Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling?

[Agbamoni]

There is no law stating that gambling is for the young or for men only. So that leaves me to a simple and straight forward answer. Which is yes. I will be comfortable seeing my elderly mom gambling as long as she is not yet, and addict and she is gambling responsibly. If on the process of gambling she got lucky and won very big in it. Big to the extent that she does not have to gamble anymore, and she is rich. Will you not follow her and enjoy the riches?

Instead of getting disappointed when you see your mom gambling you can teach her the best gambling options and also teach her how to play safe when gambling. Especially to know when to stop gambling.

[temple]

At first I thought I have a quick answer and opinion so to say, but the more I thought about it, the more I ran into issues. I believe I would not like it if my mother was a gambler and I would see her handing over her bets in a store. I know it may come across as discriminatory, because who says that my mother likes that I am a gambler sometimes? It's weird though, it feels wrong although it is quite the same whether she gambles or I gamble, it is just a subjective opinion. My mother plays the lottery sometimes and that in contrast feels quite normal, but in essence it is gambling.

Firstly, my mother in this context I believe is way older, knows better and has had a past I may know nothing about in totality.
If I should see her gambling, I of course would be worried but it is to inquire as to why she is doing so, that would be my initial reaction. Perhaps she's bored or needs urgent cash for some problems I know nothing about or it has been a long addiction I never knew about.

Secondly, I have seen matured women or mothers play lottery games and even stake bets because it is quite cheap to play and it wouldn't be a loss to them, unless they bet big hoping to win and them run into loss.

You are right about your initial reaction as it should involve asking the mother what exactly is going on. My answer was more focusing on a kind of emotional reaction I would have and my emotional reaction would be that I somehow don't like to see my mother gambling. But it also tells me that my mother would probably think and feel the same when she sees me gambling. I guess it is like holding a mirror in front of oneself when we realize we do not necessarily like the behavior of someone else while we ourselves are doing it. Could be considered an important lesson.

[Dewi Aries]

Let them have it. They know so well that they will be losing money to gambling, but they continue in doing it thinking that it might be their lucky break that time. I wouldn't feel any sympathy to people who know full well that their actions could potentially harm them or anyone around them, especially if they faced the consequences. It's just another human making poor life decisions and getting the results of what their actions are. I'd certainly not feel comfortable seeing someone in distress or frustrated because they lose, but I'd say I'll be fine with it. 

Yes, it is true that maybe we can only let it go because after all they are old enough and have a mature mindset so that it should be able to make them at least consider and know about which is better to do and which should be avoided. For the initial stage, I understand that there is nothing wrong with giving them a little advice that gambling activities are not good overall especially if they are already in old age which should spend time with pleasure and enjoy it with children and grandchildren at home instead of suffering a lot of pressure as a bad impact of gambling.

If indeed all the advice is really useless and cannot change anything then obviously leave it alone, they have their own decisions, it's useless even though we have tried to care for them but they themselves don't care about themselves all of that will be in vain, and maybe they will only stop when indeed the bad effects that can really traumatize them experience in their gambling involvement. For the issue of whether or not it is comfortable, it is clear as you said that it is not at all comfortable when seeing the elderly involved in gambling, it is concerning especially if they are one of our family members.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

Anyone is free to gamble, that is their own decision and not mine, if I can't help them in any way or means to make her life better then I must be very careful of not being a hindrance to what makes her happy, there are some people who have completely find gambling as a means of joy to them, they gamble to get rid of dulling moments of their life, try to avoid being worried about life and get more excitements in gambling than focusing on life huddles and cuddles, but I'd she's not gambling the way it is expected, I may be forced to step in advising her.

[madnessteat]

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It seems to me that people of different ages, social status, religion, etc. are interested in gambling. I would not be surprised at all if I met an elderly woman in a betting shop. Not only does she have the same gambling rights as many other people.... which means it's not unheard of. It could well be that she was betting at the request of a friend or family member and was upset because now she has to bring someone some bad news.

[KTChampions]

It's a difficult question because we don't know all the circumstances. Here you can talk both optimistically and pessimistically. The pessimistic way of reasoning is understandable to everyone, but the optimistic one may sound like this: despite the fact that the woman is elderly, she has a hobby and, most importantly, free time and money to do it. She has an interest in life and enjoys it 
I see no reason why this can't be true. Usually people with financial problems work two or three jobs and we don’t see them in such places.
In general, until we know the specific circumstances, I see no point in judging the situation.

[SmartGold01]

You know one thing i will never try about gambling is virtual gambling I think is the most deadliest gambling as it drains you instantly, and if time is not taken you would want to recover what you have lost by so doing you are dying deeper in lost. I have read and heard numerous stories about people who engages themselves into virtual betting and never made a serious profits. Another story came up that a man who received his salary went straight to gamble shop, anyway it's a local shop he went straight to start playing virtual he didn't know when his pocket was empty at caused of trying to recover what he has lost then exhausted all his salaries over there.

The funniest part of it is that, he was supposed to pay his son's school fee and hard already promised to send the school their money within 4 days, this was around 26th he made that promise hoping to get 30th to 1st of next month to deliver the money to them. I don't know if I would say devil came into him and he spent all the money maybe he was trying to see if he could increase his salary before going home, and he ended wasting the money and came back home empty handed.

How did we know, it happens that someone very close to the family saw him while entering the gambling shop it was then the information leak out to family that he spent all his salary in gambling shop. If you look closely to the nature of the lady over there you would see that she's frustrated and don't know what to do either to go home or continues staying there. God help our gender!

[len01]

I just thought or maybe an elderly mother gambled because she needed money and hoped that the money could become more due to economic pressure or whatever. because I saw he felt disappointed and as if he felt like he was a big failure so I said maybe he was thinking about winning or the jackpot.

certainly not. even though I am a gambler however I will not let my mother experience gambling even though it is considered entertainment.
the reason I say this is because as a child I should provide better facilities to provide happiness without gambling and if it's just just having fun there are many other ways to make my mother feel happy letting her go on holiday is much better than having to gamble but it has a health impact bad.

It was very sad to see this elderly mother gambling as if she felt very disappointed and regretful about what she had done.

[SatoPrincess]

I would assume that the woman in the picture is not new to gambling. She probably has a history of gambling from her younger years, it will be silly to ask someone to quit something they do for fun just because of their sex or age. People should learn to respect boundaries and privacy of others, that picture should not be shared on the internet without the lady’s consent.

[maydna]

Gambling can indeed bring frustration to people who lose when gambling, regardless of whether they are adults or old people. But what we see in the picture is a mother who predicted the bet and that she should not have to gamble anymore. We don't know whether she can control her emotions if she loses another bet or whether she will lose control of himself, which will make her place another bet.

Perhaps it's not strange to see elderly women gambling because it really happens. But she shouldn't have to gamble at her old age. We worry about if the woman loses all her money and can only cry because she doesn't have any more money. Gambling can indeed attract anyone to try it because of the possibility of winning, so people put their hopes into gambling so they can make money.

[Johnyz]

I would assume that the woman in the picture is not new to gambling. She probably has a history of gambling from her younger years, it will be silly to ask someone to quit something they do for fun just because of their sex or age. People should learn to respect boundaries and privacy of others, that picture should not be shared on the internet without the lady’s consent.

The generation today don’t know how to value respect and boundaries, many are feeling entitled. Anyway, if this is the only way for her to have fun then why not? As long as she is capable and still have the funds for gambling I’ll let her gamble. At her age, she’s more focus to have fun but if the result frustrate her or makes her depressed then that is the time for me to tell her to stop and focus on other things, gambling can be very risky regardless of your age.

[Fatunad]

You know one thing i will never try about gambling is virtual gambling I think is the most deadliest gambling as it drains you instantly, and if time is not taken you would want to recover what you have lost by so doing you are dying deeper in lost. I have read and heard numerous stories about people who engages themselves into virtual betting and never made a serious profits. Another story came up that a man who received his salary went straight to gamble shop, anyway it's a local shop he went straight to start playing virtual he didn't know when his pocket was empty at caused of trying to recover what he has lost then exhausted all his salaries over there.

The funniest part of it is that, he was supposed to pay his son's school fee and hard already promised to send the school their money within 4 days, this was around 26th he made that promise hoping to get 30th to 1st of next month to deliver the money to them. I don't know if I would say devil came into him and he spent all the money maybe he was trying to see if he could increase his salary before going home, and he ended wasting the money and came back home empty handed.

How did we know, it happens that someone very close to the family saw him while entering the gambling shop it was then the information leak out to family that he spent all his salary in gambling shop. If you look closely to the nature of the lady over there you would see that she's frustrated and don't know what to do either to go home or continues staying there. God help our gender!

We do know the risks, so its normal that we would be having those worries. This is why on the  time that you are seeing your grandmother is really that getting involved with gambling then it would be just that normal that you would really be making involvement and telling them that they should really be that avoiding it as much as they could or possibly as early as they could.Even if they would be saying that it is really just that for fun but still you are really that putting yourself at great danger when we do speak about gambling addiction.It would really be giving out that kind of being uncomfortable on things which you do know that it could really be giving out that kind of impact later on into your finances. If your grandmother would be listening into your advise then its good but if its not then its her choice but as much as possible
it would be always that best that you should really be letting her know about those possible problems that could arise in too much dealing with gambling. For entertainment purposes then its good
but if you are tending to make constant money or winnings then its bad.

[Antotena]

There is no law stating that gambling is for the young or for men only. So that leaves me to a simple and straight forward answer. Which is yes. I will be comfortable seeing my elderly mom gambling as long as she is not yet, and addict and she is gambling responsibly. If on the process of gambling she got lucky and won very big in it. Big to the extent that she does not have to gamble anymore, and she is rich. Will you not follow her and enjoy the riches?

Instead of getting disappointed when you see your mom gambling you can teach her the best gambling options and also teach her how to play safe when gambling. Especially to know when to stop gambling.

This is not about law, this is about morals and virtues as a parent. I wouldn't be happy seeing my mama gambling where boys are gathered, what exactly is she looking for? I will happily prefer she does it on her phone if she insists rather than seeing her standing over there looking frustrated and thinking of what next to do. Now imagine this woman that was captured and video posted on the internet, if it were to be your mom, don't tell me you will be happy to see it.

I will buy her phone so she can do that at home and I will make sure her account balance is limited, I don't want to be hearing monthly allowances has finish on the first week of the month. If you hear that as a child, you wouldn't be happy and you will definitely send her another payment to make her feel comfort but don't be surprised if she use the money for gambling the following day.

[Sanugarid]

Anyone is free to gamble, that is their own decision and not mine, if I can't help them in any way or means to make her life better then I must be very careful of not being a hindrance to what makes her happy, there are some people who have completely find gambling as a means of joy to them, they gamble to get rid of dulling moments of their life, try to avoid being worried about life and get more excitements in gambling than focusing on life huddles and cuddles, but I'd she's not gambling the way it is expected, I may be forced to step in advising her.

I agree, if I see that there will be no problem and she is happy with what she is doing, I will let her continue that. Why would you stop the person if it will not cause any problem, besides, you will only come in when you see that gambling is not good for your elderly mother. We can't help but worry but first see if it harms her   or not, if not just let her enjoy it.

[jossiel]

If that's my mom, it's a different story. I wouldn't be happy to see her gamble because she's going to lose her money entirely because I know her personally and how is she doing.

And the others might feel the same for their moms, it's not a problem if this happens once in a while but I am still worried at all if that's once will have that much a lot of money involved per stake she does.

Like losing a $1k per time she gambles, that's worrying when I know how the status of her life is.

[Strongkored]

Lastly, will you feel comfortable or worried knowing that your mother is a dedicated gambler; and if you feel worried are you worried that she may be losing a pool of cash or your worried because you fear for her health as gamblers can get negative emotions when losing money.

I'm quite happy because she's not a gambler and doesn't even know gambling apart from traditional card games which are often played by young people in her village, but I often see women 45+ years old who gather in one house to play card gambling, I think as long as it's done fully responsibility is not a problem but it will be a problem if gambling affects their emotions when they loses money which means they cannot accept it, and in my opinion in countries where gambling is legal then seeing adults and even old people gambling is not a strange thing because they can freely gamble without fear of breaking the law because gambling is legal there.

[qwertyup23]

Why should I not be comfortable if she is gambling responsibly. But I will prefer she should do it online instead of offline using betting agent. Because as I saw that image, that is a betting agent shop and I will not like to see my mother there. This is because in my country, only young guys are common in such a place and that would be an embarrassment for my mother and me. But if it is online that she is doing it, I will not be worried at all if she is gambling responsibly.

I find this funny because this is what I am experiencing now!

To tell you my story, I often meet with my GF almost every week. She has a grandmother who frequently gambles (e.g. 2-3/week) using the funds which should be allocated for the monthly obligations on their household. From time-to-time, the grandmother wins but she mostly losses her bets in the process. As a way to recuperate with the stress, she often goes ballistic inside their house, displacing her stress with her family members.

However, I want to know as forum members from different parts of the world your thought's towards this based on your environmental perspective towards gambling irrespective of whosoever is involved be it young or elderly in as much as the individual is of gambling age.

Based from the story that I just mentioned above, I can have an answer to your question OP based purely on my experience.

Most elderly people do not have things to do at their house. They either just sleep or do household chores in a daily basis to kill some time. In order to at least be satisfied, they often gamble as a way of their entertainment since they do not work anymore.

Unfortunately, this brings tons of problems if they do not have the urge to control their gambling fantasies and satisfaction like what happened to the grandmother of my girlfriend. While I do emphathize with her grandmother, still, that cannot be a reason for her to continue gambling since she is also using the funds for their monthly household operations.

[Fundamentals Of]

There are old people who are fond of gambling. That's just the way for them to spend their days. Since they don't have work anymore or even heavy responsibilities in their households, many of them can spend time playing games.

There's no problem with this if they are only gambling according to what available extra savings they have. Many old people are living off their pensions and savings. Some are even earning from the businesses they've established. But if an old person doesn't have extra savings, gambling isn't for him.

Some parents who don't have any activities will certainly make them feel bored and will look for activities they like, including gambling, but if they gamble just for fun, this doesn't matter to them because it won't stress them out if they lose.
Yes, it is true that some of those who have retired do have sufficient savings for their needs, but if they continue to gamble very often their savings will certainly run out and it would be better for them to just gamble for fun and not make them addicted.

Gambling for fun and gambling for the sake of trying to make money are not different in terms of the possibility of becoming addicted to it. Even those who gamble for fun could also be addicted themselves. Even if they they are not expecting to win big, if they are hooked on to it, they could stick to it and do it over and over again. So I think the best way to approach gambling is to bet small amounts. Gambling for fun can still bankrupt anybody.

[khiholangkang]

If that's my mom, it's a different story. I wouldn't be happy to see her gamble because she's going to lose her money entirely because I know her personally and how is she doing.

And the others might feel the same for their moms, it's not a problem if this happens once in a while but I am still worried at all if that's once will have that much a lot of money involved per stake she does.

Like losing a $1k per time she gambles, that's worrying when I know how the status of her life is.

I'm the same way, sir, I won't let my mother gamble because I also know my mother, even though my mother is dedicated to gambling, for example. but I myself know how age can affect emotions and the freedom of thinking, maybe even narrower because of stubbornness.
Moreover, my mother only has a job with a small income, so it would be very unethical for her to enter or be in the world of gambling which could potentially lose her pension money.

[SmartGold01]

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If your grandmother would be listening into your advise then its good but if its not then its her choice but as much as possible
it would be always that best that you should really be letting her know about those possible problems that could arise in too much dealing with gambling. For entertainment purposes then its good
but if you are tending to make constant money or winnings then its bad.

There is one thing I understand about our parents especially mother's sometimes they ought to know the best so, even when you are trying to buy their minds to make them understand what they are doing wrong they would find out that you are seating on their heads probably because they have making so much fun with you that was why you are acting as an adviser to her.
Although I have tried talking to an elderly woman, this is not gambling related discussions but to another areas of our lives but i tried to advance she refused saying that what did I know, that is little girl of yesterday like wanting to talk to me? And said mama not so but this is the right ways to do that, on a short not we both start having issues so i have to avoid her and do right part of my side to let her go.

The bottom line is that, whenever you are trying to correct and elderly woman or man and they noticed that you are not up their Son's and Daughter's age they wouldn't give you that attention instead they would see as an insults.