Lies told to cover up gambling habit

[Rabata]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

You are right, that many lies have been covered up when they dialogue with relatives and friends, they seem to hide the truth of all his words, but it's a shame that they will never want to help him again when they find out he has been addicted to gambling to the detriment of himself, so don't lie to him. If anyone experiences a loss from gambling, however, it's a good idea to keep quiet if you don't want everyone to know about the loss.

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

[Mahanton]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

You are right, that many lies have been covered up when they dialogue with relatives and friends, they seem to hide the truth of all his words, but it's a shame that they will never want to help him again when they find out he has been addicted to gambling to the detriment of himself, so don't lie to him. If anyone experiences a loss from gambling, however, it's a good idea to keep quiet if you don't want everyone to know about the loss.

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

There are really no issues if you do really just that make yourself that being that responsible despite of the gambling that you are really that doing. It would really be just that normal that you would really be hiding from your wife if you are really that wanting to play but your wife doesnt like gambling then you would really be likely be having this kind of behavior on which we cant really drawn out some conclusion that these husbands are not loyal or honest into their wives. There are really just those things that they cant be able to accept and thats why you do tend to hide it out. Just like on what i have said that there would really be no issues
if you do really just that make yourself that responsible and doesnt affect your finances on which this is really that the key so that there would really be no problems.

Just make it sure that you wont really that be getting caught because on the moment that you do get caught then you would really be definitely be having that kind of issue.
You shouldnt really be that making yourself that be too obvious if you dont really like to have some arguments or quarrel with your partner. We do know that if you wife hate up something
then as a husband then you would definitely be needing to follow it. 

[betswift]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

You are right, that many lies have been covered up when they dialogue with relatives and friends, they seem to hide the truth of all his words, but it's a shame that they will never want to help him again when they find out he has been addicted to gambling to the detriment of himself, so don't lie to him. If anyone experiences a loss from gambling, however, it's a good idea to keep quiet if you don't want everyone to know about the loss.

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

Those are valid points, and while I agree that most gamblers wouldn't tell non-gamblers about their activities, especially losses - being transparent with your loved ones is essential for maintaining balance. Live is already hard, hobbies make it easier, but knowing that you have the shoulders on which you can trust and rely - is even better. If the people you trust are really yours, they will accept any hobby you have, if it's non-destructive for you.

[Zoomic]

Unfortunately, a gambler with a problematic addiction has to lie a lot. I heard this in many interviews with such gamblers years ago, and I still hear it. It feels like lying is an integral part of a real gambling addiction.
And the trouble is that even if such a gambler wants to change everything and return to his former honest life, it will be very difficult for him to do so.
After all, trust is difficult to restore, because his environment will always question his words.

You are right, that many lies have been covered up when they dialogue with relatives and friends, they seem to hide the truth of all his words, but it's a shame that they will never want to help him again when they find out he has been addicted to gambling to the detriment of himself, so don't lie to him. If anyone experiences a loss from gambling, however, it's a good idea to keep quiet if you don't want everyone to know about the loss.

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

Gamblers, especially troubled gamblers will rather choose not to disclose their gambling activities to family and friends who are non-gamblers because they are scared of being judged and criticised by the same people who claim to love them. The society we live in just have to learn how to embrace gamblers amongst them because gambling has come to stay and there is nothing anyone can do about it. All gamblers are not irresponsible people, gamblers are not criminals. If people continue to stereotype gamblers in a negative way, gamblers will keep hiding their next moves from those around them.

The constant criticism and attack on gamblers is the major reason some gamblers are in trouble today. Just maybe if they had someone different who they could confide in, they wouldn't have gotten so deep into gambling to the extent of getting addicted.

Anyone can get into gambling troubles, but the hate on gamblers is not solving any problem.

[bakasabo]

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

It it was a not significant loss, then gambler might share this with his relatives. If it was a huge loss, they will find out it anyway when this gamblers starts to act not as usual. However, relatives would understand if gambler has lost, because (if they knew that he went gambling) when he returns, he will be not in cheerful mood. Also, a gambler might not tell about his loss not because he is hiding his gambling habit, but because that person is used to solve his issues on his own. Why would someone cry or complain that he has lost, when he instead must be silent and work as hard as possible to cover his whole in budget.

[$weetne$$]

Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

This behaviour is why there are many Gambling addicts that are not getting any help that they need to overcome their ambling problems. If problems are shared, It has already been solved by half therefore we should share our problem. Although there's discrimination against gamblers in most part of the world, we should not still hide it from our family or our friends that we are still gambling. Why it is important to tell others is so when they see you behaving in a way that a gambling addicts will behave, they will know that you have a problem and not just assume that it is a normal lifestyle for you. If people do not know that you have a problem, they can not help you. We need to stop caring about what people will say about us and do what is better for us therefore lying about our gambling habits should stop.

[LUCKMCFLY]

Agreed! Loved ones deserve to know all about you, especially if it's just a hobby and you are having fun doing it, spending a bit to get good emotions. All lies break and the truth comes out, so it's better to tell things that bother you as soon as they are seen in that way, so there would be no misunderstandings in the future. 

First of all I think that one must be Authentic , one must always demonstrate that, and our family, our loved ones have to accept us as we are, not because they don't like the games or because we must please them , no , that is something that cannot be harmful, I generally know how I am in my family, I have no scruples About telling people things to their face and telling the truth , even if it is something silly, but I always say it, and if they don't like it, well, whatever , there is nothing to be done, in part that is related to our personality.

[skarais]

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Every gambler knows how others view about gambling. So while they are gambling they will never tell others about their gambling unless he is a gambler or a person who will never harm to others. But those who are gamblers have a good relationship with other gamblers. They easily share their gambling habits with other gambler friends. Disclosing gambling to family or relatives can prevent the gambler from conducting his normal gambling activities which a gambler never wants. So if any of the family or relatives want to know about the gambling then the gambler never reveals it.

There is no obligation for anyone to reveal their gambling habits to others, they need to consider something like privacy.
However, there are some gamblers who like to talk and reveal their gambling habits to other people for various reasons, even without being asked. They have a sense of pride when telling stories even though other people start to judge after hearing the story. Of course, it is not appropriate to talk about gambling to anyone carelessly, even if they ask, they needs to cover up the habit.

Where I live, gambling is a habit that is considered bad in society. Someone who is known as a gambler will not get respect in social life, that is a long-established norm. As a result, a gambler must be able to cover up his gambling habits and must not tell about it anywhere.

[Dewi Aries]

I think that there is not a single gambler who would tell his relatives about his loss. Only if he did not want to quit the casino at that moment. But if the gambler plans to continue playing, he will remain silent, and this will be the beginning of his path of lies and omissions. And the greater the debts, the worse the gambler's mood will be. But at the same time, his relatives will not understand why he is so angry. And at that moment, a complete misunderstanding will begin.

It it was a not significant loss, then gambler might share this with his relatives. If it was a huge loss, they will find out it anyway when this gamblers starts to act not as usual. However, relatives would understand if gambler has lost, because (if they knew that he went gambling) when he returns, he will be not in cheerful mood. Also, a gambler might not tell about his loss not because he is hiding his gambling habit, but because that person is used to solve his issues on his own. Why would someone cry or complain that he has lost, when he instead must be silent and work as hard as possible to cover his whole in budget.

As you understand and I am sure that the idea of ​​hiding involvement in gambling or losing will eventually be known by others especially by their own family, the reason I think is clear that this is an activity that involves money where their family will definitely know when it turns out that the gambler has difficulty in meeting some of his life's needs and of course the closest people will definitely realize this and may ask about where the person's money actually went which in the end I am sure there is no other way than to be honest and admit everything.

So far I think hiding gambling activities from others including your family is all up to you, as long as you are really able to maintain your involvement in gambling with the note that you are able to protect yourself by implementing many boundaries so that you stay safe, because even if for example you hide everything from your family but if you have an impulsive approach to gambling then in the end your family will definitely find out too.

[hahay]

Agreed! Loved ones deserve to know all about you, especially if it's just a hobby and you are having fun doing it, spending a bit to get good emotions. All lies break and the truth comes out, so it's better to tell things that bother you as soon as they are seen in that way, so there would be no misunderstandings in the future. 

First of all I think that one must be Authentic , one must always demonstrate that, and our family, our loved ones have to accept us as we are, not because they don't like the games or because we must please them , no , that is something that cannot be harmful, I generally know how I am in my family, I have no scruples About telling people things to their face and telling the truth , even if it is something silly, but I always say it, and if they don't like it, well, whatever , there is nothing to be done, in part that is related to our personality.

In this era I think more people can say about the gambling they do, because it seems like slot gambling has also become one where people gamble freely. Thus, it seems that lies to cover up gambling activities occurred in the past, because in this era even people who work in government institutions also gamble on easily accessible slot games.

However, for me personally, I still really protect my privacy and personality because, at least, there are still many people who cannot accept gambling because basically they don't like it. However, if you are not reluctant to reveal your gambling activities, then of course that is not a problem as long as you can accept the responses of those around you.

[DaNNy001]

I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush” 

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

[HONDACD125]

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

Even though I don't support hiding things in a relationship, let me tell you one thing, there is a huge difference between a friend and a spouse. The understanding between two friends is way different than the understanding between two partners in a relationship. So just because you told your friends and they were supportive, it doesn't mean the same would happen if someone tells their spouse that they are addicted to gambling.

I know that a lot of people are very understanding and they don't overreact to certain things, but that isn't the case everywhere, and a person should know how their partner is and they should decide based on that whether they should or should not share a certain thing to them because they would know if the partner would understand or not.

[uchegod-21]

I've only ever lied when holding my phone thinking I was playing a game when I was gambling, but when my wife asked what you were doing “playing Cand Rush” 

You have a friend who lies almost exactly like my own friend, but he confessed to his wife he lost money on the road while driving but what happened he spent all his money playing slots, in order to protect himself then the friend said to protect himself.

Many stories are habitual to cover gambling in any way, they do this not wanting to be stressed after losing a lot in question by other members, even though this is bad behavior there are still many people doing this habit.

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

Some of the gamblers making up stories to tell their spouse or loved ones are not actually addicted but they are normal gamblers who did not involve their loved ones in their gambling decisions.

If I am married I will let my wife understand my gambling habit and maybe she will be my check. I'll let her know the percentage of my income allocated to gambling, such that when I want to exceed, she'll call me to order. When you are into the lying game, you have to keep lying the more in order cover up more lies.

[Obari]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

The truth is that, everyone will love to tell their wife about their gambling habit but hell no, there are already so much stigmatizing associated with gambling and I don’t know for other countries but I can relate with op because in a country try like mine, it will be very difficult to get to see anyone boldly tell the next person except they’re friends that he or she gambles and the worst is even with women as it seems like it’s a taboo for women to gamble in my country and anyone seen gambling as already tagged irresponsible and that’s the major challenge with many married gamblers in my country as they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible m atleast not by their spouse .

[salad daging]

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

For the sake of comfort they know what they need to do whether or not to tell many people about our own gambling, for that I myself do not do it and it is better that no one knows except family even though there is always someone who judges it does not matter, as long as it does not become a burden for them.

Gambling is only for fun, so never use hot money to gamble, I always look for other sources to gamble or set aside a little when needs are met.
Talking about gambling to a friend will always be uncomfortable for us, we know there are still controls that we can overcome.

[LUCKMCFLY]

In this era I think more people can say about the gambling they do, because it seems like slot gambling has also become one where people gamble freely.

Things get better with the casino and other activities are no longer as taboo as they used to be, any type of person is capable of doing any activity, even those activities that may go against morality, are now legal, so playing in a casino is the most normal thing in the world for many, rather what should be done is to talk, I think that is something that has changed in the world, I remember that when I was little and they talked about casinos it was synonymous with addicted people and that they do nothing but lose everything, even their houses and live in ruin.

[carlfebz2]

Not everyone might think this is a good idea but I think it's better for a gamblers to open up to their spouse about their addiction especially if it's crippling their finances... I started feeling better when I opened up to my friends about my addiction, some were kind of judgmental and some were really concerned about it, they tried to always put my check which wasn't enough, no one can look over shoulders everytime, you must be intentional with yourself about making a change, but telling those around you the truth is the first step

For the sake of comfort they know what they need to do whether or not to tell many people about our own gambling, for that I myself do not do it and it is better that no one knows except family even though there is always someone who judges it does not matter, as long as it does not become a burden for them.

Gambling is only for fun, so never use hot money to gamble, I always look for other sources to gamble or set aside a little when needs are met.
Talking about gambling to a friend will always be uncomfortable for us, we know there are still controls that we can overcome.

Me too on which im a type of person on whose really not that too love on talking on what are the things that im doing or dealing with even how close we are or friends or even my wife do able to know
when i do gambling on which im pretty sure that she would really be getting mad on which it would really be that something that too common impression not really just that into a certain individual
but also into those community on which it does have that kind of negative approach or insights towards gambling so it would be better to be silent if you wont really be that liking on getting judge.

Dealing up with gambling doesnt automatically means that you would really be that be getting wrecked up with it, there would really be still those gamblers who are really that responsible
in regarding into their actions on which they will really be that still doing and spending up money but in controlled manner but still able to make their finances still
that just fine.,

[wxa7115]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

The truth is that, everyone will love to tell their wife about their gambling habit but hell no, there are already so much stigmatizing associated with gambling and I don’t know for other countries but I can relate with op because in a country try like mine, it will be very difficult to get to see anyone boldly tell the next person except they’re friends that he or she gambles and the worst is even with women as it seems like it’s a taboo for women to gamble in my country and anyone seen gambling as already tagged irresponsible and that’s the major challenge with many married gamblers in my country as they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible m atleast not by their spouse .

This is why giving a general advice about something is very difficult since the circumstances that each one of us face are completely different.

For someone living in a country in which gambling is legal and there is almost no stigma associated with it, admitting to their spouse that you gamble is not really a big deal, however there are other countries in which such a thing could be a cause for divorce, so coming out clean about it is nowhere near as easy.

[betswift]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

The truth is that, everyone will love to tell their wife about their gambling habit but hell no, there are already so much stigmatizing associated with gambling and I don’t know for other countries but I can relate with op because in a country try like mine, it will be very difficult to get to see anyone boldly tell the next person except they’re friends that he or she gambles and the worst is even with women as it seems like it’s a taboo for women to gamble in my country and anyone seen gambling as already tagged irresponsible and that’s the major challenge with many married gamblers in my country as they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible m atleast not by their spouse .

This is why giving a general advice about something is very difficult since the circumstances that each one of us face are completely different.

For someone living in a country in which gambling is legal and there is almost no stigma associated with it, admitting to their spouse that you gamble is not really a big deal, however there are other countries in which such a thing could be a cause for divorce, so coming out clean about it is nowhere near as easy.

It's also just a factor of a person - it can be stigmatized in one family (not talking about the country in which we are in) and not in the other. Usually - it is, however, there are cases where it's okay as long as it's a hobby, not a way to make a crazy profit.

[Obari]

But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.

The truth is that, everyone will love to tell their wife about their gambling habit but hell no, there are already so much stigmatizing associated with gambling and I don’t know for other countries but I can relate with op because in a country try like mine, it will be very difficult to get to see anyone boldly tell the next person except they’re friends that he or she gambles and the worst is even with women as it seems like it’s a taboo for women to gamble in my country and anyone seen gambling as already tagged irresponsible and that’s the major challenge with many married gamblers in my country as they don’t want to be seen as irresponsible m atleast not by their spouse .

This is why giving a general advice about something is very difficult since the circumstances that each one of us face are completely different.

For someone living in a country in which gambling is legal and there is almost no stigma associated with it, admitting to their spouse that you gamble is not really a big deal, however there are other countries in which such a thing could be a cause for divorce, so coming out clean about it is nowhere near as easy.

It’s not about gambling being legal in the country, but rather the people’s approach towards it.
There are people in my country (that’s if we’re speaking about countries) that are living out of gambling and all major sources of income comes directing from gambling and in situations like this, you’ll agree with me that, one’s spouse wouldn’t have any major challenge seeing their partner gamble since the results are positive and the winnings keep coming.
The truth is that, gambling isn’t generally a bad activity but in situations where the losses are becoming much more than the winnings, then there is always a cause for concern and when the results begins creating a negative impact on the individual where the gambler begins selling off properties and other valuables just to meet up with their gambling activities, then it will e tagged addiction and typically, no one wants to mingle with such persons not even their spouse.