Is it Ideal for parents to demand rent from their child who stays with them?

[DrBeer]

My question stems from a 2023 article of a woman who charged her daughter $75 per month to add to their bills since she now works.

Generally, working-class children who stay with their parents do so to be able to save up enough money to start a fresh journey in life. Although it's still cheap to contribute to the bills like paying rent, buying groceries, etc compared to when they live outside their parent's house. But, young people like the girl in the article find it outrageous. Going through the article I saw responses from parents who admit they do the same thing. Do you think it's fine as a parent to demand bills such as rent from your working-class child because s/he stays in your house?

https://www.boredpanda.com/daughter-angry-mom-increases-contribution-to-bills/

N/B: this thread is not exactly what happened in the article above.

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

[8rch7]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

[Hispo]

I think it would depend on the context of each family and the culture they live in, I mean... There are cultures in which women are not even allowed to work outside of their household, cooking cleaning around and raising their children.
In the context of the west and liberal democracies, it is acceptable and even expected to see working adult children to contribute to the household budget, even if it is a minimum amount compared to the actual expenses related to rent, services, food and health.

At least here in Venezuela, adult children are supposed to give money to their parents, if they continue to live in the same family house and have not decided to move out.

[bakasabo]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

I think the problem is that child see parents as life-time sponsors.  Some children find it comfortable to continue living with parents, when they graduate from school and university. All those «I am still trying to find myself and havent decided who I want to be or where I want to work». It is so nice when food is always ready, it is clean at home, parents even give pocket money. If I had a child who is 25+, who isnt planning to find work, I would one day ask to pay for rent or to completely keep the house. I would not pay my child if he or she at such age clean my house. Paying for house labor works only with little children to show them that each work should be rewarded.

[Donk1]

The only one I experienced when I was a teenager was when I told my mom to help me save some money, and at the end of the day she doesn't give me back. Well it was fun though, because as a kid my parents where the taking care of me...​That said it's not actually bad to ask for money from your children even if it's for house rent and unfortunately it's not still good. Why Because they should be very aware that their children are trying to start their life and build their future, so doing that would indeed keep drawing them backwards. But the most painful part of it all is when you, as a parent do not know what the child is going through. All you know is that he or she  is earning money and then you tend to take advantage of it by always asking. Well to me that's lack of maturity.​Overall to me as a child who lives with their parents you can contribute little but only when it's an emergency or you just want to ,apart from that it's very wrong to bill your child staying with you that' all bro....

[letteredhub]

Base on my experience I agree with this because at least you can help each other if you tried to calculate the expenses if you will go outside the custody of your parents you will see it's more expensive than living with them at least you can make a saving if you will live with them but of course it has a cons and prons. If you are still dependent with them you will not grow on your self make a decision on your own, do on your own of course it seems you are being dependent because they will notice most of your activities but the expenses is less and you can make a savings until you can make to survive now at your own.

I could recall when I had my first job and was still living under my parents roof the difference when I moved out to be on my own totally being responsible to all my bills including rent was obvious on me. However, there were certain things I didn't have consider anymore as it were when I was living with them, things like trying hard to not keep late nights or coming back for my work very late from my official closing time. Because I have to be asked about what happened, and also couldn't bring myself to enjoying certain adulthood privacy. Though the expenses increased later on when I moved to stay on my own, but life outside them made me grow thick skin in terms of making certain choices subsequently.

[DrBeer]

If the child has no income, then the answer is “absolutely not!” If the child has no income, but the parents have decided that he or she should partially pay for living in the parents' home, then please also pay the child for, for example, his or her housework—cleaning the apartment, taking out the trash, walking the dog, washing dishes, and other work that the child can do.
If the child already earns money but lives with their parents, then it would be logical for the child, as a full member of the family who consumes services, to pay for them.

The parent responsibility for the children by giving them residence not matter has no income or not because the parent responsibility prepare all before planning to have children. Just simple residence enough depend the parent economic condition and pay education cost exactly until how parents' financial capabilities. If later the children has own income if come from good family the parent will not ask to pay resident cost and want to see his children get stable with financial.
For housework like cleaning, washing and other kids of house work I think for children need to do it to help their parent maybe lack time due over working every day. When I am still children around 12 to 15 years old spent my time helping my parent from cleaning the house, washing until helping them in the farm.

I have a slightly different view. Parents are responsible for their children, that's a fact. But parents are not their children's providers. Parents' job is to raise their children, educate them, help them in the early stages, and teach them to be independent! Otherwise, they will grow up to be dependent.
Regarding payment for housework, I mentioned it as an option in cases where parents “demand payment” from a child who has no job and/or income. In such cases, there should be some balance—if you demand payment before the child becomes independent, then give them the opportunity to earn money at home.