Who should quit, and why?

[wxa7115]

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

This is a much more complicated situation where both of them are involved in gambling so that no one is able to control the finances, but I also want to know whether the two couples are active gamblers or they only carry out gambling activities with a budget that has been prepared so as not to disrupt cash flow to meet his living needs. It's rare to find two couples active at the same time in gambling and perhaps of the many people out in the world, only a small percentage carry out gambling activities simultaneously.

It's not a matter of talking about who should stop gambling, but rather that both of them need to think about their lives so they don't get trapped in increasingly serious financial problems. If both of them gamble irresponsibly then I am sure their finances will be in trouble and their daily living needs will be quite disturbed by gambling activities carried out irresponsibly.

If both partners are gambling irresponsibly then it will not be long until they find themselves under a tremendous financial pressure, as even a single gambler doing this will put the couple into financial strain, so both of them doing this will only accelerate this process.

However this is not very common, since this will require that both of them lose control roughly at the same time, and if this does not happen then the one that has yet to do so can see what is happening and begin to take measures to not traverse that path.

[Hirose UK]

Yes, we're all dancing with gambling. Like a party, nobody wants to go although knowing they should. Humans love the thrill, unpredictability, and companionship of friendly wagers. Our stories and cultures incorporate it. Folkloric gambles are about the trip, thrill, and challenge, not just winning or losing.

That true and basically the definition of gambling is fun place, place that can give us satisfaction and entertainment from every game.
As many people say, play with excitement and don't expect profits, as gambler must be able to instill the right approach to gambling.
They must really look for pleasure, not about profit or making money, winning and losing has become natural thing and we must be able to accept everything without any excessive effort that could bring difficulties.

Gambling is a double-edged sword; it does have risks. But lets not forget the enjoyable element that lights up our minds like Christmas trees. If we can channel our passion of gambling into more controlled, friendly, and responsible encounters, we may find the sweet spot. One with thrills but less hazards. Life's a gamble, right? Lets make it enjoyable.

In gambling there are risks and consequences that can be very detrimental or difficult for someone, even worse it can cause really complicated problems.
But it all depends on the gamblers themselves whether they choose the right path or the wrong path, there will be no coercion or direction from other people so gamblers must be smart in considering every step they take.
Don't let us make the wrong decisions or goals because that can make us feel regret later.

[Zanab247]

This case just like a case I heard from somewhere when husband and wife were working in the bank and, we know that bankers use to close late in the bank and once they get home, it will be difficult for the woman to perform her duty based on the nature of her work and the matter was trying to destroy the home until the woman have to quite the job to save her home. If the husband is well okay with his wife gambling, I don't think anything will happen to their finance and, I think they have amount of money they use to gamble in a day not to make them addicted to gambling.

Once the husband and wife start bearing children from the family, I will not encourage the woman to continue gambling with her husband because their children will like to follow the same step of their parents and it can lead the children to bad attitude that will affect the family wrongly in the future.

[kamvreto]

As a wife, you should stop gambling and focus more on your children and husband as well as housework. After all, what is their purpose in gambling, is it just for entertainment or risking money to hope for big profits. If the husband just plays normally and as entertainment, it won't bother anything, as long as he doesn't spend money to use it for living expenses. The husband must be wise to manage everything, regulate gambling only as entertainment, and only use a small amount and manage other needs.

[Rabata]

Once the husband and wife start bearing children from the family, I will not encourage the woman to continue gambling with her husband because their children will like to follow the same step of their parents and it can lead the children to bad attitude that will affect the family wrongly in the future.

If both husband and wife are addicted to gambling then they will not be able to nurture their child properly. I would highly recommend one of them to quit gambling. Otherwise his child will not develop properly. But if they are not into professional gambling then both of them can gamble but of course family needs to be given first priority. A situation where both husband and wife are gamblers in a family is not common. In this perspective husband or wife in the family must leave gambling for the child if they want to handle it properly.

[Suzume]

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

[|MINER|]

I think is they are addicted gambler they both should quite gambling immediately. And if they can't do it themselves, then they should consult a psychologist. Because if they are addicted gamblers then surely it will have adverse effect on their family and children which is never desirable. If they are not addicted gamblers and are gambling within their limits then I don't think anyone should quit gambling.

[bakasabo]

If both husband and wife are addicted to gambling then they will not be able to nurture their child properly. I would highly recommend one of them to quit gambling. Otherwise his child will not develop properly. But if they are not into professional gambling then both of them can gamble but of course family needs to be given first priority. A situation where both husband and wife are gamblers in a family is not common. In this perspective husband or wife in the family must leave gambling for the child if they want to handle it properly.

You havent answered, who should quit then, husband or wife?

If we think logically and look around, then wife should quit, as we see that women usually does more parenting than men. Imo this is people are use to men work, women do all the house thing. However, that does not mean that father is free to gamble whenever he wants. Child needs both parents attention.

Imo I would make wife quit gambling, but give her some days off, when she can do whatever she wants. That would be fair.

[Reatim]

My wife gambles with me only  meaning we are playing together , choosing which to bet together and we are doing this with fun and acceptance to what will happen if ever we lose nor win.

So there is no way that we needed to quit because of how we treated gambling since day one.

but accepting that there are others that gamble with all their assets , and even their living and family are affected , so helping them decide? maybe it is the one that mostly lose , means the money maker will remain gambling and the other one will focus in real life .

[virasisog]

It depends on the degree of addiction, if one quits it might be unfair for the other one. The best solution is for both of them to give up gambling and be a good role model for the family, that is if they don't want their kids to end up like them. As an adult, I never encourage anyone in my family to engage in gambling as I myself know how it can ruin you not just financially, but it can ruin your whole life. It's not bad to learn gambling games and play them with your family as long as you teach the kids the possible consequences of gambling and let teach them the importance of handling finance.

[angrybirdy]

It depends on the degree of addiction, if one quits it might be unfair for the other one. The best solution is for both of them to give up gambling and be a good role model for the family, that is if they don't want their kids to end up like them. As an adult, I never encourage anyone in my family to engage in gambling as I myself know how it can ruin you not just financially, but it can ruin your whole life. It's not bad to learn gambling games and play them with your family as long as you teach the kids the possible consequences of gambling and let teach them the importance of handling finance.

Well said, If they both have the worst addiction in gambling, Both of them must give up gambling so they can focus in their own family, It might be difficult at first but come to think of it, if both of them are not doing well in life, how can they give their children a good life? possibile it may cause a bad experience while growing up for them and seeing their parents being addicted in gambling and gradual breakdown of the family may affect their mental and emotional health

[bbigtart]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

It's true, gambling is for everyone, including men and women. However, if you are involved in gambling together, this is not a good thing, especially if in my country eastern culture is still very strong, and it is against the culture of one family to gamble. In cases like yours, even if you have to stop, it is better for your wife to stop because the wife's job is to educate children so that they become useful people in the future. After all, children are also an investment in your future.

[Volimack]

Yes if both husband and wife become addicted to gambling then it is better for your wife to stop gambling. Female people are rarely addicted to gambling and taking care of their family members is more important than gambling. It will be difficult to protect the family if the girl becomes addicted. If a guy spends time gambling a girl can bring him back to normal if he wants. The better the experience about gambling the easier the game.

[leonair]

Yes if both husband and wife become addicted to gambling then it is better for your wife to stop gambling. Female people are rarely addicted to gambling and taking care of their family members is more important than gambling. It will be difficult to protect the family if the girl becomes addicted. If a guy spends time gambling a girl can bring him back to normal if he wants. The better the experience about gambling the easier the game.

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

[Litzki1990]

As a wife, you should stop gambling and focus more on your children and husband as well as housework. After all, what is their purpose in gambling, is it just for entertainment or risking money to hope for big profits. If the husband just plays normally and as entertainment, it won't bother anything, as long as he doesn't spend money to use it for living expenses. The husband must be wise to manage everything, regulate gambling only as entertainment, and only use a small amount and manage other needs.

OP did not mention in her post that she is gambling after taking care of the household chores and children, rather she shared that her husband and she gambled in her family. If her husband did not like his wife's gambling, he would not gamble. They may be enjoying gambling as a couple so it may not be right to ask them to give up gambling. If they both experience gambling problems, the two of them can decide who should spend more time gambling and who should spend more time on other activities. If the family depends on the husband's money, if the husband thinks that one of them should gamble, then the husband may gamble by preventing the wife from gambling. I think it's totally their personal decision and they can discuss it together and take a better decision.

[Lorence.xD]

Well, we know that gambling is for everyone, it just depends on how responsible you are when you are gambling. From your case OP, you have mentioned that both parties are gambling and also they have a child, from the fact that you have a child and both of you are risking your money, just imagine what would happen in case of emergency, how can you provide all the needs of your child. In this case, it would depend on the situation, cause one might have a gambling addiction and won't stop even if another one has already stopped, which can cause conflict. As a partner, they should know to stop for the sake of the family, children must rely upon them so they must sacrifice their habits and enjoyment for the betterment financially.

[cozytrade]

Yes, of course the wife should first give up gambling and then her husband should be made aware of the evils of gambling.  Because girls have less courage to take risks than boys but boys never hesitate to take big risks. Because of this, it is very difficult for girls to give up gambling to boys.  Because of this, it is more important to give up the wife's gambling. Because after giving up gambling, the wife can convince the son-in-law about its bad side and if necessary, she can put pressure on the husband and give up gambling.

A gambling addict husband can be stopped by his wife from gambling. Because every husband listens to his wife, so I think if a wife can explain the bad aspects of gambling to her husband well then it seems that a gambling addict can quit gambling very soon.  I have seen some family's husband and wife could not be happy in their family life due to gambling, they are always fighting and quarreling. We all know that gambling is not a good thing but still we become addicted to gambling without accepting it.

[junder]

I think don't quit gamble. Because they have experience and they are doing gamble from long time if they are aware with their children they want to spend time with family then one of them can leave gamble. Gambling isn't a full time job but you can earn a with gambling. Because of they both want to give time with their family so they can do but not quit gambling they can do gambling in their free time.

Why do you say that? Are you sure that nothing bad will happen if a couple still likes to gamble?
I myself prefer to quit gambling especially if I already have a child, because no matter how well we maintain our gambling habits, there will certainly be an impact later on young children. because gambling can also change a person's behavior to be bad and maybe other people can also be affected and this is certainly not desired by myself. therefore gambling also destroys harmonious relationships, where a family can be destroyed just because of someone who is addicted to gambling, if all members are addicted to gambling, maybe there will be no peaceful life.

If a family is destroyed because of gambling it is not good, family relationships can be destroyed because of one person who is addicted to gambling, where this person may experience a change in attitude and it could also be that he will become a stubborn person, like to argue and not think about the big risks that will occur. try to think again why you suggest not to stop gambling. because in my opinion there is no connection between someone who has been gambling for a long time must stop gambling. someone who stops gambling because he wants a change for the better, no matter how long he has been gambling, that is not a good reason.

[Kelvinid]

My wife gambles with me only  meaning we are playing together , choosing which to bet together and we are doing this with fun and acceptance to what will happen if ever we lose nor win.

So there is no way that we needed to quit because of how we treated gambling since day one.

but accepting that there are others that gamble with all their assets , and even their living and family are affected , so helping them decide? maybe it is the one that mostly lose , means the money maker will remain gambling and the other one will focus in real life .

A married life with kids already is different from being single or a couple without kids. In this situation, if not both will stop, at least the wife will let go of her gambling habits and focus on her obligation as a wife and a mother. She should spend ample time on the family rather than pleasing herself in gambling because honestly, it doesn't look good to their kids. As a parent, we should look at the welfare of our family, not just ourselves, and most of all, we have to become responsible as these kids will become a mirror of what we are doing.

[dansus021]

Who should quit, and why? in the case of where both spouses are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, and my answer is they both should quit but first of all, is that possible that they can still manage their household finance if they both do gamble especially if they already have kids?

and the reason why is simply they should prepare for their kids and money for retirement, but if the money for retire and money for their kids is available i think should be fine do gamble with a budget