The worst situation you're in that you regret that you learn about gambling

[coin-investor]

I was talking to a friend who used to be a compulsive gambler and is now a responsible gambler and I asked him what made him decide to be rehabilitated is it because of the money, he said its not.

It was because of the situation that he was in and that a friend asked him to keep his money it was his saving and he was about to buy a new cell and he only needed a week to complete the money and he didn't keep it in the house he might use it so he decided to entrust the money to him because his friend had complete trust on him.

Unfortunately because of his addiction, he was tempted to use the money to gamble thinking that he could double the money and give his friend a share so he could buy a more expensive cellphone, unfortunately, he lost the money and surprisingly his friend showed up and asked for the money the day after he loss the money.

He has no choice but to tell the truth, his friend does not know that he is a gambler so to forgive him for what he did his friend asks him to undergo rehabilitation, he was so embarrassed that he regrets learning about gambling, and thankful that because of his friend he was rehabilitated.

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

Your contribution is appreciated.

[1714680686]

1714680686

[Hispo]

Fortunately, I have never found myself in a situation where I am risking someone else's money or risking money which was supposed to be used for basic things like food or medicine in gambling. So I do not believe to ever have had something as dramatic as the story of your friend. Though, I believe there was someone in my extended maternal family who indeed had problems with gambling and because of it he got in very serious trouble with the rest of the people from that extended family.
That person was (as far as I know) a person with a regular gambling habit and also took part in the consumption of drugs based in cocaine, because of it, it was suspected he started to steal from the family home when nobody was paying attention, even to the point of using his own children to pick up stuff for him to sell and get some quick buck to continue to either gamble or consume drugs.

Your story has a happy ending, which is good, we need more of those happy endings in the gambling ecosystem. In the case of the story I just shared, I believe there was no happy ending for the person involved.

Also, I am curious, does the person you talk about got help from a rehabilitation facility of he managed to get out of gambling by his own and with the support of his family? What kind of mechanisms he used to defeat addiction?

[bittraffic]

I didn't regret learning how to gamble but I was in the worse situation where I lost a bet on the basketball game and because I hate the prick I didn't pay him. He was looking for me all around the basketball court. When I got home before dinner, he was there talking to my mum so my mum knew I bet and I ran to not pay him lol

She was disappointed and my brothers told me to keep doing this and I'm gonna get in trouble someday. That prick apparently has lots of creepy friends.
Still not rehabilitated and me and my brothers laughing.

[qwertyup23]

<..snip..>
What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

Your contribution is appreciated.

I personally saw on how it destroyed my father during his younger years.

My grandfather and father were notorious gamblers. They used to own a farm full of cockfighters and they raised/bred chickens. Inside our farm, they created this miniature ring wherein they can simulate fights between chickens without the blade equipped on the foot of the chickens. They participated tons of tournaments and they were even showcased in our national television.

When my grandfather passed away, we needed some funds so my father sold our farm in the province, though he kept a small portion of the farm in which it was to be designated for chickens for cockfighting. Unfortunately, my father prioritized gambling consistently to the point that he was struggling to put foods in our table daily. What made him turn and recover from this addiction was when my youngest brother was hospitalized due to an auto-immune disease that we badly need funds for.

Due to this incident, my father quitted gambling and he never touched that cockfighting once again. I just hope that people would not experience what I experienced growing up as a kid especially to have a father struggling to meet ends.

[Shishir99]

He has no choice but to tell the truth, his friend does not know that he is a gambler so to forgive him for what he did his friend asks him to undergo rehabilitation, he was so embarrassed that he regrets learning about gambling, and thankful that because of his friend he was rehabilitated.

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

That's what is called gambling addiction. A person who had a gambling addiction and now he returned to a regular life means it's a lot. Most of them go through a tough time. I guess a lot of us lost some big amount of money by gambling. I know people who have lost their entire salary in just a couple of minutes and they instantly regret placing max bets. I did the same thing. I remember I received my salary and wanted to gamble $20 and then I lost. I tried to recover it with low odds and placed big bets and I lost it too. I have lost a couple of bets in a row and then i had to suffer for the whole month. If someone is responsible for their family, they cannot lose their entire salary. Or else, they would be in a big trouble.

[o48o]

I was talking to a friend who used to be a compulsive gambler and is now a responsible gambler and I asked him what made him decide to be rehabilitated is it because of the money, he said its not.

It was because of the situation that he was in and that a friend asked him to keep his money it was his saving and he was about to buy a new cell and he only needed a week to complete the money and he didn't keep it in the house he might use it so he decided to entrust the money to him because his friend had complete trust on him.

Unfortunately because of his addiction, he was tempted to use the money to gamble thinking that he could double the money and give his friend a share so he could buy a more expensive cellphone, unfortunately, he lost the money and surprisingly his friend showed up and asked for the money the day after he loss the money.

He has no choice but to tell the truth, his friend does not know that he is a gambler so to forgive him for what he did his friend asks him to undergo rehabilitation, he was so embarrassed that he regrets learning about gambling, and thankful that because of his friend he was rehabilitated.

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

Your contribution is appreciated.

I got my parents to pay my rent because of my gambling, i was really ashamed of it, but almost got kicked out from my apartment, because bills were late. so i didn't have any other choice but to ask help. I would like to say it was only that that scared me straight, but i needed to mess up few times before i realized that i need to do something about this.

Now i have become over sensetive for any kind of addictive feelings or even small lapses. I still wanted to keep on gambling and only way i could have done that is set my self a new set of rules that i won't ever, in any situation break. Because if i do, i might relapse.

In your case, even if my friend returned the money with interested because of the profits he got from gambling, i would be angry and would most likely not not trust him again. Because i didn't give my consent for the money, and it's not an issue if he wins or loses, it's the matter of trust.

[robelneo]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

This happened over 10 years ago and it happened in our fiesta and the culprit was the color game, I lost my 2month salary because I kept believing and kept chasing my losses, I ended up taking a loan from our social security service, and my company so I can pay our bills and bring something to our table it took me 5 to a year to pay my loan, while paying my loans I kept blaming myself and regretted that I learn to gamble.
This is one of the considerations why I have to control my gambling activity, we gamblers have something to regret because we are tempted to lose control on how we play.

[EluguHcman]

An irresponsible gambler can never be trusted with funds because nomatter how in control such a chronic gambler would be, he would definitely lost out of control and tempers with the entrusted fund.

The consequences of untruthful (addicted) gamblers is that they are liable with whatever funds that are reachable to them and gambles with it. They would always have the urge to gamble as long there is hope to reach out to funds.
They are basically possesed betting unconditionally without a damn thought of negative outcomes and so as they can't stand stably to maintain reputable entrusting integrity once it has to do with finances.

[AbuBhakar]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

Your contribution is appreciated.

Not really much similar case because it doesn’t involve someone money but I manage to lose my hard earned salary that was supposed to be for my quarterly insurance payment that is about to due.

This is equivalent to a month of salary which I wasted on gambling. I borrow money to my girlfriend to cover my due bills and promise to become more responsible when it comes to gambling. This experience teach me a lot to never play the money that you will use for important matters especially it’s nearly due.

[electronicash]

he cares for what his friend would think and that's enough for him to go to rehab as suggested by that friend.  he is lucky to have a friend who didn't get mad for what he did because not many people will think that way. spending someone else money on gambling is already a clear sign that a person needs help. if it gets worse, robbing someone at gunpoint is not unusual for a gambling addict. i have not been to such a situation thank godness.

[Oshosondy]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

I sold my laptop that was damaged to gamble, instead for me to repair it. I sold my home theater to gamble and I lost the money. I used my finally year school fees to gamble but my dad gave me another money for school fee. I gambled with the money my dad kept with me because he trusted me, I lost it and I felt like killing myself, but I was coward to do it. I was addicted for five years since 2014 to 2019.

[Yatsan]

Rhetorically; betting and losing money that I borrowed. It did not happen to me and will assure that I won't be in such situation but it will only be the only instance I will regret my involvement in this industry. I've been into huge loss before but here i am still, simply because the amount I am using is just a portion of my salary. However, nothing's regretful in gambling. We just tend to be in despair and regrets because we suffered the negative outcome or consequence but will celebrate if it is the other way around. That's just how gambling works; you bet on your luck and check if it will be in favor or in accordance to your will. Best thing to do is to engage an amount you can endure losing so at least if it is a losing bet, you'd still function normally and will not be affected that much.

he cares for what his friend would think and that's enough for him to go to rehab as suggested by that friend.  he is lucky to have a friend who didn't get mad for what he did because not many people will think that way. spending someone else money on gambling is already a clear sign that a person needs help. if it gets worse, robbing someone at gunpoint is not unusual for a gambling addict. i have not been to such a situation thank godness.

Indeed a serious condition especially if it did not only happen once, and must be checked by professional if that's the case. It just showed that he would risk anything given that it is not his property in the first place, so what more if he owns it? Self discipline has a simple concept but it is something crucial. The thing which makes it complicated is the involvement of money which generates enough drive for an individual to increase his risk tolerance and to gambling continuously without thinking of the worse possible outcome.

[coin-investor]

Also, I am curious, does the person you talk about got help from a rehabilitation facility of he managed to get out of gambling by his own and with the support of his family? What kind of mechanisms he used to defeat addiction?

He could not decline his friend's request so he got into rehabilitation through his family's help and expenses, his addiction was so bad that whenever he got hold of the money he was tempted to use it to bet because the guy claimed that he won a lot of times so every money he could hold is his ticket for another round of winning and not only because of the money, it's more on the joy of being alive whenever he plays, so he decides to rehabilitated to save himself on many humiliation that could come if he cannot overcome his addiction.

[retreat]

Sometimes a person needs to be taught a lesson so that he understands that he must change for his own good. Because if he doesn't change for himself, who else can change him, he cannot expect that other people will be able to change him if not himself. Luckily he has a good friend who can understand what his friend is doing, because if it were me I probably wouldn't care about his addiction and would put him in prison for taking my money.

[Kavelj22]

In fact, it was not a personal experience, but rather I was a witness to an incident that made me review my assessment of gambling and become aware of its dangers without falling prey to addiction myself. The incident was that one of my relatives became pathologically addicted to gambling, and his behavior became strange, with the characteristics of a person we did not know beforehand.

The problem began after he lost all his savings, and after that he lost his only source of income because he was staying up all night gambling and could not wake up in the morning, which forced his landlord to abandon his services and replace him with another worker. Then his crisis worsened and he expelled his wife and children from the house and began selling the house’s furniture and appliances.
His wife was then forced to file for divorce due to harm, and he found himself literally alone with no one able to help him. Of course, he stole other people's property to sell them, then the authorities caught him and he went to prison on charges of committing thefts.

I mean, a person's life changed 180 degrees just because he fell prey to addiction. This example made me set limits on gambling and not become a slave to it as if it were a habit.

[Hispo]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

I sold my laptop that was damaged to gamble, instead for me to repair it. I sold my home theater to gamble and I lost the money. I used my finally year school fees to gamble but my dad gave me another money for school fee. I gambled with the money my dad kept with me because he trusted me, I lost it and I felt like killing myself, but I was coward to do it. I was addicted for five years since 2014 to 2019.

Man, that is truly heartbreaking. I am glad you somehow managed to defeat those demons which were ruining your life, I do not wish such situation to anyone out there... Would you care to further elaborate how you managed to defeat gambling addiction when you were in your lowest point? In the case you do not want to openly talk about it, then I understand it. Though, if you are willing to briefly discuss it through private message, I would like to read about it.

I am just curious how people in real life have managed to defeat problem gambling, I could give better advice about it in the future, when I encounter someone in my family of friend circle who is struggling with problem gambling; even though each case is very different from each other.

I hope in the end your family understood you had a problem, and forgave you.
You did well recovering.

[PX-Z]

So far, i didn't know someone who has worst situation in gambling here in my area, i only heard such things on adults^{(someone they knew)}, online, news, and in this forum.

An irresponsible gambler can never be trusted with funds because nomatter how in control such a chronic gambler would be, he would definitely lost out of control and tempers with the entrusted fund.

This, even such person was rehabilitated, i guess you will have trust issue to lend some funds to this person again, in a way that maybe this person will get addictive again,

he cares for what his friend would think and that's enough for him to go to rehab as suggested by that friend.  he is lucky to have a friend who didn't get mad for what he did because not many people will think that way. spending someone else money on gambling is already a clear sign that a person needs help. if it gets worse, robbing someone at gunpoint is not unusual for a gambling addict. i have not been to such a situation thank godness.

It sounds like that the "addicted" friend is not yet worst in terms being addict, because if someone has compulsive gambling disorder heard such suggestion, it will probably get insulted and will do things you can't imagine.

Not really much similar case because it doesn’t involve someone money but I manage to lose my hard earned salary that was supposed to be for my quarterly insurance payment that is about to due.

(Off-topic) What's the best thing to get in insurance? Coz i know there's an insurance with one payment that has a year cover (which i currently have), and a quarterly payment. Both have almost the same benefits, annual payment is sure cheaper than the quarterly.

[lovesmayfamilis]

I personally saw on how it destroyed my father during his younger years.

My grandfather and father were notorious gamblers. They used to own a farm full of cockfighters and they raised/bred chickens. Inside our farm, they created this miniature ring wherein they can simulate fights between chickens without the blade equipped on the foot of the chickens. They participated tons of tournaments and they were even showcased in our national television.

When my grandfather passed away, we needed some funds so my father sold our farm in the province, though he kept a small portion of the farm in which it was to be designated for chickens for cockfighting. Unfortunately, my father prioritized gambling consistently to the point that he was struggling to put foods in our table daily. What made him turn and recover from this addiction was when my youngest brother was hospitalized due to an auto-immune disease that we badly need funds for.

Due to this incident, my father quitted gambling and he never touched that cockfighting once again. I just hope that people would not experience what I experienced growing up as a kid especially to have a father struggling to meet ends.

I just saw your story. Sadly, some parents remember their family when their children get into trouble. But I respect your father; in any case, he was able to stop, although many argue that it is very difficult to free yourself from gambling.
If we talk about personal things, my brother, because of his love for games, was excluded from the football team, although he had very great prospects. Now, as an adult, he regrets his mistakes because what he could have achieved in football, playing it professionally, is difficult to compare with the fact that people rarely win in games.

[Shamm]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

I sold my laptop that was damaged to gamble, instead for me to repair it. I sold my home theater to gamble and I lost the money. I used my finally year school fees to gamble but my dad gave me another money for school fee. I gambled with the money my dad kept with me because he trusted me, I lost it and I felt like killing myself, but I was coward to do it. I was addicted for five years since 2014 to 2019.

That's is very bad mate but I am admire you that  within 5 years you actually leave the addiction right now but how will you do that? Actually a friend of mine have the same situation he is very addicted ok gambling even borrowing some money to his friends in order to gamble.  but when he saw a beautiful girl in his life then all of a sudden his addiction set aside and then now totally leave the gambling world.  Everyone of us had weakness so to defeat that weakness we must be strong and if we can't do it alone then we need some partner or any person that can help us to defeat it like in gambling.

[decodx]

What's a similar case that you're in that made you regret that you learned gambling?

I sold my laptop that was damaged to gamble, instead for me to repair it. I sold my home theater to gamble and I lost the money. I used my finally year school fees to gamble but my dad gave me another money for school fee. I gambled with the money my dad kept with me because he trusted me, I lost it and I felt like killing myself, but I was coward to do it. I was addicted for five years since 2014 to 2019.

I feel for you having problems with gambling.  It seems like you've had some tough times.  But maybe you were too young to get started gambling? You said your dad gave money for school, so I'm guessing you were under 18.   

Anyway, no judgment here.  Addiction sucks no matter how it starts and  the important thing is getting back on the right path.  Have you looked into support groups or counseling? That helped some folks I know.  Wishing you the best in getting free of this.