Sex before marriage or after marriage, which one do you prefer?

[DYOR+BTC]

We should stop justifying immorality but, on my opinion, i would say that if couples have agreed to get married together then it is not wrong to have sex before marriage but if it's just for having sex without any commitment, it is wrong except for someone who is into prostitution and wants men to have sex with her and pay money. There's something people do not know, apart from some religion like Christianity where it is expected that couples get married before having carnal knowledge of themselves, sex naturally is sacred and it is meant to be enjoyed by two adults who come in agreement to live together as husband and wife.

Your personal view on this is perfectly understood, but that’s why views on this can be different since it is based on moral conviction, so others might see it differently depending on their own personal values, culture or beliefs. For some people, it’s about commitment and emotional connection, whether before or after marriage, while others prefer to wait because of their religion or principles. But generally what matters most is mutual respect, consent and responsibility between two adults. Everyone will see it differently and it’s important to respect those differences.

Be it emotional connection or otherwise, to me I see know reason why partners will not get down to make love before marriage,  even if not for any reason but just to know if they are sexually compatible because sexual incompatibility is the major reason behind most marriage failure. Partners especially women now have increased there body count and sexual sacrifactory level to a level where ordinarily it will be difficult to satisfy them and getting involved with such people when you cannot satisfy them may not work.

[Cryptoprincess101]

We should stop justifying immorality but, on my opinion, i would say that if couples have agreed to get married together then it is not wrong to have sex before marriage but if it's just for having sex without any commitment, it is wrong except for someone who is into prostitution and wants men to have sex with her and pay money. There's something people do not know, apart from some religion like Christianity where it is expected that couples get married before having carnal knowledge of themselves, sex naturally is sacred and it is meant to be enjoyed by two adults who come in agreement to live together as husband and wife.

Your personal view on this is perfectly understood, but that’s why views on this can be different since it is based on moral conviction, so others might see it differently depending on their own personal values, culture or beliefs. For some people, it’s about commitment and emotional connection, whether before or after marriage, while others prefer to wait because of their religion or principles. But generally what matters most is mutual respect, consent and responsibility between two adults. Everyone will see it differently and it’s important to respect those differences.

The reason why i said intending couples who are in love can have sex is so that they can know their compatibility in that aspect because i have seen some marriages where both couples didn't get sexually intimate while dating but when they got married, they discovered they weren't compatible in the sexual aspect as one has a higher libido while the other has low libido. I want to tell you that sexual dissatisfaction is also one of the major causes of divorce in marriages because when a partner sees that you aren't meeting their sexual needs, they will go and have extramarital affair outside which is often regarded as cheating. Whether culture or no culture, if two people are not planning to get married i don't see the need for them to have sexual intercourse. In a sane society, the bed is supposed to be undefiled till when they are ready for marriage but the idea of having sex outside marriage have encouraged some girls to go into prostitution and later on, they will get married as non-virgins.

[Nwadiche]

The ideal way to marriage is by going to the normal customs and rites required of both the man and the woman to do, but because of traditions, some customs will even encourage for the intending couples to have sex and get pregnant before the marriage ceremony, while a large number of other customs and traditions goes against such as, this now makes it a thing of personal decision for us all to make in case we want it or go against it depending on how convinced we have become.

Yes you're right, traditionas has made us not to perform marriage the way it's meant to be, if not the way things are right and things that are really happening we're meant to marry before sexy. In other hands traditions is still helpful to us because there people who got married without having sex, later they'll discover that one the couples have a health issues that may lead to not having child. Even there're still some churches that didn't permit such thing, they still believes on marriage before sex.

[Jasmyne]

Be it emotional connection or otherwise, to me I see know reason why partners will not get down to make love before marriage,  even if not for any reason but just to know if they are sexually compatible because sexual incompatibility is the major reason behind most marriage failure. Partners especially women now have increased there body count and sexual sacrifactory level to a level where ordinarily it will be difficult to satisfy them and getting involved with such people when you cannot satisfy them may not work.

Asides compatibility, the major reason people have sex before marriage is just to satisfy their urge. That urge is natural and once two people come together to have that kind of close relationship, the urge comes and not everyone can wait till after marriage to satisfy it.

[Franctoshi]

If we follow biblical instructions regarding this, those that believe in the scripture and words of God, sex is made for couples, husband, and wife precisely, or those that have married officially, but with what is happening today in our various societies, sex before marriage becomes important as it solves some challenges people face when they get into marriage, like observing or noticing that their partners cannot perform their bed duty as expected, and this has brought down so many marriages today and has led to cheating as well.

[BitBakerr1]

Be it emotional connection or otherwise, to me I see know reason why partners will not get down to make love before marriage,  even if not for any reason but just to know if they are sexually compatible because sexual incompatibility is the major reason behind most marriage failure. Partners especially women now have increased there body count and sexual sacrifactory level to a level where ordinarily it will be difficult to satisfy them and getting involved with such people when you cannot satisfy them may not work.

Asides compatibility, the major reason people have sex before marriage is just to satisfy their urge. That urge is natural and once two people come together to have that kind of close relationship, the urge comes and not everyone can wait till after marriage to satisfy it.

Yes, you are correct not everyone can hold themselves to wait till after marriage before they can have sex. Imagine someone you are always having conversation with, the person comes to your house and two of you stay together and talk so emotionally and deeply you must have this urge to have sex with a person no matter how discipline you are you may fall and then have sex with the person and when you do it ones, you would like to continue doing it this thing is in us and it is very difficult to control, It is something that is made to function the way it is functioning. I really don’t see anything wrong in having sex before marriage. A lot of people are divorced today because they are not sexually compatible so you need to know if your partner is compatible with you sexually.

[Mpamaegbu]

...but many are regretting what not sex before marriage,you have to know who you are getting married to,if she is good enough or not ,to avoid regrets tomorrow

Having sex with someone before marriage doesn't actually reveal their true self to you, apart from your sexual compatibility with them. Is that what you're referring to as "knowing them?" Well, marriage is more than sexual compatibility. It's about companionship. It's about respect, love and sacrifice.

I know of a few instances where lovebirds went at each other sexually and wouldn't allow themselves a break from sexual activities before marriage but that changed once they got married. Sexual denials and stuff crept in at the least excuses. What can be more frustrating than that?

[Aliciaworld]

If we follow biblical instructions regarding this, those that believe in the scripture and words of God, sex is made for couples, husband, and wife precisely, or those that have married officially, but with what is happening today in our various societies, sex before marriage becomes important as it solves some challenges people face when they get into marriage, like observing or noticing that their partners cannot perform their bed duty as expected, and this has brought down so many marriages today and has led to cheating as well.

yes, following biblical instructions and it's beneficial because dating does not always end in marriage so when you avoid premarital sex you avoid emotional trauma, STIs, unwanted pregnancies...the pains that might likely come with it especially when it didn't end in marriage. Sex before marriage might help in determining compatibility, functionality etc but its mostly based on lust, passion, desires and not love, it's selfish because love overlooks imperfections, defects and endures forever

[Judith87403]

If we follow biblical instructions regarding this, those that believe in the scripture and words of God, sex is made for couples, husband, and wife precisely, or those that have married officially, but with what is happening today in our various societies, sex before marriage becomes important as it solves some challenges people face when they get into marriage, like observing or noticing that their partners cannot perform their bed duty as expected, and this has brought down so many marriages today and has led to cheating as well.

Sexual compatibility shouldn’t even be an excuse to justify premarital sexual behavior, because the reason for marriage is to discover your flaws and work towards improving or adapting. Any marriage that fell apart simply because of sexual incompatibility surely doesn’t have its foundation solidified by understanding and love. If your partner cannot match your sexual appetite, or the other way round, then it means you’ve been exploring somewhere else and built your sexual appetite to an extent before you got married. So this shouldn’t be a problem for two people who are determined to abstain from sex until they’re married.

[Futurexxx]

Sexual compatibility shouldn’t even be an excuse to justify premarital sexual behavior, because the reason for marriage is to discover your flaws and work towards improving or adapting. Any marriage that fell apart simply because of sexual incompatibility surely doesn’t have its foundation solidified by understanding and love. If your partner cannot match your sexual appetite, or the other way round, then it means you’ve been exploring somewhere else and built your sexual appetite to an extent before you got married. So this shouldn’t be a problem for two people who are determined to abstain from sex until they’re married.

Do you know that sexual incompatibility has cause more divorce in this our modern era than anything else?
You are here talking about love, but I want to break the ugly truth to you that without proper intimacy between a married couple, they will easily quarrel over minor things that shouldn't have been a problem from the very beginning.
I have escorted my girlfriend to make her hair in a saloon in the past, and I heard a lot of things from other women how they are forced to go out and look for men that can satisfy their sexual urge because their husband is not into them sexually, and in most cases, he is a two minutes man. So it's very important that you marry someone that matches your sex drive so that you wouldn't have to look outside because you are sex starve, which is the main cause of cheating in marriage.

[Royal Cap]

Sexual compatibility shouldn’t even be an excuse to justify premarital sexual behavior, because the reason for marriage is to discover your flaws and work towards improving or adapting. Any marriage that fell apart simply because of sexual incompatibility surely doesn’t have its foundation solidified by understanding and love. If your partner cannot match your sexual appetite, or the other way round, then it means you’ve been exploring somewhere else and built your sexual appetite to an extent before you got married. So this shouldn’t be a problem for two people who are determined to abstain from sex until they’re married.

Another thing is that in marriage, it is important not only to adapt, but also to understand some basic things in advance, because if later it is seen that there is a major mismatch then it is not always easy to fix everything with just love, In the case of many couples, it is seen that they did not know anything before, and later small things become big problems. So it is not right to call it an excuse but it is better to see it as a real aspect. But yes understanding and respect above all is the key.

[Lida93]

We should stop justifying immorality but, on my opinion, i would say that if couples have agreed to get married together then it is not wrong to have sex before marriage but if it's just for having sex without any commitment, it is wrong except for someone who is into prostitution and wants men to have sex with her and pay money. There's something people do not know, apart from some religion like Christianity where it is expected that couples get married before having carnal knowledge of themselves, sex naturally is sacred and it is meant to be enjoyed by two adults who come in agreement to live together as husband and wife.

Your personal view on this is perfectly understood, but that’s why views on this can be different since it is based on moral conviction, so others might see it differently depending on their own personal values, culture or beliefs. For some people, it’s about commitment and emotional connection, whether before or after marriage, while others prefer to wait because of their religion or principles. But generally what matters most is mutual respect, consent and responsibility between two adults. Everyone will see it differently and it’s important to respect those differences.

From each person's perspective on this topic it's interesting to say that if we don't try to take it personal we would individually agree that whatever ones opinion is he or she is right, because the issue of sex before or after marriage is not something that people just decide about bitcoin their experience in real life makes them draw opinion on what they want.  Whether we want to talk about compatibility check, morality and religious reasons for our opinions it still stands on the basis of individual  experiences, none should be condemned.

[hostm]

Sexual activity with anyone other than one's spouse is a sin and is detrimental to one's health. It is no coincidence that there are so many sexually transmitted diseases—and it is impossible to protect oneself against them while engaging in promiscuous behavior.

However, people today have become so morally depraved that they are no longer satisfied by sex within marriage; consequently, the current trends include pornography, bestiality, sex with minors, and various other perversions—all of which are unequivocally harmful to one's health.

[BADecker]

Sexual activity with anyone other than one's spouse is a sin and is detrimental to one's health. It is no coincidence that there are so many sexually transmitted diseases—and it is impossible to protect oneself against them while engaging in promiscuous behavior.

However, people today have become so morally depraved that they are no longer satisfied by sex within marriage; consequently, the current trends include pornography, bestiality, sex with minors, and various other perversions—all of which are unequivocally harmful to one's health.

And further.

Isaiah and Jeremiah in the Bible Old Testament document how God turned his sinful Ancient Israel over to the heathen Babylonian nation for correction.

Much of Western Europe and the USA were very Christian decades ago. But is God going to let heathen China and Russia conquer the West, just to straighten His people out?

[Mr Reporter]

If we follow biblical instructions regarding this, those that believe in the scripture and words of God, sex is made for couples, husband, and wife precisely, or those that have married officially, but with what is happening today in our various societies, sex before marriage becomes important as it solves some challenges people face when they get into marriage, like observing or noticing that their partners cannot perform their bed duty as expected, and this has brought down so many marriages today and has led to cheating as well.

This is the big question who follows the biblical way now? People don’t even like hearing the truth that just the problem in the world…well every word you said about the biblical teachings are very correct but people are trying to misunderstand what the teachings of the bible says..today people have sex after marriage and also still f**ed them self when there are not married…well in some cultures it very important to have sex before getting married and most people feel it the best thing to do at the time…

[GiftedMAN]

This is the big question who follows the biblical way now? People don’t even like hearing the truth that just the problem in the world…well every word you said about the biblical teachings are very correct but people are trying to misunderstand what the teachings of the bible says..today people have sex after marriage and also still f**ed them self when there are not married…well in some cultures it very important to have sex before getting married and most people feel it the best thing to do at the time…

I know a lot of people who still believe that it's important for them not to make out with their wives until they are married but also some men have realized that if they do but have sex with their partners it's impossible to get married to them because you don't know if the person is sexually active or not and if you make that mistake of not finding out  then your home will be broken after marriage.
The Bible is real but I support the idea of knowing whom you want to get married to and know if you guys will be a good combination when you get married.

[BADecker]

Having sex is marriage. I mean, how much more can two people get together than by creating a new person who is half of each of you? Marriage, a coming together, a very close 'miraculous' coming together.

[hostm]

This is the big question who follows the biblical way now? People don’t even like hearing the truth that just the problem in the world…well every word you said about the biblical teachings are very correct but people are trying to misunderstand what the teachings of the bible says..today people have sex after marriage and also still f**ed them self when there are not married…well in some cultures it very important to have sex before getting married and most people feel it the best thing to do at the time…

I know a lot of people who still believe that it's important for them not to make out with their wives until they are married but also some men have realized that if they do but have sex with their partners it's impossible to get married to them because you don't know if the person is sexually active or not and if you make that mistake of not finding out  then your home will be broken after marriage.
The Bible is real but I support the idea of knowing whom you want to get married to and know if you guys will be a good combination when you get married.

Spiritual people can understand if they marry a right person or not. I knew a Christian who'd been fasting and praying for a week before he proposed to the girl. Now they have 5 children. So everything is right in their sexual life.

But most people nowadays are carnal, not spiritual. Therefore, they have to sin in order to figure out whether or not a partner is suitable.

[passwordnow]

Spiritual people can understand if they marry a right person or not. I knew a Christian who'd been fasting and praying for a week before he proposed to the girl. Now they have 5 children. So everything is right in their sexual life.

I've got friends who told me their stories just as that. They've prayed for their right one and even fasted as well because that's the spiritual advice to them by their faith leader. And the result is even more amazing that they've got it right and they're with each other together, happily married although behind the ones for sure that there are quarrels too.

But most people nowadays are carnal, not spiritual. Therefore, they have to sin in order to figure out whether or not a partner is suitable.

That's because the society has shown that this is a normal thing now and it's no longer sacred.

[Somto9Light]

Spiritual people can understand if they marry a right person or not. I knew a Christian who'd been fasting and praying for a week before he proposed to the girl. Now they have 5 children. So everything is right in their sexual life.

But most people nowadays are carnal, not spiritual. Therefore, they have to sin in order to figure out whether or not a partner is suitable.

Whoever told you that by fasting and prayer, you will eventually land yourself a happily ever after partner that will always keep giving your peace, then I'm sorry you must be mistaken, because even with the fasting and prayers, you still can't find that perfect partner because no one is really perfect. But you can get a partner who understands you and is willing to make compromises just for you, and if you are equally such a person, then you both can indeed form a strong alliance.