Waste of resources at parents disrupting their children dreams for self interest

[EluguHcman]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

[WillyAp]

Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for,

What country she's living in?
Usually you move out and lead your life.

[franky1]

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

[Fiatless]

People fail to understand that a higher degree certificate or what we call in my country paper qualification doesn't guarantee success or financial prosperity. The high rate of unemployment has made university degrees worthless because many applicants are pursuing few job opportunities.

The parents of the OP are ignorant of the current trends of the world. Days are gone when you are sure of getting a job immediately after graduation that is why they should allow this young girl to pursue her passion. If they force her to pursue university degrees, they will end up wasting their money. They should know that there are successful shoemakers, fashion designers, hair stylists, gardeners, morticians, etc. Therefore, they should allow their child to go for passion and not their ambition.

[OGsmall]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

Well, op considerably times these things do transpire for a motive, from the consequence of opinion of the parents I guess education comes after everything to them, well the girl can still fully get her ambitions after her education, or she could still operate part-time schooling were she will be able to reach out to her ambitions and still study I gussied it a win-win for her and her parents.
Well, technology has made everything comfortable she could merely select an institute and operate some business courses and she can get a better knowledge of her dream fashion job.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

Well, formal education is very important for everyone to acquire, but I don't think it's something that should be forced on a child, just let them understand the importance and they will have reasons to go through it willingly. If you allow a child to pursue their passion and goal outside of education, even when they become successful in their career, they can still acquire formal education.

There's a popular saying that "one should always acquire the right degree or skill and wait for a better opportunity to come." Sometimes,there might be a job opportunity that requires a particular degree, and if the person who has the opportunity doesn't have the required degree, they can lose that opportunity, so it is wise to have formal education even when there is no white collar job yet. I usually advise people not to attend the university and acquire degrees only because they want to get a college job. Always have plans B and C, so that if you graduate and there is no job, you can still have something you are earning from.

The girl can be studying at the university while she is also chasing her career in fashion design. She can multitask herself, or she can do a part-time program at the university.

[Lida93]

People fail to understand that a higher degree certificate or what we call in my country paper qualification doesn't guarantee success or financial prosperity. The high rate of unemployment has made university degrees worthless because many applicants are pursuing few job opportunities.

The parents of the OP are ignorant of the current trends of the world. Days are gone when you are sure of getting a job immediately after graduation that is why they should allow this young girl to pursue her passion. If they force her to pursue university degrees, they will end up wasting their money. They should know that there are successful shoemakers, fashion designers, hair stylists, gardeners, morticians, etc. Therefore, they should allow their child to go for passion and not their ambition.

Many parents just by all means want their child/children to accomplish or bring to reality the dream and life's ambition they the parent's were not fortunate or privilege to achieve in life. And this has demoralized many children in the university community because it's as though they are trying to love the life of another person and not their own desired kind of dream life, and you see them failing because the passion and keen desire is not there to thrive doggedly at all cost.

University degree or the  acquiring of a specific discipline doesn't guarantee success in today's world and this is what many parents have not come to a comprehension as they still imbibe in themselves the mentality of the nineties into this current age where technology has dynamically turned things around giving equal channel of success to all field's and handwork if only you can know how to market your talent brilliantly to the global community through the internet space.

[Ndabagi01]

I am not in support of parents disrupting their children’s dream but a university degree is important just like her passion for fashion is also important to her. In today's world, you don't have to work with the degree certificate you obtained before attending school; instead, the certificate can serve as a pathway for you to meet more people, which will help you achieve your dreams in a variety of ways. A university degree certificate is important, as is her dream job, so I believe they can still reach an agreement and achieve their goals for themselves or their child.

[Hispo]

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

It highly depends on the country and the society that girl lives in whether there are chances for her to study and get a degree on fashion or design. It is common for societies in developing countries to focus more in practical studies which are more inclined to fix problems in the industries of such society. For example, I am from a developing country and here is easier to find a place to study medicine, engineering, education, computer science, etc, than arts, literature or fashion. Because the republic believes one needs to give priority to those areas of the country.

We would need mor context on the story of that young lady to know how possible it would be for her to get formal education on fashion and design, depeding on it it could be a matter of moving to a different city where there is a college to study that, or moving to a different country where design is more appreciated and demanded by society.
Regardless of any of that, I hope she can continue to go after her dreams, sometimes that is what each one of us need, to have a dream and pursue it as much as possible, for the sake of happiness.

[Despairo]

There's a quote "Heaven lies beneath the feet of your mother", so it makes any children has no way to interrupt about their own mom's decision.

1. Mom always right.
2. If the mom is wrong, see rule number 1.

Even you have many reasons to support your argument, if you didn't follow what your mom is saying, you're a disobedient son.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

This is just a serious problem in our society that really turning into a norms mostly by the middle class and Rich even the so called poor is joining the group of persuading their children against the whish and talent. This situation of forcing a child to do what they has no idea or knowledge in has course many harm than good in our society where you hear different degrees but no results out of it. Eyes witness one closest friend if my have very good knowledge of art very creative but the parents refuse him if such forcing him to be medical doctor and that did not gi down well with my friend at the University because allot of challenge where faced where he obtained less qualifications than required if him after all the money pushed in to actualize their plan. Today children obey your parents is the backbone of parents all the time but they forget too they need to listen to their children, destiny differs so is our talent that some one make it through degree is not a measure for everyone to make it through that means there are people who gift is to be a craftsmen, skills , even many parents children have the dream of becoming musician but parents don't support, take the case of Davido if not how his father manage the situation and created a department of music were he was able to obtain his degree the dream would have died because of parents refusal. My advice for the girl is to plan her life because the parent have done their part for giving birth to her, if she failed she will suffer it most than the parents because responsibility to take care of the parents at old age is there for her.

[Ucy]

The parents probably think she needs more knowledge or higher education and certificates (or the so called degree) to have more opportunities with job offerings. Many countries tend to prioritize on certificates or people who have successfully passed through the typical school system than people with actual knowledge or with the ability to properly solve societal issues. And one of the reasons for that is indoctrination. They need workers who have been molded into something they want, so they prefer to reward that than actual knowledge.
Nevertheless, everyone needs to be more educated or knowledgeable than they were. True Knowledge is power. You can do alot with it, for example your opinion or contributions to issues will have more influence than those with less knowledge. And you can earn a lot of money or do alot of great things with that if you want to. You rule with higher or superior knowledge and will have greater effect on alot of things, and those with lesser knowledge can't change that. They will have no option than to follow you otherwise they will fall into a lot of problems. So, strive for higher knowledge, and those with conventional school degree who likely have lesser knowledge will be below you. Even those who have lots of money but less knowledge will be less influencial than you. The power of money is derived from the influence of the owner. It can only properly solve problems if the one who owns it is knowledgeable or influencial.

[Promocodeudo]

Qualification or whatever is been called is not strict way to succeed in life, it is important for the mentality of people change towards this approach, this usually they way most of our parents think, they don't see skills as anything, many of them feel that you having and educational set you ahead of other people but it is not not so, how many people working in multinational companies got the job because of their paper qualification only, if you are a parents and you want your to get you the paper also make sure you ask him or her what they are good at, so that they could go get a skill on that too because the world is moving away from only paper qualification.

[Spaceman1000$]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

The both parties are suing towards a better tomorrow, the girl has her passion to follow which is in fashion, while the parents want her to get a degree. However both parties could fine a common ground where the girl can go for her degree and still make out time to follow up with her passion which is fashion, maybe she can be doing it part time, till she finishes her education and go into it fully. she can as well go for a course in the university that is related to her line of passion so she can really get enlightened about what's she's going into.
So for me, There should be room for compromise for both parties because if she doesn't do as her parents have said, there will be a lot of disarmony between she and her parents, same thing goes if her parents doesn't grant her request, so both parties should work hand in hand so at the end of the day it can be a win-win for all.

[Cryptoprincess101]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.

Is really so bad how some parents tries to detect or hinder their children from doing what they know best to do. Going to the university to acquire a degree is very important but it is also advisable to learn a skill before gaining admission in the university as sometimes our skills also helps us at some point when we are financially down and also to be independent while in the university as not in every cases that you would require to call your parents to ask them of money because you would be using your skills to earn some money over there.

[Gozie51]

Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.

They say what the old person see while seating, the young won't see it while standing. I believe the parents have more futuristic reasons to want her to be educated. Given that the parents should not be the one to choose a course of study for her but they realise that education shouldn't be relegated in people's lives despite that there are no white collar jobs but to be educated is another assets itself and that is why even the wealthy business men still find out time go back to school after dropping out in their early school days

So in her case too, I believe education is important in person's life. She should look for how to study in fashion courses or related courses so that she will gain better knowledge. The area of her interest can be studied in the university. If someone has opportunity to go to school, let them go because the future is not certain for anyone.

[passwordnow]

We know that all parents want best for their children and that's why they want their kids to obtain a degree so that they'll have no problem with employment in the future. I think that if the girl understands the situation and the desire of their parents to see her have that degree, she always follow that and they're the ones going to pay her tuition in college while pursuing her dreams with fashion designing career. She can work part time at the same time of studying the degree her parents want.

Or she's going to waste her time finishing that degree that she doesn't like but she'll give satisfaction to her parents and later on do what she likes to do. It's either pursue another course or study that will allow her to go on with fashion and dream career. So, it's either of the two and whichever is going to work for her. Life is too short and can't blame the parents for having that mindset but a talk will be able to make them realize on what type of world we have right now. They just want to have you something in paper as a treasure that's no one is going to rob you.

[Gormicsta]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

If the daughter has a responsibility to attend university, she may put in little effort and gain little from the experience. In addition, she may develop hatred toward her parents for pushing her to do something she does not want to do. This might compromise their connection and make potential partnerships tough. It is also likely that the daughter will drop out of university, resulting in a wasted input of time and money. So it's a really responsive circumstances, with advantages and disadvantages for both sides.
A possible alternative answer is to compromise and let the daughter pursue her interest.

[swogerino]

Based on my personal experience having obtained a degree and not following my passion for IT has not made me get the job I dreamed for so I took my attention to getting many international IT certifications like CCNA and others in order to boost my credentials,I own more than 10 of them now and I have quite some years of experience now so I fully agree with what this girl want to do and if she was my daughter I would not at all force her to go into the university as I know what it means to go there and not get what you want or not to feel fulfilled,following your passion like I did is something I strongly recommend to anyone including to this girl.

[btc78]

I do understand where the parents are coming from but why don’t they just meet in the middle? The girl you know could get a degree in something related to fashion. She could go to a fashion school and still graduate and make a career out of it. Most parents who were dissatisfied with how their lives planned out often subject their dreams onto their children. They want their children to achieve what they never got to but sometimes it clashes with what their children actually need. The parents are just putting themselves up for disappointment if they would keep on insisting that their kid go to university.