Who should quit, and why?

[Westinhome]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The gambler who had more experience in gambling,whether wife or husband should play the game and the less experience can quit the game to make the results.Because if the both family members involved to the gambling,then they will face the financial problem.If one had do the gambling loss and other make profit, this leads neither loss and nor profit.The experience gambler made the profit and the other quit the game means,they take some money into their pocket.If both husband and wife can make money in gambling,they can do gambling on their own knowledge.Winning only the reason in the gambling,the family also need of money in gambling.

[Frankolala]

Discipline and self-control is what will help both the wife and her husband to be balanced and continue with their gambling activities without any problem. When both of them are discipline then they will only use the little amount that they have set aside to gamble that wouldn't affect the family monthly expenses. They need to gamble maybe twice a week so that they don't become an addict.

If the man gambles today, the woman can gamble tomorrow or skip a day before she gambles. As long as they are doing it for fun and not for making profit, they will be happy. The problem is when one loses control and gets addicted or both of them gets addicted, they will hardly meet up with their responsibilities.

[Oshosondy]

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

If both of them are following the rules of gambling, they have no problem. But if both of them are not following the rules and gambling is taking much from them, both itf the should quit gambling. This might be hard to do, but no option than to either quit or they should follow the rules. If they want to follow the rules, like spending just little amount on gambling but they have been unable to, they should just quit. Gambling should be done to have fun, not what that is worth spending much on. And they should know that they can not make money from gambling.

[aioc]

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Even if they can handle how they gamble, like all the rest I will advise both of them to stop gambling and just focus on their family, there are other recreational that will not involve money and the risk of getting addicted, they can gamble in their retirement or if they cannot help it they can both gamble on a weekend or just once or twice a month.
It's not good if both of the parents gamble what if both of them lose, it will have a big impact on the finances of the family and this is good, they hsould agree between themselves who will play and the one who chooses to continue should have good control so he will not lose a lot of money that could harm the family.

[avp2306]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Nope it doesn't help if one of them quit since the other one will still get convince to gamble if he/she see his spouse enjoy to much on his gambling activities. Much better if both of them will quit since they can surely avoid any conflict towards this issues.

But if this activity is not damaging to much especially on financial aspect maybe both of them should continue since its somehow a stress reliever for both of them and this is also a good bonding moment for the couple since they can talk about something thrilling experience and also on how they enjoy playing casino games together.

[Cookdata]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Only an irresponsible man will want to put the finances of the house into his wife. Gambling is not a source of income, so I don't understand why you want to place the house obligation on a woman, even when she earns her money, as long they are husband and wife, the husband has duties and one of them is to provide for the house but if she has the means of source of income, she can help but it is not a most that she has to do it, not written anywhere even in the modern marriage doesn't say the husband and wife must split bills but where there is love, she can do anything for her man if there is a means.

Gambling is not a regular stream of income but if for instance, the wife made something huge from gambling, if you are lucky and loved by your woman, trust me she will spend half of her money on you but if there is nothing like love, she will squeeze that money on her hand and wouldn't give you a cent but regardless of they win or not, it is not her duty to help you as a man of the house.

[moneystery]

it would be good for a couple to understand their responsibilities. there are children to be financed, education costs, health, household costs, investments, savings, etc., all these things must be met. if they gamble, it might be disturbing these plans which will be a problem in the future. but if they understand how to become a gambler responsible and good at managing their financial, gambling might not be a problem for them and it is not necessary for them to get out of gambling.

[Lida93]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The gambler who had more experience in gambling,whether wife or husband should play the game and the less experience can quit the game to make the results.Because if the both family members involved to the gambling,then they will face the financial problem.If one had do the gambling loss and other make profit, this leads neither loss and nor profit.The experience gambler made the profit and the other quit the game means,they take some money into their pocket.If both husband and wife can make money in gambling,they can do gambling on their own knowledge.Winning only the reason in the gambling,the family also need of money in gambling.

Quite interest you are the first person that have given an idea different from what all other members have raised I don't know for sure  if both spouse will agree to quit, however when the cue is raised about  the best and experienced should continue while the one with lesser experience and with much losses should be the one to drop, rationally that will make sense to both spouse to amicably agree.

Gambling can be so enticing and addictive so there has to be a strong defensive reasons why you have to tell a person to quit it, otherwise there might be a matter of contention for both parties involved. Also, it shouldn't be based on gender too because at this current era gambling is no gender based activity.

[Spaceman1000$]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The best thing is for the couples to work it out within themselves on how to run the family affairs, because the idea of quiting gambling by one party isn't advisable for me, whatever finance that is coming to the family from gambling, is a welcome development, so if the finance is coming from both parties, is even better, but they shouldn't allow gambling argument or misunderstanding come in between, hence the the couples are mutually mature, they can easily walk along. Just looking at the scenario or imagining the scenario alone for me is a turn ON, because I will just predict some games, and pass it to to my wife to cross examine and edit, before I will go ahead to stake the game.

[bittraffic]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Only an irresponsible man will want to put the finances of the house into his wife. Gambling is not a source of income, so I don't understand why you want to place the house obligation on a woman, even when she earns her money, as long they are husband and wife, the husband has duties and one of them is to provide for the house but if she has the means of source of income, she can help but it is not a most that she has to do it, not written anywhere even in the modern marriage doesn't say the husband and wife must split bills but where there is love, she can do anything for her man if there is a means.

Gambling is not a regular stream of income but if for instance, the wife made something huge from gambling, if you are lucky and loved by your woman, trust me she will spend half of her money on you but if there is nothing like love, she will squeeze that money on her hand and wouldn't give you a cent but regardless of they win or not, it is not her duty to help you as a man of the house.

And they have children which is going to make anyone believe this woman is not responsible enough so she needs to quit and focus more on her children. Children need a mother at least one parent has to be hands-on to take care of and guide the kids. Regardless of how rich they've become through gambling, the family has to be their prime concern.

[Jawhead999]

If I answer the woman, I would be criticized since I'm sounds like supporting patriarchy, but I answer the man, it doesn't make sense for me lol,

This is hard especially if the woman and man have a different opinions, it's better to seek a professional or someone who can being neutral for both sides. So whatever the decision comes from the professional/third party, hopefully both of them can understand with that.

[danherbias07]

Man, in my opinion, this is the worst scenario that I can imagine.
I don't want to see my wife gamble like me so she doesn't and it's working better for us. There must be one who can control the other one especially if he/she knows you are gambling and the person who gambles reports how much he is betting. i.e. in Sports betting.
That's how it works for us. I always tell my wife how much money I put on the line because she is also watching the games with me in our free time. And there are times that she is the one asking that question whenever I am hooked on the game. I mean, she will obviously know it because I am shouting my throat out to the team I am rooting for.

Back to the topic, I think one should quit. Having someone to stop another when he/she is crossing the line is a healthy move. One should know how to control the other so that the money won't be spent on abnormal bets. (emotional ones)
That's my take for that and also someone to be strict on the gambler so that the kids won't hear about it.

[Weawant]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

A straight answer will be Yes one should quit for the other to carry on if the other so wish, so the other who has quitted will help in managing funds for the family and keeping the other partner in check so not to go beyond normal spending such that it will become detrimental to the family and cost then the ability to be able to get certain family projects done.

The wife quitting will be the most ideal as it will help the family better, the wife can help the man manage the fund more especially if it turns out he is the breadwinner, she could help him out up a gambling budget and family budget such that if his wage comes, they take of the ones needed by the family immediately from the money and leaving the rest at the husband's mercy but if it's the reverse the it will turn out chaotic. It's always better if the wife isn't gambling and it's just the husband alone but if it turns out the wife is then there will be some issues which will take so much time to resolve.

[Saisher]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

It is better if both of them quit but if they can afford and they can allocate a portion of their income and treat gambling as entertainment, then they can play together
so they can remind each other if they are playing beyond their limit, the most important thing is they know their limitation in gambling and they are responsible enough to see to it that they are going to be ok.
Gambling is a high-risk kind of entertainment so husband and wife should see to it that both of them will not fall into the trap of addiction, they should always think of the welfare of their family.

[Unbunplease]

Man, in my opinion, this is the worst scenario that I can imagine.
I don't want to see my wife gamble like me so she doesn't and it's working better for us. There must be one who can control the other one especially if he/she knows you are gambling and the person who gambles reports how much he is betting. i.e. in Sports betting.
That's how it works for us. I always tell my wife how much money I put on the line because she is also watching the games with me in our free time. And there are times that she is the one asking that question whenever I am hooked on the game. I mean, she will obviously know it because I am shouting my throat out to the team I am rooting for.

Back to the topic, I think one should quit. Having someone to stop another when he/she is crossing the line is a healthy move. One should know how to control the other so that the money won't be spent on abnormal bets. (emotional ones)
That's my take for that and also someone to be strict on the gambler so that the kids won't hear about it.

It should be understood that a family is a union, first of all, of equal people. The wife does not owe anyone anything. If the husband plays, the wife has the right to do so as well. If the husband cheats on his wife, the wife has the right to cheat on her husband. If both are players, the less successful player must stop

[Findingnemo]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Neither Husband Nor wife because they are not supposed to gamble to make a life out of it and if they do then they are fu*ked up already.

If quitting is an option then both should be the right choice because it is not fair to lose something by one while partner not willing to sacrifice but honestly speaking the marriage won't work for too long so the kid has to find a good foster home.

[michellee]

Usually, the one who will stop is his wife because his wife takes care of the household. It is rare for a husband to take care of the household and more for his wife to handle it. But if there is communication between the two about who should stop, that's good because they can both still control themselves when gambling.

In general, the husband is in charge of earning a living so that his wife stays at home and takes care of the household and also takes care of the children. But if neither of them is willing to give in for the sake of their household, there might be a fight between the husband and wife.

But I have never found a husband and wife who gamble and become gamblers. Usually, only husbands gamble, and even then their husbands gamble secretly hahaha.

[benalexis12]

If quitting gambling comes from inside, is determined, and will find a way to stop it, that's good, and it will be easy to quit. But if there is no determination or willingness, obviously, it will be difficult for any of them to quit gambling.

Then it is not good for the couple that they both have a gambling addiction. Because, for sure, that is not far from being the root cause of their separation as a couple; in short, there is also a high chance that gambling will be the way for them to break their relationship as partners.

[uneng]

What is the problem if both of them are gamblers? I think that is fine, since they are responsible gamblers who don't put their hobby above their duties as husband, wife and father, mother. Everyone needs some leisure time away from the burden of daily life and even from their children, so let gambling be part of their happy hour. If gambling is having a positive impact on their routines and making it even more functional than before, it really looks like they found what they needed to improve their lifestyle.

However, if they are losing control and going too high on gambling, I think the one who should quit first is the householder of the relationship. Nowadays it's hard to say who is this, since women and men are talking from equal to equal, so each couple has to be analyzed individually.

[Fiatless]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I don't wish to marry a gambler because don't want gambling to become a family affair. Both of us would be discussing gambling and the children might become knowledgeable about gambling at a very tender age. But if I finally marry a gambler, I will be pleased if my spouse is a skillful and responsible gambler. If the person gambles responsibly and is proficient in some games, I think it will be fun and profitable. But we have to ensure that we keep our gambling life secret from the kids until they become mature. We also have to ensure that our gambling activities don't affect the attention we give to the family.

However, I think the female spouse should quit if that I the best option. This is because she is more engaged in children's upbringing and other family affairs. But she can always give gambling advice to her husband if she is sound in gambling.