Gambling is a fatal mistake

[angrybirdy]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

There is a high possibility that this person has been gambling for a long time, maybe he just kept it a secret from his family, or maybe because of greed he didn't realize that he had been gambling for some time and the money he earned was running out little by little. The best thing to do here is once we receive our salary, we go straight home so that the money we hold will not be used anymore, or if you really intend to gamble, maybe we should just set aside a sufficient amount for that because we don't know what will be the outcome of the gambling session we will do.

[Mr.suevie]

Several cases like this have happened before and it all boils down to gambling addiction but sometimes I wonder if some people don't have conscience because a man that has a family should know he has a family to take care of because they are his responsibility so if a man run away from his responsibility as a result of silly decisions they take then that man is a coward.
Some people makes gambling look so bad in the eyes of people in the society but that is not true because gambling is not bad but the way some people go about their gambling habits is what is raising concerns. How can a man gamble all through the night and didn't spend the night with his family just to waste his salary on gambling now tell me why people that witnessed it will not condemn gambling. It is very shameful for a man to run away from his responsibility just because of carelessness.

That's one thing with gambling that many people fail to understand and that's the fact that addiction is very real and it can fuck you up very badly to an extent that you don't even care about anything at all. Some of the things I have heard addicts do is really not surprising anymore because I have even seen gamblers sell their own houses just to fill up that urge of gambling even without fully knowing the results of the repercussions that follows with their actions.

[alegotardo]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Gambling can be good or as bad as a gun or even a fast car... if it is "presented" to someone who knows how to use it, who uses it consciously, knowing the risks and maintaining control , you will certainly only be able to extract good things like fun, which relieves stress and promotes emotional well-being, and even some profits that could allow you to buy something much desired or a different weekend.

However, if it is "presented" to someone who is emotionally unprepared or does not know the risks, the result can certainly be tragic, and unfortunately the example you mentioned is a common situation to occur.
The problem is that your brother probably won't be able to wait until his next paycheck to play again, and the problem could escalate the moment he starts borrowing money.

It is advisable that you talk seriously with him and convince him to seek professional help as soon as possible.
Good luck!

[Onyeeze]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

what I want to say is that gambling have advantages and also disadvantages and then when you are dated in gambling you will not be thinking any other things so I know very well that you really understand the method of gambling when you have loss many things on the process of participating in gambling many people does not have this statistics on how they will participate in gambling neither weekly or monthly in normal circumstances The Gambler is not supposed to use all it monthly salary for gambling because gambling is a game of risk and the anything can result out into gambling neither you mean or you lose so for you to participate in gambling and make profit you have to know your source of income and they have to avoid not to be addicted in gambling.

[promise444c5]

Several cases like this have happened before and it all boils down to gambling addiction but sometimes I wonder if some people don't have conscience because a man that has a family should know he has a family to take care of because they are his responsibility so if a man run away from his responsibility as a result of silly decisions they take then that man is a coward.
Some people makes gambling look so bad in the eyes of people in the society but that is not true because gambling is not bad but the way some people go about their gambling habits is what is raising concerns. How can a man gamble all through the night and didn't spend the night with his family just to waste his salary on gambling now tell me why people that witnessed it will not condemn gambling. It is very shameful for a man to run away from his responsibility just because of carelessness.

That's one thing with gambling that many people fail to understand and that's the fact that addiction is very real and it can fuck you up very badly to an extent that you don't even care about anything at all. Some of the things I have heard addicts do is really not surprising anymore because I have even seen gamblers sell their own houses just to fill up that urge of gambling even without fully knowing the results of the repercussions that follows with their actions.

I'm used to saying this that gambling  addiction is hard to determine  by individual  gamblers, a gambler can get addicted without knowing  and  when he starts to realise that he's addicted it would probably be hard to curb at that time... as he/she will only be after recovering  the massive loss that has been incurred which might even bring more loses.
Gambling  Responsibly is just the word that clears it all (I'm trying to avoid repetition), once you set your target both positive and the opposite  and this target were breached pausing for retry, better luck, morelluck is always an option

[GreatArkansas]

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In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Jeez! This is a very common problem here in our country where most of the common problems and causes of quarrels of every partner are gambling-money related.

At first, I really didn't admire men like this, they do other things first before their families, it's a red flag!

For OP, I believe your brother really needs help now. Maybe he needs someone to talk with and you are fit, give him advice and enlighten him on what to do. Maybe he has also some personal problem but then again gambling is not the solution.

[uneng]

What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Your brother is a gambling addicted. He is out of control and can't manage his own money properly anymore. The biggest reason behind his conduct is hard to be guessed by random people on an internet forum where nobody knows with details the backgrounds and history of your brother and your family. There can be genetical reasons behind it, or it can be just the influence of the environment where he is inserted which endorsed him to act the way he is doing, or even a mix of both factors.

The point is that he needs to change his behavior immediately in order to not bring further prejudice for his family, especially wife and children. He has to stay away from gambling and seek for treatment. Since he can't take care his own money anymore, it's suggested his wage is paid directly to his wife, so she can manage the funds of the family until your brother pull himself together once again. Otherwise, I fear he is going to be left by everyone and remain alone in life, what would be really sad... So, act while it's still in time!

[Yamifoud]

This is just an example of so many things that will happen when we can't control our gambling addiction. It is sad to hear but an irresponsible gambler couldn't think and realize the welfare of other people (his family) and their future while still, they are in the stage of addiction.
It ruins everything...
 - family relationships
 - finance
 - reputation

The worst thing that and is already happened to some gamblers is killing themselves (suicide) and committing crimes.
This will simply illustrate to us how important is to deal with our gambling habit and not let our addiction take over.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Your narrative of perception, perspective to gambling is absolutely wrong, for example, you don't condemn cars and call them a fetal mistake and useless just because someone you know had an accident with a car and maybe lost his life in the process.

Gambling is fun, I mean, it is good, it is entertaining, and on top of it all, it can be a good source of unimaginable wealth.
But like every other thing, using the same car as an example now, reckless driving, over speeding causes accidents, and sometimes, the accident can be fetal where life's will be lost, it is exactly the same thing with gambling, gambling excessively and recklessly will you into dangerous and life threatening losses, and not just this, it can also lead to addiction to, as the gambler may want to chase after what he has lost to see how to win it back, only to discover after some time that their brains have gotten used to gambling.

Gambling is not mad, but how you Gamble is what can either be good or bad.

[Rockstarguy]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

At this point I think he is addicted because addiction can only be a reason for a full grown man to use all the salary to play gambling without thinking their are things to be done in the family with money. People like this can use any money that is meant for something that is very important to gamble or even borrow a huge sum of money to play gamble . If he hasn't realise that what he is doing is wrong their is nothing that can be done, it means he will keep up using is salary to gambling. This is not just a problem to him but also a serious problem to his entirely family because they will be affected with such a life.

Ignorance has put so many gamblers in this state thinking that income can be generated in gambling which they don't even bother of playing with all the money they have .

[AmoreJaz]

This is just an example of so many things that will happen when we can't control our gambling addiction. It is sad to hear but an irresponsible gambler couldn't think and realize the welfare of other people (his family) and their future while still, they are in the stage of addiction.
It ruins everything...
 - family relationships
 - finance
 - reputation

The worst thing that and is already happened to some gamblers is killing themselves (suicide) and committing crimes.
This will simply illustrate to us how important is to deal with our gambling habit and not let our addiction take over.

Though it is already old news when we talk about the bad impact of gambling addiction to anyone, and yet, many people are still going into this route. It may start as a simple side entertainment up until they go deep because they forgot what they are really after for in the first place.

This is why it is very important to have regular self-check to assess where you are standing at, not only in your gambling activities but in life as a whole. Because without this, it is so easy to go off route and follow your desires. Later on, you will regret what you have done to your life.

[tread93]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

Could have been pressure to gamble, maybe they got him drunk and he wasn't in his right mind. Maybe he had tremendous debt that could have had serious consequences in his life. I mean the possibilities are endless without actually knowing for fact. That is surely unfortunate and definitely time for this man to find a different profession. I can't imagine coming home to your family after being gone all day and all night, especially on pay day just to tell them we can't get any foods or basic necessities because I was completely irresponsible and gambled it all away. That type of condition especially if it is publicly known is very shameful to oneself.

[JMBitcointernational]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

The story is quite pathetic and sad, but it is very obvious that your elder brother is a chronic gambler and whose level of gambling addiction has grown beyond measures, and it takes only the Grace of God and constant sensitization before he can be free from such situation. Everything that has advantage so has some disadvantages, and that is why it has resulted him to domestic violence and he sincerely needs total abstinence before he will survive his addiction. i am also very sorry to tell you that your elder brother is part of those who have tarnished the image of gambling and have dented it to the point that people now see every gambler as worthless person. and if he can be able to finish his salary on gambling just for a day, it is very possible that he might grow to selling property just to satisfy his gambling life. lastly as a brother its left for you people to take appropriate measures to ensure that he reduces his level of addiction if not you people will wake up one day and find out that he has gambled with your family house and the case will close.

[taufik123]

Though it is already old news when we talk about the bad impact of gambling addiction to anyone, and yet, many people are still going into this route. It may start as a simple side entertainment up until they go deep because they forgot what they are really after for in the first place.

There will always be those who take this path with the same motive, as the story will be different.
Gambling would not actually be that bad if someone who got into gambling was aware and knew what their real goals were.

Many people just get into gambling with the initial intention of making more profits, but instead waste their money without any profit.
Sadly, they are too addicted, so there will be a lot of problems that occur due to uncontrolled gambling.

Choosing to gamble means knowing the consequences, knowing what not to do and knowing about the limits that should not be violated.
There are many professional gambling players who are indeed focused on playing, or those who only play for entertainment.
Playing with full control and not breaking boundaries certainly won't make fatal mistakes, but greedy human vices will destroy everything.

"If you have to play, decide three things at the beginning: The Rules of the Game, The Bets, and The Stop Time."

[memehunter]

Though it is already old news when we talk about the bad impact of gambling addiction to anyone, and yet, many people are still going into this route. It may start as a simple side entertainment up until they go deep because they forgot what they are really after for in the first place.

There will always be those who take this path with the same motive, as the story will be different.
Gambling would not actually be that bad if someone who got into gambling was aware and knew what their real goals were.

Many people just get into gambling with the initial intention of making more profits, but instead waste their money without any profit.
Sadly, they are too addicted, so there will be a lot of problems that occur due to uncontrolled gambling.

Choosing to gamble means knowing the consequences, knowing what not to do and knowing about the limits that should not be violated.
There are many professional gambling players who are indeed focused on playing, or those who only play for entertainment.
Playing with full control and not breaking boundaries certainly won't make fatal mistakes, but greedy human vices will destroy everything.

"If you have to play, decide three things at the beginning: The Rules of the Game, The Bets, and The Stop Time."

There's definitely some truth to the idea that informed gambling can be less risky. Planning and awareness are valuable tools for sure.  However, it's important not to downplay the addictive potential.  Even with the best intentions, chasing losses or letting wins fuel risky behavior can still happen.  Professional gamblers are a small group, and for most people, gambling is primarily entertainment.  Entertainment can be fun, but it's important to remember the house always has an edge.  The advice to set limits and stick to them is good for anyone considering gambling, but it's worth noting that even with those guardrails in place, gambling can still lead to problems.  So, while responsible gambling can exist, it's wise to approach it with caution and be aware of the potential downside.

[traderethereum]

That is a mistake if he used all of his salary to playing gambling, especially if he have family that waiting for him back to home. He already made a mistake and makes him and his wife involve in quearrels that can be bigger and changes into divorce if he doesn't solve it immediately.
Playing gambling is okay but if he had family, he must prioritize his family first and gives his salary to his wife and just asks for small money to playing gambling. If he can be honest to his wife, maybe his wife will gives some money to him to playing gambling so there will be no quarrels between them.
Your brother lose his money in gambling because he thinks that he can earn much money in a short time and when he lose some money, he can not accept it and just continue playing gambling. He hopes that he can wins in the next rounds but that will not always happens as he wants because gambling is not a place to make money.

[hyudien]

I'm used to saying this that gambling  addiction is hard to determine  by individual  gamblers, a gambler can get addicted without knowing  and  when he starts to realise that he's addicted it would probably be hard to curb at that time... as he/she will only be after recovering  the massive loss that has been incurred which might even bring more loses.
Gambling  Responsibly is just the word that clears it all (I'm trying to avoid repetition), once you set your target both positive and the opposite  and this target were breached pausing for retry, better luck, morelluck is always an option

with someone who is already addicted, of course it will be difficult to get rid of this habit, even by reducing it, it will probably be difficult, apart from that, it is true that when he is addicted to gambling, he will only continue gambling where he wants to recover the big losses that have occurred and of course This action will not improve the situation but will only make the situation worse because the more often he gambles, the more often he loses money, just as the more money he puts into gambling, the greater the risk. and it is clear that when they are addicted, it will not be easy for them to get out of it, because even if they have experienced defeat, what they do is go back to gambling, not stop and leave.
Responsible gambling may be able to prevent large losses from occurring. Apart from that, gambling responsibly can make us minimize the budget used in gambling, because someone who dares to put in a lot of money in just one gambling session means he doesn't have limits are set so that large losses cannot be avoided. If we gamble responsibly by limiting our gambling actions and activities, we will reduce the risk of major losses and maybe if we are lucky we can make a profit, even if it is small, and cannot cover all the losses that have occurred.

[adaseb]

It is indeed a sad story but you need to understand many people gamble, lose money, and they enjoy it because they get entertainment out of it. Instead of going to the movies, or smoking or doing drugs. They get pleasure by gambling because they find it fun like a video game.

The difference is that they set a limit and stick to it. Like your friend should of had a $100 limit and after he lost that , he should of walked away from the casino and went home. He is an addict and they need to stay away from gambling.

Most people in Vegas are not gambling addicts. They lose a little and go home.

[Popkon6]

Actually I have an elder brother in gambling, he basically works in a private company. Received May salary on June 04/06/2024, he did not come home after receiving salary. Three sons one daughter and his wife live in his house, and he gambled all night and entered the house on the next day 05/06/2024 today morning after losing all the salary money. After entering the house, his wife asked him to go to market, he replied, I don't have money, wife said, you got salary, what did you do with the salary money? 
In this way, quarrels between the two gradually arise and when it becomes known in the society, it is gradually known that he has played gambling. And he went somewhere far away from home after the fight till now there is no trace of him and he didn't try to contact him till now. So I shared this with you because of how dangerous gambling is in the eyes of families and society. What could be the biggest reason behind this person giving complete money loss?

This story is really scary because a gambling person is not always good for the family, the story can really make people wrong. Because he should never have run away with his son and daughter and wife, only such addicts can be used in a mad way. But I hope you ask them to be patient of course this situation will be right, but the next future is very sad for the boys and girls because from now on they will turn away from education if they are chased by scarcity. So every parent should teach their sons properly, but completely it is a sign of addiction because only if one is addicted, he/she will face high losses in gambling.

[synchronym]

You will have no problem if you can gamble with the amount of money that you can afford to lose. That is the problem some people do not know. Anything excessive in life is not good. If you eat food too much, it will affect you. If you drink too much it will affect you. If you abuse drug it will affect you. There should be moderation to everything that we are doing and so is gambling. If you know you can not control your addiction, seek help and do not gamble again

Basically we always need money to live our life. In no sense are we redundant. That we do not need that money, we will gamble with that money and lose that money by gambling is absolutely absurd. But gambling when a person plays fun tricks, he becomes so addicted to gambling at one time that even if he wants to, he cannot get out of gambling addiction. A family member with a gambling addiction knows very well how dangerous a gambling addiction can be to their family. A person who is addicted to gambling does not remember his family he does not fulfill his family responsibilities properly he always neglects his family he always becomes more addicted to his gambling. If a person with a gambling addiction doesn't have cash, he gambles until he makes a loan, at one point he becomes so in debt that he has no money left to repay his debt. There are also gambling addicts who once lived well. But due to this gambling addiction, he lost all his money and became exhausted. So this kind of gambling addiction is harmful to people so everyone should refrain from gambling addiction.