Who should quit, and why?

[Onyeeze]

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

[AmoreJaz]

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career
 

[n00ber]

I think it's awkward. 2 Husband and wife are both people who like to gamble, and they see gambling as an entertaining game. The best solution is for them to teach children from a young age to know about gambling knowledge. Guide children towards healthy gambling in the future. Because even if you ban children, they will learn about gambling later because gambling is now widely advertised online. Teaching them about healthy gambling is probably a safer way.

There is nothing strange in the fact that this is what happens, although morally we rarely see this condition occur in one couple who are involved in gambling simultaneously. If the view of gambling that they carry out is only as entertainment and involved responsibly then in my opinion it is not a problem because I am sure if that is the scenario they will definitely be able to overcome financial problems and not get involved excessively.

There are rarely parents who intend to teach their children about gambling and in almost many places I visit there are no parents who are willing to teach their children about gambling because this is not the right choice for them.

I have seen many couples engage in responsible gambling. They have a solid financial base and are always disciplined in gambling.

I believe that in the near future, gambling will be legalized in most countries, and there will be widespread information on the internet and the streets. Your children's lack of understanding of gambling knowledge is the foundation for gambling addiction. Thus, the more it is banned, the more curious it is for children to learn. It is important to show them clearly the negative effects of gambling on life and the economy so that children can control their decisions. It is facing the sweet temptation of betting games. Let's raise gambling awareness among our children.

[ice18]

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

the best action here is for both of them to quit gambling and prioritize their child and their financial security. having a child is not a joke, it is expensive and exhausting. also, if only one of them quits, there is a high chance that the other spouse might start having resentment towards the other who is still gambling, this is why the only way to do this is for both of them to quit.

I agree they must quit gambling and never do it again, my wife also addicted in this gambling apps in her phone last year and when I discovered she lost like $1k in month I forced her to quite gambling immediately or else I will never gave any money to her since she managed all our finances, surprisingly she listened to me and never gamble again. Gambling is fun but if you lost huge amount of money and affect your families finances then its a disaster to all of you. You will never get rich in gambling believe me.

[Hirose UK]

~snip~

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

[fruktik]

I agree with you bud, like I said in my previous comment, there is no way I am going to be under the same roof with a woman who gambles, and this may not be to the fact that we may both get out of control, but for the fact that, we both gambling will surely affect our children.
Imagine where the father and mother In the house are both gambling, what do you think the children will become when they grow up or even before they grow up, they probably will become gambling addicts even while still in their mother's womb  .

Now, jokes aside, it's a real fact, I will rather quit gambling and possibly continue doing it in secret if I really can't do without it, and have my wife quit too, it's better we both quit than continue gambling and have it affect our children.

It's funny about children in the womb. )) Well, yes, a bad example not only for children, but also for the younger generation. I can’t even imagine the situation when I personally became an example of a gambling person. All this, of course, is funny to talk about this way, but in life I have seen many similar examples. People's lives are turning into a complete nightmare and there is practically no way out of it.

You wouldn't wish such "happiness" on anyone. I don’t know how it is in your country, but this process has been recognized as a serious disease - gambling addiction. It is quite difficult to recover. It's a bit like drug addiction.

[rozak]

but this process has been recognized as a serious disease - gambling addiction. It is quite difficult to recover. It's a bit like drug addiction.

Yes, that's what happens in many cases of young people or even old people who are addicted to gambling. What can be reduced is the intensity of gambling, to reduce gambling activity gradually. it is very difficult to ask a gambling addict to stop. What is done is a process of understanding to be able to better control the gambling that is carried out. and the process will of course not happen simply or even in a short time.

but in some cases, it depends on the gambler himself. because of course, there must be a willingness to reduce their activities. whether it's due to worsening finances or coercion from people around you.

[Accardo]

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

Gamblers who take responsibility for their action wouldn't have trouble or blame others if they failed. Taking responsibility helps the brain to rethink and do the right thing, for a losing gambler, he would figure out a means of restructuring his gambling schedule and change a few bad habits like wagering all their money in a single game. For the spouses, I think they wouldn't have to regret anything about gambling because they can complain to one another if a new unwanted gambling habit erupts in their lives. Management is important, and the woman should control the finances while the man can keep up with techniques and management strategies. The list provided by AmoreJaz is very important and it's what is at stake for any family both gambling or non gambling homes. As I said in my previous response, some families where both spouses don't gamble still face difficulties with meeting those requirements.

It's not just about being a gambler or not. Although one may think that a gambler has a higher chance of failing in building his home, that could be wrong for responsible gamblers. If they spend 1% of their monthly income on gambling, they are still on the right track and the family won't suffer any loss in home-keeping. Both spouses can further ahead to becoming professional gamblers, if any of them wins a jackpot someday wouldn't the family celebrate the enhancement of their monthly income? The disadvantages of gambling have made us not see the advantages of gambling in our everyday lives. Advising them to stop wouldn't be helpful by any means and they can have a tough time agreeing to that term. Adults have to remain responsible for any decision they wish to follow and these two are grown-ups and can differentiate between what's good or bad in gambling. But, if they can't keep up with responsible gambling, I think they'll need help.

[Lida93]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Though I've not heard of such situation where both spouses are gamblers, but if they could manage their finance properly in a way that there's always money to cater for the family needs and children's educational expenses, then I see no reason for any of them to quit. They can still be gambling, having fun while raising their kids but in the case where one of them is not being prudent with his or her gambling habit or spending, then help should be sought after or should quit gambling.

In fact, if gambling weren't so addictive and dangerous for people with poor self-control, it would be a great development. For example, on Friday evening, you and your wife decided to buy beer together and sit and play slots. I think this will cause a lot of emotions, and they will be stronger than when watching a TV series or a computer game, but the price for this is too high. That's why I don't drag my girlfriend into this. I don't want her to have her self-control tested.
Women are weak and such entertainment affects them much more strongly than us men.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

[Blitzboy]

in short, you are here because of your own volition. and when it is time for you to quit, it is also on you.
so don't blame anyone else if you are in this habit, because it is your own choice. now, to what extent you want to go in in this habit, is still your option. as you are responsible for yourself, make sure you won't regret your life's choices.
husband and wife, they both need to sit down and contemplate on their situation. because after all, it is their family who will suffer from their actions.
they need to consider of the following aspects of their lives -
 > financial situation
 > source of income/jobs
 > assets
 > kids (education)
 > savings/emergency funds
 > career

In gambling, perhaps regret and disappointment will always be there, but if all of this makes the gambler blame other people, it is also not good attitude because all gambling activities are his own decisions.
Every gambler must be responsible and able to accept all the impacts of gambling without blaming other people, there is no point in blaming other people for the impacts of gambling that we feel.

Agree that they both have to be able to find solution and fix everything because what they do will also have an impact or influence on their own family.
There must be better solution with calm thinking, slowly they have to think about the long term of the activities they have carried out if they continue to happen.
And of course all aspects must be considered carefully and management and boundaries must be able to be set.
I know that for someone who likes to gamble, it will definitely be very difficult to stop, but at least they must be able to control it, manage it and also limit the intensity of the gambling they do.
Building family has been their goal together from the start so don't let gambling cause everything they have built in the family to experience problems or even be destroyed.

Gamblers who take responsibility for their action wouldn't have trouble or blame others if they failed. Taking responsibility helps the brain to rethink and do the right thing, for a losing gambler, he would figure out a means of restructuring his gambling schedule and change a few bad habits like wagering all their money in a single game. For the spouses, I think they wouldn't have to regret anything about gambling because they can complain to one another if a new unwanted gambling habit erupts in their lives. Management is important, and the woman should control the finances while the man can keep up with techniques and management strategies. The list provided by AmoreJaz is very important and it's what is at stake for any family both gambling or non gambling homes. As I said in my previous response, some families where both spouses don't gamble still face difficulties with meeting those requirements.

It's not just about being a gambler or not. Although one may think that a gambler has a higher chance of failing in building his home, that could be wrong for responsible gamblers. If they spend 1% of their monthly income on gambling, they are still on the right track and the family won't suffer any loss in home-keeping. Both spouses can further ahead to becoming professional gamblers, if any of them wins a jackpot someday wouldn't the family celebrate the enhancement of their monthly income? The disadvantages of gambling have made us not see the advantages of gambling in our everyday lives. Advising them to stop wouldn't be helpful by any means and they can have a tough time agreeing to that term. Adults have to remain responsible for any decision they wish to follow and these two are grown-ups and can differentiate between what's good or bad in gambling. But, if they can't keep up with responsible gambling, I think they'll need help.

Recognizing the complex relationship between gambling and family is necessary. Responsible gambling is a good cause, however it depends on 'if' you can play properly. This 'if' is dangerous. This sounds reasonable: gamblers should spend 1% of their income on gambling. Does this one-size-fits-all strategy meet variations in family finances? Not necessarily. Even minor gambling can be dangerous. The key is the proportion and the discipline and self-control required.

Your idea that women handle finances and men focus on skills sounds oversimplified and stereotyped. Each family's dynamics are different, therefore an egalitarian approach may promote mutual respect and understanding.

Your outlook on gambling's perks, like winning a jackpot, is hopeful. Gambling should never be considered a stable revenue source. The odds are often against the player. Making professional gambling a family aim may not be wise. Making educated gambling decisions requires a balanced understanding of the risks and rewards.

[Jody.Drummer]

If we are referring to the sense of care between people then yes maybe I would also say the same thing as you in the sense of allowing them to continue gambling and without giving any best advice, but don't we have a humane sense, if we realize that in fact the whole activity is not recommended then why don't we give them a little advice and understanding that is straight and true? Honestly, I can't help but care about everyone whether it's my friends, relatives or even strangers, especially if they are married, which means they have full responsibility for the finances in their family, especially in terms of balancing so that everything can remain fine.

Sometimes people who have a goal to have fun are very likely to enter the addiction phase unconsciously and experience problems with their finances, well even if the couple considers gambling as entertainment but still the risks are always unavoidable and one of them is like what I said that it is possible that over time they end up with addiction, you have also said that not everyone can control themselves and emotions in gambling, isn't that also very likely to be experienced by this couple and then they experience problems with family finances? It's basically everyone's right, but certainly hopefully they can change their point of view to be more realistic so that they can consider anything correctly.

Yes, we must balance care with realism. Embracing our natural tendency to care, especially for loved ones, is vital. Understand their wants and motivations, not just let them continue. Empathy needs to be combined with realistic guidance. As amusement, gambling may soon become addiction, affecting the individual and their family's finances.

Considering the couple's situation, we should remember that while they can choose, they have duties. As you noted, not everyone can gamble responsibly. This is where friends and family matter. We assist them, not just watch. Its about gently helping people identify risks and reconsider their decisions.

Awareness, not command, is the goal. We should encourage them to critically evaluate their habits and their family's well-being. Empowering them to make informed decisions that consider the bigger picture is key. This strategy guides them toward sustainability via caring and responsibility.

After all, there is nothing wrong with helping others, since childhood I have always been taught by my parents to always pay attention to people who need help or deserve help, in any way even if it is just advice and motivation. It's sad if we let people just get lost in the wrong mindset and point of view when on the other hand we know that what they are doing is quite dangerous and needs a push for a realization as soon as possible.

That's what we're always worried about, even if the couple's goal is just to find entertainment by enjoying a few rounds of gambling but the fact is that there will always be situations where as you said they can't fully control themselves along with breaking the planning and management that they have made from the beginning, and of course that means it's no longer about entertainment and fun but leads to some mental and psychological stress that ends up with unexpected financial problems.

Our arrival may be very useful and have quite an important role when the situation of the husband and wife is not good in their gambling involvement, encouraging a little evaluation, justifying the point of view and returning the realization that however gambling always has indications for something much worse to happen, these are all possibilities that will never be foreseen in the end.

[bakasabo]

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

[ethereumhunter]

Recognizing the complex relationship between gambling and family is necessary. Responsible gambling is a good cause, however it depends on 'if' you can play properly. This 'if' is dangerous. This sounds reasonable: gamblers should spend 1% of their income on gambling. Does this one-size-fits-all strategy meet variations in family finances? Not necessarily. Even minor gambling can be dangerous. The key is the proportion and the discipline and self-control required.

Your idea that women handle finances and men focus on skills sounds oversimplified and stereotyped. Each family's dynamics are different, therefore an egalitarian approach may promote mutual respect and understanding.

Your outlook on gambling's perks, like winning a jackpot, is hopeful. Gambling should never be considered a stable revenue source. The odds are often against the player. Making professional gambling a family aim may not be wise. Making educated gambling decisions requires a balanced understanding of the risks and rewards.

Gamblers who spend 1% of their income on gambling may not be able to meet the requirements to make money from gambling because it is
difficult to get winnings from gambling. What you say is true is that the key is proportion and the discipline and self-control required so that the husband or wife can both understand that they must prioritize their family first rather than gambling. There is no need to put ego first. The husband or wife has to stop gambling, especially since they have the same goal, namely wanting to build a good household with their children. If they can understand this, maybe both of them will immediately decide to stop gambling because they know that gambling can cause a loss of self-control.

Indeed, we should not assume that gambling is a stable source of income, and that will be difficult to do. Moreover, we often play gambling to see how often we can win. It would be better for the husband and wife to start reducing their gambling activities so that they do not lose self-control when gambling. Even though they have reduced their gambling activities, they can still gamble after their children are asleep so that no one disturbs them from gambling. But they really have to be more disciplined in playing gambling because they can lose self-control and then they can use their family's money. A husband or wife who really cares about their family will choose to give in and decide to stop gambling because they don't want to lose self-control in gambling, which could cause them to lose money for their family.

[piebeyb]

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

I think there is no problem if both of them compete, it's just that if they don't have children, maybe they're free, but it would be a problem if they have children, no one is taking care of them and their time is spent gambling, so one of them has to give in or take turns taking care of other household needs so there's no chaos. in taking care of the household, the problem discussed by the OP is one of having to give in to taking care of the family.

Although perhaps no one needs to give in, they can even play at the same time at certain times, but the important thing is not to neglect time with children and family, so there is no jealousy from both of them if they can do it, but if they can't, it's better if one of them has to stop playing. think about the interests of children and families.

[junder]

Since both parents love to gamble, they can make a competition between each other. That will be fair I think. They can start with identical budget, and by the end of a period, calculate, who was more successful in gambling. That persons can continue gambling freely, but the other person only after all the duties are done. And after a period of time repeat competition. Wont that be a solution that dont harm anyone?

I think there is no problem if both of them compete, it's just that if they don't have children, maybe they're free, but it would be a problem if they have children, no one is taking care of them and their time is spent gambling, so one of them has to give in or take turns taking care of other household needs so there's no chaos. in taking care of the household, the problem discussed by the OP is one of having to give in to taking care of the family.

Although perhaps no one needs to give in, they can even play at the same time at certain times, but the important thing is not to neglect time with children and family, so there is no jealousy from both of them if they can do it, but if they can't, it's better if one of them has to stop playing. think about the interests of children and families.

that's true, because gambling can also make them focus only on the gambling they are doing, they probably won't be disturbed when they are gambling because it's not fun to gamble but there are distractions, so I think if they both like gambling they should can divide their time well so that gambling makes them forget more important things. also like you said about children,  when they have children I think they have to reduce their gambling activities because maybe if they still like to gamble it could have an impact on their children.

You are right, one of them must stop gambling because the family is of course the most valuable asset that must be protected, don't let gambling destroy the family and the future of their children. because I think families must be provided with the best possible care, with gambling having a dangerous impact that could damage them and their families. so I think it's better that they both can stop gambling.

[wiss19]

Obviously the wife has to quit gambling. The husband has the responsibility to provide money for the family so it is understandable that he goes into gambling to meet up with the family needs. On the hand the wife's responsibility is to grow and care for the family. Am still wondering how women who are into gambling tend to mix family responsibilities with gambling. After looking out for the kids, prepare meal for the family, do the dishes and make preparations for the next day. They still have time to gamble. Such a woman is strong and i do not have any issue with women in gambling. Am just saying that the both of them should not be gambling at least there should be one who will help manage the other from being addicted.

Gambling is not a way to earn money and provide for the family with that money, so a man doesn't need to continue gambling while saying that he has a responsibility and has to provide for the family. Those who take responsibility don't gamble their money away because no matter what, you are not going to keep winning all the time from gambling and there will be a day when you will lose everything you have that you use to earn money and then you will just sit and regret everything.

So, we can't say that if a couple gambles, the man should continue gambling while the woman should stop doing it because the man has a responsibility. I would say, the woman should continue gambling for fun while the man should find a job or do a business so that he can have a proper source of income and be able to provide more for the family.

[lizarder]

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

How much budget you run out every time you play the card on the weekend because if you only decrease a small amount then I am sure this will not affect anything. Gambling will be more addicted if done routinely and I do not believe people say it is not addicted if gambling activities are carried out routinely. In my environment rarely people are involved in gambling with their partners because gambling is not a good deed according to the judgment of most people.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

The problem is addicted not to be based on challenges to play but because this activity is carried out irresponsible. Similarly, the couple and if the two are unable to maintain the proportion of gambling that spend a lot of money then it is worried that they will be addicted to who are unable to control themselves. In the end they will get a much greater problem because various problems will arise when finance is not better.

[summonerrk]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Though I've not heard of such situation where both spouses are gamblers, but if they could manage their finance properly in a way that there's always money to cater for the family needs and children's educational expenses, then I see no reason for any of them to quit. They can still be gambling, having fun while raising their kids but in the case where one of them is not being prudent with his or her gambling habit or spending, then help should be sought after or should quit gambling.

In fact, if gambling weren't so addictive and dangerous for people with poor self-control, it would be a great development. For example, on Friday evening, you and your wife decided to buy beer together and sit and play slots. I think this will cause a lot of emotions, and they will be stronger than when watching a TV series or a computer game, but the price for this is too high. That's why I don't drag my girlfriend into this. I don't want her to have her self-control tested.
Women are weak and such entertainment affects them much more strongly than us men.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

It's great that you have this way of spending time together. Money in this card game would really ruin such a touching relationship.

I think that the greatest gambling addictions occur among those who do not have a partner. Such people want to prove to themselves and others their importance. Plus, they understand that with a lot of money they will definitely not be left to live alone, but in reality they get such huge debts that such financial responsibilities will scare off any girl. The game cannot solve all life's problems, and this is obvious to any person who considers himself a highly accomplished person.

[Lanatsa]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Though I've not heard of such situation where both spouses are gamblers, but if they could manage their finance properly in a way that there's always money to cater for the family needs and children's educational expenses, then I see no reason for any of them to quit. They can still be gambling, having fun while raising their kids but in the case where one of them is not being prudent with his or her gambling habit or spending, then help should be sought after or should quit gambling.

In fact, if gambling weren't so addictive and dangerous for people with poor self-control, it would be a great development. For example, on Friday evening, you and your wife decided to buy beer together and sit and play slots. I think this will cause a lot of emotions, and they will be stronger than when watching a TV series or a computer game, but the price for this is too high. That's why I don't drag my girlfriend into this. I don't want her to have her self-control tested.
Women are weak and such entertainment affects them much more strongly than us men.

I had always played this local whot card game with my woman whenever she's around for the weekends because she's not always around due to her kind regards of job and the location far from home, so when she's around we play that game together for fun and entertain ourselves you know that lovebirds kind of thing. And I haven't seen her play any other game cause the purpose she plays that with me is not for money making but fun between two lovers.

It is when he two couples/lovers introduce money into the game making it seem as a  challenge between the two that's when you have got to be worried if she can be capable of holding herself together going forward from falling into addiction , because what I discovered is that people that gamble for entertainment rarely fall into gambling addiction compared to those that gamble for money making.

It's great that you have this way of spending time together. Money in this card game would really ruin such a touching relationship.

I think that the greatest gambling addictions occur among those who do not have a partner. Such people want to prove to themselves and others their importance. Plus, they understand that with a lot of money they will definitely not be left to live alone, but in reality they get such huge debts that such financial responsibilities will scare off any girl. The game cannot solve all life's problems, and this is obvious to any person who considers himself a highly accomplished person.

Actually doing gambling both you and your wife wont really be an issue as long you are really just not forgetting other things or priorities or simply do really make this some sort of fun or leisure time together.
If you are really that still intact with your finances and having that kind of control on the things that you've been dealing with then its not really an issue. Things do really just that become messy on the time that you would really be not minding about those things which are important and you are already that putting importance on gambling rather than on to those things and this is where issues do really kicks in.
This is why it would really be always important that you should really know your limitation and you should really know on what you are doing.

On the time that you and your wife had already do commit out things like having those financial struggles or problems just because of too much gambling then this is already that considered to be bad.
Quitting? Its to you as a husband and father on what are the things that you would really be doing. You wont really be that so dumb on not to realize on whats the things
that are happening.

[348Judah]

Gambling is kind of thing we do base on our knowledge and not basically that someone pushed us into it, I know that gambling have to do with something I know very well that most people who plays gambling doesn't quite in gambling because of someone's advice, the major reasons why so many of them leave gambling might be aa result much losing, so if you don't want to be participating in gambling due to you are not benefiting in gambling again, you can as well understand that you have to leave gambling base on your detriment and your betterment, gambling is something we do without anyone teaching us the way forward.

Someone who have been gambling so a while shouldn't quit gambling all because of the considerations they had with losses while gambling, they may only pause for a while when they are financially incapable of affording gambling or when they are having a complicated health challenges, most people cannot because of loosing bets take decision on quiting for gambling when they are already finding pleasure with it.