Where you are comfortable telling your gambling addiction

[lombok]

I'm not currently addicted but I almost fell into addiction when I newly started gambling until I finally came out of it based on my self realization. If I'm addicted to gambling, I will freely discuss it without anyone that can offer help to me so that I stop being addicted, I can not complain to who will not help me come off the addiction but anyone that can help me, I will explain my challenge to them. It's better to speak out than letting shame deprives from seeking help from the right source.

The fact that a person can break out of the dependency pit is a manifestation of a strong mind that is priceless in the future. It is much nobler to be brave enough to discuss personal challenges than letting shamelessness break the fabric of our lives bit by bite. It is by means of positive social support that the chances of recovery are increased significantly when we decide to get assistance using the appropriate avenue. Such an open step will make us a much fortification than we had previously.

[retreat]

Each person has their own best place to confess, not everyone is suited to telling their shame to their friends or partners, sometimes confessing to a priest/father can be the best thing since they are usually better at keeping your secret and they don't want to judge you for your mistakes and will provide solutions that focus more on reflection and self-improvement, which is more needed for gambling addicts. Moreover, priests/fathers are usually equipped with psychology knowledge and are used to handling counseling, so they can provide the solutions needed by gambling addicts.

[FirmWars]

I will prefer to tell my wife about my addiction and not a priest, what can a priest do to help me when they are not living in the same house with me all day? If I tell my wife about the condition I'm facing in gambling, at least she knows me better and she can come up with an idea of how we can tackle the problem but if I confess to the priest in the confession room, the advice he will give ends there, I won't have any appointment with him again unless I will be going there every service day to confess. I could also see a doctor if the fees is not very high.

[Ziskinberg]

If gambling addiction hits me, I don't think I'll be needing other people but stick to my partner. I know even if she's not into it, she can give helpful advices, before we will go into a medical practitioner when addiction gets worst.

Or I can also call a reliable friend who have experienced the same thing and was able to overcome, clearly he can share good tips and useful advices that would also motivate me to do the same things he did before.

[gunhell16]

Of course, if you don't have a wife, it's good for your best friend to be someone close to you, but if you have a wife, it's better to tell her, or you can also tell your wife and your best friend.
But of course, on my part, I feel more comfortable telling my best friend.

In fact, I don't always tell my wife that I gamble; I only told her once that I gambled when I won in my gambling, but when I lose, I usually don't tell her honestly.
Mostly my best friend knows because we both gamble online.

[Onyeeze]

Each person has their own best place to confess, not everyone is suited to telling their shame to their friends or partners, sometimes confessing to a priest/father can be the best thing since they are usually better at keeping your secret and they don't want to judge you for your mistakes and will provide solutions that focus more on reflection and self-improvement, which is more needed for gambling addicts. Moreover, priests/fathers are usually equipped with psychology knowledge and are used to handling counseling, so they can provide the solutions needed by gambling addicts.

i have made my point of view know in this thread, but i came to realize that, theirs no need for someone to confess to a priest or to a doctor because of gambling, i think that best thing to do is to take break in gambling, instead of exposing yourself, it hardly before someone to keep a secret, someone who keeps a secret have one important person that he can share discussion or ideas with, and secondly, he can use what you told him as a reference during discussion with other people, so it's better you handle your condition by yourself and sort it out

[Nothingtodo]

I usually try to keep my gambling to myself but recently I have had an open discussion with my wife about it. My wife forbids me from gambling and she has given me an ultimatum not to gamble more than one day a week. That is why gambling is not a big addiction for me and I control myself enough. That is why I do not feel the need to consult a mental or psychological doctor. My wife is helping me a lot to gradually stop gambling. I control myself quite a bit and I am mentally fit enough.

[Dunamisx]

I don't see anything bad in telling your story about how you face addiction for others to learn, just that everything must come with a deliberate intention of doing it, most of us had it been that we have the inside or got the opportunity of being advised by someone before being addicted, maybe we could have possibly apply some changes to how we started and things wouldn't have been this worst today extent.

[Bitcoin.com97]

Going to a Priest to confess about your gambling addiction is not actually  the best thing to do , I feel the most important thing is self awareness, once you are aware and feel within you that these can destroy your life or possibly you saw how everything is going , it’s best you talk to your  best friend about your addiction and listen to the kind of advice they will give , after which you too start working on yourself,  discipline yourself, avoid gambling site , and I feel you can also tell your partner which they can also be of help , by advising or watching over you  either by rules and implement actions with that way I believe it can also help .

[Abu-Naim]

How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

There should be some things that are supposed to be personal in your life and I think your gambling record should be among because you can’t just expose yourself to anyone with that I do and and as long as I am addicted, no one should know because it is not something good for everyone to know about, so you need to keep your addiction secret and even if you are contacting and therapist for it, it should be personal because such doctors also keep secrets.
I understand how bad gambling addiction can be and how financial draining it can be, but I don’t think it is advisable to make it public; try and get rid of it yourself because I believe you can reduced and eliminate it yourself, so let’s always know our limit.

[Stable090]

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.

Some people do take religion so serious, they believe if they tell their priest about their addiction problem, then their secret is safe, and they believe they will be getting a cure from that side.

If am addicted to gambling and I plan on telling anyone about my addiction, then am going to be telling someone am so close to, or am going to tell anyone which I know that can help me, and if I will be telling the person, then we just going to be when we are together alone. When some people hear about your addiction problem, they will start seeing you as an irresponsible person, and at the end some nigh start saying negative things behind your back.

[AVE5]

I am not a gambling addict, but if I were and it was affecting my psychological health to such a degree, I would definitely seek advice from a close friend who knows about gambling but doesn't gamble themselves. That's why close friends and confidants are good. They don't judge you, they don't expect anything from you, and you can tell them whatever is troubling you.

I'm sure that if I shared this situation with a friend, they would do everything they could to help me stay away from gambling or to gamble in a healthier way. A friend who can be there for you on any kind of day will definitely find the best solution to your problems at any stage of your life.

Before that addiction may come into you, be rest assured that staying away from addiction isn't as common as just talking to friends or love ones but your ability to take correction when you're being called on your wrong doings.
It's not as easy as you may think. It requires a lot of courage to desist from a desperate urge. Friends and families might try their best of advice to restore gambling personality but if you're ignorant or a chronic addiction victim, you'll still trash whatever opinions of those that cares about your predicament.

[Anayochukwu]

I think gambling addiction is not meant to escalate to public because already many people don't like gambling so they might start seeing you somehow if you tell them you are addicted to gambling. To be honest I think it should be only you and your family so you would end up being useless to people around you, because there are many people who don't know if you are a gambler or not they just see you as a responsible person so letting them know that you are addicted to gambling can easily make them not to trust you anymore because obviously you are not doing the right thing.

[Orpichukwu]

I don't see anything bad in telling your story about how you face addiction for others to learn, just that everything must come with a deliberate intention of doing it, most of us had it been that we have the inside or got the opportunity of being advised by someone before being addicted, maybe we could have possibly apply some changes to how we started and things wouldn't have been this worst today extent.

If it's just talking about it so that others can learn about it, there might be nothing bad. That's if you are already out of the addiction, not when you are still in it; you might be misunderstood, and some people might use it against you. Some can't withstand being laughed at, so they prefer using any means that can keep them private where necessary.

[Vaculin]

If this is a serious case of gambling addiction, then the perfect person to approach with is the doctor. He can assess your condition well and can set appointments for therapy because that's what a gambling addict really needs.

However, if gambling addiction is still in its early phase, I guess family and friends should be the first people to ask help with. I would prefer to ask help first from my parents first, and then to some of my close friends who have already experienced gambling addiction in their early years of gambling.

[Cantsay]

I am not comfortable tells my gambling activity to anyone and keep it for myself. I am glad that I don't have gambling addiction so nothing to worry.

You don't have to tells your secrets to others if you are not comfortable. You don't know if they can keep your secret or not so you must choose carefully the right person to have your secret.

There’s a way to actually test people out. You could test them with some info that are not that sensitive that even if they are leaked it wouldn’t affect you too much. So if you’re able to get people like that you should be able to also tell them things that they also wouldn’t leaked out.

It’s not as if I have someone I can tell though, but I know that if I should find someone like that then I wouldn’t hesitate to tell them.

[uneng]

Someone trustful should be the most reasonable answer to this reply. It can be a friend, a relative, a parent or a wife, depending the context of each addicted gambler. There isn't a general rule in this case, as there addicted gamblers who can't rely on their parents, while others are already having issues on their marriage, and others only have problem friends who boost their addiction.

And in case the social network of contacts is disfunctional, it must be a better idea to go directly to a doctor who will guide the addicted gambler with professionalism through an accurate medical treatment side by side with another professionals, such as a psychologist.

[Josefjix]

I don't need to vote, I can only vote if these personnel can help me stop gambling, if they can't help me out, then no need to tell them my burden.

I am mature enough to handle my emotions no matter what, whatever borders me is kept within me and if I want to quit such action and I find it impossible, whoever can help get out of the prison is who hears me.

I am not looking for encouraging words, let me stop is what I want to get.

[Sonia_123]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

Being addicted means going to the appropriate place instead of beating by the side of the bush, seeing a doctor counsellor that will help you regain your health is the best thing to be done that going to the right direction will be of a great help to you, the problem is that most addicted gamblers always don't want to believe that they are addicted maybe the are not free to and ashamed to be called an addict, you have to face your problem with the right solution so that you can be free.

Priest has nothing to do with physical medications but doctors, and cannot cure you but advice you on the right thing to do, your friend is even stingy to himself not wanting to use his money to cure himself of his problem, feeling cheated of being over charged by the doctors.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

I don't see anything bad in telling your story about how you face addiction for others to learn, just that everything must come with a deliberate intention of doing it, most of us had it been that we have the inside or got the opportunity of being advised by someone before being addicted, maybe we could have possibly apply some changes to how we started and things wouldn't have been this worst today extent.

You are absolutely right and I completely agree with you bud. It is commonly said that a problem shared is half solved and I absolutely agree with this statement. Many people have died out of frustration, depression all because they refused to talk to somebody, and I believe for some of this people, they likely may have refused to talk to somebody because they feel that can't trust anybody well enough to keep their secret.

But the truth is that a secret that is worth ending a person's precious life shouldn't be kept a secret anymore because in the end, no amount of secret is worth the life of any individual, we create secrets but can't create life.
When a gambling addiction reaches a certain level where the victim can no longer control himself, he or she should  not be talking about trust at this point, the main goal should be to get help.