Who should quit, and why?

[southerngentuk]

You and your boo are building your dream life together, budgeting for diapers and date nights. Then, boom! A bad gambling day leaves you scrambling for groceries. Not exactly the happily ever after you envisioned, right?

Even if you're both "responsible" gamblers, the trust factor can take a hit. Hidden bets, unexplained late nights, and the constant worry about losing the rent money? It's a recipe for suspicion and arguments, not exactly the romantic vibe you're going for.

Look, marriage is about building something together, not chasing individual highs. Gambling can be fun, but it takes time away from your partner and family. Balancing that act is like juggling flaming chainsaws - not for the faint of heart!

Instead of a complete ban, talk it out! Share your concerns, fears, and financial goals openly and honestly. Find activities you both enjoy that don't involve risking the family budget. If needed, get some professional help to navigate this tricky terrain together.

[Dailyscript]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

In a family, it's always better it be the man of the house who engages in gambling, knowing fully well that he is the bread winner of the family, and that the responsibility of his family rests on his shoulders, so, he will always know how to go about his gambling in a manner it does affect his family's well being, both in finance and other aspects..
A woman gambling in a family is not good, as it makes the woman appear irresponsible, and even in the society we live today, married women gambling always appears immoral.

Whether both parents gamble shouldn`t be a problem rather the question that should preoccupy our minds is if they are addictive gamblers or reckless gamblers. The response to this question will form the basis of our judgment. I gamble and also my wife enjoys playing Bingo but that hasn`t affected our relationship nor have we been unable to pay our bills. We need to understand that gambling is not bad but it is the gambler which makes it a problem or not.

There are stories of a parent gambling and yet still causing problems in the family. What is bad is reckless gambling and when one of the spouses is addicted it is a problem. So, it is possible to have only one partner gambling and yet make the family uncomfortable and yet you can have both partners gambling and yet the family is at peace.

I have seen a situation where both parents were full time gamblers and its not like its a new thing happening these days. Men and women and now involved in gambling do such and if as a child you find out that your parents are gamblers what you should do firstly is to find out which of them might be an addicted hambler or who is gambling responsible. In that case you would know if you could be okay with them gambling or not. Since you have experience in gambling you should also advice them on some crazy things to npt try as a gambler.

[Cyber_warrior]

I don't see any problem there. Its true that we shouldn't gambling in front of children as it may effect them badly. But when its comes to mature people like you and your wife, there's nothing wrong until both of you guys can control yourselves, follow the discipline as well as able to manage economical status and become so responsible as gambler. Nobody need to quit, just mainly focus on primary income source and do gambling less or stay within limit. Don't spoil family moments , only gambling when get free time or children aren't around you.if you guys can't handle and worry about Ensure the healthy environment for children, then both can quit gambling together, otherwise there'll be a quarrel between you about this matter. So that is my suggestion

Yes. It is imperative that we abstain from gambling in front of our children, particularly if they are old enough. Whilst both spouses are allowed to gamble, this is only an agreement between the two of them as not everyone is aware of this type of circumstance. To be clear, even if my wife does decide to gambling, it will be with my money, thus I won't let her do it in the first place. Considering that my spouse and I are gamblers, what use will it be? In the end, I don't think it will have any beneficial effects.

[junder]

I think what should stop is those who gamble excessively or even addicted, because of course it is detrimental to themselves and with the fact that those who are addicted must have family and friends, therefore if they continue to gamble that cannot be abandoned, maybe they will get a bad impact that could have spread to their family and of course this should not happen because I think the family does not know about what someone who is addicted to gambling is doing, so if they experience the bad effects of gambling maybe they will blame someone who is addicted to gambling.

Although quitting addiction is difficult, but it should be able to stop gambling, because there is no way that during their lives they will continue to be in a cycle of gambling addiction, which if they are in a cycle of gambling addiction I think they will not experience good things, most likely everyday they will be haunted by resentment and disappointment because the gambling they do is unlikely to produce wins consistently.

You must realize that stopping isnt only about willpower. Addiction is complicated by brain chemistry, emotional discomfort, and social influences.

Acknowledgement from the struggling person and their support network is typically the first step to freedom. Beyond stopping gaming, you must understand the void it fills. Is there escape? A thrill? Finding these triggers is crucial.

Seeking expert aid empowers, not weakens. There are methods and support networks to break the cycle. Instead of gambling, adopt better habits and coping techniques. Relapses are part of recovery, not the end.

Thoughts that are already filled with gambling or can be said to be dirty are difficult to eliminate, but even so, in my opinion, if they have the will to stop gambling then they can fight and eliminate thoughts that can be called dirty. Because now imagine if not themselves making changes then who else? Even though there are family and friends in the surrounding environment who support it will not affect them if they themselves do not have the will to stop it will be difficult. Therefore, before others, it must start with oneself first.

I think they can fill the void with other things that are more useful, such as sports. Because in my opinion, everyone has a hobby that they like, and of course it must be supported to move forward to leave their gambling addiction, even if their hobby is gambling, it must be addressed, changing the hobby to something else that is more useful because it is not ethical to also make gambling a hobby, because it can make you lose self-control which can be detrimental.

[Ever-young]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

This is a fascinating scenario that raises many concerns concerning how gambling affects family dynamics. The "gambler's fallacy," which holds that one huge victory will solve all of their problems, is obviously rooted in both couples. However, in actuality, they're probably just incurring more debt.

The best course of action would be for both partners to stop gambling and get assistance. Still, it's not always possible for both partners to leave at the same time, and it's easier said than done. Then, it could make sense for the partner who is more deeply to quit, then help the other one to quite as well.

[swogerino]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

This is a fascinating scenario that raises many concerns concerning how gambling affects family dynamics. The "gambler's fallacy," which holds that one huge victory will solve all of their problems, is obviously rooted in both couples. However, in actuality, they're probably just incurring more debt.

The best course of action would be for both partners to stop gambling and get assistance. Still, it's not always possible for both partners to leave at the same time, and it's easier said than done. Then, it could make sense for the partner who is more deeply to quit, then help the other one to quite as well.

I have witnessed first hand a couple like that both spouses were not gamblers,the woman was lured into gambling as the man had promised her to buy some expensive necklace if he won big.I heard them discussing at loud voice in some point as things were not going well in that specific session.In such case the best would be to stop gambling as gambling to this couple was bringing problems to them.
In my opinion when a report is based on lies like this couple had built it usually won't last long and any couple where both partners gamble is destined to fail extremely fast.

[michellee]

This is a fascinating scenario that raises many concerns concerning how gambling affects family dynamics. The "gambler's fallacy," which holds that one huge victory will solve all of their problems, is obviously rooted in both couples. However, in actuality, they're probably just incurring more debt.

The best course of action would be for both partners to stop gambling and get assistance. Still, it's not always possible for both partners to leave at the same time, and it's easier said than done. Then, it could make sense for the partner who is more deeply to quit, then help the other one to quite as well.

I am in favor of both partners stopping gambling and getting help. But maybe it won't be easy for either of them. Moreover, both of them or their husband or wife still return to gambling. They really have to see how much they want to gamble. If they both still have the urge to gamble, they should be careful because it could be a sign that they are starting to get addicted to gambling.

They should try to suppress the feeling of wanting to gamble. They must be able to reduce their gambling activities before it makes them gamble more often. Moreover, we know and many people already know that gambling can really make them addicted to gambling. I think people should be able to find ways to avoid or reduce their gambling activities.

If one of them is already gambling, they should start to realize that it can cause them problems that they will not realize. And if his partner finds out, he can start to make them aware and show them the impact gambling can have on their lives. But they should be able to realize that gambling can cause problems for them.

[borovichok]

I have witnessed first hand a couple like that both spouses were not gamblers,the woman was lured into gambling as the man had promised her to buy some expensive necklace if he won big.I heard them discussing at loud voice in some point as things were not going well in that specific session.In such case the best would be to stop gambling as gambling to this couple was bringing problems to them.
In my opinion when a report is based on lies like this couple had built it usually won't last long and any couple where both partners gamble is destined to fail extremely fast.

If gambling has generated problems for the couple then it is high time they stop as you have noted because if this goes on and on it will result in more problems and even affect their relationship and family at large where their children will start to feel neglected and uncared for because of their gambling habit. There are ways the man can raise funds and buy an expensive necklace for his wife instead of waiting to win big from gambling first. This dependence on gambling will prolong the fulfilment of the promise because no one can boast of knowing when he will win in gambling.

I have been in a similar situation and I know the disappointment that comes from hoping on gambling to fulfil a promise. I remember promising my girlfriend that I would send her money but deep down I was depending on gambling to fulfil the promise so I didn’t win. When she asked for the money I gave her another date with a silly excuse and she waited for the new date yet I didn’t fulfil the promise because I still didn`t. Our relationship soared because she felt I was greedy and didn`t want to help her but deep down my inability to help was because I was hoping to win first and it wasn’t forthcoming. I ended up regretted because the stakes were enough to fulfil the promise and it was so unreasonable to depend on gambling to fulfil the promise.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

[Oilacris]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

True, anything that your children or kids do see into their parents would really be always right on which it would be most likely that they would really be following in out since their parents
had been doing it and as he/she gets older then it would really be that be a part of his/her life. So its not really shocking that one day you would really be able to see your children
to be gamblers too and there's no other things that would be blamed on but your self as a parent.

Now asking about on who should quit? Its up to you. You both with your wife or husband are definitely at old or mature age to know
on whats wrong and whats bad. You are the ones who would really be making out such fate with your entire family. Just make it sure
that your finances is really that still fine or not been that affected.

[Belarge]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

Quitting gambling is not an easy tasks for most of these gamblers, because it have turn to become their path of life. They don't become desperate and eager to place wagers in the system, moreover we wouldn't know, most of these gamblers entirely depend on the system to either gain extra change or substantial amounts. Both parents gambling? It's really a terrible idea because their children learned from either of them and these children grow up to become very addictive to the system. They become even worse than their parents that pave way for them.

[Accardo]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

Cooperation is key in this type of family, where both spouses are gamblers. Not all will end up becoming compulsive, if they work alongside each other and caution one another, they can be responsible gamblers. I know that it's quite a tough one, if one of them gets addicted. And it'll be almost impossible for the kids not to find out about their parent's engagement into gambling. Especially when they discuss about their wins and losses. To be honest, the family can be run without having some financial challenges, if the parents set aside some funds for gambling, alone. However, isn't it better for both to be gamblers than one person, that hides it from the family and runs dry the finances of the home. No one is the right person to quit, instead both should end it and focus on training their kids. Because someday the kids will become gamblers, one way or another. Even if the parents are responsible players, the kids may not.

[JMBitcointernational]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

First of all it is even very wrong for the Woman To make it Known To his husband that she Gambles , i Dont know for western culture If this is actually obtainable And welcome as part of them But in My own African culture i think it is very wrong for a Woman To Exposé herself to her husband that she gsmbles.if both spouse are Gamblers as you said it will be morally wrong for the man To quit for the Woman But for morality sake it will be respectful for the Woman To quit for the man because he is the Head of the Family And should bear the risk of providing for his Family notwithstanding the measures he might adopt To source for funds.

Naturally , man is the Head of the Family And should Find a means To provide for his Family , And If gambling will make him To Care for his Family the Woman should quit And also Respect the man as the Head . Imagine the shame when you enter casino house And see husband and Wife dragging To bet, ordinarily it is an insult To the man for not caring for his Family And allowing his Wife To gamble . It is also a disgrace To the man therefore the Woman should quit gambling .

[stomachgrowls]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

Cooperation is key in this type of family, where both spouses are gamblers. Not all will end up becoming compulsive, if they work alongside each other and caution one another, they can be responsible gamblers. I know that it's quite a tough one, if one of them gets addicted. And it'll be almost impossible for the kids not to find out about their parent's engagement into gambling. Especially when they discuss about their wins and losses. To be honest, the family can be run without having some financial challenges, if the parents set aside some funds for gambling, alone. However, isn't it better for both to be gamblers than one person, that hides it from the family and runs dry the finances of the home. No one is the right person to quit, instead both should end it and focus on training their kids. Because someday the kids will become gamblers, one way or another. Even if the parents are responsible players, the kids may not.

Totally depends on how both of you would really be working out which husband and wife specially if you are both gamblers then its impossible that you wont really be able to notice out something wrong with your activities. This is why it would be best that you both would be assessing out the condition whether it would really be viable to quit or would be retaining on what you are doing. Its not really that bad to gamble
as long you wouldnt really be compromising when it comes to the finances that you do have or simply doesnt affect out your family's savings and other important matters when it comes to finances
because on the time that it would really be compromising it out then its already indicative sign that both of you are already that addicted to gambling and this is something that you should quit or stop as soon as possible. This is why it would better that dont make things becomes get worst before you would be making out that action on quitting up gambling. Be responsible and be wary on the things that it is happening.

[LUCKMCFLY]

Naturally , man is the Head of the Family And should Find a means To provide for his Family , And If gambling will make him To Care for his Family the Woman should quit And also Respect the man as the Head . Imagine the shame when you enter casino house And see husband and Wife dragging To bet, ordinarily it is an insult To the man for not caring for his Family And allowing his Wife To gamble . It is also a disgrace To the man therefore the Woman should quit gambling .

Sometimes what he says may or may not be applicable, as a man yes, it is the natural stupidity of responding to all things, I have always said something if we seek the best for our family, there are things that we must stop doing and start doing Other times, we as men and heads of family, if we see that an activity will tempt towards the well-being of our family, we have to suspend it, leave it there, nothing can be done, it is something that has to be done, of course. The rest will be worse if not It does, I can say it from my point of view because that's who I am, but people who don't have that decision-making power, well, everything starts to get complicated, regardless. whether he has a wife who is also in the game and not. If you want to leave, you must leave.

[danadc]

Yeah, never a good idea for both parents to engage in gambling, as no doubt, this could have a very bad negative impact on the children going while they are growing up to become teenagers, and teenagers into adults, the children could pick that up from their parents and that could turn the entire family into a den of chaos and confusion.

If the two parents are gamblers, then you should expect nothing from the child than being a chronic and addicted gambler, the son of a lion will surely roar like a lion, he will take much of gambling from his parents, but i wonder how they could both manage the home in bringing the children and having resource for their daily needs when they both gambles, can they even afford to make earnings? i doubt, we should leave a good example for our children to take and not care less about what our actions might put in them to become what they may never thought or imagine in life.

Cooperation is key in this type of family, where both spouses are gamblers. Not all will end up becoming compulsive, if they work alongside each other and caution one another, they can be responsible gamblers. I know that it's quite a tough one, if one of them gets addicted. And it'll be almost impossible for the kids not to find out about their parent's engagement into gambling. Especially when they discuss about their wins and losses. To be honest, the family can be run without having some financial challenges, if the parents set aside some funds for gambling, alone. However, isn't it better for both to be gamblers than one person, that hides it from the family and runs dry the finances of the home. No one is the right person to quit, instead both should end it and focus on training their kids. Because someday the kids will become gamblers, one way or another. Even if the parents are responsible players, the kids may not.

Compulsivity problems are something that we cannot control in our own lives, unless they have a type of treatment, I have a friend who suffers from that and it is difficult, he has to take a medication to calm them down and that is something delicate , they cannot receive strong coins, so in a casino I do not recommend that someone who is like this can play in a casino, the problem can involve the entire family, because it is something that can affect those who are the head of the family and that is But, I believe that games of chance in that case do not apply nor should people play, yes, that is what I have always said, however, because everyone is the owner of their actions, but with casinos, money, you must have careful.

[HelliumZ]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

It is normal that both husband and wife of a family can be gamblers together but if there are children in that family, it becomes unusual for parents to participate in gambling as guardians. So an ideal guardian should exempt either parent from gambling. Especially the mother is more close to the child so an ideal mother will sometimes ruin the child's future, the mother should first refrain from gambling, then the father will control himself from gambling after understanding the situation. But if that family is dependent on gambling and runs the family from the money earned from gambling then parents should not participate in gambling in front of the child for the time being.

[dezoel]

Naturally , man is the Head of the Family And should Find a means To provide for his Family , And If gambling will make him To Care for his Family the Woman should quit And also Respect the man as the Head . Imagine the shame when you enter casino house And see husband and Wife dragging To bet, ordinarily it is an insult To the man for not caring for his Family And allowing his Wife To gamble . It is also a disgrace To the man therefore the Woman should quit gambling .

Sometimes what he says may or may not be applicable, as a man yes, it is the natural stupidity of responding to all things, I have always said something if we seek the best for our family, there are things that we must stop doing and start doing Other times, we as men and heads of family, if we see that an activity will tempt towards the well-being of our family, we have to suspend it, leave it there, nothing can be done, it is something that has to be done, of course. The rest will be worse if not It does, I can say it from my point of view because that's who I am, but people who don't have that decision-making power, well, everything starts to get complicated, regardless. whether he has a wife who is also in the game and not. If you want to leave, you must leave.

A responsible person will always have their priorities sorted, and since we know how important the family is to us, we need to make sure we are keeping them on the first position when we are making a decision, so our decision should have no direct negative effects for our family which means that if we are about to do something, we should make sure that doing that thing wouldn't harm our family or as you said, their well-being, and if it does, we shouldn't do it.

If a gambler knows that they are getting out of control and losing a lot of money and time in gambling, and that in return is hurting their family and his relationship with them, that is the moment they should decide who is more important because they are going to have to lose one of them and you can't lose your family for anything, gambling is nothing more than an activity.

[Su-asa]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

It is normal that both husband and wife of a family can be gamblers together but if there are children in that family, it becomes unusual for parents to participate in gambling as guardians. So an ideal guardian should exempt either parent from gambling. Especially the mother is more close to the child so an ideal mother will sometimes ruin the child's future, the mother should first refrain from gambling, then the father will control himself from gambling after understanding the situation. But if that family is dependent on gambling and runs the family from the money earned from gambling then parents should not participate in gambling in front of the child for the time being.

It's very bad for both husband's and wife's to gamble even when they don't have children, gamble might be a thing of fun to them but don't I think we should all get it right that gamble is a thing one should enjoy, so if a whole family especially husband and wife, they might have problems with their gambling habits. If they gamble and their children is also aware that they gamble it will be very bad for the children because the children will try gambe some day and the children will be worst than their parents, some people are into gamble today because their friends or someone from their family made them to.

[harapan]

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if  one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

  I think it seems like it was just discussed here in the gambling section, like you are talking about here. It is difficult to have both parents addicted to gambling. And it is impossible that their children do not see that. Except that it depends on the age of their child, who has a broad mind about gambling.

  Even if one of them quits, it will be difficult for him to do that 100%, and of course he still sees that his wife will gamble. Maybe it would be better if they both stopped gambling; that would be better so they wouldn't be tempted to gamble.

Mmmm  for me I think the wife should stop gambling because she has a lot task to handle as being focused in moulding the kids, mostly the Man don't have much time to stay at home doing such except when he wants to help out but finding both of them doing same thing isn't going to help the kids grow at balance cause they might grow up doing same thing they have watched their parents do.

The wife should stop,I don't see it as bad for a woman to gamble but in a responsible manner but mind you two wrongs can't make a right,one must advice the other,so it's better either of them stops tho.
But again why will both parents be gambling at the same time,are they going through financial crisis that they feel Gambling will sort it out or what.