Father becomes a Gambling addict and daughter faces father's consequences.

[Wiwo]

I would definitely tell the daughter immediately, because gambling addiction is a disease that not only affects the family of the sick person, it also affects the sick person and the neighbors. When he runs out of all his daughter's money, he will start stealing money from everyone who lives near his house, this includes stealing from you, so it's better to tell him early so that he can be admitted to a rehab clinic early. Don't be afraid that he will hate you, the most important thing is that you will have saved his life, a person's life is priceless.

Very bad experience, i know a guy that got addicted to taking ice, Ice os a hard drug known in my country, inthinknthis drug is what is called crack in the US, very addictive and dangerous drug, when he first started taking that drug, he hard a job, along the line he lost the job due to his inability to perform well and organized at work, after he lost his job, he started taking money from his girlfriend, until the girl had to leave him, and there after he is now stealing in the area, recently securities operatives apprehended him with a stolen car, so he is now in prison every rest now.

[Gozie51]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem?

I think you have to look at the relationship you have with the family because that will show to them if you don't actually mean to take advantage to destroy their family. So if you are close to them, you can subtly reveal it in the presence of the father so that it doesn't look like gossip. But, that should be after you have spoken to the father in private. Yes, I think you have to speak to him for some time with the warning that you will tell the daughter what is happening then you watch if he will change from the addiction.

So you don't have to go straight and tell the daughter without cautioning the father first and see if there will be changes.

[michellee]

It is good to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad's constant demand for money so she can stop that and advice her father. She is innocent and doesn't know anything about her father's habits so she doesn't deserve to give the money to her father. I wonder what she will do after knowing that her father used the money to gamble. She will be sad and regret that she gave him the money to gamble and that means she funds her father to do a wrong thing.

You can ask her to talk privately with you so you can inform her slowly. Maybe she will difficult to accept but that is the fact and you can tell her that you don't want to see her go bankrupt because of helping her father.

[bettercrypto]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Sorry, but that’s a family problem, dude — you’re not involved in that issue. If you see something wrong, I think if you’re a close friend of the girl’s father, maybe you can give him a reminder. But if you try to tell his daughter directly, it might just come across as you being meddlesome.

Maybe it’s okay to remind the father if you’re really close friends, but if not, it’s better to just let the father and daughter resolve their own issues.
I understand that your intentions are good, but getting involved in another family’s problems is something that isn’t really right.

[purple_sparkles]

It is good to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad's constant demand for money so she can stop that and advice her father. She is innocent and doesn't know anything about her father's habits so she doesn't deserve to give the money to her father. I wonder what she will do after knowing that her father used the money to gamble. She will be sad and regret that she gave him the money to gamble and that means she funds her father to do a wrong thing.

You can ask her to talk privately with you so you can inform her slowly. Maybe she will difficult to accept but that is the fact and you can tell her that you don't want to see her go bankrupt because of helping her father.

When loved reletives become gambling addicts, it’s very painful to find out. I know this from my own experience. But it’s better to discover such things as early as possible. First of all, the amount of money lost will be smaller, which could make the situation easier to resolve. I wish I had known about it right away, because I gave a large sum of money to someone close to me, not realizing at first that it was for gambling. Now we’ve stopped communicating because of the deceit and the inability to return the money, which led to conflicts. Perhaps if I had understood from the beginning where the money was going, I wouldn’t have given so much, and our relationship could have been preserved.

[BitGoba]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Thank you for sharing this story its really a sad and difficult situation. I believe its very important for the daughter to know the truth about her father. She is unknowingly sacrificing herself and her belongings to help him, which could harm her deeply in the long run.

Of course, the truth should be shared with care and understanding because it can be painful, but she deserves to know what is really going on. Knowing the real problem might help her find the right kind of support, both for herself and possibly for her father.

I agree that staying silent and watching the daughter suffer is not a good option. My advice would be to gently and kindly help her see the reality, and then support her in seeking professional help if needed.

[Z390]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Help in a stylish way without really helping, the daughter will end up having nothing if something isn't been done about it, if i am in your shoe I would leak the secret to the daughter without getting involved.
One of the ways to do this is asking someone to write a letter for you and talk about everything in the letter and ask a kid or a child to deliver the letter to the daughter or find a privacy way of communicating with the daughter, maybe a anonymous chatting app or a separate phone number.
The daughter needs to know and this is the only way she can really help her father, this is a battle of addiction not a battle of a broke father, she can't fixed what she don't know..

[Hewlet]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble.

Maybe not gambling but I've lived around people that are addicted to substance and because of that, the family suffered greatly. When the children eventually knows that the parents or father spends all his money to gamble, they usually make him submit a larger portion of his salary to them once he receives his pay which is a way to help him come out from his gambling excesses.

As a father, we should know better that we are not just responsible for ourselves once we are married but also responsible for our families.  Any father that gets himself addicted such that it affects the overall wellbeing of  his family should be out in his place till he comes back to his senses.

[@nn@_pen9]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Even though this is someone else's problem, basically we as humans have a heart or pity for what the addict's daughter, namely her own father, is experiencing. Situations like this are highly sensitive and complex and require a cautious approach. Talking to someone about complex family issues, especially those involving addiction and finances, should be done with consideration for their feelings and emotional state. The goal is to help, not cause further conflict or pain.

[Cointxz]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

If you find the situation very alarming I think there’s no harm on giving warning to affected people on this case the girl that is paying the consequences for his dad actions.

Sometimes people that has addiction just need someone to stop them in able to think straight. You can always tell this to the girl on discreet way so that you will not be public involved between them.

[giammangiato]

You could do something wise without compromising yourself: send an anonymous letter informing her of what's happening to her father, explaining that you're not coming forward so as not to be intrusive.
You'll feel better about your conscience, and it could also be the girl's chance of salvation. I would do it that way.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

If you are really so close with the lady, you can tell her because you can already predict how she is going to react  but if you are not, it's better not to tell the person so that you don't create a problem for yourself. Some people will not take is very likely with you for calling their father an addict or meddling into their family affairs.

I actually blame the girl for being dumb, she should know that her dad is receiving salary every month and then look around her to see what and what are the things that is taking up the dad's money. If there's  no serious thing to think of as what is consuming the man's money, she should ask her dad about it or she should closely observed things by her self.

[retreat]

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now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Why do you say that she doesn't know? From what I see, the daughter knows that there is something wrong with her father, but because she loves her father so much and doesn't want any conflict in their relationship, so she bears all the burden, even though it hurts herself. You understand that sometimes there are some children who really care about their parents to the point that they hurt themselves because of their parents' actions. You just don't know what their family is like, what arguments they are going through, many other things that you might not understand. You do have good intentions, but sometimes it's better to keep it to yourself.

[Charles-Tim]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

This is addiction case, but if her father ever found out that you told her about it, he will not like you. In fact, he may dislike you from that very moment. The best to me is for you to approach her father and let him know that he is addicted to gambling and prove to him that he is. But he may also not like such advice from you but if you like him, try to talk to him about his addiction.

[alegotardo]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Wow, This is a delicate situation!!!
Unfortunately, this is something super common... the problem of a gambling addict affecting close relatives is most often exactly this: a lack of money to continue covering the basic costs of daily survival. In other situations, it can even involve theft and robbery of family member's belongings or money.
My opinion is that hide this from daughter is worse, as it will only prolong her suffering... Do you agree with me that she will find out so soon or later?
If so, then why not tell him now? If you do this now the losses can still be minimized and daughter can still help her father manage his addiction instead of just giving him money and feeding addiction. Obviously that you need to do this with carefully, showing concern and reassuring that it isn't either of your faults... show empathy and a willingness to help with whatever is needed, without assigning blame.

I wouldn't stay silent, but the choice is yours.... I hope you can act in the best possible way, good luck!

[Alphakilo]

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

This is addiction case, but if her father ever found out that you told her about it, he will not like you. In fact, he may dislike you from that very moment. The best to me is for you to approach her father and let him know that he is addicted to gambling and prove to him that he is. But he may also not like such advice from you but if you like him, try to talk to him about his addiction.

These days so many persons try to mind their business because of the fact that some after being corrected may become vengeful.
Talking to the father is obviously the best way to go but it should be done with wisdom so as to avoid problems later on.
I wouldn't also advise the girl be told about her father's addiction because it would break her heart and make her disrespect him in his old age.

[Bright0515]

This is the case of my neighbor who is an addictive gambler who gambles with huge fund always, although sometimes he wins big but majority of the times he loses just as he wins, but trust me the lose are intense that he faces the consequences of not having a dime because he uses his salary to gamble. and when he loses he will need to wait for another month salary to balance up. And his daughter loves him so much that she tries to do anything possible to help his dad expecialy when his father doesn't have money and this includes selling her belongings to help his dad. Unknowing to her that her dad is an addict she will use the money in her account and give to her dad atleast to help him since he claims not to have money. and this process has continued for so long to an extent that this is beginning to affect this his daughter. And this innocent young girl didn't know what is happening to her dad that he always need money but I know the problem of his father.

now my question is that is it good for me to inform this innocent girl about the cause of her dad constant demand of money? or should I forget about it to avoid problem? Or if you noticed this type of situation what would you do to help the situation because the girl is getting bankrup servicing his father's addiction unknowingly?

Telling the daughter of the gambler that her father is an addicted gambler will break her heart.It is hard to say because no body knows what will become of the daughter if she finds out that her father is an addicted gambler and all her efforts was a waste when she trys to support her father with money and other necessary efforts. I will say they should mind your business and do not say anything to the daughter. Besides they are trying to help her and the father, the both of them might not be happy seeing you. The father will see you as someone that wouldn't mind his business.for the sake of peace, I think you shouldn't tell her .let her find out by herself.

[SmartGold01]

To me I wouldn't mind saying it depends on the relationship you have with their family, like how connected are you to them, if not connected they will say you should just stay away from them because most times the father may not fancy it and could lead him to hurt you when he discovered that you are the one who told his daughter about his gambling addiction or why he constantly demands money from the daughter. You should know how African do their own things and could lead to something else.

[Justbillywitt]

If I find myself in this situation, I will tell the daughter what is happening with the father, because if I keep quiet the Man will keep exploiting the innocent woman. It's obvious that the Man is draining his daughter and am sure if the daughter is aware of her father situation, she will look for better alternatives to help him with the addition. So keeping quiet is not doing both parties any good. Let the daughter know what's eating the man's money, but let the decision to continue giving him money or not being her own.

[CryptSafe]

It is quite unfortunate that the girl is unknowingly fueling her father's addictive lifestyle, spending money that ought to have been used to develop herself and possibly her business as well. This is a family matter, and sometimes intervening in such a matter might be very risky, as you never can tell the repercussions or the aftermath of your actions in helping her discover the lapses in her family that is running her broke.

What I will advise you to do is to meet with her father and discuss with him, asking him to be in the place of his daughter and ask him to tell you how he would feel if it were his daughter doing this to him, because it just looks like her labour is going in vain thinking her father is doing something reasonable with the funds she gives to him. Have an in-depth discussion with him and plan on how to help him come out of the addiction, which both of you can work out modalities to follow in achieving it. I believe if he sincerely wants to stop it, he would listen to you, and both of you can devise a means to make sure he is free from addiction.