We don't grow when life is easier but we grow when life is hard

[Zlantann]

You will be mistaken if you think all rich kids are the same. Some are decent while some dont grow the way they are taught to.
I know of a rich family where all the kids are well-trained in school. The father has threee business, a Hotel, an engineering company, and a hospital. All three are now managing their father's businesses because one is a doctor, the other an engineer, and the last child learn a business management. These kids grew up to follow their fathers' footsteps, so not all of them are the same.

I prefer to raise my kids like the rich rather than to struggle to provide their needs. Being rich doesn't corrupt or spoil children, but a bad upbringing does. The reason why most rich children are not well-raised is that their parents don't give them the required attention. They prefer moving from one place to another pursuing a career or businesses and neglecting their children. These children end up being raised by caregivers and teachers who might not give them proper care.

It wants my children to have the best education, accommodation and other things they need to enjoy life. But they will also be given proper home and financial training.

[passwordnow]

That is why there is a huge difference from the kids that have lived poor and then grown up in life, they know how to deal with hardship. Compared to the kids that have lived a good life when they're young. But I won't blame those rich kids, their parents worked hard for that to give them the better life that they can. Now it will only differ on how they will be dealing with things. They're stronger and opportunities are there for the rich kids because of the connection of their parents and how they've been groomed to be young professionals.

[Nothingtodo]

It is not right to assume that children will be bad if their parents are rich. I have seen children from many rich families who are very polite and calm. If they are taught polite behavior and religious education from a young age, then they will definitely learn to accept their father's responsibilities and the prevailing rules and regulations of society very well.
Again, I have seen many children of poor people being very calm and polite. In fact, the politeness of a person does not depend on how rich or poor they are, but rather on the education they have received from their environment. If they are educated about religious education and morality from a young age, then they will definitely grow up to behave very well with the people of the society and develop into a responsible person.

[Iranus]

A question for you OP, do you want to raise your children as a rich man or raise them as someone whose life is hard.

If you believe staying in hard conditions makes your children to be relevant, you are wrong.

You don't want to know how terrible it is to raise children in a tough condition, when life gets tougher, they are forced to make decisions they should have made if the standard of living was at a good condition, whether rich or poor give your children the right manners.

No offense intended. But in my opinion, only those who have never been married would think that raising children in difficult circumstances is good for them. Because as someone who has been through it, I completely agree with you that raising children in difficult circumstances is terrible. 

We often hear the advice to turn difficulties into motivations and challenge to help ourselves grow. But in reality, that often only create pressure and harm.

It can be said that reality is much harsher than we imagine. Therefore, children do not need to suffer to learn how to become strong. Instead, what they need is stability, a sense of security and a solid foundation for growth.

[atookz]

Eventually, it is the parents who in turn can best observe the signs that a child is starting to go down the wrong road. This is necessary because childhood is a mode of character formation, and not a time to indulge lusts. The different modes of long term love are discipline, boundaries and caution rather than violence. Parents are training their children up with the strength they would need in the manhood world, as they are exercising prudent sternness and neglect not the way up of their children.

The freedom which is unmatched and without sense of responsibility, will definitely result to overindulgence of lifestyle as is the norm where life is easy. However, maturity can be achieved by being brought up as someone restricted. Children are normally trained to savor any slightest opportunity by enduring pain; therefore, parental control and parenting should also be involved. The child can be given good supervision and parenting by parents and in some instances, rather than being demotivated by the life demands, they are strengthened and possess sense of direction.

[Rabata]

Not all families have the same ideals. Sometimes children from rich families do well, and sometimes children from poor families are ahead in all aspects. Considering the overall situation, I must say that children from poor families are much more hardworking and talented than rich families and they can make a comparatively better career. In some families, children are given too much love from an early age, but that love becomes negative for the child after a certain period of time. Of course, every child should be given love, but it must be within a limit. If a child crosses the limit, then that child will definitely be disobedient. In this case, parents must be careful.

[Marykeller]

 I go with the proverb that says, spare the rod and spoil the child. Every parent, rich or poor has a big role to play in their child's upbringing and if they fail to get it right at their child's early age, to train them right, they will become a whole lot of problems to them and the society, that they will regret having them as their kids.

Children of the poor and rich can be trained to be good or bad by their parents. Many of them, from both rich and poor parents, have become children that other people's children emulate because of the good character they exhibit, and they are making their family and country proud. That's why I see it as, the upbringing of a child is very important. Parents shouldn't pay less attention to their children to allow them to grow on their own without getting close to them to tell them what's wrong and what's right for their future gains, to help them build a good future because someday they have their own family and kids

[lornadane]

Many of the rich men children don't grow the way they are meant to be because they see everything coming to them once they mention what they want and some time if the father notices early that this particular child will not do well because of too much pampering and the mother will claim that father is too hard on that particular child and without the mother knowing that the father want the best for the child, and most the rich men children end up growing out from the plan the father have for them once they have the opportunity to stay alone while going through high school, and once such is giving to they will doing clubbing and taking hard drugs without attending any of the licture any day because his father money, while the poor children grow well even things are hard and grap every little opportunity they have in the high school and they take lictures more serious because they know their family background and has been motivating them to be more serious in school, inclusion i advise that parents are in the best position to know in which child that is growing in the wrong direction and such child should be corrected immediately when he/she is a kids and avoid too much pampering when you know on what to do when the child did wrong and parents don't fail to apply such caution that will help your children in future when they have come to ages.

to be fair i don't think this quote is meant to divide classes from a rich person upbringing to a poor/working class up bringing. life can be easy in a number of different was without involving money. yes money makes life easier allowing more freedom but that doesn't mean it comes without difficulties. rich people still have difficulties and this helps them learn and grow just the same as people that are less well off. we all grow from life experience's even through childhood even when we have things handed and given to us.

[o48o]

Many of the rich men children don't grow the way they are meant to be because they see everything coming to them once they mention what they want and some time if the father notices early that this particular child will not do well because of too much pampering and the mother will claim that father is too hard on that particular child and without the mother knowing that the father want the best for the child, and most the rich men children end up growing out from the plan the father have for them once they have the opportunity to stay alone while going through high school, and once such is giving to they will doing clubbing and taking hard drugs without attending any of the licture any day because his father money, while the poor children grow well even things are hard and grap every little opportunity they have in the high school and they take lictures more serious because they know their family background and has been motivating them to be more serious in school, inclusion i advise that parents are in the best position to know in which child that is growing in the wrong direction and such child should be corrected immediately when he/she is a kids and avoid too much pampering when you know on what to do when the child did wrong and parents don't fail to apply such caution that will help your children in future when they have come to ages.

This doesn't however means that hard life would guarantee growth. In fact, if it's hard enough from the start, it might cripple you. Forcing you either grow or act out, and that growing could take all your energy all your life, so that you can't really do anything you wanted, as your energy in life goes to healing, just that you could float and stay alive.

Hard childhood, (i use this term pretty vaguely, sorry about that) while being a rich kid, might make you think you don't need to grow, as you can be thought to think that everything is fixable with enough money. So you might turn out to be insufferable and entitled.

Obviously this is all just generalization, and people will have problems, no matter if they are rich or poor. They just might be problems with different priorities and when it comes to outcome of these problems, they have different level of severity.

[DanWalker]

and most the rich men children end up growing out from the plan the father have for them once they have the opportunity to stay alone while going through high school, and once such is giving to they will doing clubbing and taking hard drugs without attending any of the licture any day because his father money, while the poor children grow well even things are hard and grap every little opportunity they have in the high school and they take lictures more serious because they know their family background and has been motivating them to be more serious in school,

I partially agree with you on this point because I have witnessed a few similar cases. Some children from wealthy families become spoiled due to excessive pampering, while some children from poor families strive to improve themselves because they are aware of their family circumstances.

However, when looking at the bigger picture of society. That is no longer true and the proof is that today, the majority of bad guys and criminals come from the poor. Therefore, do not jump to conclusions and assume that all children from wealthy families are spoiled.


Whether a child becomes a good or bad person depends on how you raise them, not on whether you are rich or poor.

[Solodoski]

It all deepends on the child up bringing. I have seen rich people that their children are cool headed and very humble in the society. They take over their father business at a young age after they have graduated from the university. Haven't you seen a poor man child that became a nuisance to the society. This is why it's good to bring up your child in a God fearing way and let them be full devoted to God for guidance.

Same here. I have also seen rich children with good heart, calm and diligent in all they do. When the parents are cool, the children emulate that character while growing up. However, if the children are not raised at home, they may develop a character outside from the parent. For instance, children who were raised in private boarding schools. Those children are raised by the teachers and trainee. It is the reason why I dislike sending kids to boarding schools because they will lack good training from the parents.

[Dunamisx]

Generally life is hard and we need to put in more efforts if we want to make something tangible from it, life is not hard on us, by we have to plan our way and strive for the best, so that we don't get attracted to what is bad or not befitting us, sometimes we also learn from the circumstances around us, this keeps us more motivated that we don't have to really depends on how our life started from, but what we have set for our own self and choice and decision making, which helps maintain more better things we wanted to be in life without fear of not reaching these goals.

[Aloysius01]

It depends on the parents' upbringing, and not all children of the rich are spoiled, many of the successes of the children of the rich after they graduate from college and continue their parents' company until they can become fast growing again.

There are also spoiled rich children --- because they feel everything is fulfilled without having to work hard or wait for the child to tend to be lazy, behind that parents do not educate properly in their character.

While the children of the poor are required to be smart and clever when the future is later, they feel how bitter all the shortcomings are, including food, daily expenses and their lives, so the hope of these children's parents hopes that their children will succeed and break the chain of poverty from themselves.

my opinion towards this matter is that, wealth itself doesn't spoil a child, poor upbringing does, many children from rich families succeed because they are raised with discipline and are gradually taught responsibility, especially when parents involve them in the family business instead of just handling things over.
At the same time it's true that some rich kids become lazy because everything comes too easily and character isn't properly built, comfort without guidance can kill motivation.
on the other hand children from poor backgrounds often grow up more resilient and creative because hardship forces them to think ahead and work harder, but poverty alone isn't a guarantee of success either without good values and direction, struggle can also lead to bad choices, in my opinion character is what truly determines the outcome.