The economy of having children

[Nasdel4]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

Proper planning rather than false expectations could help avert certain hardships people face. It's true that having children could add to your financial struggles but I won't say that it entirely does in all situations.
The challenges come in when you have children without properly planning how to take care of them enough to make a life on their own then expecting them to be the solution to your financial problems.
Raising children comes with a lot of responsibilities which includes feeding, clothing, basic education and healthcare. All these I have mentioned comes at a cost and with the rate of inflation you'd need to rethink before having so many children except you're so irresponsible that you don't care how they are being raise which leads to several other situations.
You need to understand that it's okay that you don't have all the money in the world but financial circumstances could change for better but you need to have a plan in everything including the kids you're having.

[Grace333]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them.

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

Having kids doesn't lead to financially bankruptcy if you already had your life planned out, the people that get affected by this are those that give birth to kids without building their financial life or having any source of income, a lot of people just have misplaced priorities .

[CryptoBuds]

You're right @CryptoBuds. If we follow that ideology, majority won’t have children tbh, even some of us won’t be here today. Even though I understand the point @LUCKMCFLY made and I kind of agree with him to some extent, just that he went too far saying poor people don’t deserve to have children, because obviously that is the interpretation. If he had said poor people should consider their financial situation when deciding how many children to have, then I would have fully agreed with him.

We all know that majority of billionaires and great men around the world today came from poor background. Just imagine if their parents did not bring them into this world because of fear of not being able to take care of them. Poor people deserve to happy and have kids like other rich folks, just that they should control number of children they have so they’re able to take care of them according to their earnings.

Tbh I get what he's saying. And I don't fully disagree with him. But he did go too far suggesting poor shouldn't have kid.

Think about it. If we say you need to have a lot of money or even be rich, before having kid. When are we ever supposed to have them? What's to say we will actually hit our goal in next few year? And even if we do, will we finally decide to have kid, or just keep chasing next goal because we want to make even more money?

Do not wait until everything  is perfect to  start family. If we keep waiting like that, we might never have any. Of course, that doesn't mean everyone should have  kid regardless of their circumstances. But being poor, in itself, doesn't mean someone shouldn't become a parent . Its unfair to say  someone does not deserve to have kid just because they're poor.

[Halifat]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

Having kids is a good thing and also a blessing, but I think it's wring to have kids without having plans on how to take care of them till they become an adult to take care if themselves. I think the right thing for anyone to do is to make plans for their kids before thinking of having kids. Taking care of kids in this economy is very expensive,  so it's not something you just jump into, it's something you have to make plans for and also prepare for them. I think it's unfair to bring kids to the world  without having plans on how to take care of them.

This is very important for us to have plans on what to do with our lives, because having kids is not something that we just think one day, it is a responsibility that you are about to carry and that is why it is better we have that plan on ground. Some people may be thinking that everything is being handled by God Almighty, yes but they are little things which have to come from our own effort before we will be able to achieve our aims of having kids. Having kids is a blessing but for us to see that blessing is that we have to take care of their responsibilities which is our Duty. Before everyone have kids definitely they might have that plan, we know it is not easy to take care of our kids but if you have a very good plan it become easier because you will never go out of line.

[Joeboy]

This is very important for us to have plans on what to do with our lives, because having kids is not something that we just think one day, it is a responsibility that you are about to carry and that is why it is better we have that plan on ground. Some people may be thinking that everything is being handled by God Almighty, yes but they are little things which have to come from our own effort before we will be able to achieve our aims of having kids. Having kids is a blessing but for us to see that blessing is that we have to take care of their responsibilities which is our Duty. Before everyone have kids definitely they might have that plan, we know it is not easy to take care of our kids but if you have a very good plan it become easier because you will never go out of line.

Tbh, if having kids requires a good and solid plan as well as you having everything all figured out, then am sure that many of us here wouldn't have been born...Most reputable members of this forum, influential figures as well as inventor's we look up to today are also products of average/poor families, whose family even had a hard times catering for their responsibilities...But if their parent waited till everything was alright then most of their inventions and contributions that the world is enjoying today wouldnt have even been a reality..The world will always try so hard to maintain a balance, and so not everyone will still get rich. Some will still remain poor so others can be rich, and if anyone of us tend to find ourselves amongst the poor/or average folks that are finding it difficult to take care of ourselves, then that doesn't mean that we aren't qualified to get married and have our own kids...

[Achalugo BTC]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

[Stormisover]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

Growing up and knowing how poor your family has been or is can be frustrating no doubt, but that is still not enough reason why anyone  should kill their own parents, what you will do instead is to work very hard as much as you can so that you will become abetter parent than yours in the future, because killing your own parents as a result of them not to have taken good of you is not morally justified. Every parent have the responsibility of taking care of their children, of course there is supposed to be plans on ground because you brought them in to this world.

[HyperCodexV]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

Some of these parents who have a large number of children lack proper family planning training, they give birth to children they can afford to take care of in every angle, both emotionally and financially. Some of them don't have people to guide them about the real cost of raising a child in the first place. Some couples just repeat what they saw their parents did or some is based on religious beliefs. So probably the best way is to have an early education, teach the younger ones early enough the cost of raising a child way before they attain adulthood.

[leonair]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

Growing up and knowing how poor your family has been or is can be frustrating no doubt, but that is still not enough reason why anyone  should kill their own parents, what you will do instead is to work very hard as much as you can so that you will become abetter parent than yours in the future, because killing your own parents as a result of them not to have taken good of you is not morally justified. Every parent have the responsibility of taking care of their children, of course there is supposed to be plans on ground because you brought them in to this world.

When parents can provide financial support to their children, the child can do something good very quickly. There are also those who receive large amounts of financial support through inheritance, they do not work hard, due to which they are destroyed very quickly. Yes, it is true that the responsibility of parents is to show the child the right path and help the child establish and build a good career. But if a parent fails to do that, then it is not a solution if the child kills the parents. The maximum of those who have become wealthy in the world are hard-working people who have come from poor families. And when someone can become successful from a poor family without getting financial support from their parents, that is real success and he has the right to tell everyone about his success.

There is a proverb in the name of Bill Gates that is "If you are born poor, it’s not your mistake. But if you die poor, it’s your mistake" You can blame your parents for being born poor, but if you can't establish yourself through hard work and die rich, it's entirely your own fault.

[Iamgoat]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

It’s my problem with many parents especially in the north who have the mind of bringing children to the world and not being able or having th plans to take care of them. It is just a pure avoidable wickedness from the side of the parents., why will you bring an innocent child into the earth unplanned when you know your financial situation is not even stable yet. This is what eventually leads to the almajiri situation we’re living with till today. A lot of households today are regretting why they had to bring as much children, some even see their children as burdens and have to take them off to the care of parents others just to have a space to breathe and that’s how we got many house workers over here

[Youngrebel]

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

Being financially capable before being kids into this life is a very important factor to consider because raising children in not just about providing food and shelter there is more to that, and correcting what you said poverty does not make children turn against their parents, as you mentioned but I think the kind of environment they end up in also play important roles because they are so many poor children today living happily with their parents but the kind of environment and influence they involve them self in can change their mindset.

[Berry2d]

This mentality is the reason why a lot of people are struggling in the world today, their parents gave birth to them with zero plans and had nothing secure for them with the hopes of them helping them financially when they grow up but if they could not do that for their parents how on earth do they expect it from their kids, it is actually a poor mentality to have.

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

The idea of having children above once financial capability is a mistake all most try to avoid, to an extent i think many do make mistake and believe because children are blessing from God they can have as they like. I must say such mentality needs to be put to stop because its of no use having children we cannot raise.

That of those taking the life of there parents because of quest for financial stability and their parents financial handicap is never meant to be, despite such hardship i don't think there is a reason worth taking the life of any to escape poverty and any found on such art deserves to be published

[Iroh]

Perhaps many of us were born into circumstances where we didn't receive everything we needed. So, as adults who have already gone through a series of things, are we going to pass those deficiencies on to our children just so the world doesn't stop growing? No, we must be responsible. Responsible parents are what we have the least of in this world.

Any responsible parent would definitely want what's best for their kids and also for them to have a better, higher standard of living later on. That said, I also think it's irresponsible and quite selfish for one to bring a child into this world without the means to adequately take care of the child. Having struggled and gone through sorrow and losses as a child due to lack of money, it is crazy to want to bear a child and then, now having little to no choice, go on to put it through all the same shit you endured yourself growing up.
It's only common sense to plan accordingly before having a kid. The ability to safeguard and provide the needs of your child is what truly makes you a parent in my eyes and not just the ability to create one.

[Silikiem]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

Having kids is a good thing and also a blessing, but I think it's wring to have kids without having plans on how to take care of them till they become an adult to take care if themselves. I think the right thing for anyone to do is to make plans for their kids before thinking of having kids. Taking care of kids in this economy is very expensive,  so it's not something you just jump into, it's something you have to make plans for and also prepare for them. I think it's unfair to bring kids to the world  without having plans on how to take care of them.

This is very important for us to have plans on what to do with our lives, because having kids is not something that we just think one day, it is a responsibility that you are about to carry and that is why it is better we have that plan on ground. Some people may be thinking that everything is being handled by God Almighty, yes but they are little things which have to come from our own effort before we will be able to achieve our aims of having kids. Having kids is a blessing but for us to see that blessing is that we have to take care of their responsibilities which is our Duty. Before everyone have kids definitely they might have that plan, we know it is not easy to take care of our kids but if you have a very good plan it become easier because you will never go out of line.

Having kids are blessing but some people mistake that blessing just to be giving birth alone forgetting that the blessing being talked about isn’t just giving birth but enjoying the fruits of their labor in the long run. Now, how do you enjoy the fruits of your labour is simply for those kids to grow up and become helpful to you in old age. For those kids to grow up and become such a helping hands then they need to be giving the necessary training from their parents that will help them grow in the right environment and direction which will help them to become successful tomorrow. Although there’s no guarantee your kids will grew up tomorrow and become a helping hands to you no matter the level of parental training and support given to them as parents because this days, most children are naturally stubborn despite efforts from their parents to secure a better future for them they still grew up becoming useless. For me, I think while we are striving to give our kids a better parenting we should also pray they grew up being good naturally because I’ve seen kids who have no better parenting growing up and become successful tomorrow and still extend helping hands to their parents.

[Taricoins]

In Africa people use the phrase "kids are a blessing" wrongly or should I say that they are reading the wrong meaning to it. Kids are a blessing doesn't mean when you are financially bankrupt kids are going to bring a blessing to you mysteriously, giving birth to a child when you are financially incapable has to be one of the most stupid thing that anyone can ever do.

The economy is terrible and it takes a lot of hard work or something that keeps money consistently coming to cope with it, having kids with no income or plans even makes you irresponsible and also wicked as well.

Facts, it's a big misconception that will hunt Africa until they actually get it right, likewise the idea that children are investment for when parents get old, that's a poor reason to give birth to children as they are your responsibility not an investment, that's why some parents starts crashing out when their kids don't make it huge and spoil them whilst they should have been the ones to prepare for their old age

[YellowSwap]

In my country, it is pretty common for parents to have kids then think that their kids are their hope. That is because they get kids without being financially ready for it yet and then they just eventually hope that when their kids grow up they will be the ones to build wealth for them. But is having kids the reason why people end up financially worse over the years? Do not get me wrong, kids are a blessing but realistically speaking they are expensive. Is it fair to yourselves and to the kids to have kids just to leave it up to them to be wealthy and let them grow up through hardships?

There is one hidden truth in all this, the truth is you won't be able to take high risks once you have children, every risks will be minimal to not taking risks at all because you have responsibility.

This alone is a good reason why people needs to be financially boyant before they bring children into this world, the set of people I hate helping the most are those who have 4 children and are begging for  help to feed them.

What were they looking at bringing four kids into the world when they can't provide for them? Some of these people even have the gut to feel entitled with the begging, as if it's their right, they never see anything wrong about what they doing.

[Cityhunter34]

Exactly, this kind of mentality is what leads some children to kill their parents, because of the frustration of being poor. That is why I always advise people to have children based on their financial capacity, so that they don't bring children into the world to make them suffer, but having children they can cater for and raise them to be independent, responsible and content. This is the healthiest way to have children and maintain their peace of mind without having to battle with the pressure of constantly struggling to achieve financial stability.

One man in my area have this low mentality that since he doesn't have money, he can give birth to as many children as he wants. You can imagine how people reason. They don't care about their financial status; they only care about having many children. It is absolutely not a good idea at all, because children are meant to enjoy, not to surfer from scratch. Even though most of them usually change at times, let it be that we give them the best we can and leave the rest to God.

[Uhwuchukwu53]

Children has never been a bad thing to every economy there is what seem to be moderation, human being has different view or perception over the things around them, naturally for procreation,one or individual who is not able to do financially having one child would have been a moderate for such but going beyond what he know is not capable is where one begin to ask if such person is mentally ok, to see children as sources of income or wealth when foundation is not laid is the funniest things mistake worse than ponzi scheme people take as risk, in our society today those mistake or given trials has course many unrest of poverty and suffering of many even the purpose of those parents is not achievable as those children struggle to survive the economy, helping them as parents where them need help is difficult, in my opinion it's individual decision and wrong perception.

[bakasabo]

Any responsible parent would definitely want what's best for their kids and also for them to have a better, higher standard of living later on. That said, I also think it's irresponsible and quite selfish for one to bring a child into this world without the means to adequately take care of the child.

How would you determine what is «best for kids, better and higher standard of living»? Because everyone have their own vision of that and calculations. Some parents do this: they wish only the best and start calculating. Cost of best and most comfortable stroller + cost of best diapers + cost of best doctors/health (I put here all the massage therapists + swimming pools + physiotherapist +others). Sum-up and get shocked, because that is the cost of the first year only. Then they add best private elementary school. Add expenses on clothes. And end with the amount that is far above what they earn per month. Then they drop idea of having children because that becomes too expensive. It is very hard to find balance between what you want to give your child, if the cost of that should really be that high and if child really needs that.

[Achalugo BTC]

One man in my area have this low mentality that since he doesn't have money, he can give birth to as many children as he wants. You can imagine how people reason. They don't care about their financial status; they only care about having many children. It is absolutely not a good idea at all, because children are meant to enjoy, not to surfer from scratch. Even though most of them usually change at times, let it be that we give them the best we can and leave the rest to God.

Exactly, one can't bring children to world and let them to suffer from the very beginning. For me, that's wickedness, which shows that one doesn't love them enough, and when some of their children grow up, they will end up resenting their parents, because as they are growing up, they will have certain experiences that will will affect them so badly. So for the sake of their mental well-being and future, since they don't know what their future holds, it is wise for one to have children based on their capacity, as their children may grow disappointed in them because of the hardships they experienced.