a period of time that is usually quite long, meaning that I also recognize that when a couple plans a wedding right away it can be a pretty strong reason as to why many of them end up divorcing. On the other hand, I am sure that no one wants to have a partner who is a gambling addict because I think the bad stigma about gambling is widespread in the sense that the majority of people already know the bad effects, meaning that in this case, the male partner really hides his bad habits from the female partner.

[Fatunad]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

It is obviously stupid if the bride and groom give permission to use their wedding savings to gamble,  for whatever reason when they want to gamble the results will be very bad. Maybe, they have high trust in their partner, but when it comes to gambling then ofcourse they must be able to realize that gambling is a game that carries a lot of risk, because it is very possible to lose  everything. After all, in gambling it is not right if we expect big wins, because in gambling one of the factors we have to be aware of is losses. Because if they were aware of the losses,then of course they would be more careful in gambling but unfortunately, they made a big mistake because they used their marriage savings to gamble.

Anything that involves gambling and making use of those funds which are intended to make use in something important like wedding or emergency funds then it would really be that totally absurd if they would really be
having those kind of considerations on taking up such further step on which it doesnt really have any sense on doing so. On the moment that you would really be gambling out with those funds then you are just that basically putting up yourself on such huge trouble on which it is really that something that musn't do considering about on the risks involved in gambling then it would never been safe on taking up such step
on trying to make use of the funds which is really that intended for some reason. Basing up on the example then this is something that talks about wedding savings. What if you have lost it all?
What would happen now? These are the questions that needs to be answered first before making up that spending.

[Marykeller]

This is very terrible. Things women experience in the hands of men can be unbearable at times. How can a grown-up man who wants to build a future with a lady think of going into a bet with the whole money saved up for an important event of once in a lifetime for bet winnings thinking he can double the money provided for the money?

Truly, people's desire to earn more through gambling is putting many people astray day by day and that doesn't seem like something that will stop soon.

That being said, I think the man in question is not in his real sense to think of considering gambling as a way to double the money meant for the wedding. forgetting the most important thing he can do with the money than throw it away without fruitful returns other than losses.

[South Park]

This is very terrible. Things women experience in the hands of men can be unbearable at times. How can a grown-up man who wants to build a future with a lady think of going into a bet with the whole money saved up for an important event of once in a lifetime for bet winnings thinking he can double the money provided for the money?

Truly, people's desire to earn more through gambling is putting many people astray day by day and that doesn't seem like something that will stop soon.

That being said, I think the man in question is not in his real sense to think of considering gambling as a way to double the money meant for the wedding. forgetting the most important thing he can do with the money than throw it away without fruitful returns other than losses.

There is no doubt that this is a horrible experience for the bride-to-be, but at the same time she should give thanks that she discovered this before the weeding took place and she called off the whole thing, as she can just move on from this person that betrayed her trust and find someone that is worthy of it, and when it comes to the groom they have to change their ways, since this is the kind of thing that will be forever remembered by those close to them and will make it to social media too, which will make their quest for their significant other way harder than what it already is.

[Mr.suevie]

All these stories arise because people do not know each other well. From this story we see that the couple hastened to set a wedding date, but the woman knows her groom so poorly that she did not even suspect his bad gaming inclinations. More precisely, you can, of course, not know about the groom’s gambling addiction if he hides this addiction well. But the groom is clearly stupid when he asserts with confidence that he can double this money. If it were that simple, then everyone would be doing nothing but constantly doubling their money. But in gambling, no one can guarantee us anything. Your winning is just a matter of chance.

That's true brother, I feel the couple really don't know each other that well because if they actually knew each other then I think the whole marriage wouldn't have worked out in the first place. I had this one peculiar case in my neighborhood too but for that one the couple were still in the stage of planning and the groom to be kept on asking the bride for constant money not knowing that the groom have been gambling really hard and when the lady found out she simply cut the whole wedding off stating she doesn't want to get headache from the addict because he will still do even bigger deeds.