Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling?

[GxSTxV]

Lastly, will you feel comfortable or worried knowing that your mother is a dedicated gambler; and if you feel worried are you worried that she may be losing a pool of cash or your worried because you fear for her health as gamblers can get negative emotions when losing money.

As another member of this forum living in a third world country, I will give my opinion from these two aspects.

First of all, gambling in our society is seen as something bad as it is illegal and a waste of money because the money is hard to earn due to low salary and high costs of living, people would prefer to use that money for living instead of putting it in gambling which obviously gives you a very low chance of winning more and a big chance of losing that amount of money you put in gambling. Now for a female citizen to be seen gambling is a very big deal in our society because no matter what year we are women are still under privileged. Imagine seeing your own mother doing such shameful activity.

However, as a gambler I would be understanding if I caught my mother gambling because I know the feeling, but I won’t hesitate to advise her because I am also aware of the risks of gambling and wouldn’t want my mother to go through such stress and the disappointment of losing money.

Answering your question simply, yes I would be worried before facing her not knowing more details about her engagement in gambling such as the amounts she puts and the frequency of her activity.

[madnessteat]

If am a grandchild and I see my grandmother gambling ofcourse I will be worried especially when she had gone so far to do it publicly at the gaming house because I believe there are some certain attitude that someone is supposed to outgrowth and playing gambling publicly in the shop where people are filled is one of them and I would even be more mad if I find out she does it regularly.

Such actions are very correct by preventing the badness of gambling addiction, but it is also necessary to understand why your grandmother or grandfather did this. it could be because of the past that always played gambling, making him miss the atmosphere like before.
Communication is a great middle ground between your grandchildren and grandmother.

To be honest, I don't quite understand your point of view. An adult (elderly) person independently chooses how to spend his leisure time and I do not think that he needs advice from his grandson. Of course, the exception is when an elderly person is clearly deceived because he doesn't understand anything about technology (in my country it is quite common practice among immoral people). But gambling has existed for hundreds of years (if not thousands) and almost every person has gambled at least once and understands his chances of winning.

[electronicash]

If am a grandchild and I see my grandmother gambling ofcourse I will be worried especially when she had gone so far to do it publicly at the gaming house because I believe there are some certain attitude that someone is supposed to outgrowth and playing gambling publicly in the shop where people are filled is one of them and I would even be more mad if I find out she does it regularly.

Such actions are very correct by preventing the badness of gambling addiction, but it is also necessary to understand why your grandmother or grandfather did this. it could be because of the past that always played gambling, making him miss the atmosphere like before.
Communication is a great middle ground between your grandchildren and grandmother.

To be honest, I don't quite understand your point of view. An adult (elderly) person independently chooses how to spend his leisure time and I do not think that he needs advice from his grandson. Of course, the exception is when an elderly person is clearly deceived because he doesn't understand anything about technology (in my country it is quite common practice among immoral people). But gambling has existed for hundreds of years (if not thousands) and almost every person has gambled at least once and understands his chances of winning.

this is why people will just secretly gamble rather than play in a real casino, they just go online. we're all going to judge whether we know the person or not.
but then people are somehow "concerned" or you can call it not minding their own business as to how to handle a nana publicly crying out because she won money.

since she won a big amount, she cried. it must be a life-changing amount.

@Sanmi say: ” Which person mama be this, abeg tag her child here”.
@B.E.Y.T Accessories say: ” Who know her, abeg bring her account details make we help her”.
@Your Tech Sis say : ” Omo this woman just won increase her blood pressure”.

[Makus]

I don't even advise an old, or person advance In age to gamble. Because, peradventure they become addicted to it, it will be difficult to convince them not to, because at that age, they feel they have grown to a height of wisdom as their age progresses, unknown to them that they are just being foolish. And most of them out of frustration of live, it will just make them get addicted easily, and such persons could even gamble irresponsibly. Elderly women in the casino hall, isn't something we see everyday, and that because it's not of their gender to gamble, even at that age.

[goinmerry]

Lastly, will you feel comfortable or worried knowing that your mother is a dedicated gambler; and if you feel worried are you worried that she may be losing a pool of cash or your worried because you fear for her health as gamblers can get negative emotions when losing money.

If you ask that question to a person who in their entire life knows that their parents are not involved in gambling, the obvious response will be, that they won't be comfortable if there's a surprise. On the other hand, if you ask that question to a person where they know their parents are involved in gambling for long, they are already used to seeing their parents like that.

Will they be worried? It all depends on how responsible the parents are for their family even doing gambling.

[Belarge]

I don't even advise an old, or person advance In age to gamble. Because, peradventure they become addicted to it, it will be difficult to convince them not to, because at that age, they feel they have grown to a height of wisdom as their age progresses, unknown to them that they are just being foolish. And most of them out of frustration of live, it will just make them get addicted easily, and such persons could even gamble irresponsibly. Elderly women in the casino hall, isn't something we see everyday, and that because it's not of their gender to gamble, even at that age.

Age is nothing but a number in the system. Addiction is one of the exploratory negative qualities any gambler ought not to develop because it kills slowly and rendered one to become useless without the capacity to handle anything solid without thinking of gambling. Why would I become worried seeing my elder brother gambling? Because they're mature enough to make their own decisions and I don't think any choices made, I have any action to take other than staying on my lane and face my own challenges, we all have what we're fighting really hard to overcome.

[agustina2]

I don't know what to react since I know my mother don't even know how to gamble. But even it's hard to imagined that she do gamble and I surprised she is like that for long, as long as she is doing well in our family, with no financial struggle nor change in behaviour, then I will just allow her to do so. On the way though, I will do some discussions with her related to gambling and will always asks, "how's everything"?

The fact that I learned now her habit, I will make sure I'll always keep her on my watch.

[wallet4bitcoin]

I don't really care who is gambling and what their relationship is with me, all I care about is how sane they are even while they indulge in gambling.

Some parents or even grandparents might have been able to sponsor certain responsibilities through gambling over the years, it doesn't mean that they are irresponsible but they are either using it to have fun or to cover for basics and they are gambling moderately, it is nothing to worry about, it only becomes a challenge when it is done irresponsibly

[jrrsparkles]

If she is completely aware of what she is doing then it's fine for me, and don't let the woman who worked her life back from something is she is enjoying for the right reason. When things go other way then it is a concern just like an everyone and we can't really accept it simply as someone because mom is someone who is closer than anyone else in this world for most people so it's a tricky situation to be in.

[Mate2237]

I will not allow my elderly mother to gamble in my day but the funniest part is that even though you stop here she will still go and play the gamble because that is not her first time of going there and she has been gambling since from her youth. Elderly mother would not straightly go to a gambling shop when she didn't play gamble in youthful days.

And if she not using the family money to gamble then it is okay. But it is not advisable for her to do that in this age. That money she needs it to take care of her needs now.

[borovichok]

It is so discouraging to see an elderly woman gamble publicly. Women are naturally built to be mothers so certain lifestyles even if it's legal shouldn't be exhibited. Imagine if he has his son in the same gambling hall, imagine her calling "number 1 and 2 over 2.5" and his son calling "number 3 and 5 Goal Goal". How will people around view the family? I see that as an irresponsible act for an elderly woman to gamble in the open.

From another angle, elderly people are easily prone to high blood pressure so gambling should be prohibited for the elderly since losing a bet can easily make the heart beat faster thereby leading to high blood pressure which can cause death.

In addition, what kind of money will such an elderly person be looking to get from gambling? I know that gambling at that age means that the person has started gambling long ago because it will be difficult to develop gambling habits in old age. So, in old age, such a person should have given up on gambling and not gather with his sons and daughters to gamble.

[jrrsparkles]

It is so discouraging to see an elderly woman gamble publicly. Women are naturally built to be mothers so certain lifestyles even if it's legal shouldn't be exhibited. Imagine if he has his son in the same gambling hall, imagine her calling "number 1 and 2 over 2.5" and his son calling "number 3 and 5 Goal Goal". How will people around view the family? I see that as an irresponsible act for an elderly woman to gamble in the open.

Why so regressive mindset and this is what actually the domination over Women. If elder men are allowed to gamble and if Son himself enjoying gambling in public then why can't accept that a mother can be seen in that way too?

There is nothing to be ashamed about gambling or else why the son is gambling in the first place?

[Makus]

Age is nothing but a number in the system. Addiction is one of the exploratory negative qualities any gambler ought not to develop because it kills slowly and rendered one to become useless without the capacity to handle anything solid without thinking of gambling. Why would I become worried seeing my elder brother gambling? Because they're mature enough to make their own decisions and I don't think any choices made, I have any action to take other than staying on my lane and face my own challenges, we all have what we're fighting really hard to overcome.

The fact that, staying on your lane would help avoid some issues, but you should also consider that the person we are talking about is a family member. If you don look out for them who will? Gambling is not something I'll advise a friend or family to try, because the way you strategize playing is not the way another person might take it. Sometimes even those you though we're smart enough still end up becoming addicts. There is a way gambling tricks the mind of even smart persons to become submissive to addiction, without them knowing that they are becoming addicted.

[TheUltraElite]

It is a red flag situation, pathological states like I stated previously in this thread, can lead to such impulsive behavior too. Hence it is better to see what is going wrong and treat that. Suddenly a person becoming a gambling addict would not be something to ignore. They will be an added cost on the relatives and that can lead to monetary troubles, broken families or dysfunctional families and so on.

At times keeping them on safer games is possible too where money is not involved.

[junder]

I don't really care who is gambling and what their relationship is with me, all I care about is how sane they are even while they indulge in gambling.

Some parents or even grandparents might have been able to sponsor certain responsibilities through gambling over the years, it doesn't mean that they are irresponsible but they are either using it to have fun or to cover for basics and they are gambling moderately, it is nothing to worry about, it only becomes a challenge when it is done irresponsibly

Does that include your parents?
In accordance with the title "your mother" this relates to us and not other people, so if your elderly mother still likes gambling, do you not care about it? in the sense that you don't care what your mother does even if it could be detrimental to your mother. What I'm afraid of is that if you don't care about other people then it's possible that you might not care about your own family members, including those who gamble.

Even though it's just done for fun, that doesn't rule out the possibility of them losing control, right? I think even someone who gambles responsibly can still lose control if they experience something undesirable in gambling. Responsible people gamble in the sense that they can accept their losses, but if they continue to gamble but don't win at all, what is it possible for them to do? endure? I don't think so, I think every now and then they will feel annoyed by the gambling they do that only results in losses, therefore it is better to just stop gambling. in a way you as the child have to warn your mother. and this is just an example if your mother really likes gambling even though she is old.

[DabsPoorVersion]

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Is there really such a thing as being fit or unfit to gamble? If you see an elderly woman, whether it's your mother or your grandmother, gambling, there must be a reason for it. Perhaps they find it as the only way to spend their time and enjoy themselves. Some elderly women may also be seeking excitement because they can no longer experience it as frequently.

It's best to have a conversation with the elderly woman and inquire about her experience with gambling. Engage in a meaningful dialogue and provide support so that she can enjoy herself, despite her old age. However, it's still important to set limits on her gambling activities and not allow her to gamble excessively. At their age, they are capable of making their own decisions, hence it's crucial to guide and support them, but not to control their choices.

It is best to talk to the elderly woman and ask about her gambling experiences. Engage in meaningful dialogue and provide support so he can enjoy his life despite his age. However, it is still important to limit his gambling activities and not allow him to gamble excessively. At their age, they can already make their own decisions. Therefore, guiding and supporting them is very important, but not controlling their choices.

That is why there are people who invite women to discuss or chat about the reasons for gambling. And if the grandmother wants to have fun, these people can advise her to do something that doesn't require a lot of money, and the grandmother can also get pleasure. People around the grandmother can continue to accompany the grandmother or those people can contact the grandmother's closest relatives to take her home.

You just reconstruct what I just said in your first paragraph. LOL

Anyway, I understand your concern about the grandmother having fun without spending a lot of money. However, what if gambling is the only activity that brings her joy, without causing stress or fatigue? It always varies from person to person what they enjoy doing in their later years. The best approach is to have a conversation with them and show that you can empathize with their interests.

[robelneo]

It is so discouraging to see an elderly woman gamble publicly. Women are naturally built to be mothers so certain lifestyles even if it's legal shouldn't be exhibited. Imagine if he has his son in the same gambling hall, imagine her calling "number 1 and 2 over 2.5" and his son calling "number 3 and 5 Goal Goal". How will people around view the family? I see that as an irresponsible act for an elderly woman to gamble in the open.

Why so regressive mindset and this is what actually the domination over Women. If elder men are allowed to gamble and if Son himself enjoying gambling in public then why can't accept that a mother can be seen in that way too?

There is nothing to be ashamed about gambling or else why the son is gambling in the first place?

I agree that we are in a generation where there is equality between men and women I don't have a problem with women playing he has all the rights as much as men have the right to gamble, but I am not ok with setting up an example, we have a saying

The hands that rock the cradle rule the world

which means

"The Hand That Rocks the Cradle Is the Hand That Rules the World" is a poem by William Ross Wallace that praises motherhood as the preeminent force for change in the world.

Mothers are a force to change the world they cannot mold the next generation properly if they indulge themselves in gambling, women can gamble but there is a point that they need to stop to set up an example for their children or if they are gambling they should be as discreet as possible so their children will not get the signal that its ok to gamble.

[Vaculin]

To be honest, yes. I would definitely become worried if ever I see my mother gambling. Aside from I don’t want to see her losing her funds, but I’m much worried on how her wealth will react to every losses and frustrations she will endure from gambling.

It’s certain that old aged people become more emotional and tend to easily faint whenever they don’t meet their expectations, most particularly with gambling that it’s certainly more of losses than wins. Even if she’ll tell me that she’s responsible with her losing funds, but come to think of it, no son/daughter will be happier seeing his/her mother falling in gambling addiction.

[danherbias07]

I don't even advise an old, or person advance In age to gamble. Because, peradventure they become addicted to it, it will be difficult to convince them not to, because at that age, they feel they have grown to a height of wisdom as their age progresses, unknown to them that they are just being foolish. And most of them out of frustration of live, it will just make them get addicted easily, and such persons could even gamble irresponsibly. Elderly women in the casino hall, isn't something we see everyday, and that because it's not of their gender to gamble, even at that age.

They are wiser than that. Old people know what they are doing and also know their limitations especially if they are in deep trouble. I don't think that will happen easily. What we should be more careful of are the young ones because their blood is hotter and they could easily be moved by their emotions which will make them make the wrong decision in their life.
Old people especially those who have pensions don't really have to care about their money anymore. All they want is entertainment and if ever it is our mother who is doing it, we should be ashamed of ourselves first because it might be us who is lacking something which is why they decided for something else to entertain them. Ain't gambling better than them looking for a young guy to please themselves? That will be "ewe".
IMO, it's me who made a mistake if my Mom would be doing these things. I may need to start looking for something that will keep her occupied just so it won't happen again. Maybe it means I am too busy at work that I forgot about taking her out to have some fun.

[jrrsparkles]

Mothers are a force to change the world they cannot mold the next generation properly if they indulge themselves in gambling, women can gamble but there is a point that they need to stop to set up an example for their children or if they are gambling they should be as discreet as possible so their children will not get the signal that its ok to gamble.

If someone feels that gambling is not a good activity to be done with someone we know then I would say they should not gamble in the first place, here we are talking about a mother who raised a son already and now she is trying to spend her life which should be allowed as long as she is doing it for fun. All I am saying is let the lady to enjoy her life because she worked tirelessly to be in this place.