Your social life influences your future

[Botnake]

In short, whatever surrounds us and is always with us, we can adopt their customs or culture. It's just like a song you don’t want to hear, but because you hear it every day and your neighbor keeps playing it, you don’t even realize that you’ve already memorized the lyrics.

So to speak, even if you don’t like the song and you’re annoyed by it, you still end up memorizing the lyrics. But if you avoid it or move to a different place, then for sure you won’t be able
to memorize the lyrics. The same goes for what you’re saying. So I get what you mean.

I guess the point here, you will only be affected if you allow it, if you push yourself on it, but hey there are ways to avoid it if you want. It's just that you are not that determined to create yours, so you end up falling on the wrong persons, even if you know it already they're not going to create good influence on you.

Sometimes, it takes courage to find those people who will fit your personality, and have the same outlooks in life. So you have to keep looking for them, and won't settle only for who's there and available.

[Juse14]

In fact, if you have strong life principles, no matter how bad your social life is, it won't affect your life and future. There's a saying, "Fish in the sea don't become salty, even though they live in salt water." But let's compare it to a dead fish: if it's salted, it's salty, and if it's pickled, it's sour. Likewise, in our lives, if we hold fast to those principles and keep them alive within us, those principles will lead us to a better life and future.

However, I realize that we haven't truly achieved that, haven't been able to truly adhere to our life principles, and perhaps some of us don't even have any. So, be smarter about making friends. At least if we befriend good people, we'll receive that goodness, even if only a little.

[Furious 7]

In short, whatever surrounds us and is always with us, we can adopt their customs or culture. It's just like a song you don’t want to hear, but because you hear it every day and your neighbor keeps playing it, you don’t even realize that you’ve already memorized the lyrics.

So to speak, even if you don’t like the song and you’re annoyed by it, you still end up memorizing the lyrics. But if you avoid it or move to a different place, then for sure you won’t be able
to memorize the lyrics. The same goes for what you’re saying. So I get what you mean.

I guess the point here, you will only be affected if you allow it, if you push yourself on it, but hey there are ways to avoid it if you want. It's just that you are not that determined to create yours, so you end up falling on the wrong persons, even if you know it already they're not going to create good influence on you.

Sometimes, it takes courage to find those people who will fit your personality, and have the same outlooks in life. So you have to keep looking for them, and won't settle only for who's there and available.

We have the will and right to refuse or avoid something, even if someone forces us to do something, but we don't have to do it if we're not interested in it. And if we have our own ambitions, principles, and influence that are good or better, then do it, even if it's alone. If it produces something good, others will naturally join in.

And in my opinion, there's no need to look for people. If we have a strong determination to develop, then being alone isn't a problem. And as I said, if we produce good results, it can attract others to join us. Don't rely solely on people who can influence us, even in a positive way, because we can do it ourselves if we truly have strong intentions and determination.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

Actually, perhaps we are all becoming more cautious because it is quite difficult to find people who are truly trustworthy these days. So it's not just that we are afraid of competition, but we are also becoming more vigilant and have to be more careful in everything we do. This is especially true when it comes to business and finance, which are very sensitive areas. Because there are people who like us and there are also those who don't.

Caution is important, but it shouldn't limit us from imparting the best business knowledge to others. I recall an old adage that says knowledge that is never shared with others will be lost and unblessed. Every business can be imitated, but not every fortune, because everyone has been given different amounts of fortune by the Creator. When we provide easy paths for others, our fortune can actually increase. In the traditions of the people where I live, this system may be adopted, and I'm sure almost all traditions apply the same, because sharing knowledge with others can make us much more successful, especially in business development.

[Xcode7]

Actually, perhaps we are all becoming more cautious because it is quite difficult to find people who are truly trustworthy these days. So it's not just that we are afraid of competition, but we are also becoming more vigilant and have to be more careful in everything we do. This is especially true when it comes to business and finance, which are very sensitive areas. Because there are people who like us and there are also those who don't.

Caution is important, but it shouldn't limit us from imparting the best business knowledge to others. I recall an old adage that says knowledge that is never shared with others will be lost and unblessed. Every business can be imitated, but not every fortune, because everyone has been given different amounts of fortune by the Creator. When we provide easy paths for others, our fortune can actually increase. In the traditions of the people where I live, this system may be adopted, and I'm sure almost all traditions apply the same, because sharing knowledge with others can make us much more successful, especially in business development.

Regarding sharing knowledge and experience, I think it's perfectly normal, and there's no harm in sharing. It's true, as the saying goes. Furthermore, I also believe we can grow when we share with others. However, there are some things we shouldn't share with anyone except someone we truly trust in business, and I believe that almost all businesses have that aspect.
This isn't about competition or anything else; it's about ourselves and the growth of the business we've built.

[bettercrypto]

If you’re a decent and intelligent person, I think that no matter what’s around you, you won’t just be easily influenced by what people commonly do. We should only choose what we hear from them that we can benefit from in the future. And if there’s something that isn’t good, of course we shouldn’t adopt it in our own lives either.

For example, if you live in a squatter area where most people are jobless loiterers and gossips, does that mean you’ll automatically end up having the same behavior as them? Of course not it’s still your own decision whether or not you’ll adopt the culture they’re used to. Because we can think for ourselves and we know that kind of behavior isn’t good, we won’t do what they’ve gotten used to doing. In the end, it’s really up to us whether we copy their interests or habits.

[mvdheuvel1983]

Your environment greatly influences not only your future but also your daily life. Therefore, it's important to be wise in choosing your friends, and you should also be wise in choosing where to live. It's better to live in a place with a slightly higher cost of living but a good environment, rather than living in a place with a lower cost of living but a poor and run-down environment.

You can decide to choose your friends which can influence your growth in the future but sometimes you don't choose your environment as that can be for those who has what it takes to leave the environment where they were raised to move somewhere better to have a better life and a healthier lifestyle. An expensive environment may not be affordable to everyone though everyone may dream to stay there
But not many can afford such life but it's more better to stay in an expensive but a place not occupied by all poor and low thinking people cause you can be negatively affected by them.

[Jateng]

There is no doubt that a person's environment has a certain influence on him. But in most cases, this influence is harmful. A person descends to the level of his environment. But to be honest, I don't know a single person who somehow began to communicate with rich people and therefore became rich himself because he suddenly became the same, adopted their way of thinking, etc. There is also the question of why these successful people would want to communicate with someone who is not at their level? If, of course, you take a person with ambitions for a successful person, which are expressed in terms of "taking out a loan and winning the jackpot," then yes, that's right, such ambitions are very contagious...

person's company shapes or greater influence on one's life. it does not always give you harm. it depends upon the kind of the people by which you are surrounded. If you are surrounded by the people who are pessimist highly energetic and good goal oriented it will definitely affect you in positive way. Your argument is right here, that simply sitting among the rich won't make you rich. good social circle helps you in your worst time because they will not let you alone. But if you surrounded yourself with the people who are weak in character or unstable financially, they will not stand by you when you are in your worst time.

[MarjorieZimmermanGinger]

Regarding sharing knowledge and experience, I think it's perfectly normal, and there's no harm in sharing. It's true, as the saying goes. Furthermore, I also believe we can grow when we share with others. However, there are some things we shouldn't share with anyone except someone we truly trust in business, and I believe that almost all businesses have that aspect.
This isn't about competition or anything else; it's about ourselves and the growth of the business we've built.

If you're developing a culinary business, perhaps you don't need to publicly share your family's long-held recipes, but otherwise, there's no problem sharing knowledge about how to develop that culinary business. It's just a small matter of not publicly sharing specific recipes with others, and I also believe everyone will keep those recipes private and only share them with close family. Furthermore, we can provide education about business development to others, and it won't hinder our business at all as long as the limitations we've discussed aren't completely shared with others.

[goro_chief]

Let's say you're an ordinary person, just like everyone else.

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

If you hang out with people who have ambitions, talk about business potential or profit potential, talk about the future for the better, self improvement, talk about knowledge, talk about technology and investment, slowly your ambitions will be awakened, your knowledge will increase and you will realize that you have to organize your life to be better, because every time you will hear people talking about how to live more advanced.

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

I agree with the influence part, but calling people weak or stupid feels a bit harsh. Life circumstances matter too. Some people are just surviving. You can choose growth-focused circles without looking down on others. Improvement doesn’t require arrogance.

[goro_chief]

Let's say you're an ordinary person, just like everyone else.

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

If you hang out with people who have ambitions, talk about business potential or profit potential, talk about the future for the better, self improvement, talk about knowledge, talk about technology and investment, slowly your ambitions will be awakened, your knowledge will increase and you will realize that you have to organize your life to be better, because every time you will hear people talking about how to live more advanced.

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

Ngl, some people really do succeed with “fast paths,” but survivorship bias messes with our heads. We see the winners and ignore the silent majority that failed. The slow road feels dull, but it’s the only one that doesn’t rely on perfect timing

[AmaGold70]

You are very correct, I have always said it that the type of friends we surround ourselves with influences us either in a good way or in a bad and there's a saying that goes "show me your friends and I will tell you who you are" but also If a person hangs out with weak and failed group of people and behave exactly like them then it's possible that the person is also weak and stupid because I have been among the wrong circle of friends that had zero purpose in life and it never changed who I am but it only slowed me down in life, I'm a very ambitious person and I know exactly the thing I want to achieve and that's success so I changed my circle because even though im ambitious i still need friends that can push me to aim higher.

[ShirenYumna]

You are very correct, I have always said it that the type of friends we surround ourselves with influences us either in a good way or in a bad and there's a saying that goes "show me your friends and I will tell you who you are" but also If a person hangs out with weak and failed group of people and behave exactly like them then it's possible that the person is also weak and stupid because I have been among the wrong circle of friends that had zero purpose in life and it never changed who I am but it only slowed me down in life, I'm a very ambitious person and I know exactly the thing I want to achieve and that's success so I changed my circle because even though im ambitious i still need friends that can push me to aim higher.

But the fact that you recognized that and took action to change your circle is huge. Sometimes, the hardest part isn’t realizing you need to make a change, but actually making that shift. A new circle can bring new energy, new ideas, and a different kind of accountability that pushes you to go higher and achieve more. People who are also driven, who share similar ambitions, or who have different strengths to offer, can challenge you to think bigger, act bolder, and stay focused on your goals.

[Juicyhome]

Let's say you're an ordinary person, just like everyone else.

If you hang out with people who only talk about other people, talk about gossip, talk about grievances and talk about things that are not important for your personal development, you will stay in that position, don't expect life to get better.

If you hang out with people who have ambitions, talk about business potential or profit potential, talk about the future for the better, self improvement, talk about knowledge, talk about technology and investment, slowly your ambitions will be awakened, your knowledge will increase and you will realize that you have to organize your life to be better, because every time you will hear people talking about how to live more advanced.

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

  I don't agree to this op, because you are generalizing, individual are different, you can hangout with successful people everyday and still be poor, you can also hangout with failure and still succeed. I know the power of communication, what you hear influence us, but have the ability to choose and act on what we hear.  We have people that are doing well with associating with anybody, the Internet don't need anybody around you to be successful, you can start earning from your house without meeting anyone.

I'm exempted from peers influence, all my friends smokes and drink alcohol and we hangout a lot, yet I'm the only one that doesn't smoke nor drink, only take water. We have many people that do things on their own without influence.

[Queen uloma]

I don't totally agree with you on this, because it depend on mindset, not basically the type of people you associate with, I know there's a saying that " show me your friend and I will tell you who you're, for me I don't agree with that saying, because I have friends that we ain't same personality and we do things differently, so even if you make friends with the rich doesn't mean you will end up been wealthy, for me I can make friends with anybody, but I won't allow anyone's behavior to influence mine, but through hard work, consistency, determination, I can be able to make a great future.

[livingfree]

I don't totally agree with you on this, because it depend on mindset, not basically the type of people you associate with, I know there's a saying that " show me your friend and I will tell you who you're, for me I don't agree with that saying, because I have friends that we ain't same personality and we do things differently, so even if you make friends with the rich doesn't mean you will end up been wealthy, for me I can make friends with anybody, but I won't allow anyone's behavior to influence mine, but through hard work, consistency, determination, I can be able to make a great future.

It's all about the advantage and possible influence that will be in favor of you of who you are with. Both of you have good points.

In society, we see whoever gets influenced badly by their friends end up the same as them. But there are disciplined people even with friends who are doing opposite to your principles, you're just there for them.

Although, you're not going to tolerate what they're doing and won't be ending up like them.

[Churchillvv]

It could be you today who is stuck in the economy because you hang out with weak, stupid, and failed people, who only talk about things that have no value.

I learnt this from my dad that if you hang out with people your mate you will be living life for the present with no future in preparation however if you hang out with older guys (this for young people ) you will be forced to think beyond your age and work harder than you would on a normal day because all you hear is above your age and you will definitely want bigger things, yeah your right but that is a more reason why it’s advised to always choose friends or companions wisely.

[HONDACD125]

I don't totally agree with you on this, because it depend on mindset, not basically the type of people you associate with, I know there's a saying that " show me your friend and I will tell you who you're, for me I don't agree with that saying, because I have friends that we ain't same personality and we do things differently, so even if you make friends with the rich doesn't mean you will end up been wealthy, for me I can make friends with anybody, but I won't allow anyone's behavior to influence mine, but through hard work, consistency, determination, I can be able to make a great future.

Even though you are not wrong, what you are saying doesn't work for the majority of people in this world, because I know there are people who have enough control over themselves that they won't let things easily influence them or change their personality or behaviour, but most people would actually get influenced easily, or even if it's not done easily, but over time, they tend to start catching the habits of those who they hang out with, and this is a universal thing, which means that this happens all around the world.

I also have a nature and a mindset like yours, because I have had all sorts of friends, poor, rich, smokers, drinkers, but none of them have ever had any influence on me and my personality or behavior, because even if someone used to drink or smoke in front of me, or even offer me to do it as well, I would always refuse because I know it's not good for me and my future, and I also know that they are useless things, why would you do something which doesn't have any benefit but only harm?

[aysha9853]

People don’t get stuck just because of friends, but your circle definitely shapes what you see as normal If everyone around you complains and does nothing, that mindset slowly becomes yours being around driven people won’t save you, but it raises your standards without forcing it.

[Donk1]

​Yes it's really good to be mindful with people you chill with most especially friends because I like to believe that when you have friends who are focused in making it and building their future you yourself would be more encouraged to do the same. That's why I myself I keep off from people who wouldn't impact me in anyway basically, I see no use of them.​What actually gets me going is when I see friends that I can challenge ,friends who will encourage me, friends who will help me when I am in need .those are the people who are worth my time....

 Moreover it's easy to say as an individual we should learn to make quick decisions in our life before it's too late. Why Because financial success and opportunities comes once in a lifetime, and if you feel friends are always cutting you away from what you are supposed to do, simple give them space. That's just it. It's all about future planning and a successful mindset...