Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[Jody.Drummer]

On the other hand, maybe I would say that it is not a problem for you to lie to your wife as long as you can really take care of everything well, in the sense of being able to manage and control your gambling activities well so that you can avoid indirect problems, of course. can affect the financial situation in your family relationships.

I think it is always going to be a problem when you lie in spite the fact that your lying is going to keep your secrets safe from your wife knowing. It Is still better you tell her the truth than to keeping lying and then it gets to a time that you can not keep the truth from her again when she finds out herself. She might divorce you but this time you will lose everything and even the chance to see your children again. When you have a problem, let your love ones to know so you guys can seek help and when they are by your side, you will be capable of overcoming any problem that you are passing through regardless of it being gambling addiction problems or other addictions. When you have an understanding wife, she is not going to get angry with you when you tell her the truth but look for solutions together as a family.

Overall, yes, I also understand that what you say is true, where at any time a lie is an action that can never be justified because in the end, what is called a carcass will eventually be smelled too, meaning I will not say that the lie is recommended actions because ultimately it depends on each individual in terms of choosing. Simply speaking the truth to your wife or whoever, that is a much better action.

Moreover, usually in domestic relationships honesty is one of the keys to a strong relationship between partners, so of course whatever the problem is, if we hide it, it can ultimately trigger problems in family relationships and that is a fact. So I quite agree with your opinion based on a rational point of view in dealing with problems and unwanted possibilities, so maybe from my point of view hiding gambling activities is not too much of a problem as long as you can really look after yourself and manage your activities. your gambling is good, but in the end, of course it can also cause problems when one day your wife finds out, what this means is that of course it is best to be honest from an early age with our partner about whatever we do.

[stomachgrowls]

Suppose when I start gambling I must lie because when my family asks me about these things but I can't directly tell my family that I am involved in gambling. That's why I can't discuss these things with my family because my family will never accept my gambling rather they don't like gambling. Since they don't like gambling, when they ask me about my work, I have to tell them that I'm not playing online games or that I'm freelancing. That is, I have to hide so much from my family and play gambling.

You are right when gambling, one has to lie to the family all the time because it is impossible to tell directly. But responsible gamblers never lie but tell the truth. There are many families who depend on gambling for their livelihood. But most families don't support gambling rather they look down on it, and my family doesn't support gambling and doesn't like it. Therefore, if I gamble and my family asks me about the source of income, then I must resort to lies, there is no other way. However, it is normal to lie to family, but it is better to avoid lying to others than to friends. Rather, it is better to discuss the positive and negative aspects of gambling to them because there are many new gamblers who do not understand gambling, and they face many disadvantages. That is why one should not lie to the newbies but should make them aware of everything so that they do not suffer and become addicted.

If their family doesn't like gambling, that person can lie to their family because he doesn't want other people know that he likes playing gambling. He will lie more and more to his family and hides their gambling activity from other people and will only playing gambling if they are in their rooms. But if he decides to lie to his family, he can makes another lie to covers his previous lie and that will not be good for him.

But if people rely on gambling to feed their daily needs, they will not have a big chance to wins because that is gambling and not a work which can gives them salary. They can lie again to their family and saying that the money they gets from gambling is from other works. One lie will cover with other lies and that will stops until their family caught them that they lies to their family.

In my opinion, it's better to tell the truth from the get-go. That way, nobody will be hurt and everybody will be happy knowing there are no hidden doors from one another.

I do agree on this one but there are really certain conditions on which you would really be needing up to cover or hide on what you are currently doing just because you are trying to avoid such potential problem that might be raised on the time that you would really be saying up such dealing up specially with gambling. This is why it would really be that depending into a certain individual whether they would really be that too open into the things that they are dealing with or they are really that trying to hide it off because they neither ashamed or really that avoiding something.The situation will really be that basing up in accordance into someones point of view and acceptance on the possible things that might happen ahead.

If you are someone who doesnt really care on what other people been saying, then you wouldnt really be that mindful about on the things that they would say or even trying to tell into your wife or husband that youve been dealing up with gambling. It would really be that something recommended that if you are a type of person whose really that transparent or someone whose really that being honest
on whatever things that you are dealing with or what are the things that you are involving into.

[Gheka]

On the other hand, maybe I would say that it is not a problem for you to lie to your wife as long as you can really take care of everything well, in the sense of being able to manage and control your gambling activities well so that you can avoid indirect problems, of course. can affect the financial situation in your family relationships.

I think it is always going to be a problem when you lie in spite the fact that your lying is going to keep your secrets safe from your wife knowing. It Is still better you tell her the truth than to keeping lying and then it gets to a time that you can not keep the truth from her again when she finds out herself. She might divorce you but this time you will lose everything and even the chance to see your children again. When you have a problem, let your love ones to know so you guys can seek help and when they are by your side, you will be capable of overcoming any problem that you are passing through regardless of it being gambling addiction problems or other addictions. When you have an understanding wife, she is not going to get angry with you when you tell her the truth but look for solutions together as a family.

There are truths and secrets that should only be revealed or even kept forever in our souls until we enter the coffin because every secret always involves sensitive issues, if the issue is not tactfully led, the listener will become resistant to that action and secret, as is the case with this gambling habit, simply keep the habit from being too obvious, don't try to reveal all of who we really are, must keep a little bit of the dark side behind. In exchange for harmony and no argument, it would be more skillful to lead the conversation to consider the other person's reaction to gambling, thereby making that habit normal in their eyes.

[SOKO-DEKE]

I think almost all of the husbands in the world have cover up their gambling habit to their family especially to their wifes this because the husbands fear their wifes will not accept their habit and it can be influence to their relationship so this is a normal thing done by everyone who has a family but i think has gambling habit is not matter as long as those people can responsible to their family and if there is any people who can able to do that i think they can life normally without having to fear that it will have a negative impact on his family

I have one example in my environment because a friend of mine has gambling habit for years and he can cover up his habit with very well without his family know about that this because before gambling he always prioritize his family needs first and until now he continues to live a normal life without fear that gambling will affect to his life

As you have said, almost a large percentage of husbands cover up their gambling habits. I fully agree with you, but from my observations, many husbands or people that hide their gambling lifestyle are often poor or average-income individuals. They don't have enough money to take care of themselves or their families. If you are a responsible husband who always provides for your family, I don't understand why someone would cover up their gambling habit. The truth behind why many wives don't agree with their husbands gambling is that they know their husbands don't have enough money. If a husband gets involved in gambling, it will be hard for him to provide for the family. Even the husband is afraid because, whenever he doesn't have money, his wife might  not blame him, thinking he wasted the money on gambling.


I believe that when someone is rich, they are not always afraid for people to know their habits, especially something like gambling, because it's not a crime. What might make a rich person hide their gambling habits could be religious rules that they follow. The reason I'm saying that rich and responsible people don't hide their gambling attitudes from their wives is because I've seen many of them before. When they gamble, people know they gamble; they have the money, and they never beg you for money. Furthermore, they are not addicted to gambling.

[shivansps]

Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..


After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

In fact, this is a very serious thing when gambling has consumed a person so much that he begins to put gambling first in life. I imagine how this man's wife would feel if she found out the truth, and that he actually gets more pleasure from gambling than from being with her.
To answer your question, I have had one or two times where I slightly underestimated the money I bet on a match, I told a friend a different amount because the match was lost, this can be inconvenient when your bet didn't work. You pass by and someone asks you about her.

[dansus021]

Lies told to cover up gambling habit i dont think this is a good idea especially if you hide it from your wife because in my opinion sooner or later our Partner will know and if you dont tell right know we dont know what going happen next.

Maybe if your tell right now there is possibility your wife will understand but the bad thing could be worse imo if youe partners know you doing gambling without she's knowledge

[Marykeller]

I find it to be a funny attitude on how people lie over their gambling addiction. For someone to lie over their gambling takes that means they really know that what they are doing is not right, they ignored that fact and still participate in gambling.

If someone finds something to be worth doing, they have no reason to lie about it. They will only lie when they know that what they are doing is wrong.

Those who commonly lie about their gambling activities are the most addicted gamblers. They choose to gamble almost all the time, and it has become obvious that their wife is aware of the developed gambling lifestyle that they spend most of their time doing.

[m2017]

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

If the deeds were good, would anyone hide it?

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Well, now gamblers will know how to avoid irritable questions from their wives.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Personally, I didn’t have to lie, because I didn’t advertise my short-term passion for gambling. But I know of cases where gamblers go to all sorts of tricks to hide their losses. And what’s even worse, under various false pretexts, they borrowed money for subsequent losses.

The words of a gambler are not worth more than a penny.

[Mr.suevie]

Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..


After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Doing it secretly means he's battling with gambling addiction,  nothing can be hidden under the sun, sooner or later the truth will eventually come out so there's no need to continue hiding it from his spouse, he should seek help before it's too late, isolating yourself and gambling means you are not doing it for fun purposes, it major be a major setback on your finances if not handled properly...if you are addicted to this point talk to people about problems instead of hiding it, it's better that way.

[Zigabel]

There are truths and secrets that should only be revealed or even kept forever in our souls until we enter the coffin because every secret always involves sensitive issues, if the issue is not tactfully led, the listener will become resistant to that action and secret, as is the case with this gambling habit, simply keep the habit from being too obvious, don't try to reveal all of who we really are, must keep a little bit of the dark side behind. In exchange for harmony and no argument, it would be more skillful to lead the conversation to consider the other person's reaction to gambling, thereby making that habit normal in their eyes.

You are very correct, in fact this happens to be one of the most valid point I find very relatable on this thread, the reason somethings are called secret is because some other concerned are yet to know about it. If they get to know of any of such then it's no longer a secret and in some cases, the damages that can be caused from revealing a secret can make someone remain damaged their life time so it's best that somethings forever remain a secret except the unavoidable coincidence that will lead to its unvail happens then we may just have to live with whatever results we get off such incidents.

Don't forget not all secret is worth revealing at  some point, they are best left as secret and keeps everyone safe and in a better position.

[Akbarkoe]

Lies told to cover up gambling habit i dont think this is a good idea especially if you hide it from your wife because in my opinion sooner or later our Partner will know and if you dont tell right know we dont know what going happen next.

Maybe if your tell right now there is possibility your wife will understand but the bad thing could be worse imo if youe partners know you doing gambling without she's knowledge

Now things like this must indeed be open and not a secret that we like to gamble, because it will be a threat to the marriage that has already taken place when we lose a lot of money and our wife just found out that the money was used for gambling, it could result in divorce, not a few like that in the end.

If we tell her early and she finds out that we like to gamble, chances are she just won't let us hold on to any more money because she knows our gambling nature, that's much better than hiding from her to keep gambling without her knowing.

I find it to be a funny attitude on how people lie over their gambling addiction. For someone to lie over their gambling takes that means they really know that what they are doing is not right, they ignored that fact and still participate in gambling.

If someone finds something to be worth doing, they have no reason to lie about it. They will only lie when they know that what they are doing is wrong.

Those who commonly lie about their gambling activities are the most addicted gamblers. They choose to gamble almost all the time, and it has become obvious that their wife is aware of the developed gambling lifestyle that they spend most of their time doing.

Yes, people who lie are those who have mistakes in their gambling activities, so they don't dare to say what has happened to them, including that person, it's ridiculous.

This can happen because of addiction or not, if it is due to addiction, we will definitely understand the scenario a little but those who are not addicted are like using a little money from the money he took then he lost, but his mind said he could return it by using a little extra money that ended up running out too and was afraid of being angry with his wife so he pursued defeat just to return his money, which in the end lost everything.

[Sim_card]

On the other hand, maybe I would say that it is not a problem for you to lie to your wife as long as you can really take care of everything well, in the sense of being able to manage and control your gambling activities well so that you can avoid indirect problems, of course. can affect the financial situation in your family relationships.

I think it is always going to be a problem when you lie in spite the fact that your lying is going to keep your secrets safe from your wife knowing. It Is still better you tell her the truth than to keeping lying and then it gets to a time that you can not keep the truth from her again when she finds out herself. She might divorce you but this time you will lose everything and even the chance to see your children again. When you have a problem, let your love ones to know so you guys can seek help and when they are by your side, you will be capable of overcoming any problem that you are passing through regardless of it being gambling addiction problems or other addictions. When you have an understanding wife, she is not going to get angry with you when you tell her the truth but look for solutions together as a family.

There are truths and secrets that should only be revealed or even kept forever in our souls until we enter the coffin because every secret always involves sensitive issues, if the issue is not tactfully led, the listener will become resistant to that action and secret, as is the case with this gambling habit, simply keep the habit from being too obvious, don't try to reveal all of who we really are, must keep a little bit of the dark side behind. In exchange for harmony and no argument, it would be more skillful to lead the conversation to consider the other person's reaction to gambling, thereby making that habit normal in their eyes.

If the person in question who you don't want to know that you are a gambler will frown at it, it is better that you keep it a secret so that it does not affect your good relationship with the person, especially when you don't plan quitting gambling. But if the person will not see it the other way as something bad, why not I will not hide my gambling activities from him/her. One thing that one should understand is that if you can control yourself and gamble responsible, there is no need letting people know that you are a gambler but if you cannot control yourself, it is obvious that a lot of people will know that you are gambling because you will not be able to hide it.

[Antotena]

Lies told to cover up gambling habit i dont think this is a good idea especially if you hide it from your wife because in my opinion sooner or later our Partner will know and if you dont tell right know we dont know what going happen next.

Maybe if your tell right now there is possibility your wife will understand but the bad thing could be worse imo if youe partners know you doing gambling without she's knowledge

If you can't gamble openly with your partner, then something is wrong somewhere. It's not about how the partner might feel, you just have to let them understand why you are gambling and how you are doing it with the amount you dedicate to it and I'm sure that if you have evidence to back it up, a real partner will understand that there is nothing harmful in what you are doing as long as you don't owe anyone money and you foot the bill without anyone asking.

However, if your partner insist even after the explanation, then the ball is in your hand to decide whether to stop gambling because you choose her happiness over yours or you let her go because you choose your happiness over hers. It's difficult to see a woman that detest man that gamble responsibly unless you are the type that gamble without future, I mean the irresponsible ones.

[madnessteat]

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I also always thought that between partners should not be secrets or distrust, because very often at the time of disclosure of seemingly harmless secrets between partners can begin to clarify the relationship that in the future is likely to lead to divorce. Therefore, I believe that if you really value your partner, then do not hide anything from him. As they say better the bitter truth than sweet lies.

[LogitechMouse]

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

This is like "I will only believe you if you got beaten by the robbers." It seems like the wife wants your friend to get beaten that bad in order for her to believe. Kind of funny, but what I don't want is the fact that your friend are thinking of beating his wife. I mean I'm against violence when it comes to these kind of things because at first place, your friend is the one who lied. Anyway, I hope they're okay by now.

Have I lied? No, because I don't hold any money at first place. Whenever I want to gamble, I always say it to my partner since she's the one holding our overall money. She only give me a small amount, and it's good on my part that she's the one holding our money because that lessens my potential losses just in case I lose all that money that she gave. At the end of the day, I limit my losses and when I loss, we are both okay since it's just spare money that she's giving to me.

I can't lie on it as well. I mean for me, only the addicted gamblers and those who are obsessed with gambling are the ones that can do it. I hope that you're not lying anymore OP.

[crwth]

Immediately my first thought was when I saw this post is that this is a part of human where it's a "shame" to tell the truth because you already know the answer. Like why lie if you know that it's okay or understandable? It's a known truth already that it's not okay since you are lying about it.

Might be the time to check if you are addicted or not because lying with gambling and not telling the truth about it is already a sign tha it could be a problem.

[EarnOnVictor]

That's unhealthy. But for men this is normal. We keep our secrets to ourselves that is why I am kind of curious on why this guy told  his secret on social media. Perhaps his wife won't know about it but still, it could become our weakness.
I tell my wife lies everyday but it's more of white lies, jokes, and made up stories. All of it has a reason and most of the time it's to make her smile or laugh. I don't like an environment with a heavy feeling. Lighter is better as it makes the whole house positive and it becomes a home.
When it comes to gambling, I don't tell lies because it's money related. As much as possible she would know how I spent the money.

Lol...and you think what you are doing is good? Think of it, if it is in the reverse, how would you feel if your wife is lying so much to you? You will definitely feel hurt and betrayed. I think you need to change and not find excuses for lying. Besides, there is nothing like a white lie, a lie is a lie unless we are not being sincere to ourselves. I believe our wives deserve to always know the truth, but of course, at times, we can be in a tight corner, but it should not be as rampant as you take it.

Nevertheless, I am thrilled with your status on gambling and that is possible because you are financially sane. Those guys doing ugly things in the name of gambling are surely insane.

[wxa7115]

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I also always thought that between partners should not be secrets or distrust, because very often at the time of disclosure of seemingly harmless secrets between partners can begin to clarify the relationship that in the future is likely to lead to divorce. Therefore, I believe that if you really value your partner, then do not hide anything from him. As they say better the bitter truth than sweet lies.

I agree that big secrets are a big no, since sooner or later the secret will be exposed and then not only the lying partner will have to deal with whatever they kept a secret, but now they will have to deal with the lies they told and that they were hiding information all along.

But at the same time we have a right to privacy, even inside a marriage, so telling every single thing to a partner no matter how small is an idea I cannot really get behind to.

[ethereumhunter]

In my opinion, it's better to tell the truth from the get-go. That way, nobody will be hurt and everybody will be happy knowing there are no hidden doors from one another.

Telling the truth is a good ways that we can do because we will not hurts other people especially our couple because we can honest to them without anything we hide. We don't have to make a bad situation by lie to them because that can attract us in a trouble that can makes our relationship will be bad. We must know that tells the truth can helps us to avoids misunderstanding with other people.

If you hide something from your wife or husband, they will know by themselves because they have a sense that we lie to them. Many people who married have this experience so no matter how good they hide a matter, their couple will know and that can makes a big problem to both of your. You needs to thinks to hide your gambling activity or tells your couple so maybe they will gives you a solution that can avoids you from the gambling addiction but they allow you to playing gambling but with moderation.

[dunfida]

Hi gamblers, greetings to everyone..

So today, I was scrolling through my reddit feed, and I came across this post in the screenshot I share below..


After reading that post, I quickly remembered what I did some years back when I was still pretty much new to gambling and was kind of obsessed with it at that time, I remember it was on Sunday late morning after we came back from church, I darely needed to play some gambling game, but the children were running around the house making lots of noise, the little one will not stop climbing me, we've already had breakfast and my wife was busy watching a movie.
I left her and the children in the sitting room, took my phone and laptop and went into our third room reserved for visitors and locked myself in there, and started gambling, I was playing slot and casino games, and in between, I was also analyzing some upcoming sports matches to find suitable ones to place bet on.

More than 1 hour later, my wife came looking for me, and possibly was surprised i locked myself in the guest room, she inquired to know why, I told her I was studying some very important course online, and needed no disturbance at all, that was why I went to the guest room, she stood there, whether she believed or not, I do not know, I just know that she went her way after some seconds 😂😂.

So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..

I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.

Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.

Doing it secretly means he's battling with gambling addiction,  nothing can be hidden under the sun, sooner or later the truth will eventually come out so there's no need to continue hiding it from his spouse, he should seek help before it's too late, isolating yourself and gambling means you are not doing it for fun purposes, it major be a major setback on your finances if not handled properly...if you are addicted to this point talk to people about problems instead of hiding it, it's better that way.

Yes this is true and also this is something that will really be that be a major problem on the moment that addiction cant really be controlled anymore. On marriage life then of course it would really be that understandable that our wife is the most important person in our life but there are things which would really be diverting out our interest and attention on which including into those external activities on which it causes for you to mind
off that more than with your own wife or loved ones on which this one solidly indicates that you are really that addicted into it. If you do really know that this could something that destroy your marriage then it would be better that you should get rid of it as much as you could without being caught by your wife. This is actually tough considering that you would really be doing this without being caught because on the time that you would be caught then that would be a problem.

If you are someone who dont be able to quit up then its your choice because this one makes you happy. Actually it wont really be something stressful if you would really be just that telling your wife that you are dealing with gambling but of course it would really be impossible that there wont really be those kind of arguments considering that gambling compromises finances on which this is something that a normal
reaction for someone to know that their loved ones involved with gambling.