Nobody Is Coming To Save You (And That Is Actually Okay)

[Finestream]

I work 10 to 12 hours a day, for six days a week, and I am not living some great expensive life, I am not living in some home, it is a small normal apartment, and I am not driving some Mercedes, it is some old second hand car, and you know what's even worse? That's actually better than most people I know.

That is true, while you hustle very hard and you're working most of your time everyday, you're still in a better situation than the others who are homeless, car less and jobless.

And that's the appreciation that we also need to apply to ourselves. People are forgetting of what they have and what they should be grateful for.

But I think that you'll have better days someday in the near future with how you're working with. Because good things comes to those who are hardworking people.

What matters these days is not the type of car we are driving, not a lavish home and lifestyle, but having a permanent job that pays us regularly so that we can assure life's survival. In the end, we all hustle hard to live and survive, that's already a great privilege for us, as there are people outside who are living in the streets and have even no guarantees if they can still sustain their needs in the next days or months.

We can go and ask help and assistance to the government but the question is, until when? That's why we have to be independent and establish oneself, because that's the most secured way so that we won't be living in streets someday and dies from hunger.

[gunhell16]

I work 10 to 12 hours a day, for six days a week, and I am not living some great expensive life, I am not living in some home, it is a small normal apartment, and I am not driving some Mercedes, it is some old second hand car, and you know what's even worse? That's actually better than most people I know.

That is true, while you hustle very hard and you're working most of your time everyday, you're still in a better situation than the others who are homeless, car less and jobless.

And that's the appreciation that we also need to apply to ourselves. People are forgetting of what they have and what they should be grateful for.

But I think that you'll have better days someday in the near future with how you're working with. Because good things comes to those who are hardworking people.

What matters these days is not the type of car we are driving, not a lavish home and lifestyle, but having a permanent job that pays us regularly so that we can assure life's survival. In the end, we all hustle hard to live and survive, that's already a great privilege for us, as there are people outside who are living in the streets and have even no guarantees if they can still sustain their needs in the next days or months.

We can go and ask help and assistance to the government but the question is, until when? That's why we have to be independent and establish oneself, because that's the most secured way so that we won't be living in streets someday and dies from hunger.

We are all survivors, whether rich or poor, whether we have a job or not. All of us need to find ways to survive each day of our lives. And being a survivor is truly not easy. If even those who have regular jobs are struggling, how much more those who are unemployed and sleeping on the streets, wherever night happens to find them, right?

That is why the government has various programs to at least provide some assistance to poor citizens who are truly living on the margins of society. That’s why we must be resourceful
and find ways to survive in these times.

[bubilas]

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I absolutely agree that there really is a paradox: many companies want to quickly fill their vacancies with experienced workers, but for some reason they don't understand that people without experience want to join them. After all, where do those who can't find a job get experience? This is very strange, because it forces potential employees to lie on their resumes and take jobs solely for the experience.
I am absolutely certain that poor education is to blame for everything, as it cannot provide students with practical skills that would be very close to work-related ones and that could also be considered experience.

[imthegreat]

The system has long since drifted away from socialism, and almost all countries are transforming their economic model into capitalism, which resembles a vast sea where only sharks and strong fish survive.
Those who rely on others for help will likely simply disappear into the dark depths. After all, you need to be able to stand up for yourself and have plans to develop your skills, because this life is normal. After all, there is such a thing as natural selection. And it perfectly captures the idea that no one will care for the weak, while the strong will gain everything thanks to their strength and ingenuity. Therefore, you need to be strict with yourself, your time, and your skills.

[slapper]

Working hard to make money and not wanting anything from others is ok, we can totally understand something like that and be okay with it.

However it is not about getting a helping hand, it is about feeling as if you are not living the life of someone works this hard. I work 10 to 12 hours a day, for six days a week, and I am not living some great expensive life, I am not living in some home, it is a small normal apartment, and I am not driving some Mercedes, it is some old second hand car, and you know what's even worse? That's actually better than most people I know.

I respect the grind but if you work 10-12 hours a day, six days a week, and your still not getting a "normal good life" then your problem is not your work ethic. It's the structure that you're stuck in.

Because think about the message that is hidden inside your last sentence: "I'm doing better than most people I know". That means that the system is now rewarding extreme effort with only basic survival, and everyone else is worse off. That's a market signal: Your labour is cheap in your environment - in your time your labour has no bargaining power.

This is where "self-reliance" is misunderstood. Self-reliance is not only working harder. Most people work already hard enough. Real self-reliance is being able to say: "If this job doesn't pay enough to support my life, I have to have an exit plan". That can be renegotiating pay, changing city, changing sector, remote working, building a side income, cutting a bad debt cycle, learning a skill that has direct cash value - it's whatever fits your reality. But the important thing to remember is: more hours is not a strategy, it's a trap, because the system can at any time take away more hours from you.

In the reality of what’s happening in the world today, many are still more prevalent among the poor, while the number of the wealthy remains limited. Even among the wealthy, many of their wealth has been gained from the poor.

Furthermore, this situation is also true when there are corrupt politicians, especially in our country. The poor citizens who are paying taxes are heavily affected by this. So, during times of need,
I think only a few wealthy individuals may be able to help us, but the majority won’t because the expected support from them is likely to decline.

if we reduce everything to "the rich got rich from the poor", we will put ourselves in danger of reducing the whole world to a simple enemy story. It feels good at the emotional level, but it can make us passive, because what it implies is that the only solution is for the rich to suddenly become nice.

And that is not a life strategy that I buy into.

Also, the poor are not merely victims that pay taxes. The poor are also workers, builders, traders, parents and the real engine of the economy. When a crisis occurs, the first actual help usually doesn't come from "wealthy individuals". It comes from people close to you: family, neighbors, small communities and people sharing knowledge and opportunities.

So I'm with you on the conclusion - most rich people aren't going to save us. But I don't want to even ask them to. I'd rather focus on increasing skills and networks that will make us harder to exploit in the first place. That's the real "anti-corruption" move at personal level.

What's one thing you did (or want to do) personally to reduce your dependence on politicians and "elite help"?

[Hanadawa]

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I absolutely agree that there really is a paradox: many companies want to quickly fill their vacancies with experienced workers, but for some reason they don't understand that people without experience want to join them. After all, where do those who can't find a job get experience? This is very strange, because it forces potential employees to lie on their resumes and take jobs solely for the experience.
I am absolutely certain that poor education is to blame for everything, as it cannot provide students with practical skills that would be very close to work-related ones and that could also be considered experience.

It's a common paradox: Jobs require experienced people. And experience can only be gained through work. But that's just a paradox. In reality, those who are unemployed can try starting at the lowest level. Repetitive jobs like washing dishes, being an office boy, being a manual laborer, or guarding a convenience store usually don't require work experience. You can also get a job through connections who already know your capabilities. And finally, as you said, sometimes the lack of vocational training leaves someone unsure what to do after graduating and entering the workforce.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

Then I began paying attention. I saw that the places that need it most receive the least help. I witnessed how more often than not, training programs are cut first when money is tight. I saw that the companies want "ready-made" workers but don't like to create them. I saw that the gap between rich places and poor places is getting bigger, not smaller. And I realized something that changed the way I thought about everything. The system is not broken. It is operating just as designed. But it just was never made for people like us.

We've had a hard life, and perhaps we're slowly getting through it on our own through hard work. This is why others won't be able to make a difference for us if we don't start ourselves. Many companies want ready-to-use workers and don't want to spend money on skills training, so what ends up being a gap is that people without experience struggle to apply for those jobs. I've felt this for the past 10 years, when it was so difficult to find work because companies argued that if you lack skills certification, they couldn't hire you. Eventually, I had to get out of that predicament and find a new way to find work that would pay.

[WatChe]

It's a common paradox: Jobs require experienced people. And experience can only be gained through work. But that's just a paradox. In reality, those who are unemployed can try starting at the lowest level. Repetitive jobs like washing dishes, being an office boy, being a manual laborer, or guarding a convenience store usually don't require work experience. You can also get a job through connections who already know your capabilities. And finally, as you said, sometimes the lack of vocational training leaves someone unsure what to do after graduating and entering the workforce.

Those who are struggling to find government or private jobs must not sit idle because in today's digital world there are ample online opportunities. We have freelance platforms like upwork where people are doing work. On such freelance platforms, it's difficult to get started but if you keep trying with consistency then you can get success their. In my country, even women are earning money from home by selling food through foodpanda and there are many more online opportunities like that. This forum is also providing us an opportunity to earn Bitcoins by working in signature campaigns.    

[M47AK16]

Those who are struggling to find government or private jobs must not sit idle because in today's digital world there are ample online opportunities. We have freelance platforms like upwork where people are doing work. On such freelance platforms, it's difficult to get started but if you keep trying with consistency then you can get success their. In my country, even women are earning money from home by selling food through foodpanda and there are many more online opportunities like that. This forum is also providing us an opportunity to earn Bitcoins by working in signature campaigns.    

Not everyone have a talent to turn that into money. And even if they could, it would require years of mastering that skill before they can make any decent money. You have to remember that you are facing against tens of thousands, even hundreds of thousands of people in that world. Let's take something very easy, like making a website, you think making a website is easy?

Well, you can make something easy, but there are people out there who are ok with just 100 bucks to make ten times better websites. How could you compete with those people? I am not saying don't do it, just saying a newbie would have hard time making any money at all and would have to spend years before they can see any good return from freelancing.

[silpersurfer]

Opportunities are created, not sought. What do other people care about us? They are kind to us when they need us, and conversely, what do we care about other people? Because in reality, we are kind when we want to be and when we need to be.

The one who knows best what our needs and shortcomings are is ourselves, not others. However, sometimes we can also learn this from others. Therefore, in the social environment we build, we must be able to create mutual symbiosis so that no one feels disadvantaged.

However, returning to the initial discussion, doing good is necessary and should be done toward anyone, but never expect that person to be good to us in return, because it is that expectation that will break us. We cannot rely on others but must rely on our own efforts.

[Juse14]

Difficult to keep up the reliance with a government that is so corrupt and keeps on placing personal and family interests above all. Naturally, public trust would dwindle under such circumstances. Besides, how can others help when they are battling the same woes themselves?

In the end, chances do not fall into our laps; we have to make them. Once people stop depending on the system and start moving, learning, and building something of their own, they gain control over the direction of their lives—not total control, but some control. The way may be harder and less certain, but it is better than sitting quietly wishing for something that is clearly not in favor of us.

[Accardo]

Let's not normalize thinking that we live for others and that its okay to rely on them. No, that is a very wrong life's perspective. We are solely responsible of our own selves, and no one else.

If you want to live a good and comfortable life, then you should work for it. Other people are just here to guide us, but the major things are to be done by us. If you are lazy and overdependent, you will continue to suffer from hardships in life, but if you make things possible all for your life's comfort and luxury, not only you will save yourself, but you will also save the people you love and care.

The biggest disgrace stems from relying too much on other people's help, opinion, and perspectives. Life has no manual they say, but books shapes the way we think and reason, which has helped millions of people to step away from physical, mental, and spiritual bankruptcy. Efforts matters in life a lot, reading isn't easy, but with the right focus and activities, the wealthiest and wisest of men, grew from the little information they found in books, then added their own approach to suit or solve the troubles in their society. Whoever solves problems won't have to go seeking for help at all times.

[SanZoldyck]

A false freedom is full of landmines, pitfalls, traps, and things that can get the escaping prisoners, who remain blind and immoral, killed, or fall into more serious problems.
 But true freedom is from higher power. HE makes the free to be moral, and opens their eyes to avoid the dangers.

Ofcourse, it's important to build communities of like-minded people where you can exchange goods and services and do other useful but safe things, preferably on transparent and alternative system that people can hardly find issue with.

It is important to build communities of like-minded people where goods and services can be exchanged and useful and safe activities can be carried out.

[lornadane]

True. In crypto, nobody owes you anything. No refunds, no undo. Once you accept that, you stop doing dumb stuff like sending funds without escrow or trusting random DMs. Sounds cold, but that’s how you survive here.

[iamsange]

It is important to build communities of like-minded people where goods and services can be exchanged and useful and safe activities can be carried out.

fferent views can pose a significant problem. Communities typically operate with a team-led approach to instruction. Therefore, it's essential to have people with similar perspectives so that any activity involving goods or services is conducted through exchange, but everything becomes easier with shared ideas, allowing everyone to feel comfortable with their problems.
Communities always create balance when activities benefit the whole community The primary goal with its own values is to foster a sense of well-being in every activity.

[aysha9853]

This is uncomfortable to accept but true help exists, but it’s limited and selective, most people who made progress did it by adapting, learning on their own, and building small circles they trust, once you drop the idea that someone owes you a path, you start carving one yourself, slowly and with mistakes, but at least it’s yours.