Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[Jchris50]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It is conditions that makes the parents to demand money from their children that are working. It is the parents duty to provide for the children but when the parents don't have any money and the children are working and receiving salaries monthly the children can assist their parents with the little help that they can offer.
Parents or guidance that mostly demands help from their children are the ones who's father are no longer with them.
Parents request help from their children is not bad but the parents should not force their children to do something that they can not do.

[Lanatsa]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It is conditions that makes the parents to demand money from their children that are working. It is the parents duty to provide for the children but when the parents don't have any money and the children are working and receiving salaries monthly the children can assist their parents with the little help that they can offer.
Parents or guidance that mostly demands help from their children are the ones who's father are no longer with them.
Parents request help from their children is not bad but the parents should not force their children to do something that they can not do.

As a parent then it would be that too much if you are really that having this kind of behavior on which trying out to demand some cash or funds from your children. Just like on what been said
that its not on their responsibility on paying up some bills or whatever it would be. As long it would really be that talking or speaking about responsibility then as a parent then it is really that
your thing and not theirs. If the time comes that they do have their own job then just wait for them to give out or offer that they would really be paying up some bills inside the house.
It would really be better to have something like this on which this isnt something stressful on your part as a parent but if you are really that trying out to obliged them then
it might really be giving out that negative impact or impressions towards things.

[South Park]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

It depends on the context in which this happens, if the family is in a good enough economic condition and their child is working to save enough money for college or another important expense like that, then I think it is a bad idea to force them to cooperate with the expenses, but if the family is going through a difficult time or the child is old enough to be living on their own already, I do not see anything wrong with asking them to cooperate and help the family with its expenses.

[peter0425]

Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

Of course. At some point, you ought to help out your family especially your parents. You don’t even have to wait for your parents to demand it. You should automatically just have that initiative to go and help especially if both your parents need it.

However though I would say the demanding of a specific amount can be too much. Parents should also consider if the kid is still starting out and how much they are earning before demanding. Working doesn’t mean they can already fend for themselves right away much less for the whole family.

[Alpha Marine]

I don't think it makes sense for parents to make it an obligation for working-class children to contribute to the rent. Obviously, our realities and societies are different, but it's the responsibility of the parent to take care of the child especially because the child is still a teenager or young adult. The kids can decide to join in on paying the rent if they want to, but I feel it should not be an obligation.
What I feel the child should be able to do is assist with groceries and other minor bills in the house. It won't make sense to live and eat in a house and contribute to nothing when you're earning a sizeable amount of income. 

The main reason a working-class youth will be at his/her parent's house and not move to their own is to reduce the expenses and that includes rent and bills like electricity etc, so what's the point of staying in your parent's house and still having to pay for those things as if you were living with a roommate.

[JeffBrad12]

Hmm, TBH living with your parents should not be a bad thing, you can stay with your parents even after marriage if you are able to fulfill the responsibilities off your parents and wife as well.

its not a bad thing but whenever there's a problem, things will be amplified, staying independent from your parent is always the way to go as to not labeled as a leecher.
let's be real here, society thinks of people who still highly dependent to parent as not a good thing, so striving for independence should be the way.

Technology is sucking most of the things, as we are in our comfort zone, my dad and my grandfather were the ones who struggled hard in there and they bore all the hardships and they were great people as I've heard this line "hard times make great people and great and great people make living comfortable, that comfort zone make lazy people and these lazy people make living hard. this the cycle of life".

Agree with this, consumerism rate is high people likes to spend instead of building wealth and technology incentivizes this behavior. Just see how people over social media always fawning over new smart phone release despite they absolutely don't need to replace their current smart phone, that's $2000 gone to the drain every year for nothing add this with daily consumption of fancy coffee and branded stuff which costs fortune as well. it's not a rocket science that newer generation can't save money.

[beerlover]

That means still in the assistance stage is not a reason to ask for rent and in my culture it is the same every child who has extra money will definitely help their parents but is never required to pay rent at the agreed price. When talking about a child who does not have a stable source of income then the parents will definitely help and that is a common thing, but a responsible child will definitely find a way to make money because they definitely have responsibilities especially if they are married.

Every culture may be different and that is a unique difference because we cannot possibly see the same culture between each other. In a simpler sense paying rent means having an obligation to pay and maybe parents give the burden to the child to pay it. If a child sees it not as a burden maybe it would be much better because they can help their parents. Because when we were little until we were adults, our parents have sacrificed a lot of themselves for us to grow up and be successful, so there is nothing wrong with wanting to give that, but it is unwise to call it paying rent to our parents.

The idea could be that you could ask for rent, and save that and help them when they move out? A friend of mine is basically doing something similar, not asking for rent obviously but putting aside some money for when they grow up, that's what made me realize this would work.

So you ask for rent, and maybe help with utilities as well, in return when they want to move out, all that money is in some savings account, or for our case you can even put it in bitcoin, or could be simple interest, in any case you pay them back what they paid and more, which helps them start their life. Do this since they are 15 to 25, ten years, and when they start life they would be very rich compared to their friends, so that could actually be a good thing.

[NotATether]

I would move out if this happened to me.

I think it's asinine, but only if the child pays for their own expenses. If the child is still using their parents as a piggy bank, then I think it's fair to be honest. But it's common for people to get out of a job, to no longer be able to afford rent etc. and be forced to move in with their parents, who may themselves be struggling financially.

[CageMabok]

It is conditions that makes the parents to demand money from their children that are working. It is the parents duty to provide for the children but when the parents don't have any money and the children are working and receiving salaries monthly the children can assist their parents with the little help that they can offer.
Parents or guidance that mostly demands help from their children are the ones who's father are no longer with them.
Parents request help from their children is not bad but the parents should not force their children to do something that they can not do.

In essence, children who are kind and have good morals will never let their parents feel difficult and hungry in any condition so that as long as the children still have the ability to give the best to their parents, they will continue to do so forever. I also do not judge that all children will be the same in such matters, but in general it must be so because only children with evil hearts will let their parents starve and not provide any help when they are able to do so without any obstacles. So this is not only about coercion from parents, but also about a child's awareness of his own parents.

[lizarder]

It’s an obligation to assist our parents in reaching their needs. Be it paying the bills, or cleaning the house, the key thing is—love. Quite well, all fingers are not equal, individuals are different, yet family bills shouldn’t be made solo. Division of labor boosts wealth and happiness in a home.

However, “it takes a village to raise a child” and most parents can’t put up with a nonchalant grown-up staying in their home, without paying a dime. So, to teach the child that he must own up for his carelessness, they’ll demand that he pays some fractions of the bills.

I agree and share the concept of helping parents because it is the duty of the child where we have been so well taken care of in childhood until adulthood that we grow up with varying success and almost all cultures adhere to this kind of thing. I think this method will not work to educate children even though their reason is because the child is lazy to work and they should teach the child to be responsible for themselves because in the end they will have a family.

Parental education will determine the child's attitude and I think without having to be told when children are educated well and correctly they will definitely have a view to help their parents. Therefore, it is necessary to teach children to be responsible for determining financial direction and they must be given an understanding to work so that they can live more independently and help their parents.

[Samlucky O]

It is ideal for a grown up man or lady staying with their parents to contribute effectively without waiting for their parent to demand rentage fee or any other family expenses/bills. According to the story a child working and he/she is recieving salary is no longer a child and for that reason should do justice to its parent by providing a supportive hand than allowing it's parent to force him/her to contribute. Although it depends on the kind of parents. If the parents are financially buoyant to carter for everyone without complain, then that child cand save money to extablish him/her self without sharing equal bill with its parent. But if the parent are struggling to survive then there is a serious need to contribute.

[passwordnow]

The main reason a working-class youth will be at his/her parent's house and not move to their own is to reduce the expenses and that includes rent and bills like electricity etc, so what's the point of staying in your parent's house and still having to pay for those things as if you were living with a roommate.

It is a lesson about life that not everything is there for you forever, so as the parents and the house, and that's why pay rent if you own no house. There are parents that like to teach their kids lesson by doing something like this and this is the definition of their "tough love". While some parents don't show this and their kids are always welcome to their house for as long as they want to stay without paying any rent. But as a grown up, we have to understand that utilities aren't for free unless your parents owns some solar panels that are set almost for life to have free electricity and you get water source for free too plus foods from the backyard, etc.

[m2017]

Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

Let's try to assess the situation.

The child has a source of income (work), but lives with his parents, thus creating additional expenses for the parents in the form of utility costs. From the point of view of fairness, I believe that there is nothing shameful in compensating the parents' expenses, thereby helping them. This is certainly better than spending the child's earned money on all sorts of nonsense and dubious entertainment. Many children in this way (earning for themselves, but continuing to live with their parents) begin to abuse their advantageous position. It is not surprising that some young people, like the girl in the article, begin to resent this.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life.

I think that these children (some) continue to live with their parents only because they don't want to pay rent for rented housing.

I know many cases where wealthy parents buy housing for their children (in my country this is a common occurrence), but for some reason these parents do not demand any compensation from the children for these expenses. In this case, such children should be indignant, because their parents prevented them "from to start a fresh journey in life". This is of course a joke, but for me it looks outrageous when children are indignant at the demands of their parents to compensate for part of the utilities and expenses (partly created by these children), and I think that they should voluntarily offer their parents help in sharing part of the family expenses.

[milewilda]

The main reason a working-class youth will be at his/her parent's house and not move to their own is to reduce the expenses and that includes rent and bills like electricity etc, so what's the point of staying in your parent's house and still having to pay for those things as if you were living with a roommate.

It is a lesson about life that not everything is there for you forever, so as the parents and the house, and that's why pay rent if you own no house. There are parents that like to teach their kids lesson by doing something like this and this is the definition of their "tough love". While some parents don't show this and their kids are always welcome to their house for as long as they want to stay without paying any rent. But as a grown up, we have to understand that utilities aren't for free unless your parents owns some solar panels that are set almost for life to have free electricity and you get water source for free too plus foods from the backyard, etc.

On the time for us those kids or childrens had been able to finish up everything specially on education or already gotten up some degree and landed up with some job then it would really be that understandable that
you should really be considering up on trying to look into your parents condition on which it would really be that a good gesture that you would really be trying out to help something at least with your parents.
Come to think that we cant be able to achieve things in life if its werent for them. So it would really be just that better or good that you do get at least some of those payments or bills on monthly basis
specially if you are already having your own job. Its not really an obligation but as an adult then it would really be that imposssible for you not to be able to tell on which one would really be a good action.

For us parents then it would really be that better that you should really be that not enforcing this kind of rule or whatever it would be in regarding into this kind of aspect.
If ever that your parents do make out some gesture then it would be better that you would really be that making yourself that to get those kind of obligations at least
ot ease up somehow on your parents monthly bills.

[Crypto Library]

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

I think it will be nothing outrageous if the parents are living in old ages and they don't earn much so I think that time before demanding the parent to pay the rent bills it was a duty of a responsible child to help their parent of his/her earnings.

I didn't read the whole article but if the parent have the ability to pay their rent and the bills then I think it is outrageous. And  rest other I think the story of this was every middle-class family that parent are giving their whole effort and life and the assets to study for their children's bright future. So children have also some duty to his/her parents after having the success from the point of view of the humanity

[Smartvirus]

Parenting could be such a difficult job when not done right. I think the parents didn’t raise their child good else, supporting the family if you can would have come easy. When the child gets to see the situation at hand, it’s not difficult for the child to show support to a struggling family.

The parents having to demand it seems a little bit out of place as, if the case where to be that, the child wasn’t doing great or working, the parents would have been very supportive as they’ve always been through the growth and developmental phases but, when your working and earning some good living, it becomes a duty unto you to support the family.

I think the parents having to summon courage and take this step is a way of telling the child, your not helping so much here, your not owning up to some responsibility and gratitude for the much that have been sacrificed for you. If the child actually thinks, am sure she would see reason. As an adult, you don’t get to leave with your parents no more, parents do look forward to that.

[Distinctin]

The child is working and living with his or her parent. Even without the parent demanding for anything, he or she needs to be useful. At least he can be paying for electricity bill or house rent. As long as he or she is working, he needs to contribute to everything that is going on in the family.

It’s already an initiative of the child to help her parents in whatever she’s able to. Most especially if she’s earning on her own, then the more that she should give financial assistance to her family, even without asking to.

Otherwise, she should live on her own and carry all the expenses to survive in life, she’ll be using up all her income to sustain her expenses if ever.

[Maslate]

Certainly it’s not. Parents should not demand rental amount to their children because it’s already the obligation of the children to pay for that or help their parents in other means. So it’s not ideal since they don’t have to do that anyway, let the children automatically be responsible for it.

However, there are actually some children who prioritize helping others than their own parents. And it’s actually a big mistake, that’s probably the reason why some parents resort into demanding some money because there’s no other way to.

[passwordnow]

The main reason a working-class youth will be at his/her parent's house and not move to their own is to reduce the expenses and that includes rent and bills like electricity etc, so what's the point of staying in your parent's house and still having to pay for those things as if you were living with a roommate.

It is a lesson about life that not everything is there for you forever, so as the parents and the house, and that's why pay rent if you own no house. There are parents that like to teach their kids lesson by doing something like this and this is the definition of their "tough love". While some parents don't show this and their kids are always welcome to their house for as long as they want to stay without paying any rent. But as a grown up, we have to understand that utilities aren't for free unless your parents owns some solar panels that are set almost for life to have free electricity and you get water source for free too plus foods from the backyard, etc.

On the time for us those kids or childrens had been able to finish up everything specially on education or already gotten up some degree and landed up with some job then it would really be that understandable that
you should really be considering up on trying to look into your parents condition on which it would really be that a good gesture that you would really be trying out to help something at least with your parents.
Come to think that we cant be able to achieve things in life if its werent for them. So it would really be just that better or good that you do get at least some of those payments or bills on monthly basis
specially if you are already having your own job. Its not really an obligation but as an adult then it would really be that imposssible for you not to be able to tell on which one would really be a good action.

For us parents then it would really be that better that you should really be that not enforcing this kind of rule or whatever it would be in regarding into this kind of aspect.
If ever that your parents do make out some gesture then it would be better that you would really be that making yourself that to get those kind of obligations at least
ot ease up somehow on your parents monthly bills.

Parents and kids that earn can understand everyone's struggle inside the house. But the kids shouldn't really be enforced to pay their rent if they can just spare it to them. You know that there's a deeper meaning of love and that cannot be explained by how much a kid can give to their parents. And parents do have a language of love that by just seeing their kids at home safe, that's more than enough than any rent that their kids pay.

While we have to teach our children how to deal with life and the reality about it that soon they'll be the one to face. We're there to guide them and I think both ends are right, those that have tough love on them and they ask their kids to pay the rent. And the other side about not asking them but happy to see their kids that are still into their house. So, everyone that's talking about the two or many reasons on the whys it's a good gesture and those that are saying that it's not, everyone's answer is very reasonable. At the end of it, all we gotta say is that we all love our children, we love our family but there could be some individuals that experiences not a tough love from their parents and kids but headaches.

[ultrloa]

The child is working and living with his or her parent. Even without the parent demanding for anything, he or she needs to be useful. At least he can be paying for electricity bill or house rent. As long as he or she is working, he needs to contribute to everything that is going on in the family.

It’s already an initiative of the child to help her parents in whatever she’s able to. Most especially if she’s earning on her own, then the more that she should give financial assistance to her family, even without asking to.

Otherwise, she should live on her own and carry all the expenses to survive in life, she’ll be using up all her income to sustain her expenses if ever.

Not an obligation but its good for children's to take initiative to give financial support to their parents since imagine how hard their life especially when they are old. Since in that stages they are not capable to earn money anymore that's why its good if we take this as obligation since for sure that more blessings will come to those people who love their parents.

I understand that there are other people feel bad about this statement since some people didn't grow up with their parents or they are been abandon when they are young with this cases I understand on why they don't feel like to give back to their parents since those cases is really questionable to the side of affected person.

That's why this topic is so controversial and people have different opinion regarding in this matter.