Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[Docnaster]

But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.

Different people have their different orientations about marriage and that's also how it works for them. However, my own school of thought tells me that I should be free enough to tell my wife whatever I'm doing at any given time because she's the closest soul next to me. I don't think I should engage myself in any sort of engagement that I'll have to hide from my wife because if it turns sour at the end of the day, she's still the person I'm going to run to for solace. It's not a bad idea to make big sacrifices for your family as a man but your should let your spouse have the knowledge of your sacrifices especially the ones that involves finances so she can help cover up if it fails to yield good results.

[bangjoe]

But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.

Different people have their different orientations about marriage and that's also how it works for them. However, my own school of thought tells me that I should be free enough to tell my wife whatever I'm doing at any given time because she's the closest soul next to me. I don't think I should engage myself in any sort of engagement that I'll have to hide from my wife because if it turns sour at the end of the day, she's still the person I'm going to run to for solace. It's not a bad idea to make big sacrifices for your family as a man but your should let your spouse have the knowledge of your sacrifices especially the ones that involves finances so she can help cover up if it fails to yield good results.

And preferably anything that involves sensitive matters such as money and habits that are done must be told, because it is important to maintain the balance of a relationship between husband and wife, because the saying also says, no matter how deep the carcass will definitely smell, so don't try to hide it from your wife because it will have a fatal impact if you do something that your wife doesn't know about such as gambling.

Whether it's a sacrifice or whatever so that she can understand and understand what you are doing, she will also remind us if we are too deep in playing gambling, isn't it a good combination when both have an understanding of each other, so don't lie to your wife, just for fear that she will hate us.

[LUCKMCFLY]

I think that we as players, should not cover up with lies whether we play or not , I think that we should be what they call upfront, always say things , lies always come to light, at any moment, because it is something that does not make sense , in the end lies achieve disappointment, then whoever we want to hide something like that from , I do not Recommend it, I recommend being as Transparent as possible, also gambling is not a crime, it is not something that is Wrong , you just have to face things as they are, if we like playing in casinos, then they have to accept it as we are.

[junder]

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Indeed, the main fault lies with each individual who gambles too much. If gambling is done properly without greed or other things that trigger addiction, all will be fine whether they are rich or poor, gambling will not have a bad impact as long as it is done with good control and good awareness.

That's right, in my own country gambling is prohibited. But nowadays there are many online casinos in circulation so it is not strange that many young people are doing online gambling. And I think those whose countries legalize gambling are the same if they don't have good control then addiction is a sure thing. So the point is that the solution lies with us, people giving good advice is good but considering everything is what must be done.

Yes, it means if there is a question about who is to blame, then it is clearly the gamblers themselves, because there is no coercion from any party to them to continue gambling or gamble with various actions that tend to be excessive, meaning that all of that is done by their own decision, and also meaning that all the bad impacts they experience are purely due to those who treat gambling in the wrong way, therefore this is why we are always advised to be responsible gamblers.

Basically in any case everything will not be too bad if it is done correctly, or in the sense of various actions that are indeed measured according to our abilities, especially when talking about activities that have risks in them. Regardless of whether you are in a country that legalizes gambling or not, in the end, yes, as you said, it all comes back to ourselves, because we are the ones who know what is best for ourselves, in the sense that we are the ones who know our limits, and also other people will not care too much about whatever we experience, especially the bad impacts when it turns out that we are addicted.

responsible gamblers know the reasonable limits that should be done, besides their thoughts and mindsets that I think they will treat gambling as just a means of entertainment because with that it is unlikely that they will become addicted to gambling. also when compared to people who gamble responsibly and not, maybe more people gamble irresponsibly because there are so many cases of bad impacts that occur. and they must be able to learn to gamble responsibly, one of which is to have limits on their budget and gambling time.

that is the importance of betting according to what we can afford, we must be able to allocate an amount of money that we can afford and consider the money to be lost because with his statement gambling will only make them lose or lose money so we should be able to let go of the money that was bet if it is lost. because if not like that gambling addiction is something that can happen and it is unlikely that other people will care when addiction has occurred.

[DaNNy001]

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I don't think it was THAT bad. You can have multiple favorite times in a day, at least.

Anyway, I think the only time I lied was during my early days? As I've shared before I was playing poker already with my friends back in hs, and was in a relationship. My partner abhorred the idea of me gambling (or at least, gambling with money, not poker itself) so whenever I was playing, I always told her that we were just playing with cards, no money involved. There came a point though where I was caught red handed so had no choice but to confess . Naturally I had to stop but eh, we eventually broke up and here I am gambling again.

Gambling affects you as a  person and gradually everything around you,, you will lose a lot of good relationships, of all the addictions in the world it's the worst, a close friend of mine  that was about to get married to his finance but she called off the wedding due to his gambling addiction, few months later he lost his job cause he was caught using some clients money to gamble, I've had my own terrible experiences as well, I'm also a gambler but all I can say is you should try to fight it  and restrict yourself

[bakasabo]

Why do adults even lie about gambling? I would understand if a teenager would lie, or a shy person that recently turned 18. But for a really grown up person to lie about gambling? The benefits such person would get from a lie is so minimum and miserable, when the consequences are so big, that it is no use to do it. To lie to hide gambling habit is useless, as lie will always come up, and it is impossible to hide such a habit.

[Jody.Drummer]

I don't think it was THAT bad. You can have multiple favorite times in a day, at least.

Anyway, I think the only time I lied was during my early days? As I've shared before I was playing poker already with my friends back in hs, and was in a relationship. My partner abhorred the idea of me gambling (or at least, gambling with money, not poker itself) so whenever I was playing, I always told her that we were just playing with cards, no money involved. There came a point though where I was caught red handed so had no choice but to confess . Naturally I had to stop but eh, we eventually broke up and here I am gambling again.

Gambling affects you as a  person and gradually everything around you,, you will lose a lot of good relationships, of all the addictions in the world it's the worst, a close friend of mine  that was about to get married to his finance but she called off the wedding due to his gambling addiction, few months later he lost his job cause he was caught using some clients money to gamble, I've had my own terrible experiences as well, I'm also a gambler but all I can say is you should try to fight it  and restrict yourself

Yes, maybe I would also say that the situation you told about something experienced by one of your friends is included in the category of one of the worst impacts caused by addiction, or simply and the point is the impact of addiction can really thwart all the plans we have especially those related to money, and about your friend I am sure he is a gambler who has now reached a fairly chronic level of addiction, because he is really desperate to use money for something very important in life such as wedding expenses just to gamble.

So that's the only reason why we always say the following also by suggesting to anyone to only treat gambling with an approach that suits our abilities, and besides that we must also remain careful and maintain awareness in ourselves, because basically gambling addiction can occur without the gambler realizing it himself.

[Iranus]

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Life's not a Disney movie. Everybody makes decisions; occasionally those decisions arent always clear-cut black and white. Business is business, and relationships are relationships, but they often intertwine. You have to do what you must. You do it if bringing customers late-night entertainment helps close the transaction. It does not indicate you lie or have poor marriage. It means you're a provider, a winner. Still, you have to be clever about it. Dont gamble your family's health or your own; be careful.

But dont tell your wife every little detail. What she doesnt know wont hurt her, right? Still, communication is fundamental. Perhaps you might discuss with her the demands you deal with and the sacrifices you give your family. Her knowledge will perhaps surprise you. Remember, relationships are about balance. Its about discovering that ideal balance whereby everyone gains. You may be a devoted husband and a great businessman. Though not easy, it is feasible.

Keeping things balanced in life is not easy. I've seen some people advise me to tell my wife the truth about my gambling. But like what @Rabata is going through, they are not in our position, they don't know what we have to go through and what we have to face if we say we are gamblers. Gambling is not a big problem for me because I am not addicted and only play when stressed for entertainment purposes. But if I tell the truth about what I'm going through at work, can anyone guarantee that my wife will understand me and my family will still be as happy as they are now? Does anyone understand me better than my wife?

You're right, life is not a Disney movie that always has a happy ending, life is not rosy and simple. What I do is just want to keep balance in life as well as keep my family happy, so I don't think lying in this case is a bad thing.

[summonerrk]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

[TheGreatPython]

I think almost all of the husbands in the world have cover up their gambling habit to their family especially to their wifes this because the husbands fear their wifes will not accept their habit and it can be influence to their relationship so this is a normal thing done by everyone who has a family but i think has gambling habit is not matter as long as those people can responsible to their family and if there is any people who can able to do that i think they can life normally without having to fear that it will have a negative impact on his family

I have one example in my environment because a friend of mine has gambling habit for years and he can cover up his habit with very well without his family know about that this because before gambling he always prioritize his family needs first and until now he continues to live a normal life without fear that gambling will affect to his life

Even not specifically gambling but also other types of what can we say not-so-good habit like drinking alcoholic drinks for example, husbands also hides it from their wives. I think acts like that is a sign that husbands still loves their family and they are still trying to be responsible, just like you said.

For those who don't, they might be the real addicts. Addicts have nothing to be feared of even if what they are doing is wrong. They can leave anything even the important things and people in their life like their first and second family or when they are already married, only for the sake of their addiction. I admit that I'm a gambler but I'm lucky that my wife is also a gambler, so there is no pressure for me of hiding my not-so-good habit to her. Hehehe.

[erep]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

You are right, that many lies have been covered up when they dialogue with relatives and friends, they seem to hide the truth of all his words, but it's a shame that they will never want to help him again when they find out he has been addicted to gambling to the detriment of himself, so don't lie to him. If anyone experiences a loss from gambling, however, it's a good idea to keep quiet if you don't want everyone to know about the loss.

[blockman]

That was a funny lie that the guy from the example in OP has said. It doesn't matter if it's the best day of the day or whenever he tells his wife that going to bed with her was the best. I don't think that he has to tell a lie or go to the bathroom and play all day blackjack, slots or any game that he prefers. As long as his wife is aware that he's a gambler, I think that everything is fine and that's what he needs to say on her because if he don't tell her that he's been gambling all of this time, it might ruin their relationship.

[Mahanton]

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Indeed, the main fault lies with each individual who gambles too much. If gambling is done properly without greed or other things that trigger addiction, all will be fine whether they are rich or poor, gambling will not have a bad impact as long as it is done with good control and good awareness.

That's right, in my own country gambling is prohibited. But nowadays there are many online casinos in circulation so it is not strange that many young people are doing online gambling. And I think those whose countries legalize gambling are the same if they don't have good control then addiction is a sure thing. So the point is that the solution lies with us, people giving good advice is good but considering everything is what must be done.

Yes, it means if there is a question about who is to blame, then it is clearly the gamblers themselves, because there is no coercion from any party to them to continue gambling or gamble with various actions that tend to be excessive, meaning that all of that is done by their own decision, and also meaning that all the bad impacts they experience are purely due to those who treat gambling in the wrong way, therefore this is why we are always advised to be responsible gamblers.

Basically in any case everything will not be too bad if it is done correctly, or in the sense of various actions that are indeed measured according to our abilities, especially when talking about activities that have risks in them. Regardless of whether you are in a country that legalizes gambling or not, in the end, yes, as you said, it all comes back to ourselves, because we are the ones who know what is best for ourselves, in the sense that we are the ones who know our limits, and also other people will not care too much about whatever we experience, especially the bad impacts when it turns out that we are addicted.

responsible gamblers know the reasonable limits that should be done, besides their thoughts and mindsets that I think they will treat gambling as just a means of entertainment because with that it is unlikely that they will become addicted to gambling. also when compared to people who gamble responsibly and not, maybe more people gamble irresponsibly because there are so many cases of bad impacts that occur. and they must be able to learn to gamble responsibly, one of which is to have limits on their budget and gambling time.

that is the importance of betting according to what we can afford, we must be able to allocate an amount of money that we can afford and consider the money to be lost because with his statement gambling will only make them lose or lose money so we should be able to let go of the money that was bet if it is lost. because if not like that gambling addiction is something that can happen and it is unlikely that other people will care when addiction has occurred.

It all matters about being responsible. Period. I dont really see any problems or issues if you do really just that hover yourself on the border line and never ever make yourself that making up decisions on which you do know that it would be able to put you in harm and also with your family. On the time that you would really be dealing up with gambling, then it would really be just that understandable that you should really be knowing and wary about the risks that involves on which it would really be just that recommended that you do really know on what you are doing and stick up into your limitations. As for the condition that we are seeing on OP about minding about gambling instead of his wife and other related concerns then this do really shows that a certain individual is really that addicted with gambling on which we know that this is really something that not good.

Somehow, men are really that good on hiding on something and pretending as if there's nothing happen but of course this would really be putting you up on struggle on the time that gambling activity is really that consuming you and sooner or later which your wife would really be able to see up and see those odd actions that you are making on which it might really be that resulting into that possible arguments and other
possible discussions about on the thing which is currently happen. The important thing on here is that you shouldnt really be that making yourself that being too impulsive.

[DubemIfedigbo001]

I lie to my girlfriend most times when I'm gambling and she walks past me, I'll immediately change the tab to my working site. Now I think I am trying to protect her from gambling excesses because she is a very passionate person and does her things without any reservations and I fear what she would become when she starts gambling actively.

She likes doing my stuffs and during ponzi period, she learned from me and lost a whole lot of money, more than I ever imagined.

Scammers almost drained her account in sporty bet Saga back then if not that she mistakenly told me that she has seen who would be helping her play bets and she wouldn't loose and I stopped her from getting scammed.

I am just concerned that she would do herself great harm if she starts gambling like me with her character of all out and no holding back.

[LogitechMouse]

Why do adults even lie about gambling? I would understand if a teenager would lie, or a shy person that recently turned 18. But for a really grown up person to lie about gambling? The benefits such person would get from a lie is so minimum and miserable, when the consequences are so big, that it is no use to do it. To lie to hide gambling habit is useless, as lie will always come up, and it is impossible to hide such a habit.

I don't know the exact, but here are 3 reasons that I think why they're lying about it.

1. They don't want other people to see them gambling because many sees gambling as a negative thing hence, they might say negative things to him as well.
2. They are addicted to it, and they don't want other people to know about it hence, they're lying when somebody asks them about it.
3. Financial problems. They don't want their family members to know that they lost a huge amount of money in gambling already that's why they're lying about it.

I believe that there are many more reasons as to why gamblers sometimes are gambling about their gambling habits but overall, this isn't a good thing to do because the ones around you might be the ones that will help you when things go worse.

[klidex]

That was a funny lie that the guy from the example in OP has said. It doesn't matter if it's the best day of the day or whenever he tells his wife that going to bed with her was the best. I don't think that he has to tell a lie or go to the bathroom and play all day blackjack, slots or any game that he prefers. As long as his wife is aware that he's a gambler, I think that everything is fine and that's what he needs to say on her because if he don't tell her that he's been gambling all of this time, it might ruin their relationship.

Maybe for her this is not too serious as long as they use their gambling within reasonable limits, indeed if a husband asks his wife's permission to gamble, usually the wife does not allow it because the wife thinks gambling is an act of wasting money, maybe this is why husbands lie if they want to gamble, but still this cannot be tolerated and lying will become a habit if it is done continuously when urgent. Talk to your wife nicely when she is in a good mood that you want to gamble with a small amount of money when you have free time (not every day) and promise not to get addicted, I think the wife will allow you to continue gambling.

[lienfaye]

I think that we as players, should not cover up with lies whether we play or not , I think that we should be what they call upfront, always say things , lies always come to light, at any moment, because it is something that does not make sense , in the end lies achieve disappointment, then whoever we want to hide something like that from , I do not Recommend it, I recommend being as Transparent as possible, also gambling is not a crime, it is not something that is Wrong , you just have to face things as they are, if we like playing in casinos, then they have to accept it as we are.

There are people who thinks bad if they know the person is a gambler. It's because they know its negative effect once a gambler became out of control. However, it's a different thing if we're pertaining to our loved ones. We should be honest on what's going on with our life. If possible, don't keep your gambling activity a secret because it can only cause a misunderstanding (if you're a disciplined gambler) that might lead to a serious problem. It's normal to tell lies sometimes but don't make it a habit.

[betswift]

I think that we as players, should not cover up with lies whether we play or not , I think that we should be what they call upfront, always say things , lies always come to light, at any moment, because it is something that does not make sense , in the end lies achieve disappointment, then whoever we want to hide something like that from , I do not Recommend it, I recommend being as Transparent as possible, also gambling is not a crime, it is not something that is Wrong , you just have to face things as they are, if we like playing in casinos, then they have to accept it as we are.

There are people who thinks bad if they know the person is a gambler. It's because they know its negative effect once a gambler became out of control. However, it's a different thing if we're pertaining to our loved ones. We should be honest on what's going on with our life. If possible, don't keep your gambling activity a secret because it can only cause a misunderstanding (if you're a disciplined gambler) that might lead to a serious problem. It's normal to tell lies sometimes but don't make it a habit.

Agreed! Loved ones deserve to know all about you, especially if it's just a hobby and you are having fun doing it, spending a bit to get good emotions. All lies break and the truth comes out, so it's better to tell things that bother you as soon as they are seen in that way, so there would be no misunderstandings in the future. 

[bubilas]

I lie to my girlfriend most times when I'm gambling and she walks past me, I'll immediately change the tab to my working site. Now I think I am trying to protect her from gambling excesses because she is a very passionate person and does her things without any reservations and I fear what she would become when she starts gambling actively.

She likes doing my stuffs and during ponzi period, she learned from me and lost a whole lot of money, more than I ever imagined.

Scammers almost drained her account in sporty bet Saga back then if not that she mistakenly told me that she has seen who would be helping her play bets and she wouldn't loose and I stopped her from getting scammed.

I am just concerned that she would do herself great harm if she starts gambling like me with her character of all out and no holding back.

The topic of lying is very common among gamblers and this is not surprising. At the same time, many gamblers regretfully say that such a lifestyle changes their character. They constantly lie, hiding their passion, and for some reason then they begin to lie automatically in all areas of life, even where it is not required.
Unfortunately, this has a bad effect on both the relationship and the health of the gambler.

[madnessteat]

I think that we as players, should not cover up with lies whether we play or not , I think that we should be what they call upfront, always say things , lies always come to light, at any moment, because it is something that does not make sense , in the end lies achieve disappointment, then whoever we want to hide something like that from , I do not Recommend it, I recommend being as Transparent as possible, also gambling is not a crime, it is not something that is Wrong , you just have to face things as they are, if we like playing in casinos, then they have to accept it as we are.

I absolutely agree with you as I have experienced first hand that over time it becomes more and more difficult to hide lies. Eventually there comes a point when you just can not hide your passion for gambling from your loved ones. In most cases, this leads to misunderstandings and conflicts.

In my opinion, it is easier to admit to your wife that you gamble. I'm just sure that after admitting to gambling addiction the probability of conflict is much lower than when revealing a lie.