Be mindful of who you advices as persistent ignorant also ends in regrets

[xenomorfo]

Addiction slowly leads a person to the path of destruction. In reality, when a person gambles beyond his means, it becomes a gambling addiction. Once gambling becomes an addiction, its end takes a terrible shape. A person addicted to gambling gradually starts gambling beyond his means due to emotion or greed and gradually moves away from a healthy and normal life, cannot think normally, gradually moves away from his loved ones, feels annoyed when given good advice. The addicted person always thinks that gambling is his main goal or purpose. If his close friend or loved one gives good advice about gambling, the addicted person gets angry and sometimes behaves badly, sometimes as an enemy, because the addicted person is not in a normal state, that is why he misunderstands. Therefore, if we are going to give advice to someone, we should consider what state that person is in, what needs to be said, he may get angry or think of him as his enemy, so it is better not to discuss such matters with the addicted person. Otherwise, we will face a situation like the OP story.

unfortunately yes
In the case of gambling, addiction makes you put in more money than you can afford.
then comes feelings of guilt, frustration, aggression because others rightly blame you for having spent money that was needed
and this becomes a spiral that takes you towards the abyss, and you never get out.

[Floxynice]

It is not easy convincing an addict that what they are doing is wrong. Even when the asdict already knows that he is doing too much, making them stop such habit can be quite challenging. Regrets are bound to happen but no one whose loved one is facing gambling problems should abandon them halfway because they refused to listen to good counsel. The most anyone can do is constant persuasion till the addict is willing to go for therapy. Most of these addicts usually end up reconsidering their actions after a massive loss that probably touched their soul.

[marcous]

You've given your friend sound advice about gambling, but the problem is that he already a serious addict, and an addict with that temperament will struggle, even though I'm sure deep down he realizes what he doing is wrong. If I were his wife, I would divorce him or take him to the hospital to treat his addiction, as I believe that's the most appropriate solution in such a situation.

[sompitonov]

You've given your friend sound advice about gambling, but the problem is that he already a serious addict, and an addict with that temperament will struggle, even though I'm sure deep down he realizes what he doing is wrong. If I were his wife, I would divorce him or take him to the hospital to treat his addiction, as I believe that's the most appropriate solution in such a situation.

Sometimes you can give advice about gambling, and the player will take it as a call to action and start trying something, for example, a new strategy, and could end up losing big. I want to say that you need to be careful when giving advice; I don't even want to do it at all, lest the player blame me for any losses that may arise. And usually, people look for someone to shift the blame onto; this is a very common occurrence; it's better to understand this upfront than to do it later.

[Oluwa-btc]

From each line of your statements it's obvious that your friend is actually battling with anger issues and lack of control. The fact that his wife spoe to him calmly to heed to her advice knowing fully well his last mistakes and losses and all he could do was bluntly shut hsr up. This is where he gets it all wrong most times we got family and loved ones beside us because they extend an helping hand when we need it and when you don't get it from someone that loves you dearly you'll definitely go astray or lose a lot. And it's the same family and loved ones that'll suffer for any negative impacts the individual actions would bring. So since it doesn't require the advice it's best to stay off and let him eat his cake and have it.

[aioc]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.

This is one of the signs of addiction, they shut out people who meddle in their gambling activities, even close friends and relatives, all they care for is to get money and to regain their losses and start making money, their minds are totally clouded.

This morning his wife texted me that her husband wants to commit suicide after losing a historic loss in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

This is what eventually happens to those who persist in trying to regain their losses. Your friend needs rehabilitation, but he first needs to realise that he needs to stop his addiction and admit how his gambling harms his family and finances. Admittance is the first step to recovery.

[Strongkored]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

I think what you did was right, and perhaps others would do the same because they feel a responsibility to warn their friend.
It's just that your friend's addiction is so severe that he's lost his common sense.
If you've advised someone about addiction and they don't accept it, that's their problem, not ours. Addicts can recover if they have the desire, and that motivation must come from within, not from the outside.

[Findingnemo]

First of all be careful with who you consider as your friend, someone who values your opinion instead of shutting you down. And I personally don't invade into anyone's personal life, it's their life and their decision and if it goes wrong, then it is on them and all we can do is advise what should do and not but again it's their decision to act on it. And his wife should consider about her future too, if your partner doesn't value your emotion, then I don't know what is the point of being together.

[Davidvictorson]

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Whosoever is hostile to wise counsel from should be left to their ways for they will soon learn from their own mistakes. So long as a person continues to live in denial of their destructive habits and addictions to their is no savior that can save them even if a hand is stretched out. Truly change comes from personal realisation and resolve that the current trajectory of one's life will end up in doom if their is no change. This has to come from the individual themselves before they can be open and receptive to change.This applies to gambling addiction and all other types of addictive behaviors.

[Judith87403]

This reveals the importance of timing and boundaries. Addictive personality mostly finds it way with denial and anger that is misplaced, hence advicing directly could backfire. Yet, the result reveals the risk was real. At this very point, the major concern is safety, instead of blame. Encourage his spouse to include close family, elders that can be trusted, or even professionals without wasting time. Losses in gambling can pass, but a life won't.

[Dunamisx]

If a newbie in gambling was being told something to do, it is his own responsibility to also further in search for more relevant information concerning that aspect to do and review before taking actions, moreover, the final decision also lies in their hands, on whether to accept such or make a decline for it, because no one forces them to doing something except they are being convinced to do so on their own.

[coin-investor]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday. 

The hardest people to advise are those addicted to gambling, even if you are a good adviser, and you have given them the best advice, and if it happens to be your close friends, they will still ignore you.

They will provide you with the right ear to listen, and they will let your advice out through the other ear; it's like you're advising a deaf person.
We can't do anything if they don't want to help themselves.

The guy in your story badly needs help; maybe after that historical loss, he will finally listen. If you see he badly needs help, that's the time to advise him or even help him get rehabilitated. You can only help a gambler if they ask for it.

[KiaKia]

Wait till you are accused of sitting back and not saying anything when you should have, because letts be frank people always find who to blame, if you kept quiet and say nothing and your friend ended up committing a crime or he takes his own life someone might point at you for a reason.

Even the wife can ask why you never said anything, she will say that she intentionally said it out loud that the husband should transfer the money into her account for safe keeping, and truthfully it could be her intent so that you will know about it, they will still blame you for been a bad friend who don't care about his friends well being.

It is better than you talked and advice him then he shut you out of the situation, your part is been done already and what might happen later you have already protected yourself, you can always say that she was right there when you talked to his husband and he shouted at you for feeling concerned.

[Sim_card]

Such is life. I have also experienced it. I have a friend that's addicted to visual, I told him that he's gambling abnormally, he got angry and distance himself from me. Addicted gamblers don't accept advice because they believe they ain't addicted. I pity for them.

[Juicyhome]

If a newbie in gambling was being told something to do, it is his own responsibility to also further in search for more relevant information concerning that aspect to do and review before taking actions, moreover, the final decision also lies in their hands, on whether to accept such or make a decline for it, because no one forces them to doing something except they are being convinced to do so on their own.

These days newbies doesn't follow instructions anymore, they have multiple people advising them on social media, even when we advised them here they will still make their personal research and do that's in their minds. To avoid a situation where someone will blame you in the future for his misfortune, you better stop advising and let them face it by themselves .

Anytime a newbie ask me if he should cashout out his game I'll just ignore him because in gambling we only do that pleases us and not what someone told you to do. Gambling is a personal life, avoid telling people what to do. At the end that won't take your advise, so no need.

[Awaklara]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday.

Everything ended with regret. You regretted reminding, which affected your relationship and that of your friend. Your friend's wife regretted not being able to stop her husband from gambling away all his money. And your friend surely regretted not listening to your advice and his wife's. 

The advice we meant, even if good, is not necessarily well received by someone who simply cannot accept advice. But in reality, there are indeed people with such a temperament. Not all people or addicted gamblers respond aggressively. Sometimes there are gamblers who respond casually and with humor, yet still ignore advice and guidance.

[purple_sparkles]

I was persistent of telling him the reality about the risk of his decision as it concerns gambling but he ushered me out through the door and asked me to stay off from his life.
This morning his wife texted me that her husband want to commit suicide after loosing a historical lost in his gambling history following the incident of his ignorance yesterday. 

The hardest people to advise are those addicted to gambling, even if you are a good adviser, and you have given them the best advice, and if it happens to be your close friends, they will still ignore you.

They will provide you with the right ear to listen, and they will let your advice out through the other ear; it's like you're advising a deaf person.
We can't do anything if they don't want to help themselves.

The guy in your story badly needs help; maybe after that historical loss, he will finally listen. If you see he badly needs help, that's the time to advise him or even help him get rehabilitated. You can only help a gambler if they ask for it.

Giving advice is one of the biggest mistakes you can make. Even if your intention is to help, in the end you may be blamed if things go wrong. When you give advice, you give the other person an opportunity to shift responsibility onto you for whatever happens, whether they follow it or not. If you really feel an urge to help, especially when no one has even asked for it, it’s much better to ask questions that guide the person to think and make a decision that is right for them.

[tygeade]

You've given your friend sound advice about gambling, but the problem is that he already a serious addict, and an addict with that temperament will struggle, even though I'm sure deep down he realizes what he doing is wrong. If I were his wife, I would divorce him or take him to the hospital to treat his addiction, as I believe that's the most appropriate solution in such a situation.

Therapy, and a consistent one at that, could fix many of life's problems that comes psychologically. Doesn't mean it will solve it for everyone, of course there are people, addicts, who can't be fixed even with a lot of help, but at least it worths giving it a shot. This is why I think it's important to make sure you help them as best as you can and if it doesn't work then you can divorce or just leave them be.

Most importantly, if a person accepts that they have an addiction that needs to be cured, that is half the battle and if they are also accepting getting help from a professional that is going to go very well. It's the ones that go by force that will have hard time getting saved, but willing ones will do much better.

[Nahl]

Those who became an addicted will never able to control theirself everytime there is someone want to advices them these people won't listen even they will got angry and everytime they regretting to make the decision i think this is fake because there is a moment with possibility they will return to gamble again and if this condition is continue without any further action i am sure his wife want to divorce and he would be ruin his family and in my opinion your friend should be send to the rehabilition centre but first of all he should be accept the condition that he was addicted gamble because if he admitted that the process to cure his addiction will not be so hard and family help or support also necessary because the family will give huge impact in the healing process

[mak013]

He is an adult. He can live like he want and nobody can`t stop him.
It is not popular point of view but it is real situation. The law says that you can`t do anything with it. Except the only thing (that his relatives can do) - call a doctor to make some expertise to send him to a madhouse for compulsory medical treatment.
I don`t know the laws in different countries, but in my country it is so and, i think, that in lots of other countries to.
If gambling is allowed - it allowed for all adults, except individual people, who has prohibition or some restrictions for gambling.