Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning

[hahay]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

But, gambling does not always target big wins because at least, over time they will have their own way to enjoy gambling. Indeed, at first they will  be very happy when they get the biggest win from whatever profit they get, and even though they will continue to gamble I think it  will not be a problem as long as they can control their emotions. But at least, it will be bad when they experience defeat andthen ask for a loan just to gamble, because it will make it very  bad when gambling with borrowed money like that. But the point is, as long as they have good control over themselves, then gambling  will remain safe.

[Vaskiy]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

Once people ran for food. Now the scenario has changed, and people aren't satisfied. Everyone needs more and more, and your friend isn't an exception. Initially he is in a dilemma about whether the bet will be won or not. By the time he promised to give a few percentage of the winnings, and once the bet is won, he himself felt greed and want to win more money. Gambling is risky, as it is kind of a cyclic process. Today the friend has won big, and tomorrow we don't know how things are going to change.

[Wakate]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

Once people ran for food. Now the scenario has changed, and people aren't satisfied. Everyone needs more and more, and your friend isn't an exception. Initially he is in a dilemma about whether the bet will be won or not. By the time he promised to give a few percentage of the winnings, and once the bet is won, he himself felt greed and want to win more money. Gambling is risky, as it is kind of a cyclic process. Today the friend has won big, and tomorrow we don't know how things are going to change.

I think you are very correct because the thing happens most time in gambling and almost to everybody. Gambling is not just true our luck, our mindset will change about gambling when we have started making good profits from it. Those that are not ready to fulfill their promises are doing so in greed and this would but be realized until the bet is won. Gambling promises could cause problem to different friendships because most time, we don't realize the degree or what promises we are making making until we see the final result. Some people will make promises before the bet is won and when the time to fulfill the pledge comes, they will disappear.

[Agbe]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

Lolz. Money is the root of all evil and money changes and rebuild and remodel someone's character. Money can destroy friendship and reunite them again. Money is the changer of character. And Op friend character was remodel with the gambling win and immediately he he forgot his friend. And after when he has finished spending them then he will remember that, he had a friend in the gambling hall. But what he did was bad but Op you have to move on. And one day your God giving us coming and you will hit more than what your friend win. Old soldier never dies. I believe you are still visiting the casinos one a month. Even as you said you are trying to forget gambling but old soldier never dies.

[Rockstarguy]

It's not just gambling alone; what you said is true. When someone is excited, they can make huge promises to anyone. In this life, we should just learn not to put interest in the promises of someone if not we will get disappointed. What you can do is not say a word to him about the money, just let everything be and be his friend as usual.

If your friend had lost in his bet. You will notice he would stick to you for you to show compassion for him. Funny enough money won in gambling does not last forever, he will spend it all someday and then come back to you.

That's human for you, sometimes we can say things because of excitement and later act as if we never made any promises. There is no need to even talk about because the money belongs to him and he will make decision whether to give or not. I know this might look difficult for those who expect so much in cases like this when someone close offer to give a share out from their money, but if they have the understanding of how humans can easily change I believe it won't be a matter that needs to bother one. It is better to just move on just as if he never won the money because had it been he didn't win the game you their won't be any expectation from him.

[Blowon]

It's best not to pay too much attention to him, because when he loses everything he will look for you, and that's the moment for you to advise your friend, forcing him to talk to him will only cause you heartache.

[Kasabus]

It's not just gambling alone; what you said is true. When someone is excited, they can make huge promises to anyone. In this life, we should just learn not to put interest in the promises of someone if not we will get disappointed. What you can do is not say a word to him about the money, just let everything be and be his friend as usual.

If your friend had lost in his bet. You will notice he would stick to you for you to show compassion for him. Funny enough money won in gambling does not last forever, he will spend it all someday and then come back to you.

That's human for you, sometimes we can say things because of excitement and later act as if we never made any promises. There is no need to even talk about because the money belongs to him and he will make decision whether to give or not. I know this might look difficult for those who expect so much in cases like this when someone close offer to give a share out from their money, but if they have the understanding of how humans can easily change I believe it won't be a matter that needs to bother one. It is better to just move on just as if he never won the money because had it been he didn't win the game you their won't be any expectation from him.

Right, the best thing you can do is to forget what he had promised and act like nothing happens. After all, it’s his money, whether he’ll stick to his promise or not, that’s his decision already. In the first place, you were not there for money, but as a friend to him.

[tusandii]

There is nothing you need to do to talk to him just keep quiet and see if he will keep his promise and it should go without saying, if he has the mind and considers you as his friend he will give what has been promised before.

From the way OP narrated his friends action I don't think his friend would even regard him even if he gives him sometime because if he was a man of integrity he would have done what he promised, perhaps in other way round I think the OP should even be grateful that it happen that way because from that event he has been able to no the true nature of the person he called a friend, however in most cases how all this things normally end is when his friend will lavish all the money he has won that's when he would remember he had a friend, so I actually like the OP response to him because on this case silence is the best.

Yes, it can be concluded that his friend forgot him when he was on top and remembered his friend again when he was down, yes, OP should be grateful because with this he no longer needs to respond to his friend in any situation, he also has to act indifferent to his friend so that his friend also realizes his mistake.
For me, friends play a very important role in my life if something happens, one day I will definitely need their help, so as much as possible not to break off friendship just because of money.

[tread93]

I have shared with the community before how I stopped gambling and am currently healing from that addiction. However, recently I had an interesting experience with a friend who was just getting started with sports betting (football). He placed small bets on several football matches, and to his excitement he won 10 out of 11 in a combined bet. He was excited and waiting the final match, knowing it would bring him a huge gain. I supported him telling him he would win and he even promised to give me 10% of his earnings if he won that combined bet with around @1400 odds in total.

The match ended with a win and we were both happy. Personally, I wasn't concerned about receiving any money from him as I was more focused on my recovery to not set a bet or deposit ever again. However, the next day my friend avoided me and didn't follow through on his promise even though I wouldn’t have minded if he didn’t.

What I took away from this experience is how the mentality of gamblers can change after a win. The thrill of success often leaves us wanting more and in this case it seemed like my friend was caught in that cycle, as I was feeling before too and he was unable to honor his word probably because he wanted to keep increasing his gains and bet more. It's a reminder that the brain is never truly satisfied when gambling, there's always the desire for more. I believe that friend deserves an advice, but I don’t want to embarrass him myself, is there a good way to talk to him without making him feel that Im indirectly asking him for the money he promised me?

First off, why did he agree to give you 10% of the earnings? Did you help him place any of his bets or was it because he just didn't want you to feel left out.? At the end of the day your very friendship might be riding on this $140 that you now feel entitled to because of his half promise and unwillingness to pay. He may regret agreeing to pay this money after having won, your best case is to go to him and congratulate him on his win and tell him to not worry about the money. If what you say is true and you are trying to get off of a gambling addiction then you should have no business getting into sports betting right now lest you want to get back in the same hole you just dug yourself out of.

[Apocollapse]

First off, why did he agree to give you 10% of the earnings? Did you help him place any of his bets or was it because he just didn't want you to feel left out.? At the end of the day your very friendship might be riding on this $140 that you now feel entitled to because of his half promise and unwillingness to pay. 

It's normal in male friendship, you don't have to help anything, but they will give promise if x then I will do y. Hence, we have heard so many women saying men only give promise, but zero action. This one is the example, @OP's friend promise to give 10% of the profit, but he didn't do it.

Yes, it can be concluded that his friend forgot him when he was on top and remembered his friend again when he was down, yes, OP should be grateful because with this he no longer needs to respond to his friend in any situation, he also has to act indifferent to his friend so that his friend also realizes his mistake.
For me, friends play a very important role in my life if something happens, one day I will definitely need their help, so as much as possible not to break off friendship just because of money.

The reality is high class people tend to not help low class people and low class people tend to help other people. If you care with "friendship" you're high unlikely be rich since you value friendship over money, rich people don't have friends, but they have colleagues, acquaintances, schoolmates, clients.

[fruktik]

I get upset when I lose money, even though I don't gamble everyday, sometimes I got pissed and abandon gambling for weeks and when the thirsty comes back I will try again, the difference is I need to miss gambling for me to feel like gambling, I am glad I don't gamble like my life depends on it, when winning comes you feel on top of the world easily and when losses comes you feel stupid, I guess these feelings are normal, we are human not some robot.

Your feelings are natural, like many of us. There is nothing surprising here. It is quite natural to feel joy when you win and disappointment when you lose money. Just like you, I now play only when I really need to, to get away from everyday worries. To escape into the world of excitement and adrenaline. You just can’t do without it. A person must have leisure time so as not to burn out mentally and physically.

[Popkon6]

It is true that gamblers change their mindset after winning in gambling, because they forget the past and later they have a desire to win more. If there is a role for giving money in gambling, then after winning, the gambler changes his mindset and later forgets to keep this promise. He fails to follow this incident in turn, but some gamblers do such a disrespect.
However, in my life, I lent money to a friend while gambling, later that gambler faced losses while gambling. Today, it has been more than two years and he has not paid me back, and since then I have not given him any more loans. The gambler forgets the promise he makes at the beginning while gambling, and later he does not keep it.

[Oluwa-btc]

The match ended with a win and we were both happy. Personally, I wasn't concerned about receiving any money from him as I was more focused on my recovery to not set a bet or deposit ever again. However, the next day my friend avoided me and didn't follow through on his promise even though I wouldn’t have minded if he didn’t.

There have always been this feeling of excitement especially to gamblers who have much fare in the odds of a game and at that moment they can promise anyone eternity having thoughts of winning the game and mostimes when they actually do so, they don't keep to their words, some might even be off for awhile till they have spend the while proceeds from the wins.

[mak013]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

I think that it is not about such situation. The OPs friend was near big win and said it being excited. The OP doesn`t ask him about any prize, but the winner is shamed with himselfs words and avoids the OP. Without emotions he understand that he mustn`t pay OP but nervious because it was his suggestion.
I think that they have to wait some time and forget this situation. After it they will become friends again.

[Adbitco]

What I took away from this experience is how the mentality of gamblers can change after a win. The thrill of success often leaves us wanting more and in this case it seemed like my friend was caught in that cycle, as I was feeling before too and he was unable to honor his word probably because he wanted to keep increasing his gains and bet more. It's a reminder that the brain is never truly satisfied when gambling, there's always the desire for more. I believe that friend deserves an advice, but I don’t want to embarrass him myself, is there a good way to talk to him without making him feel that Im indirectly asking him for the money he promised me?

Well I don't think you should use indirect way to talk to him rather he should know that you guys have already reach into agreement or into discussion that he would give you 10% knowing too well that you aren't the one who asked him for that amount from his total winning, but to me even as that if he is not willing to give you that money promised by him then I will suggest you should leave him alone because if you try to push further he would see you as a begger rather, he was the one who said to give you 10% so let it come from his mind to give the percent and if he refuses then you can leave him alone that is all.

[ethereumhunter]

It is true that gamblers change their mindset after winning in gambling, because they forget the past and later they have a desire to win more. If there is a role for giving money in gambling, then after winning, the gambler changes his mindset and later forgets to keep this promise. He fails to follow this incident in turn, but some gamblers do such a disrespect.
However, in my life, I lent money to a friend while gambling, later that gambler faced losses while gambling. Today, it has been more than two years and he has not paid me back, and since then I have not given him any more loans. The gambler forgets the promise he makes at the beginning while gambling, and later he does not keep it.

They think that now is the time for them to recover their losses so that makes them keep playing gambling without think that their winning is just temporary. No one will know if they can win in the next rounds but they can loss in anytime without taking too long. He can forget about his promise and not give the money to other as his promise because he thinks that he will make more money first and then he will gives that money. But then he loss his money in the next rounds which makes him can not gives the money.
No wonder if you have that experienced because I have the same experienced like you but I am not think too much because since he borrow my money, I decide to give that money without wanting to ask the money back. I know he will not come back to me especially if he have the money so I don't takes too serious about that.

[Roseline492]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

People are different, if the person did not fulfill his promise doesn't mean another person will not, don't you no that even most strangers who you barely no may not have the mind to eat your money if he had the chance?, I saw that from an Uber driver who carried a passenger that forgot his briefcase on his car and it was later the Uber driver realized that there was something at the back seat of his car and when he opened the briefcase it was a lot of money that could change his life completely but he never thought of taking advantage of the money so he had to go back to the address he dropped the passenger and return the money, so actually people are not completely wicked as it shows when it comes to money but is only when you have a wrong person you will have such experience.

[Bushdark]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

People are different, if the person did not fulfill his promise doesn't mean another person will not, don't you no that even most strangers who you barely no may not have the mind to eat your money if he had the chance?, I saw that from an Uber driver who carried a passenger that forgot his briefcase on his car and it was later the Uber driver realized that there was something at the back seat of his car and when he opened the briefcase it was a lot of money that could change his life completely but he never thought of taking advantage of the money so he had to go back to the address he dropped the passenger and return the money, so actually people are not completely wicked as it shows when it comes to money but is only when you have a wrong person you will have such experience.

I think you are right because it is not everybody that have the mindset of taking what does not belong to them. The same we are seeing m gambling, seeing people that can do anything even though it requires them to cheat so that they can win the actual bet. This also happens in real life when some gamblers would rather cheat so they they could win making other gamblers to look like they are fools. People are quite different and it's good we understand that making serious we don't treat everybody the same way just because we don't know them.

[dansus021]

Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning it always come from the small win and then after the taste of winning usually people can't stop and want to bet more and more.
From there sometimes people start to bet more till they hitting loses for the first times and some people are trying to chase the losses and ruin his life

So yeah you basically need to take control when you win or when you losses

[stomachgrowls]

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

People are different, if the person did not fulfill his promise doesn't mean another person will not, don't you no that even most strangers who you barely no may not have the mind to eat your money if he had the chance?, I saw that from an Uber driver who carried a passenger that forgot his briefcase on his car and it was later the Uber driver realized that there was something at the back seat of his car and when he opened the briefcase it was a lot of money that could change his life completely but he never thought of taking advantage of the money so he had to go back to the address he dropped the passenger and return the money, so actually people are not completely wicked as it shows when it comes to money but is only when you have a wrong person you will have such experience.

People are really indeed different on which there are ones who do really generalize that each person in the world does really want money and not really giving out some importance specially on friendships or simply with their relationship into other people. Just like into this kind of situation on which this is really that pertaining about some sudden promises about getting up some % of the winning just because of some emotional burst on the moment that they do play gambling on which this is really just that indeed normal. There are those people who are true into their words but majority will really be ending up on being liars just because they have just that said such thing because of such extreme joy. Just like on what everyone is really that telling that not all people who do make out some promises is something that you will really be that really meant it. It will really be changing up instantly because at the time that they've realize that the amount that they are promising is really just that too big, then they would really be that definitely be trying to hide into that person and wont really be tending to show themselves even into their closest friend and this is really just that very normal reaction by someone. For me if ever there will really be those kind of promises then i dont really take it seriously because when you are in extreme joy then you can say up things on which you might not mean it on the end on which this will really be causing up that possible conflict with other things.