Waste of resources at parents disrupting their children dreams for self interest

[teamsherry]

:-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE'  but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.

Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.

There are so many conflicts which arises between parents and kids even when they grow up because to be honest the parents especially from countries like India, Pakistana nd Bangladesh are really difficult to deal with as they intervene in every aspect of their children's life and make it miserable they need to understand that system has changed but they are not ready to accept it and they think they knew everything that's what the problem is which has to be sorted.

Basically I won't lie the major problem between parents and children is understanding problem, many parents don't have a clue about how their child us feeling or how to even connect with them, some children may be suffering from abuse from friends and they would come home acting dull and their parents would in turn slap them or call them lazy, and the traditional pattern if system that our parents were adapt to has changed so quickly that the gap of technological advancement and society building has grown so big from their youth till their children grew up, like my dad grew up in the early Time when going to school was such a norm and compulsory for success but in my time its not the most important thing here and we are always in comfort of who's belief or reality is superior to the other, he prefers I go to school and focus on my studies alone, I want to have a skull and build my company and make some money, and that's why we argue all the time.

[jrrsparkles]

Based on my personal experience having obtained a degree and not following my passion for IT has not made me get the job I dreamed for so I took my attention to getting many international IT certifications like CCNA and others in order to boost my credentials,I own more than 10 of them now and I have quite some years of experience now so I fully agree with what this girl want to do and if she was my daughter I would not at all force her to go into the university as I know what it means to go there and not get what you want or not to feel fulfilled,following your passion like I did is something I strongly recommend to anyone including to this girl.

More importantly you got your degree first, right? That's what the parents trying to do or atleast most of them who don't have much to left their kids as inheritance wanted to ensure their survival here with whatever the knowledge they have.

Sure things changed a lot and most of us don't even work related to the sector we got our degree but there's something we can learn from it and that will definitely be helpful to pursue our passion too.

[MissNonFall9]

:-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE'  but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.

Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.

There are so many conflicts which arises between parents and kids even when they grow up because to be honest the parents especially from countries like India, Pakistana nd Bangladesh are really difficult to deal with as they intervene in every aspect of their children's life and make it miserable they need to understand that system has changed but they are not ready to accept it and they think they knew everything that's what the problem is which has to be sorted.

Basically I won't lie the major problem between parents and children is understanding problem, many parents don't have a clue about how their child us feeling or how to even connect with them, some children may be suffering from abuse from friends and they would come home acting dull and their parents would in turn slap them or call them lazy, and the traditional pattern if system that our parents were adapt to has changed so quickly that the gap of technological advancement and society building has grown so big from their youth till their children grew up, like my dad grew up in the early Time when going to school was such a norm and compulsory for success but in my time its not the most important thing here and we are always in comfort of who's belief or reality is superior to the other, he prefers I go to school and focus on my studies alone, I want to have a skull and build my company and make some money, and that's why we argue all the time.

It is the generation gap that causes us to have a lack of understanding between our fathers and sons and daughters. For that, these two generations of people should show behavior to each other understanding the gap of time and opportunity. For example, when I was a child mobile technology was not very prevalent so if we compare today's kids with that time, we would not want them to be connected to their mobiles or technology. Then there will be a possibility of trouble. But if children are allowed to interact with technology in moderation and as necessary and are well explained about the pros and cons of technology then there should be no problem. I said this as an example. That is why I think that if everyone follows this generational message from all sides, there will be no more problems.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Based on my personal experience having obtained a degree and not following my passion for IT has not made me get the job I dreamed for so I took my attention to getting many international IT certifications like CCNA and others in order to boost my credentials,I own more than 10 of them now and I have quite some years of experience now so I fully agree with what this girl want to do and if she was my daughter I would not at all force her to go into the university as I know what it means to go there and not get what you want or not to feel fulfilled,following your passion like I did is something I strongly recommend to anyone including to this girl.

More importantly you got your degree first, right? That's what the parents trying to do or atleast most of them who don't have much to left their kids as inheritance wanted to ensure their survival here with whatever the knowledge they have.

Sure things changed a lot and most of us don't even work related to the sector we got our degree but there's something we can learn from it and that will definitely be helpful to pursue our passion too.

Yes that is reality most parents don't have much ideas of what they want their children to go into but felt the pain of not meeting up their mate do to financial instability of their own parents but want their own children to bridge that gap by persuading them to go through any course if study.
They world has move away of only relying on what one study even if you don't practice your field of study the exposure alone usher you better opportunity to explore than those who where not opportune to go through the four wall of education.

The saying that no knowledge is waste is actually a reality as I have see many that have left their profession to something else practicing profession is not a yardstick or mandatory all one need is to explore and adapt not is waste .

[jrrsparkles]

Yes that is reality most parents don't have much ideas of what they want their children to go into but felt the pain of not meeting up their mate do to financial instability of their own parents but want their own children to bridge that gap by persuading them to go through any course if study.
They world has move away of only relying on what one study even if you don't practice your field of study the exposure alone usher you better opportunity to explore than those who where not opportune to go through the four wall of education.

The saying that no knowledge is waste is actually a reality as I have see many that have left their profession to something else practicing profession is not a yardstick or mandatory all one need is to explore and adapt not is waste .

At least parents got the experience and faced the reality of world, the kids don't know anything at all and they think that what they see via social media is the reality but isn't though. Social media is where people trying to pretend as something who they can't be in reality, and show only the positive/happiness of their lifestyle or just fake to gain more followers/subs.

[Ever-young]

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

Well you are right but they mustn't be forced, our parents can only try to guide us in a way we feel is good but not good, we are in civilized world now, we have the choice to make our decision, we only need our parents to be there for us and help us in a way they can, although we can compromise because it's not everything that glitters is gold, there are some kind decisions we make, that we think we are making the right decision but we are not, in such case we need our parents advice or suggestions for us to make the right move.

[Dunamisx]

I will always say this that parent are not the ones to decide for their children, they can only guide and teach them what to do and how to go about it, its now left for each child to decide on what he wants, whether to take their advice or not, but when we truly train our children well, they will not even engage on doing things that are against our own wish, because our impacts are already on them positively.

[MissNonFall9]

I will always say this that parent are not the ones to decide for their children, they can only guide and teach them what to do and how to go about it, its now left for each child to decide on what he wants, whether to take their advice or not, but when we truly train our children well, they will not even engage on doing things that are against our own wish, because our impacts are already on them positively.

You are absolutely right brother, it is wiser for parents to let their children make decisions rather than forcing them directly on anything. But most of the parents feel that their child is not mature enough to make the right decision. So they are the ones who impose decisions on the children which leads to complete destruction of the decision-making skills of the children. But they have to think that it is very normal for children to make mistakes in making any decision, but if they don't make mistakes how will they learn?

[teamsherry]

It's annoying that parents doesn't want children to be want they want to be they want to shape them to the point t that they dictate their tomorrow thinking its best for them and this is why when most children grow up they tend to go or start a whole new career than the one their parents planned for em.

[WillyAp]

There's a quote "Heaven lies beneath the feet of your mother", so it makes any children has no way to interrupt about their own mom's decision.

1. Mom always right.
2. If the mom is wrong, see rule number 1.

Even you have many reasons to support your argument, if you didn't follow what your mom is saying, you're a disobedient son.

And most should be disobedient. If I had listened to my mom I would be a car mechanic.

[Aanuoluwatofunmi]

The two parties need to respect on each others decision, parent must not force their children on doing something likewise the children must not disobey their parent on what they instructed, there are times in which experience have to work in some situations, children cannot understand the requirement or details of some decisions they are taking because they lack experience in life, same applies on parent, they shouldn't force the children on doing what is against their wish.

[SmartCharpa]

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

I don't think it's a waste of money if her parents insist that she attend university to get a degree; she needs additional skills and knowledge to start her business, so she should go to the university. Since she already had fashion and design skills, she needed to go further to gain more knowledge about them, she didn't have to rely on her existing knowledge without going to school, there is a fashion and design university that she could attend to gain more skills to ensure many customers will patronize her. In my opinion, this is why some fashion designers who attend school gain greater knowledge and produce a better style than someone who does not attend a fashion school. The more information they have about producing a high-quality product, the more buyers are drawn to it. I hope she takes her parents advice because they already know the best way to improve her fashion talents.