Is this being strict?

[Yeesha]

When this child grows up, you will leave to regret this incident for his entire life because of his father's decision, this is also one of the reason why you see some children who feel to go by their parents way because they choose their own part on their own and by themselves, maybe you will later regret why telling his father, when he could have keep such away from his father.

The child doesn't need to wait and grow up before he will know that the father is not giving him good advice; come to think of it, anyone who is old enough and allowed to gamble should be able to detect and differentiate good and bad by himself. That which the dad is asking him to do can only be considered misleading advice, and he should never take such a step even if it costs the family relationship to be shaken; it's better than losing that money. There is an opportunity in the future to reconnect, but when that money is gone, that's it.

Exactly, who so ever is old enough to gamble, should also be sensible enough to know or should be able to dectate the good advice and the negative advice, beside it is not advisable for a child to involve his or her self in gambling, just because other people are using a huge amount of money to gamble that shouldn't motivate you to imitate them because financial statuses are different, but frankly speaking, some people are not using a huge amount of money to gamble because they are financially secure and stable, they are actually doing it out of ignorant, and insecurity, and this is an act of irresponsible and negligence, because despite the fact that you are earning a lot of income you shouldn't end up putting so much money in gambling.

[bakasabo]

I believe this story is related to religious beliefs. It seems the father is religiously conservative and considers gambling religiously forbidden, so he refuses to take the money his son won gambling because he deems it illegitimate. I don't know for sure, but since the young man is 19 years old, he is an adult and responsible for his actions.

This story illustrates the disparity in thinking between strict parents who cling to rigid beliefs despite poverty and children searching for a way out of their impoverished lifestyle.

If this story is related to religion, then why not use money that 19yo adult won for religion? Make a donation or help people. If that guy return money to gambling, there will be no winner in this situation except casino. If I was a strict and religious father I would ask my child to share those money with other people or make huge donation to church. I would ask him to give all the money without leaving anything for himself. But, it will be up to my child to decide what to do with the money, ask he is an adult, grown up person and must make responsible decisions himself.

[Negotiation]

Sometimes, even a small amount of wealth earned through halal or legal means is more valuable to parents. For them wealth that comes from sacrificing principles is considered more of a curse than a blessing which is why they are against gambling. But for a 19 year old young man getting out of poverty becomes the main goal he sees reality in the light of the present while his parents see life through the glasses of their long cherished reforms. Therefore as an adult a person has the right to make his own decisions and when you understand that a certain information will disturb their peace of mind or cause them unnecessary anxiety then it is a kind of maturity to keep it to yourself.

[SatoPrincess]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

[WhoYouCantKill]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

[SatoPrincess]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

I also understand the high poverty rate and cost of living in the country. That’s why I don’t believe someone most likely a middle class person would ask their son to turn down 38m winnings for “religious” reasons. From the link in the OP, I can tell that it’s a rage bait post to get people talking, nothing else.

[Somegory]

Sometimes, even a small amount of wealth earned through halal or legal means is more valuable to parents. For them wealth that comes from sacrificing principles is considered more of a curse than a blessing which is why they are against gambling. But for a 19 year old young man getting out of poverty becomes the main goal he sees reality in the light of the present while his parents see life through the glasses of their long cherished reforms. Therefore as an adult a person has the right to make his own decisions and when you understand that a certain information will disturb their peace of mind or cause them unnecessary anxiety then it is a kind of maturity to keep it to yourself.

I want to know what principles we are talking about here? The principles that the boy doesn't have? If the parents are the winner they can easily say no and walk away but since the boy doesn't have those principles they should just let him be.

That money could be a breakthrough for that family starting from.that time he won, if they throw that away they might never achieve anything in their lives ever again, because I am very sure that this happened in a developing country, it's always that part of the world.

Gambling can make one lose morality, become indiscipline or even start stealing, but can't be compared to someone who scams others or hacks people account and move their money, if you have a strong mind you can beat gambling at everything apart from winning money.

[TopTort777]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

I also understand the high poverty rate and cost of living in the country. That’s why I don’t believe someone most likely a middle class person would ask their son to turn down 38m winnings for “religious” reasons. From the link in the OP, I can tell that it’s a rage bait post to get people talking, nothing else.

I also think this story is a made up or it is very dramatized. After hearing his fathers saying that he must return those money, dude could have said that he is mature enough to take his own decisions and return nothing. End of story. It is nowhere said that he has returned money. My parents also told me things I disagree with and would do different than they want. I dont make drama out of it and share it in internet. Moreover, I a already much older than 18

[nara1892]

In this day and age, where we all know and understand that earning money is incredibly difficult, is there really anyone who would refuse such a large sum of money for nothing? Honestly, I'm not entirely convinced by this father's attitude. But if it's true, then yes, this father's principles are truly strong. He refused a life-changing amount of money simply because he disliked gambling. If that's true, then such people are truly in the minority.
On the other hand, if this news is true, then this father's attitude demonstrates just how bad gambling is in the eyes of some people.

[swogerino]

In this day and age, where we all know and understand that earning money is incredibly difficult, is there really anyone who would refuse such a large sum of money for nothing? Honestly, I'm not entirely convinced by this father's attitude. But if it's true, then yes, this father's principles are truly strong. He refused a life-changing amount of money simply because he disliked gambling. If that's true, then such people are truly in the minority.
On the other hand, if this news is true, then this father's attitude demonstrates just how bad gambling is in the eyes of some people.

I don't want to sound like the bad guy in here but if the father really didn't accept a life changing amount and decided to still live a normal average life then his decision in this case is wrong. If it happened to me I would see this as an opportunity to change me life for the better and invest that money in good investments like real estate or just add it to have a nice bank balance to rely on difficult days as difficult days are always right behind the door. I admire this father honesty but nowadays this decision to me looks like throwing away a very good possibility to change your life for the better.

[WhoYouCantKill]

I also understand the high poverty rate and cost of living in the country. That’s why I don’t believe someone most likely a middle class person would ask their son to turn down 38m winnings for “religious” reasons. From the link in the OP, I can tell that it’s a rage bait post to get people talking, nothing else.

We’ll never say never, I’ve witness far worst crazy and unbelievable turn of events play out right in front of me, so I really can’t say a story can never be true. Sure, the story could just be another rage bait post as you put it, but the fact that the story sounds too good to be true doesn’t mean there’s actually a zero chance of it actually being true…

[Zadicar]

When this child grows up, you will leave to regret this incident for his entire life because of his father's decision, this is also one of the reason why you see some children who feel to go by their parents way because they choose their own part on their own and by themselves, maybe you will later regret why telling his father, when he could have keep such away from his father.

The child doesn't need to wait and grow up before he will know that the father is not giving him good advice; come to think of it, anyone who is old enough and allowed to gamble should be able to detect and differentiate good and bad by himself. That which the dad is asking him to do can only be considered misleading advice, and he should never take such a step even if it costs the family relationship to be shaken; it's better than losing that money. There is an opportunity in the future to reconnect, but when that money is gone, that's it.

Exactly, who so ever is old enough to gamble, should also be sensible enough to know or should be able to dectate the good advice and the negative advice, beside it is not advisable for a child to involve his or her self in gambling, just because other people are using a huge amount of money to gamble that shouldn't motivate you to imitate them because financial statuses are different, but frankly speaking, some people are not using a huge amount of money to gamble because they are financially secure and stable, they are actually doing it out of ignorant, and insecurity, and this is an act of irresponsible and negligence, because despite the fact that you are earning a lot of income you shouldn't end up putting so much money in gambling.

For sure his son is already on the right age but since he's still not married then he's that still under the roof of his parents but if we do speak about making up decisions based up on your own will then his son would definitely be having the right to do on which considering that these winnings came from gambling and we know that gambling isnt really that bad at all since its an entertainment thing and money won from that isnt something that came from illegal on which i dont really see up the point on why the father wont really be accepting or wanting for his son to accept it out. For me if i was the son then i would be keeping it secret to my parents and wont really be that giving those amounts back on which considering on how important money is and its usage then you would be thinking about for your future on which money would really be relevant. There are really those people who are really that sticking into their principles.

[allfriends88]

I don't want to sound like the bad guy in here but if the father really didn't accept a life changing amount and decided to still live a normal average life then his decision in this case is wrong. If it happened to me I would see this as an opportunity to change me life for the better and invest that money in good investments like real estate or just add it to have a nice bank balance to rely on difficult days as difficult days are always right behind the door. I admire this father honesty but nowadays this decision to me looks like throwing away a very good possibility to change your life for the better.

And what's even more stupid is that the OP post explains that the child's family who won needed the money for rent, and the father didn't think about that, if his principle of not accepting the money was simply because he disliked gambling, or because gambling was considered a sin according to his beliefs, I believe God is merciful. I just think God showed his love in a different way, and the father should have accepted it.

[Pmalek]

That's not a boy nor a minor. The winner is a 19-year old adult who should be able to make his own decisions. Still, it's a difficult choice going against your own father and family. If he has such a firm stance against gambling, I am sure he would be ready to punish his son if he disobeyed his wishes, perhaps even throwing him out on the street. The N38 million isn't life-changing money unfortunately.

[bhadz]

He still think that his son is a kid and can't make decisions. It's a sad reality of the parents when they see their kids do something against their principles and what they've told not to do. But it's already there, the son has won and the father has already said what must be done. And yet, what about the money? maybe it's the time for the dad to give some money lessons to the kid and both of them move on. Not so much money but with that, he can start to make his son financially adept by despising gambling and making an exception of the current situation.

[Doan9269]

Behavior like this which the father did does not portray strictness, instead, it shows how the father has failed on countless occasions to make the child go by his kind of way of life, because despite all the disciplined and strictness he claim to give, is still never know the child could go to this extent to gamble and this only shows his weakness as a father because he was unable to achieve his target upon his child in preventing him from gambling in the first place.

[POPOLUV]

I came accross a story about a buy who won #38 million from a bet he staked with #450, but instead of his father celebrating with him and guiding him on how to utilize the money properly, he demanded he return the money Because he doesn't support gambling.

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This should be a life-changing amount that the boy has won and this is the stand of his father on the source of the income. meanwhile they face the issue of rent renewal which should be due in 2 months time and it should be a case of divine provision. This shows the extent that personal beliefs can prevent rational thinking.

What do you've to say about this

Is the father being strict, or is he just being ignorant?

For me, I'm seeing what is more than strict or ignorant from the father of the 19 years boy that won 38 millions and yet the renewal of house rent  will be do in two months time and which the father could have uss the money to paid and renew the house rent  at the  moment,  but the hatred from the father for those that gamble, because all his thinking faculty is that, nothing good can come out from people that gambling, that gambling is not a genuine money, yet his ignorance couldn't allow him see that God help he through his 19 years boy to uplifting their family from the intiat stage of not having money, through his son, assuming I'm the son, i will not return that money because it is not easy thing to be able to win such amount of money through gambling.

[Satofan44]

That's not being strict, it's the perception of gambling which is different among people based on their personal and religious beliefs. The Papa is someone who is against gambling and that's probably based on religion. If I were the son of that man, I should be able to know what kind of thing my dad will not be in support of and knowing that he won't support the win, I will not announce it to him but will rather deposit the money in the bank and bring it out gradually.

So instead of confronting your dad for his idiocy and being a man, you will be a coward that will employ lying and omission? Excellent alternative indeed.

This story illustrates the disparity in thinking between strict parents who cling to rigid beliefs despite poverty and children searching for a way out of their impoverished lifestyle.

It is an example that proves that most poor people are poor because they are stupid in one way or another, that is all that there is to it. I am certain that this person is breaking all sorts of religious beliefs and making all sorts of errors, while he is insisting strictly on 1 random thing that he choose arbitrarily -- as such he is always in the wrong.

Honestly, if I’m that boy, the last thing I’ll do is return the money, like return it back to who?

That is a very weird question to ask, you can return it where it comes from practically always -- so there is no "who" to question.

If he's too principled not to accept it, that only means that he doesn't like the money. But after all, it's still his boy who gets to decide with it because that win goes to nobody but him.

I am pretty sure that most people at this age and beyond are controlled by their parents, at least they are unable to break out of this situation. Therefore, to claim that it is still the boy who gets to decide is false. Legally, sure. In practical reality? No.

On the one hand, I admire the old man principles.

Stop spreading misinformation about principles, this has nothing to do with any kind of principles otherwise you could claim any addict to anything is a principled person. The father is an envious, toxic, moron who ruined his son's one in a lifetime event. He condemned him to 40 years of modern slavery, congratulations to these "principles".