Gambling is a fatal mistake

[Moeda]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

There are many families who suffer such a fate. There are those who leave their families, there are also those who stay together but are surrounded by quarrels every day. Everyone will be addicted to gambling. Gambling can damage our nerves, so we cannot think more healthily. If you are a drunkard, you will know that the effects of being drunk are unpleasant, headaches, vomiting, and even stress, and drunkards know that it tastes bad for them, but it is difficult for them to stop being drunk. This is not much different from gamblers, they will be addicted once they try it.

How can gamblers and drinkers be prevented from repeating their actions?

The most appropriate way is to confine them for a long period of time so that they won't be influenced or feel the addiction within themselves, and a more holistic and effective approach might involve psychological interventions, social support, and rehabilitation to help them overcome addiction and positively change their behavior.

[coolcoinz]

This is like one of the worst thing that can happen to you. OP's brother must be so depressed and ashamed at the same time that the only thing he thought that was left for him was to leave home and be alone, but this is extremely selfish since he has family to take care of. His children should not be punished by the fact their father is an addict and can't handle it.

If It was me at least I'd be a man for the family. I screwed up, I fix this. You have to take responsibility for your actions, even as an addict.

[boyptc]

What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

It's obvious, your brother is addicted to gambling.

There is no need for such deep explanations about why he's like that. Family first above all when you've made your own family. A man is a man and provides for them and goes to home after work.

That's it, no need for any fancy and extravagant activities after office hours and come home early to your family and kids.

But with your brother, he needs serious help and can't take it anymore and went away to avoid quarrel with his wife instead of fixing it and admitting that he fk up.

[Antotena]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money?  
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Gambling isn't a fatal mistake, it's your brother that did the mistake and reading through your story, I'm not sure whether I'm too call it stupidity or foolishness. How can a married man even think of something like this? How did the wife was able to stay all this while for him to be gambling like this? There is obvious more story to this discussion, it's not ordinary even though he is so addicted, there is going to be some conscience remaining in him when he has a family waiting hungry at home.

If he is not lying about using the money for gambling then his next level of gambling addiction is Promax that I have never seen before. How are we not even sure that he used the money to womanize? He didn't sleep at home and the wife never asked him why he never came back home or was it gambling throughout the night in the casino? Check again, that man used the money for another thing and not gambling.

[Fortify]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

"this person" and "elder brother" seems like a completely concocted story to me, that you couldn't even keep straight until the end. However this situation does play out occasionally, it is at the extreme end of the spectrum in the things that people will do to their families. Frankly it's impossible to save somebody that does not want to save themselves, people will take either two paths in these situations: go full throttle into self destruction with maximum carnage (aka taking out lots of money which they're never going to increase by gambling) or hit rock bottom. If people hit rock bottom and really recognize that fact, then there may be an opportunity to help them, but it takes a period of time where they really have to prove that they've changed their ways by themselves.

[Lanatsa]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Very common gambling addiction story
Very common scenario that will happen to someone if they wont be able to control themselves.
Very common condition that you would be ending  on the moment that you do get addicted to it.

On the moment that you would really be that addicted with gambling then there's always the possibility that you would really be ending up with this kind of condition on which at the moment you do receive your salary from your day job then you would be thinking that you do have the capital to play gambling. It might that sounds easy to stop or would be avoiding but on the moment or time that you are addicted to gambling then it would really be that so damn hard to quit. This is where we do see these kind of stories on which spending all their salary, taking up some loans, committing some crimes just for them to have the money for them to be able to play.

Actually it is really just that a matter of self control for you to avoid such conditions but its sad that there are people who cant really be able to fight their urge
on playing gambling. Self realizations would really be only happening at the moment that they would be experiencing unfortunate conditions.

[Ojima-ojo]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Sad and this is an advanced stage of addictions and not only is gambling addictions but other substances such as alcohol and also womanizing, because he may have left home to his girlfriend place to avoid the wife nagging at him for gambling away with his salary.


But then also my advice is that you guys should not be hard on him and when he make contact with home, because it is only with love that you guys can win him over.

[darewaller]

"Fatal" seems like overreaction. I had about something similar happen in my life with my uncle, my father had to pay off all his debt after he vanished because he had a lot of gambling debt, and he came back after a few months when his debt was paid and he was in the clear, I still do not speak to him at all.

However, we should realize that we are going to end up with something that will take a while, we should not really consider how we could do better, it's just how life is, and how we need to realize the work it takes to hurt other people. And yet, the word "fatal" means something more than just "a bad feeling", it's about being alive, and gambling doesn't cause you to be no longer be alive, sure hurts you financially, but not physical harm.

[Accardo]

It's a sad experience for the family of the gambler. I think he's realized his mistakes and decided to have a quiet time reminiscing about his lost money. What could have kept him that long in the casino, if not for the need to recover the funds he has lost. I'd say he's addicted. Because, wagering all his salary on a single day, shows how gambling controls his actions.

Assuming he got some control over himself, he would have given his wife a portion of the money, then head over to the casino. Whatever it is he gets after gambling he would be going home to meet freshly purchased stuffs needed in the house. His pains would be how to replenish the exhausted needs of his house. Another one that bothers me is how he could afford going to work with no money left on him just about a day after receiving his salary. It's annoying.

[Jaycoinz]

This is like one of the worst thing that can happen to you. OP's brother must be so depressed and ashamed at the same time that the only thing he thought that was left for him was to leave home and be alone, but this is extremely selfish since he has family to take care of. His children should not be punished by the fact their father is an addict and can't handle it.

If It was me at least I'd be a man for the family. I screwed up, I fix this. You have to take responsibility for your actions, even as an addict.

Well that's the diversity among humans for you, it's not easy but for some folks as they simply can't handle the pressure that comes with losing while for others they can actually adjust their selves and amend to the outcome of their whole action. Their some crazy things that gambling addict do that gets me but leaving and running away from your family is certainly the height of it if you ask me because it's totally uncalled for because even if you run the problem won't actually solve itself as everything would be still waiting for you.

[Winterfrost]

What happened is nothing other than addiction, knowing fully well the needs and wants of his family as the head of the family still decides on risking his whole salary into gambling, it  doesn't happen just randomly if not to a person who is over addicted, now he has faced the consequences which he could not bear and have to run away, definitely he would return but it has already cooked up issues in the family which he would have avoided if at all he agrees to quit his selfish attitude.

[o48o]

Honestly, you shouldn't gamble unless you understand how gambling addiction works. Because if someone's state of mind is "i won't get addicted. only addicts get addicted and i am normal", they don't know what hit them if they do.

And i don't think it's abnormal that after a fight and couple splits up or that wife would kick someone out for doing that. Couples fight and some people need time to cool off and get themselves together before they can come back. Especially if something like that happens. And sounds like your brother has been away nights before, like 4-5.6, so most likely he is just out cooling off or getting drunk, or gambling or thinking. If this would happen to me i think i would be too shamed to show my face for a moment. Honestly my wife wouldn't probably want to see me for a week after that.

But in short: Addiction! Addiction is the problem here. Just be lucky he isn't addicted to anything that can ruin his health. This is just money and if he can't be trusted to hold it, maybe his wife should deal with the finances.

[wheelz1200]

There are plenty of threads about gambling addiction but this one has a sad story attached to it.  First off I hope the dude is fine.  Being addicted to gambling could be deadly if not treated.  Depression, etc can be a side effect of addiction especially when ypu have to support people and can't.  Sounds like the fella needs Profesional help there.

[Ndabagi01]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money?  
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Lack of management and no sense of responsibility as the man of the house. Who goes to that extent to make his families life’s be at stake because they want to play and win games for the fun of it or to earn back multiples of what they’ve putting into the game. This is very absurd and he has shown his true colours as not being a responsible man in the society. Let the society knows what he did with that money and stigmatize him with that all his life, maybe he’ll learn and adjust the next time he wants to gamble and hasn’t gone home to compensate his wife and children.

Another reason why he must have lost his money is because of the blind trust he had in himself that he’s going to recover all the money he has loss that day as he continues to squander all of the money he was paid as salary. Unknowingly he exceeded his limits or budgeted fund for the money or he deliberately not want to stop and felt he can do something about it. He has really failed as a man and I’m really disappointed in his actions on that regard. I pray he’s found soon because his family needs him.

[Egii Nna]

What happened is nothing other than addiction, knowing fully well the needs and wants of his family as the head of the family still decides on risking his whole salary into gambling, it  doesn't happen just randomly if not to a person who is over addicted, now he has faced the consequences which he could not bear and have to run away, definitely he would return but it has already cooked up issues in the family which he would have avoided if at all he agrees to quit his selfish attitude.

To me, I don’t still think that Op brother is addicted to gambling. The reason I said that is because if he truly is addicted, he won’t have gone far away for home because he will still have nothing to be ashamed of because most addicted people feel like what they are doing is the best.

 So going back to the story, if he really is an addict, then it is most likely that he wants to forfeit gambling but no way because his mind has already overcome his actions, and if that is the case, then definitely this won’t be his last regret because he will soon do the same thing because he can’t control his mind anymore, so that will definitely affect his family more than the way it will affect him. Take a deep incite in the family’s life; they will need to feed, clothing, school, and shelter, so this child of his i in a very big risk that can even spoil their life in the future. 

[goaldigger]

So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

This is addiction and this is not the first time he did this for sure, and what you can do as a family is to guide them and force him to stop gambling while giving him your proper guidance. This is very unfortunate but its really happening and we should be more careful and be understandable when someone close to us is addicted in gambling. If you want to help your brother the make him feel the importance of family and stay with him through this bad times.

[Cryptoprincess101]

Several cases like this have happened before and it all boils down to gambling addiction but sometimes I wonder if some people don't have conscience because a man that has a family should know he has a family to take care of because they are his responsibility so if a man run away from his responsibility as a result of silly decisions they take then that man is a coward.
Some people makes gambling look so bad in the eyes of people in the society but that is not true because gambling is not bad but the way some people go about their gambling habits is what is raising concerns. How can a man gamble all through the night and didn't spend the night with his family just to waste his salary on gambling now tell me why people that witnessed it will not condemn gambling. It is very shameful for a man to run away from his responsibility just because of carelessness.

[xLays]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

This topic has come up many times here on gambling discussion board, just with different titles and different stories, but the problem is always the same: addiction to gambling. I can only say one thing about these kinds of topics: people gamble so severely because of the dopamine they receive when they win. To prevent this kind of gambling addiction, I suggest studying what dopamine is in relation to gambling and admitting that they are addicted to gambling.

[Dewi Aries]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

This is one of the effects of gambling that destroys financial balance along with destroying harmony in household relationships, and I think that this incident will very likely be experienced by gamblers who are married if they treat their gambling activities in the wrong way, and from what your brother did, I can conclude that he is addicted enough to gambling that when he gets money, the first thing on his mind is gambling and going to the casino to bet without thinking about the fate of his wife and children at home who are starving.

From his actions alone it is clear that it is a very excessive action because it prioritizes gambling too much while on the other hand he does not care about his obligations as a husband who should provide for his family, especially when he gets a salary. On the other hand, I have nothing else to say except to pray that he can recover from this addiction soon and you can help him in various ways that make sense and can help, because now his household relationship is under threat.

[passwordnow]

That is unbearable kind of gambling addiction. Someone who's going to leave his family at the moment that when his wife tried to ask the money for their food and sustenance. You have to go and ask your elder brother why he did that, he doesn't need to leave his family if they don't have anything after being asked for the salary he's got. It's a mistake followed by another mistake and it won't solve any problem if he acts like that. That's a childish thing to do but how can we help if most of the attitudes of these addicted gamblers are like this? They probably won't even listen to you after this event but it's possible that he might get some help and firstly, it's going to be with you and your family.

I think that he's ashamed of what happened and his pride was stepped on by his own action so he can't face his wife. But tell him to be brave and go back to his family because he's nowhere to go and there won't be any other people that's going to embrace his problem. They're the ones that's going to help him overcome it and at the same time, it's himself that needs to have that willpower and has to focus on providing everything for the family.

This isn't the first time that I have read such stories and there were even real world events that I've found as well. This is sad but this is a real deal that matters for many families if the dad is addicted to something like gambling, drugs and other activities that's going to be a bad thing for the family.