Where you are comfortable telling your gambling addiction

[Jody.Drummer]

It may depend on each individual's goals. If the goal is simply to share stories, then I personally would choose to do so with friends or close friends whose goal is only to share stories and have no other purpose than to exchange stories with fellow friends who also enjoy gambling. However, if the goal is to solve a problem such as addiction, then the most appropriate thing to do is to talk to a psychologist or similar professional. But actually, you can also talk to family members, although there may be conflict if they are not already aware of the addiction problem, and the same goes for friends. Don't talk to people who hate gambling, as they will only criticize you, even though there is a chance they could offer advice or respond to your story in a positive way.

[viljy]

Well, there really are doctors who can even cheat a patient to get more money out of him. And there are many such doctors. A priest is good, but he's not an addiction specialist... Although I don't suffer from addiction myself, I would still suggest that it would be more comfortable to talk to my wife first (if you have a good relationship). If you're single, then talk to a friend.

[junder]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I have a friend, or rather a best friend, who also likes to gamble like me, so I often talk to him about my wins and losses, and sometimes even discuss quitting gambling altogether. I think it's more comfortable to talk to a best friend who also gambles than to anyone else.

I have never talked about gambling or addiction with people who, in my opinion, should not know that I have a gambling habit. Besides, I managed to recover on my own without telling anyone except my best friend.

I could have talked to my parents or family members, but I didn't. I just wanted to prove to myself that I could recover from addiction or gamble responsibly.

[ZeroVinsonN]

So your friend prefers going to the priest like once a week to confess that he is a gambling addict, the priest probably tells him that he has been forgiven and he goes right back to his addiction? I'm sorry if I sound rude but your friend doesn't want to put a top to his addiction, he is more or less just trying to satisfy his conscience by telling himself that he has seen a priest so things will get better. I'm not doubting the capability of the priest but what he can do is pointless if your friend doesn't actually want help, it's like trying to take a toy from a child and still keeping the same toy right in front of him after taking it.
If your friend really wants help I'm sure he knows where to get it.

[sotelorene]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I have never been an addict in gambling and I don't wish to be because it's very dangerous. So if someone is an addict in gambling I think the best is to meet a Doctor because they are the people that can cure or treat it well with the level of knowledge they have concerning that case though that your friend may be right because some Doctors will intentionally keep you for long to get money from someone especially if they find out you have money and this is very bad but yet some people are practicing it.

[imthegreat]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

I get your point, and faith in the holy and pure often seems like a pretty good way out. And I agree with that, because the priest doesn't get paid for it, he'll just listen and think about how he can really help the gambler. And this is in contrast to incompetent doctors who only want to get as much money as possible from the client. But I also want to add here that if gambler has friends, they can always listen to his problem very sincerely and give him some advice, because they don't charge money for it either. Therefore, in this they are similar to a priest who acts absolutely sincerely, and not at all out of thirst for life.

[Somegory]

I prefer going to the doctor who is an expert in curing addiction. These are professionals who have spent years studying gambling addiction and are effective in giving advice, medicines, and recommendations. You have to trust these people if you want your addiction cured.
It's different to give advice and to give medications.

The cure is in the mind of the addicted.
If you drag an addict down to the doctor and they place him on some drugs I doubt it will work for long because the mind is the one that needs the rescue.

If the mind haven't given up yet, every trail on cures will be in vain, sooner or later the mind will do the calling,  to start gambling again, and everything will be wasted, it is better to be sure that the victim of addiction is ready to fight for himself andl break free from the addiction.

[Outhue]

The proper solution to gambling addiction is if the addicted fellow is already prepared to give up on his addiction, this is the first step, without this there is no point in using about strategy for cure. Also someone who easily tells their problem to strangers or families has the highest chance of finding solutions Vs someone who wants to keep it a secret.

I've never become addicted in gambling before and I am always looking out for myself, I don't look at gambling as money problem solutions, I am positive that this was why many people have lost a fortune to gambling, because careful what you wished for, gambling is not a source of income, do not hope for such.

[TopTort777]

Since gambling has that negative vibe, nobody would be comfortable telling anyone he is addicted to gambling. Even to himself. It will always be hidden as "its just a hobby, I know when to stop". Since we had discussion about gambling being a secret activity for a person, then I dont think that anyone will have guts to confess to someone that he is addicted. But I accept that addicted might confess about his addicted to a wrong person; to a fellow addicted; to someone who wont judge, but neither do anything about it.

[Rockstarguy]

Well, there really are doctors who can even cheat a patient to get more money out of him. And there are many such doctors. A priest is good, but he's not an addiction specialist... Although I don't suffer from addiction myself, I would still suggest that it would be more comfortable to talk to my wife first (if you have a good relationship). If you're single, then talk to a friend.

I think both are not the type that can handle gambling addiction professionally, they both have their own area of life that has nothing to do with gambling addiction. But looking at the two if the victim thinks any of them have the understanding of how to counsel one who is addicted to gambling.

Anybody can have the understanding of how to advice people on how to stay away from gambling but looking at a priest and doctor I dont think they are the best for the job, I'm sure psychologist will do the job better.

[KiaKia]

I have never been addicted but if it happened I would rather tell my partner, it's better to tell someone who is very close to you, even if you tell friends they will likely expose you to others, I trust partners more than friends when it comes to a problem of addiction.

I don't believe that a doctor can cure gambling addiction, not even a priest, OP should have added a phycologist or a therapist, people whose jobs are related to the mind, they are the ones that can help an addicted gambler.

In the end, it's always someone who wants to be safe that will be saved by these people, an addicted gambler who isn't ready to be saved will always be trapped.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

I'm not currently addicted but I almost fell into addiction when I newly started gambling until I finally came out of it based on my self realization. If I'm addicted to gambling, I will freely discuss it without anyone that can offer help to me so that I stop being addicted, I can not complain to who will not help me come off the addiction but anyone that can help me, I will explain my challenge to them. It's better to speak out than letting shame deprives from seeking help from the right source.

The fact that a person can break out of the dependency pit is a manifestation of a strong mind that is priceless in the future. It is much nobler to be brave enough to discuss personal challenges than letting shamelessness break the fabric of our lives bit by bite. It is by means of positive social support that the chances of recovery are increased significantly when we decide to get assistance using the appropriate avenue. Such an open step will make us a much fortification than we had previously.

I can not decide to die in silence because of shame, I don't care what people has to say but my safety and wellbeing matters to me, even though I have to report myself to many people that have a remedy, I will do that, I just learn that being outspoken in terms of challenges can help one get quick solution because you could fine someone that will have a better idea on how you could resolve your problem. So, anyone that needs help must go through the right source.

[sompitonov]

I can not decide to die in silence because of shame, I don't care what people has to say but my safety and wellbeing matters to me, even though I have to report myself to many people that have a remedy, I will do that, I just learn that being outspoken in terms of challenges can help one get quick solution because you could fine someone that will have a better idea on how you could resolve your problem. So, anyone that needs help must go through the right source.

Long ago, when I first encountered addiction, I thought it would happen to any gambler but not me. But now I realize many others thought the same way, and today I'm also not afraid to share my experiences, for example, how I tried to win back my entire deposit using the Martin Gale strategy at roulette and wanted to take out a loan. I believe that honest player stories on forums and in video interviews help many players recognize themselves or simply avoid becoming another addicted gambler, which can reach its worst forms when a player spends all their available money on gambling.

[rachael9385]

Well, there really are doctors who can even cheat a patient to get more money out of him. And there are many such doctors. A priest is good, but he's not an addiction specialist... Although I don't suffer from addiction myself, I would still suggest that it would be more comfortable to talk to my wife first (if you have a good relationship). If you're single, then talk to a friend.

Some people don't talk to others about their gambling addiction because they are scared of being judged or seen as addicts so they don't get stereotyped. Opening up to others can help deal with the stress but It doesn't actually solve the problem, the main thing is to put in efforts to put the addiction under control.

[hedgeh0g]

Well, there really are doctors who can even cheat a patient to get more money out of him. And there are many such doctors. A priest is good, but he's not an addiction specialist... Although I don't suffer from addiction myself, I would still suggest that it would be more comfortable to talk to my wife first (if you have a good relationship). If you're single, then talk to a friend.

Some people don't talk to others about their gambling addiction because they are scared of being judged or seen as addicts so they don't get stereotyped. Opening up to others can help deal with the stress but It doesn't actually solve the problem, the main thing is to put in efforts to put the addiction under control.

I feel most comfortable telling people on the forum, but I can't easily tell my friends or close friends, because they'll judge me, and I simply won't be able to handle the pressure, because I really want to play today. They might resort to restrictive tactics to take care of me or try to make me feel better, but they won't succeed, because I play the way I see fit. I think I'll stop soon if I notice my spending is too high, but I understand that simply quitting won't be easy; it's necessary to gradually phase out.

[yhiaali3]

It may depend on each individual's goals. If the goal is simply to share stories, then I personally would choose to do so with friends or close friends whose goal is only to share stories and have no other purpose than to exchange stories with fellow friends who also enjoy gambling. However, if the goal is to solve a problem such as addiction, then the most appropriate thing to do is to talk to a psychologist or similar professional. But actually, you can also talk to family members, although there may be conflict if they are not already aware of the addiction problem, and the same goes for friends. Don't talk to people who hate gambling, as they will only criticize you, even though there is a chance they could offer advice or respond to your story in a positive way.

I agree with you, everyone has a different nature and different goals, so generalizations are wrong. Yes, it depends on your goal. Do you just want to share your stories and experiences or are you looking for a cure or a solution? Everyone has a different choice.

As I mentioned in my post, some communities don't have confession to a priest and those that prohibit gambling can't talk to anyone about it because it's taboo. So, everyone has a different choice.

[SatoPrincess]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

Is there even a cure for addiction? I understand your friend’s concerns about talking to a therapist since their business is to make money off your problems. While I don’t have a gambling addiction, I have other problems and would share them with a confidant who genuinely cares for my well-being than a stranger who is just doing a job.

[Accardo]

So your friend prefers going to the priest like once a week to confess that he is a gambling addict, the priest probably tells him that he has been forgiven and he goes right back to his addiction? I'm sorry if I sound rude but your friend doesn't want to put a top to his addiction, he is more or less just trying to satisfy his conscience by telling himself that he has seen a priest so things will get better. I'm not doubting the capability of the priest but what he can do is pointless if your friend doesn't actually want help, it's like trying to take a toy from a child and still keeping the same toy right in front of him after taking it.
If your friend really wants help I'm sure he knows where to get it.

Some priests are psychologists, but not proficient with psychotherapy, which is totally meant for people like Op's friend. After the confession, if the priest adviced him to see a therapist, for instance, he didn't make the wrong move. It all depends on the follow up talk the priest told the gambler. Also, being consistent with the session would help shape the player's gaming routine and lay in a thought shifted from all time gambling to maybe an infant development on playing volleyball, racing, basketball etc, to distract the body and emotions from constantly moving into gambling.

[lombok]

I have a friend whom I advise so many times to talk to a physician who is an expert in curing addiction, but he says that he can't because he doesn't trust doctors, because he feels that they are prolonging the session so they can extract money from their clients.

He ended up going to a priest to confess his addiction in a confession room and at the same time ask for advice, he reasons that he can easily trust the Priest because they don't charge a fee, you are anonymous to them because there is a curtain to both of you, and Priest are men of God and they study to give good advice.
How about you? Where are you comfortable telling your gambling addiction, and what are your reasons to trust them?

Please vote and explain.

Is there even a cure for addiction? I understand your friend’s concerns about talking to a therapist since their business is to make money off your problems. While I don’t have a gambling addiction, I have other problems and would share them with a confidant who genuinely cares for my well-being than a stranger who is just doing a job.

The first step to the recovery of addiction does start with a solid desire to change the real lifestyle. Most of the time, we have to acknowledge that a social support by trusted individuals seems more authentic compared to strictly professional assistance. Nevertheless, free communication with people who actually care assists us to journey our way to the proper direction. When we come out clean about our personal problems, we develop a better capacity to deal with life challenges in future.

[Cantsay]

So your friend prefers going to the priest like once a week to confess that he is a gambling addict, the priest probably tells him that he has been forgiven and he goes right back to his addiction? I'm sorry if I sound rude but your friend doesn't want to put a top to his addiction, he is more or less just trying to satisfy his conscience by telling himself that he has seen a priest so things will get better. I'm not doubting the capability of the priest but what he can do is pointless if your friend doesn't actually want help, it's like trying to take a toy from a child and still keeping the same toy right in front of him after taking it.
If your friend really wants help I'm sure he knows where to get it.

Sometimes it’s mental issue. I have seen people who are struggling with an issue, they know that they have that issue and they want to stop it, they also know how and what to do to stop it and still yet they just can’t bring themselves to do it.

There are people like this, they kinda need a very strong assistant to be able to handle stuffs and get it done. They might do the basic things but when it comes to what will actually bring about the changes they want they’ll give up and go back to the beginning all over again, so I think the friend might just be among this category.