Been addicted is chaos to one's state entirely

[Orpichukwu]

How about those who play for fun and are also expecting to win money from gambling? How will they treat their loss? Some are still able to control not chasing their losses; as long as they don't put in too much money, there is a chance that both those who go for profit can still control themselves without chasing losses.

Am one guy that's very much interested in issues of gambling addiction and in all the discusses there have being, I understand that whether you're gambling for fun, for the money making or for both of them, the right standard to maintain is using the amount of funds that you can afford to lose, because loss chasing starts with using what is beyond your loss accomodation to let go.

Exactly. If you spend what you can stay without, you can easily let go and don't give it a second thought, even as nobody feels happy to lose money, but not all loss warrants chasing.

However, about fun chasing I haven't heard much about any one chasing fun

But have you heard about those saying, "Too much of everything is bad"? Some people can be so attached to the entertainment they are getting from the game _{(which is rare)} and don't want to stop; they gamble from one hand to the other because they believe they are having fun. Can't that be regarded the same?

[silpersurfer]

This happens when you chase the loss and want to recover it, because the primary objective is not fun, but earning money. However, when you play just to have fun, the priority is different and so if you lose that's the end of it.

How about those who play for fun and are also expecting to win money from gambling? How will they treat their loss? Some are still able to control not chasing their losses; as long as they don't put in too much money, there is a chance that both those who go for profit can still control themselves without chasing losses.

As long as the hope is not greater, anyone who gambles definitely wants to win and make a profit, but this should not be the main goal because in my opinion it can also damage one's perspective when one starts talking about profits in one's self which can trigger greed and spend money that cannot be accounted for, gambling is said to be very complex with sensitive situations in terms of emotions, don't provoke it too much even if there is hope of making a profit from the gambling you are doing.

[red4slash]

The problem may be with our own mindset, especially for you OP. From your post it is clear that you want to gamble but on the one hand you are not ready to lose your money and try to recover the loss which will indirectly push you into a more difficult situation.

Indeed, when we talk about gambling we will be considered a lie when we do not expect to win but keep in mind that we must also be prepared to lose including losing money so that we can stay sober and not get carried away by gambling currents that are more difficult for us to control.
We know that when a gambler tries to recover money from previous losses it indirectly makes us too impulsive and it can make you lose your identity and have to be prepared for the chaos caused by careless behavior that we make just because we expect more from the gambling we do.

[Cgrexp]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

You have been gambling for ten years which is a long time. In this long time you have lost more than you won. Although it is good that you wanted to free yourself from it but only because of your friends you have gone back to that poisonous habit and got addicted to it more than before. But I can guess that in this long time you have lost at least a lot of money but most of the people make the mistake of betting again to recover the loss which leads to even bigger loss and you have also fallen into that trap. But I will tell you that it is a little difficult for you to overcome the habit of such a long time but if you have a strong determination then you can get rid of the gambling habit. Delete the app as soon as possible and try to stay away from gambling.

[DiMarxist]

Anyone who thinks that, it's possible to recover what has been lost to Gambling will continue to lose more because, the truth is that you can't recover what you have lost to gambling. The best thing to do going forward is to gamble with caution and don't gamble beyond your limits as a person. Knowing your financial state is very important because this will help to shaping your gambling activities, before anyone should gamble what should be considered first is the financial situation of such a person if I use this money to gamble will it not affect me, asking your self this question is very important.

[Sonia_123]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

You either quit or continue gambling if you are still interested because whatever money you lose to gambling cannot be recovered therefore when gambling , you have to gamble with what you can afford to lose and not your entire money you need for your upkeep.

In other to make gambling easy for you, you have to set up you gambling budget that will only involve the amount you can do away with, avoid listening to friends all the time, except it is your set aside funds for gambling. Do not gamble above your budget.

[Queen uloma]

Gambling is deadly and terrible at the same time, it is not easy to control or let go of anything one is addicted to, what you have to do is to take a critical decision, this decision will regulate your life, avoid those friend zone you're in, for the main time, until you can fully resist the temptation of excess gambling, most times I think why people become too addicted to gambling maybe because they don't have other activities that takes their time, anyone who's a gambling addict doesn't achieve anything, instead they engage on more losses which can either delay them from achieving more greater things in the future, so I will advise you to focus more on building your life than spending all you have in gambling, don't get me wrong, gambling isn't bad but excess of it destroy's life.

[Africolo]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

Gambling is good and at the same time very chaotic to one's life if you don't have self control over it and your betting activities, gambling addictions has rendered so Many people poor today because they didn't use their Brian while gambling they allow themselves to be carried away by potential bonuses and they decided to be chasing looses in other to recover and recoup the money they have lost while gambling.

Honestly no one has been able to recover all the money he or she has been using to gamble, it's not possible instead of hoping to recoup you get yourself open to more losses and this affects one's mental health and well-being, it has also caused high blood pressure to some gamblers that don't have the heart to bear huge losses, so to avoid addiction it's advisable for every gambler to have a good Bankroll Management and budgets for betting and in that way you can curtail the excessive addition pressure and accept defeat and more on as you can't recover all the losses.

[Somto9Light]

Anyone who thinks that, it's possible to recover what has been lost to Gambling will continue to lose more because, the truth is that you can't recover what you have lost to gambling. The best thing to do going forward is to gamble with caution and don't gamble beyond your limits as a person. Knowing your financial state is very important because this will help to shaping your gambling activities, before anyone should gamble what should be considered first is the financial situation of such a person if I use this money to gamble will it not affect me, asking your self this question is very important.

Exactly, gambling with the cautiousness that they can't get what they loss, is very helpful as it will shape them in a way they can gamble with the amount they can afford, because gambling is game of 50/50, that is to say whatever situation you find yourself, accept it without expecting anything in return and also, gambling is not a place where one can think they can be doubling their money, as it will make or lead them in making decisions that won't contribute anything positive in their lives.

[gunhell16]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

It would have been okay if you had made the first decision to stop gambling because you saw and realized that it was not doing you any good, and at the beginning of your decision it would have been fine, the problem was that your friend was used to tempt you to gamble again and it seems that evil succeeded in getting you back.

Besides that, op, what you say that when we lose we should accept that we lose, it is correct, but it is put in the right situation not in a situation like that like the one you are saying.
Why should we let our own weakness defeat us? It is not right to let weakness control our personality but we should be the ones controlling everything, right?

[MRY]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

It would have been okay if you had made the first decision to stop gambling because you saw and realized that it was not doing you any good, and at the beginning of your decision it would have been fine, the problem was that your friend was used to tempt you to gamble again and it seems that evil succeeded in getting you back.

Besides that, op, what you say that when we lose we should accept that we lose, it is correct, but it is put in the right situation not in a situation like that like the one you are saying.
Why should we let our own weakness defeat us? It is not right to let weakness control our personality but we should be the ones controlling everything, right?

Our willingness to have the power of making all decisions in our own lives demonstrates that we are extremely upright in terms of confronting the adverse environmental factors. You are right that, we should not make external temptations an excuse of letting our weaknesses to have the upper hand. As long as we can stand our grounds regarding our first principles, then we preserve our dignity as individuals that are independent. In my opinion the first step of being actually recovered is the honesty in making a mistake. It is only appropriate that we make our future path without the adverse influence of others.

[Hispo]

... I will advise you to focus more on building your life than spending all you have in gambling, don't get me wrong, gambling isn't bad but excess of it destroy's life.

It is easier said than done.
If OP is as addicted to gambling as I think he is, then I am afraid he may need the support of professional psychologists and psychiatrists in order to control his addiction to gambling to the point he can resist the urges to gamble and save money.

If you ever wonder why there are so many people who are addicted and only few of them get to start their life anew, it is because professional mental healthcare is scarce for people who do not have as many resources as they need to tackle their situation effectively.

Anyways, we can do nothing but hope for the best to OP and have him in our prayers.

[danadc]

Why should we let our own weakness defeat us? It is not right to let weakness control our personality but we should be the ones controlling everything, right?

It's a Powerful thought , one that can happen there's no Doubt that we are the masters of our actions and even what we feel. But sometimes temptation and everything related to adrenaline takes us to a level Where it's no longer such a smart game Emotions come out that make us lose money , and that's what we must avoid Anything that provides us with peace of mind is what we should seek drugs and addictions must be discarded.

[Julien_Olynpic]

The greatest danger that lurk within a gambler and drives them toward addiction is the intuitive desire to recoup losses, that is, to win them back. This is absurd, because losses are generally impossible to recover. When we win again, we don't compensate for the losses; we simply win again by chance. This is a difficult concept to grasp, although it may seem very simple to some. I once read an interesting trading book that criticized the rule that a paper loss is not a real loss, since it is "floating" and can still turn to zero or even return to profit. But this book explicitly stated that a paper loss is a real loss. You've already lost. Similarly, gamblers treat their losses as if they were fake, "floating." They try to win them back. But this is shooting themselves in the foot.

[Smartprofit]

In my experience, it's impossible to overcome a gambling addiction by avoiding certain actions (thoughts) or relying solely on willpower. 🙋

If gambling has already become your regular "food," then, in my opinion, you need to go to a different restaurant and buy yourself a different "food." One addiction can be overcome with another. This is, in fact, a working method that I've tested in practice. In my youth, I also suffered from a gambling addiction...

In my opinion, you need a new, interesting hobby that will compete with gambling (in your mind). For example, this could be computer games. If you start playing computer games passionately, you will eventually lose interest in gambling. This is because the human brain is unable to focus on two things at once. Therefore, if you have a gambling addiction, in my opinion, it makes sense to develop a new addiction. This new addiction will be weaker than the previous one.  And you'll be able to get rid of it more easily later!🧏

And when the weekend comes and your friends show you new games, you'll no longer be interested in them (since you have another hobby). Gambling won't tempt you the same way it once did. 💃

[swogerino]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

When I read such stories it reminds me of being in the same situation, you deleted the app but I even got a few steps further by blocking the IP of the sites through firewall rules and it didn't work as I expected. I mean it worked in a certain way as casinos that were eating me like crazy were not accessible anymore but I joined new ones in the mean time and I didn't block them too so I continue to play yet only with smaller amounts not crazy ones. I am trying to recover also hoping now that my 10-20 dollars deposits will net me a good win while I never play more than this amount.

[rachael9385]

Not everyone is worthy of gambling, not because of financial limitations, but because of mindset limitations. A person can lose the wealth he has accumulated over a long time in 1 day due to gambling & the reason behind it is definitely about self-control. Referring to your story, you should stop & not go back to gambling again. If your friends are the reason you go back to gambling, then you should cut off them, start doing activities alone & reflect on yourself.

Not going back to gambling is easier said than done, we have seen countless cases where people relapse while in the process of trying to quit. The best thing an addicted gambler can do is to find a way to limit himself by cutting down the amount and time spent on gambling. And like you added, cutting off his friends would also be a good idea because those are triggers to what makes him gamble irresponsibly.

[Webutxo]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

Sorry but you are clearly dealing with gambling addiction, if you are not I'm sure you would have quit and never look back again but the fact that you kept gambling, no profit and your conscience didn't tell you to stop, it means you are dealing with gambling addiction just that you didn't realize on time but now that you do, it's not late to stop and put your attention elsewhere where you can find fun without leveraging your money, that's my opinion.

Alternatively, another thing I will suggest is, make sure you stop using gambling apps for sometimes, there are many gambling apps that has deactivation of accounts or freeze for some period of time. You are doing this not because you want to stop gambling completely but as a reminder that what you are doing is wrong. Whenever you login to your account and see that your account is lock, it will give you a reminder of the struggles you have passed through.

[giammangiato]

I have been gambling for the past ten years now and seriously I must say I have lost more than I have profited thou it feels as if I should keep on trying so I can recover back my losses but that's the more money I keep on losing sometimes I will delete the app to free myself from it then during the week ends my friends will show me some nice games asking if I have interest in it then the spirit comes and I will download back the app and I will go back to what has been eating me up is so addicting that I called the app my daily food.
Some persons out there might be facing the same situation and it is affecting there state of mind and how they live there life's the fact is to just let go you can't recover those losses is gone just accept defeat and move on though is hard but you have to that's what I did

Dude, you're in a bad situation if we write to you to quit (it definitely won't be effective in getting you to quit).
I can only give you a hint, how lost is now lost remains in the past don't chase it you can't go back.
Don't meet friends who push you to gamble, any form of gambling that requires money you must keep away.
It's not difficult to do, plus you can start finding a hobby, do you have a pastime, or something you're passionate about?
I don't know about DIY, building something, puzzles, if you really want to play try playing video games (something you're passionate about), in my case it works great (I can also recommend an MMO that I really enjoy) it introduces me to people and helps me stay out of trouble, it's called Albion Online (fantasy style).
It doesn't cost you anything to try, at worst you don't have fun (BUT YOU DON'T LOSE MONEY), at best you have fun and distract your mind,
try and give me feedback.

[maydna]

Not everyone is worthy of gambling, not because of financial limitations, but because of mindset limitations. A person can lose the wealth he has accumulated over a long time in 1 day due to gambling & the reason behind it is definitely about self-control. Referring to your story, you should stop & not go back to gambling again. If your friends are the reason you go back to gambling, then you should cut off them, start doing activities alone & reflect on yourself.

Not going back to gambling is easier said than done, we have seen countless cases where people relapse while in the process of trying to quit. The best thing an addicted gambler can do is to find a way to limit himself by cutting down the amount and time spent on gambling. And like you added, cutting off his friends would also be a good idea because those are triggers to what makes him gamble irresponsibly.

Limitation is really needed in gambling to prevent addiction. Not all people playing gambling. They don't wants to waste their wealth to playing gambling and even if their friend asking them to join with them, they will not wants to gamble.

Leaving his friends is a good idea so he can stops gambling. If he thinks that gambling gives bad effect to his lives, he really need to leave gambling immediately.

We support you @OP if you really want to quit gambling. Leave your friends if they gives bad effect and no need to think much about them.