Can you be bold enough To introduce your gambling Mate To your spouse

[JMBitcointernational]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

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[famososMuertos]

1.- What does your story have to do with betting?
 2.- because we should hide our friendships from whatever it may be to our wife, why?
 3.- Let's say that we have a variety of answers, yes and no.  What would be your conclusion in each case.

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[Nrcewker]

Until and unless you are rich, then it’s fine. But if you are poor and still you are gambling and losing money, and also on the top of that, If you are gambling with your friend, then at that time, your wife might get mad at you. Otherwise in other cases, the wife can take it positively as a normal friend only. So you need to yourself understand that is gambling profitable for you, or not and are you rich enough to gamble or not? Then only take this bold decision.

[Davidvictorson]

Another not so gambling story but since it has the word gambling it seems fit to write it in the gambling discussion board for other users to respond yes or not to or write an epistle that can all be summarized with either a yes or a no.

OP could have just written this in the Off-topic board but didn't.

Other similar topic ideas the OP will try to create in the future

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• Can you be bold enough To introduce your gambling Mate To your barber

Do not take it personal but is definitely an off-topic discussion. Mods should move this.

[AnonBitCoiner]

It is all about success if you become successful in some field then you will share that with your family and will feeling bold but if you are not getting enough money and are lossing every day as a result of which your family is facing great troubles then you will not feeling bold for your activities.

In our society gambling is not consider as a good thing that's why no one can speak about it boldly and if someone gamble with his friends then I think he will not introduce him with such a shouted voice. Even though a wife also don't want his husband to be a gambler in this society or if she knows about his gambling habit before marriage then she will not accept such relationship.

[michellee]

If I were him, I wouldn't introduce my gambling friends to my wife. I would prefer to keep it hidden from my wife. Even though my wife can accept my gambling activities, that doesn't mean I have to introduce my gambling friends.

I do not tell other people about my gambling activities, including my gambling friends. I don't have many gambling friends because I hide my gambling activities. Telling our gambling friends to our wife or husband means we have to choose friends who we can introduce to our wife or husband.

And we should not introduce them to the public. That can trigger other people to think badly of us.

[Oshosondy]

Do you know that as some people will hide from their wife their gambling activities, some people will not hide such a thing from their wife.  Some people will even gamble with their wives.

Women do not have problem in seeing their husband gambling if the husband is doing it responsibly and if the husband is taking care of the family in the way the wife really appreciates.

[Stable090]

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Why will I meet you, and you will introduce me to your family member as a gambler, it doesn’t make any sense to me, and it’s even at a public place, not everyone that want people to know that they are gambler, or maybe am hiding my gambling activities from my wife. When you meet someone you have met for a long time, you should always mind your speech, you shouldn’t talk anyhow most especially when you are with people, their are some things that happened in the past which are suppose to be in the past. If you are joking with things like that, then it should be when you are alone with the person, and not when you are in public, or when the person is with his family members.

[Assface16678]

Well, this situation can be avoided, the man could easily introduce the friend he sees in the bus as a normal friend, no need to openlynor announce that, it is your friend from gambling, but this is applicable if you are not open to your wife or relationship about your gambling activities or gambling hobby, but if yes then I don't thimk there's a problem with that, as long as the husband know its limit and is not affecting their financial state or their family because of its gambling then I don't see a problem with introducing its gambling mate, in fact it is a good thing so the other partner know who is with his husband and he can have someone to contact if they are in their gambling session, so in short it will depends if both partner are open about gambling activities then I don't see a reason to hide it.

[Samlucky O]

the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

I don't think so. I can only introduce my gambling mate to my wife if only I have stopped gambling or reduced the rate of gambling addiction or probably may have won big in gambling, Because women naturally hate Gamblers and the sight of anybody who does gambling disgust them. And when they see such person close to their man, they feel unsecured. And also suspect such person of misleeding their man.

[Porfirii]

Introducing your gambling mate to your spouse? This is how it should be.

I mean, if he hid and acted like he didn't know him, it would mean that he felt embarrassed because there was something inconfesable in the act of gambling that united them. But, in the case the OP witnessed, if the man acted naturally probably means he has nothing to hide.

There are other probabilities also. Maybe the man was extrovert, arrogant and dominant, and didn't care about what others could think and say, including his wife. Or maybe his wife is very understanding. We lack information about the case to know the reasons for sure, but chances are that the case cited has little to do with boldness.

[Crypt0Gore]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Well it depends on the man story with gambling so far, what if he is a responsible gambler in from of his wife and she knew that he is not an addict because the husband always gamble with very little amount of money?

There is also a possibility that the wife knew about his husband gambling activities before they get married, maybe its even a possibility that they end up together because of gambling? I bet this man has a very good reason why he is introducing this friend to his wife, believe me, it's a very good reason.

Most men will avoid such introduction, they will only say that the friend is just a friend without going deep into details about gambling, so I believe that there is more we don't know about them, let's not assets anything.

As hard as gambling seem to be, some people are gaining a lot from gambling.

[Alphakilo]

My spouse is my friend and not my commanding officer that I need to summon the courage to introduce my gambling buddy to. It's not like gambling is a crime or something illegal that I must hide from my partner. My partner should know my friends just as I should know hers too. That is a healthy relationship that is built on trust and openness. Anyone who cannot introduce their gambling mate to their spouse is the type of person who hides their gambling activities from their spouse too.

[redsun114]

It depends, for someone who gambles openly and their family knows they do it, they wouldn't hesitate to do such a thing because the spouse or any other family member would know they gamble and they have nothing to hide about it. On the other hand, a person who gambles secretly and hides their gambling activities from his wife and family, he wouldn't do such a thing and they would rather want their gambling mate to not see them with their family because if they approach them and say something, their secret will no longer be a secret.

I believe a person who is a responsible gambler and he manages everything else very well like the expenses of the family and household, he wouldn't need to hide anything and they can gamble without any hesitation if they know they have enough money left to do that and the spouse wouldn't have a problem with that.

[swogerino]

My spouse is my friend and not my commanding officer that I need to summon the courage to introduce my gambling buddy to. It's not like gambling is a crime or something illegal that I must hide from my partner. My partner should know my friends just as I should know hers too. That is a healthy relationship that is built on trust and openness. Anyone who cannot introduce their gambling mate to their spouse is the type of person who hides their gambling activities from their spouse too.

I am in the same situation,my spouse know that I gamble the hell out of it but I told her the budget I use in total for a month and she agrees with that.I don't have a gambling mate,gambling mates go well with each other until they keep losing almost every time,once wins start to come the friendship ends shattered because no one of them is fair enough to share the winnings with each other,just like normal partners or mates in business would do,I don't see how this kind of friendship can last if there is money involved there and as we know money ruins everything,absolutely everything when you don't know how to handle it.

[indah rezqi]

Yesterday something happened I Was shocked And speechless, because I know quite Alright that I cannot even try it with My Wife . I Was standing patiently AT the Bus Station waiting for Bus with so many other Persons there Too with same reason , a man walked To bus Station with his Wife And he saw one of his friends sitting down with us and he shouted his name ‘charles’ you are here ,And immediately he Turned To his Wife ‘darling ‘ meet My Friend Charles we both play gamble AT same place And the Wife responded positively.

At that point I Was a bit confused If the man is actually proud To announce To us that he is a gambler or If he does not have any other way of introducing his Friend to his Wife , though I kept every of My thought in My mind because speaking it out will not make any difference.however, the question here is ‘can you be bold enough to introduce your gambling mate to your wife’.

Gambling mate? That is a sad phrase if that is how you see someone. Presumably you have some other kinds of interests and your sole connection was not through gambling. It might have been the first time you met, but I would never think to categorize someone like that and if you do, maybe you actually have a problem. You must have bonded on plenty of other topics, so why even bother mention gambling as a big part of why you have an ongoing friendship. I would introduce a true friend to my partner at any point, but you might create a negative connection in your partners mind as many people have bad thoughts about gambling and this may cause future problems in your friendship if you did.

He has been my friend since childhood and we spent a lot of time together, I think that phrase sounds better for maintaining a friendly relationship. Indirectly, our partner will definitely know that our friend is a gambler too, we don't need to say it directly. I agree with what you say, many people have negative thoughts towards gambling, categorizing someone as a gambling friend seems wrong. It's even better if not many people know about our gambling habits, including our own partners.

Everyone has social habits, and we can be sure that they have a lot in common, including gambling. The social environment will very easily detect the habits of a group of friends just by knowing about one person, without needing to explain further. It could be that by using the wrong way when introducing friends, your partner will one day ask to limit their meetings or invitations. It would be better if we looked for other expressions besides gambling friends.

[Natsuu]

Until and unless you are rich, then it’s fine. But if you are poor and still you are gambling and losing money, and also on the top of that, If you are gambling with your friend, then at that time, your wife might get mad at you. Otherwise in other cases, the wife can take it positively as a normal friend only. So you need to yourself understand that is gambling profitable for you, or not and are you rich enough to gamble or not? Then only take this bold decision.

I agree with this. It's a shame that you alone is not succeeding in your pursuit in gambling, yet you want to introduce another person in your family/ spouse just like you are enjoying losing. Because if you are in need for money and extra income, you won't mind things like this. But how to make money solely. Let alone your friend you wanted to introduce. That would make your wife feel less important because you are spending more of your time with your friend gambling, instead of doing real job or spending your quality time with your family.

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Yes, I can confidently introduce my gambling buddy to my spouse because we share the same views on gambling. We are open and transparent about our hobbies and activities, so I feel comfortable doing so. I believe she would understand and accept this aspect of my life, and of course, I would do the same for her. She probably wouldn't think anything else since we're both men, but I'm not sure if it would be the same if it were the opposite sex. Even I, as a man, might have different thoughts and doubts if she introduced a man to me.

[alani123]

Honestly some people aren't for everything but if I become good enough friends with someone and I can tolerate them I should have no problem introducing them to my spouse.
I think this is more of a philosophical and social issue rather than a gambling one.

For instance, I believe that If a have a weird friend, maybe I'd keep them away from my parents but if I have to keep them away from my spouse then something is wrong. Our spouse is someone we chose and trust and we should trust them with anything really. If not our friends, even the ones we made gambling, then what can we trust him/her with? Just think about it. Just because you met someone gambling doesn't mean they're a bad person.

[AmoreJaz]

Yes, I can confidently introduce my gambling buddy to my spouse because we share the same views on gambling. We are open and transparent about our hobbies and activities, so I feel comfortable doing so. I believe she would understand and accept this aspect of my life, and of course, I would do the same for her. She probably wouldn't think anything else since we're both men, but I'm not sure if it would be the same if it were the opposite sex. Even I, as a man, might have different thoughts and doubts if she introduced a man to me.

I believe, if your spouse knows you are gambling from time to time, she won't be surprised if one day, you will introduce her to your gambling buddies. But if you are hiding your gambling activities, then, I think that's when you will be hesitant to introduce her to your gambling friends.

Until and unless you are rich, then it’s fine. But if you are poor and still you are gambling and losing money, and also on the top of that, If you are gambling with your friend, then at that time, your wife might get mad at you. Otherwise in other cases, the wife can take it positively as a normal friend only. So you need to yourself understand that is gambling profitable for you, or not and are you rich enough to gamble or not? Then only take this bold decision.

I agree with this. It's a shame that you alone is not succeeding in your pursuit in gambling, yet you want to introduce another person in your family/ spouse just like you are enjoying losing. Because if you are in need for money and extra income, you won't mind things like this. But how to make money solely. Let alone your friend you wanted to introduce. That would make your wife feel less important because you are spending more of your time with your friend gambling, instead of doing real job or spending your quality time with your family.

This goes to show that every gambler can have different approach on this matter depending on his financial capabilities and how his spouse is oriented about his gambling activities. The story of the OP seemed to be just like introducing a casual friend because he felt he didn't need to pretend on that situation. He knew for sure how his spouse will react even if he said he is like only a gambling friend.