Would you quit gambling for a friend?

[coin-investor]

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

One of the option is not to include him on your poker playing sessions when you have one, or you will all agreed to tell him straight that he is doing it all wrong, don't just leave the group you all have to do something for a friend if you are all friend to the guy you will be concern on his status its not good that you are all good and one of your friend is addicted to gambling and worse if your other friends become addicted to gambling too your addicted friend could influence your other friend, so its not good if one in your circle has serious addiction to gambling.

You should all do something about it if you want to retain harmonious relationship with friends or you will have to leave each other. Remember birds of the same feather flocks together you should have all one goal and this is just to enjoy poker and not to get involved in gambling and become addicted to it.

[acroman08]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

if it is just a casual friend that you hang out with from time to time with your other friends, I'd say just stop hanging out with that friend especially if their addiction is ruining the mood every time you hang out with your friends. if it is a very close friend of mine I'd confront them and give them a reality check, tell them that they need to get professional help and let them know the negative effect of their gambling addiction is causing to the people around them.

[Yogee]

What's the point of changing your lifestyle now? I think it's already too late if he's gone that far. You can stop showing the friend your gambling activities but it doesn't matter anymore since he could still go to the casino or log in to his online account. There are many places where he could be exposed too like socials media ads and gambling clips.

[Outhue]

That type of friends are rare, even close friends don't care about a friend addiction, they are not fully aware of themselves and if one become a addicted gambler the rest will probably end up the same way.

The friends should avoid gambling for a while, and the addicted one will slowly give up and follow his friends footstep, some people are like this, they easily copy their friends and few times they overdo it.

Influence is a scary thing in some area, this day where you can like someone for who they are and decide to follow them, for the love you have for them you are ready to change because of them, there are so many humans that are build this way, but I am not one of them, I always believe that I am different and I am not ready to change because I like someone, I respect who they are and I respect myself too.

The friends did the right thing, I could quit gambling if I am one of the friends, since it all began from the group, so they are in power to put an end to their friends addiction.

[michellee]

If a friend is addicted to gambling, other friends should try to get him out of gambling. He probably won't realize that he is already addicted to gambling. The task of his friends is to help him stop his gambling activities before it is too late. After all, he is his friend and must be helped immediately before his addiction gets worse.

And it was a good plan to leave gambling just to help his friend who was already suffering from addiction. If they still decide to gamble, we are the ones who have to withdraw from the friendship. We do that so that we don't experience problems in gambling. Moreover, we realize that we do not have good self-control when gambling.

We can also contact his family and tell them that he has become addicted to gambling. We should tell the truth to his family so that they can immediately help him to cure his gambling addiction.

[Marvelman]

Interesting story, but not very relatable. That's a rough spot for the friends.  I get why some folks wouldn't relate - not all of us have watched a buddy wrestle with addiction.  Sure, sitting him down and pushing rehab is one idea.  But not every person would feel right stepping up like that.

[Mauser]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

If I see a friend struggling with his emotions during a gambling session I would definitely approach him and talk to him. Good friends should have nothing between them and it's all about helping someone in need. Everybody can feel bad after a big loss and struggle to control himself during a night. Especially when alcohol is involved then things might get worse. The question is if this is just something that happens rarely or something that happenes on a regular basis. In case my friend is losing control and the gambling is affecting his life then I would definitely talk to him and try to make him understand that the current path he is on is not working. The second step would likely be to try and exclude him from the gambling nights. This doesn't mean that things should happen behind is back, but rather make him understand that he needs to take a break from gambling. The most important thing should be for my friend to realise that he is in trouble and that he needs help. It doesn't help much if all the friends try to help him, but he doesn't realise himself what is wrong and will just continue in his old ways. As a good friend I would definitely listen to my friends when they approach me and say that I am gambling too much.

[the rise]

it depends on the situation how important the friend is to us, if it's just an ordinary friendship, I don't think there's a need to stop because of force of circumstances, but it's different if our friend is a friend we love and we care about him, it's better to stop because it's for the good, after all this is not about gambling for fun because your friends also become addicts out of habit

[Assface16678]

I don't think that stopping gambling would help the friend; maybe avoiding your friend from seeing you gamble or not inviting your friend who is already addicted to gambling is more effective. Am I willing to quit my own gambling habit? No, instead I will confront my friend about what he is doing wrong and do my best to stop him, to lecture and guide him so that it will wake him up in his bad situation, but if this is not enough, then at least I did my best. It's not my obligation to stop him from gambling; maybe just my conscience. But still, the ones who are responsible for their habits are themselves. If your friend is in a bad state, you could do anything you can to help him, but if that is not enough, let him face his own consequences. Let them feel and learn for themselves what they are doing wrong.

[Promocodeudo]

So I heard a story of some acquaintances that in their friend group, some person really got addicted recently.
At first it was just fun and game, they would sit together and play some slots together in a big screen with some 10€ or so for as much as this would last them with small stake spins. And this is something they would do on big occasions. Only when together as a group and only for big days like birthday parties etc.

But the thing is, unbeknownst to them, one person in their friend group was really compulsive. So in the course of a few months, he became really addicted. He would spend much of his own money from his salary on slots and sports betting, eventually losing most of it regularly every month. Then on nearly every get together he would ask his friends to chip in so they can play slots this time in his account. Every time asking for more significant amounts too.

This guy hasn't caused any trouble to his friends but it's a worrying situation to see him waste most of his salary every month... So now the other guys were contemplating to quit their poker playing hobby because it was really affecting their friend negatively. And they had a somewhat regular get-together to play poker with very small stakes just for the fun of it. It's a petty that they might have to abandon their poker games but to them it's either that or abandoning their friend and worsening his compulsion.

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

To me I don't think that quitting will help such friend, the best option is to confront this friend though at this point you should be expecting two things since addiction is now involved, is either he refuse to listen to your advice or he listen, another fact to consider is that he may listen but do otherwise later in different location, addiction is something else, I think people should know their addiction level before going into something not only gambling, both alcohol, this things has changed the phase of many people mindset, just imaging he plays with almost everything he got as a salary which might be affecting his immediate family that's if he has, this gambling of a thing is something most of us should be very careful about because addict isn't a joker.

[Accardo]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

if it is just a casual friend that you hang out with from time to time with your other friends, I'd say just stop hanging out with that friend especially if their addiction is ruining the mood every time you hang out with your friends. if it is a very close friend of mine I'd confront them and give them a reality check, tell them that they need to get professional help and let them know the negative effect of their gambling addiction is causing to the people around them.

Addiction from group gambling, can be contagious from one friend to another. So, if a gambler continues playing the game with the addicted person, it could affect the next person. The need to caution the player to stop gambling is also important. Because as a friend, he's meant to be helped. However, he shouldn't be neglected. But moderated. Letting him stay on his own without an attention, will increase his compulsive gambling. And he can establish friendship with different gamblers who are not yet aware of his addiction. A friend should check those possibilities before avoiding another addicted gambler. If the still responsible gambler is capable of mingling with his addicted friend without engaging into gambling with him, which is almost impossible, he should be there for him. Especially when the person doesn't have close family that'll take care of him.

[KiaKia]

You can't find me in the midst of friends that are gambler, and I don't take anyone along to become a gambler like me, in fact, I have always advise against it, because if someone turn into a gambler because of me and they get addicted, I will be the one to blame, by his other friends and families.

You don't want to carry someone along in this gambling thing, you will hate yourself, it has happened to me in Bitcoin investment, and they forced me to carry them along, I should have just told them to do their own research themselves, but I thought I was doing them a favour, it later turned out that Bitcoin started dropping and they panic, saying their money is shrinking every day, in the end I told them to sold if they can't withstand the loss.

Till today I am not in good terms with them, and they failed to realize their own mistakes too, calling Bitcoin a reap off scam coin, since that time I've vowed to never do such favour again, so I believe that gambling will even be more ugly.

[len01]

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Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

I would prefer to avoid any risks that could interfere with or influence gambling activities for the worse.
like the case you described, indeed as friends we will not feel that we have a problem with the behavior of a friend who addicted but if it is done all the time for me it will be detrimental to ourselves because of course we will spend money on him betting and we could be affected becoming an addict gambling if you continue to associate with an addict.

so if I have an experience like that I better avoid it for the common good as you said as a friend should be the best and for me the best just to avoid and let him regret his actions and immediately seek help to cure himself of addiction and I will be one the person who would help him if he could have the self awareness to recover from his gambling addiction.

[EluguHcman]

The other guys quitting their gambling games of fun for the addicted guy isn't a remedy for his compulsive acts, the guy should be confronted as you OP suggested and let him know clearly that NO, this is not how you all started and what yours plans are, you should give him accounts of his lost in his salaries and ask him if he is comfortable of the losts? Ask him how you would devote himself for a continues lost? Because as much as he continues this way, he would continue to loose.

Let him know that initially you all where relaxed on playing for funs and not profits, ask him what his aim in staking so excessively with his salaries are, if was it still for the funs or he is chasing after profits? Infact, you must make him feel like he has ruined his life in the sense that he can no more achieve great things are much as the rest of you people does and then he would have these words and otherwise thinking that would trouble how mind even without your notice.
He can keep playing the one of the occasion and fun type with him and ask him how he feels about it and compare it to the other side which he extended to visiting the casino and after betting he comes back home with a disappointments and broken emotions as a result of his unbearable lost While gambling.

[YOSHIE]

Would you quit gambling for a friend?

Friends are friends, gambling is gambling, so these two things have different relationships, gambling is more about the character of a hobby and addiction, friends are more about the character of the soul, for me I stopped gambling based on a friend's advice or not feeling bad, that's a different problem.

For me to stop gambling, based on friends, for me it doesn't matter, I don't follow that advice, in fact I dare to say that friends are still friends, don't bother looking for food, that's my principle in dealing with friends and stopping gambling.

[killerfrost]

It's true, sometimes what starts as harmless fun can turn into a tricky situation, especially with gambling. Not everyone becomes an addict, but that "just a few bucks" mindset can sneak up on you fast, leaving you feeling like you're on a financial rollercoaster.

And yeah, even if your other friends seem chill with gambling, it can still have ripple effects. Seeing someone gamble a lot can make it seem normal, even tempting, for others. That's why open communication is key.

Now, telling your friend to "just stop" might not be the smoothest move. Instead, try a caring chat where you express your concerns, like how their gambling habits might be affecting them. Don't judge, just offer support and maybe suggest checking out some resources with a therapist or specialist who can help navigate this stuff.

[Zigabel]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

The only rime I would quit gambling entirely will be if it becomes a problem to my family especially my immediate family, asides this I will only continue to make adjustments as much as it suits me because I feel allowing some One else's habit affect you as a friend is mostly by choice so if you don't have that strong will not to go ahead wallowing in something you could just avoid and prevent then that's totally on you. If I find out a friend is beginning to get addicted to a habit that was supposed to be an occasional habit I will rather quit that friendship or avoid when such that I wouldn't frequent around them no morethis is because they may Start appearing to me like they lack discipline and self control.

Once I sense thst you lack any of this as a friend from the sake of my mental health rather than quit or please you I will adjust before I get influenced by your habit while trying to help you get better because generally bad habits a re quickly contagious than the good.

[Hatchy]

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Every situation has a solution, but I don't believe quitting your gambling activities for a friend will necessarily solve their addiction problems. Your decisions should consider the type of friendship you have with the person, the seriousness of their addiction, and whether they genuinely want help and are willing to quit.
Supporting a friend with an addiction can be tough, but you should seek a solution that doesn't negatively impact you. It's important to show care and support for your friend in a meaningful way that demonstrates your solidarity with them.

[Ruttoshi]

From what I understand, the addicted person did not get addicted on the few times that they do have a get together poker game. He got addicted on his own, which means he has being gambling on his own without their knowledge, and this was why it took them some time before they discovered that he has become addicted.

Therefore, if his friends choose to give up gambling, for his sake, the addicted gambler will still be gambling on his own and what they planned to achieve, which was to help him from his addiction will not be achieved, which makes it not worth sacrificing your pleasure for.

I will not accept that suggestion, because it is only the addicted person that can determine to stop gambling on his own, for some reasons. It is better to still gamble with him but always advise him and see how you can help him out, or seek help for him from somewhere.

[aioc]

Would you do the same for a friend? Me personally I think I would have just confronted such a friend and told them to seek help instead of me altering my lifestyle for his benefit. If they didn't seek help to the point that it was affecting me I would've just stopped hanging out with them silently I think. A friend would've had to be a real good one to make an exception at least.

I will do the same when it comes to your enjoyment and gambling activity as long as you are on the safe side gambling I will not quit gambling just because I have to show a friend that we need to stop gambling so he will not become addicted and become a good influence to him, I'll have a talk with him and to his family, because it's the family that needs to influence him into stopping gambling, a friend is limited to what he can do he can only offer advice but his family should be the one to step up and take action so he will be cured from gambling.