Some persons lacks financial sensibilities

[IvugeoEvolutionCoin]

Well, you can’t blame your girlfriend if she acted like that since that’s what she’s been seeing from other couples or girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. Women are said to be more romantically attached to every memorable events in life, while men are less focused on that probably. However, gifting her that amount is not bad at all as long as she’s more practical in life. But you know her better than us, so maybe you also gave her some flowers and chocolates and that money should only serve as a bonus, that is if you really want to make that girl feel special and loved.

I think he should be gifted so much that giving the gift will not cause any financial loss and he will be very happy to receive the gift. We have to calculate everything if we waste money on unnecessary work without calculation then there is a big risk of reducing our money.  We will always try to be considerate because it is very necessary for us to spend money wisely for the happiness of our family members.

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[Plaguedeath]

You need to communicate with her, if both of you and her didn't find any solution, it's better to break up and find your appropriate spouse that has a same character and personality like you.

If his girlfriend is a woman, I think it is very common for women to have a materialistic nature.

If the love only comes from one side, or only comes from the OP as a man in that case, I don't think the love will last long if the boyfriend doesn't love the OP as a good man for him.

Did you mean @OP is gay?

You need to read the thread twice, @OP mentioned "girlfriend" and "she", not "partner" or "they".

[Y3shot]

I think this culture is not good to maintain, especially with unstable financial conditions and having to manage as best as possible for tuition or education rather than spending it on Valentine's traditions. If you are in a good financial position, it is not big problem when giving gift on Valentine's Day to a girl friend, but with unstable financial conditions and having to prioritize education money, I think the culture and demands for gifts on Valentine's Day can be eliminated.
Open your eyes and looking around which one most important in your life with not really well financial condition, love or your education, don't make your self more amazing if you get lack financial and bullshit with Valentine's Day you must gift more expensive for your girl friend except for your wife.

This is how it is supposed to be, if the money is not available no need to spend money on Valentine, but some people have taking this Valentine' so special that if they don't celebrate it, it is as if they just want to feel among just to celebrate. This thing does not really matter especially when the money is not their, but if the money is available one can decide to enjoy the Valentine. 

[umbara ardian]

Instead of stressing about who pays for what, have an honest chat about your financial situations and expectations. Are you both broke college kids sharing ramen noodles? Or maybe one of you has a part-time job and can splurge a bit more. Whatever your situation, open communication is key.

Remember, love isn't measured in dollars and cents. Grand gestures are nice, but thoughtful gestures matter more. Plan a picnic in the park, cook a romantic meal together, or write a heartfelt poem – it's the effort that counts!

If your partner keeps pressuring you for expensive gifts that are way outside your budget, it might be a red flag. A healthy relationship shouldn't feel like a financial burden. Don't be afraid to have a conversation about it, or even seek advice from a trusted friend or counselor.

[EluguHcman]

I hope the guy doesn't keep her with him for so long or planning a future with her ? Because with the look of things this girl will leave this guy at her pleases once she finds a man possessing potentials that may likely be of her taste. By then this guy would be stranded and all efforts to make a future with her will be wasted.
Yes it is through that life is by choice of individuals deciding how to live it and who to live it with but the truth is that some persons are so confused and doesn't really know what they wants in life, they just wish to run over every vacant spaces and leaves again.

I believe if the guy has bought her a gift, it might not be up to $50 but because he knows this girl is having financial difficulties that make the guy gifted her with money instead of material stuffs.
Hence this girl accepts the gift from the guy, she would still come back and make demands of money to sort herself out without considering what it takes to make the money.
Some girls are like that. The guy should be grateful that she showed herself up in a manner that she can't economical and financially assist that guy when he needed it the most.

If the quality of that girl isn't what he wants, earlier the better, kick her off buddy.

[tygeade]

In today's generation, most of the roles inside a home are equal, there are also many working wives who make money like their husbands, there are even a few who earn more wages than their husbands and I see nothing wrong with that as long as they do the same duties in their families. It's not a big deal now who earns the most, it's better that you both work, earn and take responsibility for your family especially since we know the hardships of life today, if you really want to save and improve your life, both of you should work together.

If both husband and wife work together, it is very good. When both of them get salary at the end of the month, they will have a lot of money.  Having children but they have to face many problems. Like education will not be proper. Children will not have people to take care of children properly. I think no other person can take care of children like mother.

Not in all nations. In my nation both me and my wife work and earn money and we are not making good money, I mean we make "good" money as in we are capable of surviving, but do not consider us rich at all, we are debt ridden at the moment for example and I had to cash out of my crypto investments multiple times in my life as well. Think about it this way, it doesn't feel like it's a big deal to you right now but when it happens you realize how big it could be, what if there is a sickness and you need to pay the medical bills?

Just recently there was an emergency that cost 5 thousand dollars, how am I suppose to find that? I do not make that in a month, let alone pay that. Thankfully insurance covered %90 of it, rest was easier to handle with debt.

[AVE5]

Well, you can’t blame your girlfriend if she acted like that since that’s what she’s been seeing from other couples or girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. Women are said to be more romantically attached to every memorable events in life, while men are less focused on that probably. However, gifting her that amount is not bad at all as long as she’s more practical in life. But you know her better than us, so maybe you also gave her some flowers and chocolates and that money should only serve as a bonus, that is if you really want to make that girl feel special and loved.

I think he should be gifted so much that giving the gift will not cause any financial loss and he will be very happy to receive the gift. We have to calculate everything if we waste money on unnecessary work without calculation then there is a big risk of reducing our money.  We will always try to be considerate because it is very necessary for us to spend money wisely for the happiness of our family members.

How would you as a materialistic person sell your comfort of tomorrow for today's pleasure? Vision actually differs and just hope it works for us as thought.
In some situations of hard times, I would rather prefer a gifted funds how matter how little it may be than receiving gifted material not matter how expensive it may be as much as I'm in need of the money probably to sort some other problems that are essential to me.
Some persons would say (Let me have the expensive gift and I will sell it and have more money than the little fund I would had been gifted).
Honestly some person don't know how prescious a gifted material should be handled rather than trading with it after being gifted.
Yes, like I said, gifts are precious especially the materialistic items but we should know when we needed the materialistic gifts and when we are in need of funds to sort out financial problems.
This girl in question is in more need of money than the so called gifted. I believe the guy has got to know her background and financial state of health better than we could just imagine. Only that she doesn't know what is best good for her.
I just think some person's need tips about how they make choices in life.

[btc78]

She expected me to purchase her items with the gifted money.

Lol no need to create a whole new story, mate. I agree with her. Valentine’s day is not an event where you HAVE to give something materialistic but rather that gift giving is a representation of giving love which what the event is all about. She would have appreciated it even if you probably just gave her a handwritten letter and maybe cooked for her. Those things don’t cost a lot but it is thoughtful and caring. Giving cold cash feels like you are just throwing the money at her. If you really wanted to help her with money then just give it someday else not on valentine’s.

In my country, even men are demanding during valentine’s. They are even asking to be gifted motorcycles, shoes, and accessories. It all depends on what kind of relationship you have with your partner and what you expect from each other.

[0t3p0t]

This is just how awkward and lack of financial sensibilities some women could be who just sits, makes demands and gets what they wanted without having the compassions of how hard it is to make the money's they spends so carelessly.

Actually most women do demand and are materialistic which men do as well  but not all of them are not having financial sensibilities. Being materialistic is based on personal preferrence for women and we men is for them a provider I mean women expects something from us either we spend money, time and effort to make them happy and contented because for them it is a measurement of how we care and love them.

[Mame89]

Lol no need to create a whole new story, mate. I agree with her. Valentine’s day is not an event where you HAVE to give something materialistic but rather that gift giving is a representation of giving love which what the event is all about. She would have appreciated it even if you probably just gave her a handwritten letter and maybe cooked for her. Those things don’t cost a lot but it is thoughtful and caring. Giving cold cash feels like you are just throwing the money at her. If you really wanted to help her with money then just give it someday else not on valentine’s.

Correct. Actually, from Op's story, it's not about financial insensitivity, it's just that men are less sensitive to big days or you could say the moment is not right. On Valentine's Day, of course women expect something different to look romantic, and of course small gifts such as flowers will make them feel loved and appreciated. If you want to give money or teach a woman about finances, you can do it the next day.

In my country, even men are demanding during valentine’s. They are even asking to be gifted motorcycles, shoes, and accessories. It all depends on what kind of relationship you have with your partner and what you expect from each other.

I think almost all countries are like this, on Valentine's Day giving gifts to your partner has become a necessity, it doesn't need to be expensive, the important thing is that he is impressed with our gift. I myself often give gifts and money to my partner on Valentine's Day.

[milewilda]

This is just how awkward and lack of financial sensibilities some women could be who just sits, makes demands and gets what they wanted without having the compassions of how hard it is to make the money's they spends so carelessly.

Actually most women do demand and are materialistic which men do as well  but not all of them are not having financial sensibilities. Being materialistic is based on personal preferrence for women and we men is for them a provider I mean women expects something from us either we spend money, time and effort to make them happy and contented because for them it is a measurement of how we care and love them.

Not that totally against women but when it comes on being materialistic then i would say that women do really love things and men isnt really just that too much if we do speak about this aspect.
If you do have a partner which is something like this on who do really loves on asking some expensive things the better think twice.This isnt something that you could really be with for the rest of your life
considering on how materialistic they would be then they are really that likely to be like that on the time you would get married and this is something that i dont like.

Someone who do have that kind of thinking about the future is something that i do want to be with. The ones who do think up sensibly about priorities and of course the ones who
are really that practical.It isnt really that bad to consider out some wants but on the time that you've been asked out or being stressed out on providing on whats been
asked then better think twice if you do really let that relationship go further.  

[AVE5]

This is just how awkward and lack of financial sensibilities some women could be who just sits, makes demands and gets what they wanted without having the compassions of how hard it is to make the money's they spends so carelessly.

Actually most women do demand and are materialistic which men do as well  but not all of them are not having financial sensibilities. Being materialistic is based on personal preferrence for women and we men is for them a provider I mean women expects something from us either we spend money, time and effort to make them happy and contented because for them it is a measurement of how we care and love them.

I get that right and that's the reality. Most girls runs out of chasing their dreams due to the things of pleasures that glitters definitely the material stuffs. How funny a girl would look so classic walking by the road side like she has got to the height of her dream meanwhile she is just on that for formalities. Dip in, she doesn't have source of income and can't even provide a square meal for herself without relying on someone else.
How would a lady prefer to buy over $90 material items out of $100 in her bank account even at the state of her insured of when she could have another.
I'm not disputing that they don't deserve those material stuffs but my point is that they chooses to acquire materialistic items that accepting what matters more than the materials to them.
This is like when you buys a car and doesn't have the fund for maintenance or buying Petro in it but you depends on asking people to raise you money for your car needs. Bullshit!

[martinex]

I think he should be gifted so much that giving the gift will not cause any financial loss and he will be very happy to receive the gift. We have to calculate everything if we waste money on unnecessary work without calculation then there is a big risk of reducing our money.  We will always try to be considerate because it is very necessary for us to spend money wisely for the happiness of our family members.

The captain of the ship must be good at reading nature otherwise the passengers panic when a storm occurs. Yes. You are right in that it is very wise where calculations are needed and also where many people are often negligent and forget themselves when they are there and it is as if the critical period has disappeared. Money, whatever its name, if spent will continue to dwindle and run out if you remember, congratulations.

[Bananington]

Even men do lack financial sensibility as much as the lady in your story. It's every man's responsibility to know the kind of woman they are in a relationship with because one thing is for certain, men die off quicker because of the stress of singly carrying the financial burden of his wife and entire family in many cases.

Still, in that your same country OP, am sure there are women who hold good positions in the society and there are women who handle their family financial burden because the man is either failing health wise or out of good income stream.

What do we think then of gamblers who have knowingly or unknowingly put themselves in financial jeopardy?

It depends on the individual and the exposure or experience they have gotten all their life, which of course revolves around money, to sharpen their mind and make them more financially sensible. Afterall, it is said that experience is the best teacher.

[Hamphser]

Even men do lack financial sensibility as much as the lady in your story. It's every man's responsibility to know the kind of woman they are in a relationship with because one thing is for certain, men die off quicker because of the stress of singly carrying the financial burden of his wife and entire family in many cases.

Still, in that your same country OP, am sure there are women who hold good positions in the society and there are women who handle their family financial burden because the man is either failing health wise or out of good income stream.

What do we think then of gamblers who have knowingly or unknowingly put themselves in financial jeopardy?

It depends on the individual and the exposure or experience they have gotten all their life, which of course revolves around money, to sharpen their mind and make them more financially sensible. Afterall, it is said that experience is the best teacher.

Well, its bad to make out some direct conclusions because i've known someone who do have that kind of women in relationship on which she's really loving on having those demands and later on
into their married life then she turned out to be responsible on handling out their finances which she had made out such adjustments and those practical approach on things on which it isnt really that just
right to make out those conclusions that women are really that spendors and not really having those kind of sense of responsibilities or whatsoever.

As a man and having that in relationship into a woman and sees out those things then its up to him whether he should really be continuing on having relationship with her or not.
It would really be on your choice but if you could be able to tolerate out such behavior then its your choice but you arent that dumb not to know on where
it would really heading if you wont be able to control it.

[Xampeuu]

I think he should be gifted so much that giving the gift will not cause any financial loss and he will be very happy to receive the gift. We have to calculate everything if we waste money on unnecessary work without calculation then there is a big risk of reducing our money.  We will always try to be considerate because it is very necessary for us to spend money wisely for the happiness of our family members.

The captain of the ship must be good at reading nature otherwise the passengers panic when a storm occurs. Yes. You are right in that it is very wise where calculations are needed and also where many people are often negligent and forget themselves when they are there and it is as if the critical period has disappeared. Money, whatever its name, if spent will continue to dwindle and run out if you remember, congratulations.

Therefore, returning to ourselves, when we have more fortune, we must be able to remember that when we experience economic difficulties, that way we can set aside money to buy something productive which will be useful to guarantee our future. . especially for young people who should be able to prepare for their old age. because the main factor is lifestyle which follows the increase in the results we have, so whatever income will be used up to follow the lifestyle, and most will regret it in their old age

[Gormicsta]

I don't know of the other side of the World, but in this side of the World, men are responsible for every financial responses in both marriage and the boy/girlfriends relationships.
The demands of financial expenses is being too much at the men sides.
Here, my friends girlfriend who is a university scholar that faces financial challenges is keeping my friend worried,
On the 14th Februarys which marks the "Valentines day"(lovers day) as it may imply, it is usually a special day here in this side of the World where couples and those in intimate relationships or even relatives do have it a remarkable day to spend together. It was likely a tradition that they must gift each other with what is affordable but gifted on a special offer.
The guys (men) are most expected to play this gifting role but here at this edge, my guy thought of having his girlfriend the sum of $50 cash believing she has more of financial issues to tackle than acquiring materialistic items (gifts). This is so she can utilize the money and add up to her educational fees or otherwise.
Now, she said the guy is not being caring and romantic simply because other persons to her notice are being gifted of materialistic items instead of money. She expected me to purchase her items with the gifted money.

This is just how awkward and lack of financial sensibilities some women could be who just sits, makes demands and gets what they wanted without having the compassions of how hard it is to make the money's they spends so carelessly.

To be prime caretakers. This can lead to a situation in which males feel pressured to be the breadwinners, while women may feel as if they are not contributing enough financially. This can lead to stress and misunderstandings, as your friend's scenario shows. However, it's crucial to recognize that not all marriages conform to these typical gender norms. Many marriages have unique financial factors, with both spouses sharing earning and caring duties.
When it comes to future generations, I believe we are already witnessing a trend toward more equitable financial responsibility. It's stimulating to consider how this will affect the generations to come and transform the community as a whole.

[slapper]

Even men do lack financial sensibility as much as the lady in your story. It's every man's responsibility to know the kind of woman they are in a relationship with because one thing is for certain, men die off quicker because of the stress of singly carrying the financial burden of his wife and entire family in many cases.

Still, in that your same country OP, am sure there are women who hold good positions in the society and there are women who handle their family financial burden because the man is either failing health wise or out of good income stream.

What do we think then of gamblers who have knowingly or unknowingly put themselves in financial jeopardy?

It depends on the individual and the exposure or experience they have gotten all their life, which of course revolves around money, to sharpen their mind and make them more financially sensible. Afterall, it is said that experience is the best teacher.

You're suggesting financial sense fails across the board, pinning it on everyone, but your whole "men carrying the weight" angle feels outdated. It ignores the fact that women often take on serious financial roles and burdens as well. Talk about a double standard

Now, on to the gamblers. Throwing everything into "they don't get money" is way too simple. Gambling's the ultimate thrill ride, a way to chase that high, sometimes even an escape from those burdens. Sure, experience might make them savvier about risk, loss... but does that translate to smart money moves? Or is it more a lesson in how unpredictable life can be?

Drop the tired gender roles and really dig into the underlying psychology and motivations here. We need to go way deeper than surface-level arguments about who handles the bills better

[Lantind]

Therefore, returning to ourselves, when we have more fortune, we must be able to remember that when we experience economic difficulties, that way we can set aside money to buy something productive which will be useful to guarantee our future. . especially for young people who should be able to prepare for their old age. because the main factor is lifestyle which follows the increase in the results we have, so whatever income will be used up to follow the lifestyle, and most will regret it in their old age

Indeed, it will really depend on a person's personality, those who have money to set aside for their future because we can't always have more money and if we can choose to set aside something productive, of course this will be very useful for our future. For some people who have a lifestyle that is not in accordance with the income they have, of course they will have great difficulty in meeting their needs because they will even experience financial problems if they cannot improve their lifestyle and the best thing is of course to set aside some of the income we have. have for our future and continue to live normally so that we don't experience difficulties when we get old.