Is this being strict?

[Yeesha]

When this child grows up, you will leave to regret this incident for his entire life because of his father's decision, this is also one of the reason why you see some children who feel to go by their parents way because they choose their own part on their own and by themselves, maybe you will later regret why telling his father, when he could have keep such away from his father.

The child doesn't need to wait and grow up before he will know that the father is not giving him good advice; come to think of it, anyone who is old enough and allowed to gamble should be able to detect and differentiate good and bad by himself. That which the dad is asking him to do can only be considered misleading advice, and he should never take such a step even if it costs the family relationship to be shaken; it's better than losing that money. There is an opportunity in the future to reconnect, but when that money is gone, that's it.

Exactly, who so ever is old enough to gamble, should also be sensible enough to know or should be able to dectate the good advice and the negative advice, beside it is not advisable for a child to involve his or her self in gambling, just because other people are using a huge amount of money to gamble that shouldn't motivate you to imitate them because financial statuses are different, but frankly speaking, some people are not using a huge amount of money to gamble because they are financially secure and stable, they are actually doing it out of ignorant, and insecurity, and this is an act of irresponsible and negligence, because despite the fact that you are earning a lot of income you shouldn't end up putting so much money in gambling.

[bakasabo]

I believe this story is related to religious beliefs. It seems the father is religiously conservative and considers gambling religiously forbidden, so he refuses to take the money his son won gambling because he deems it illegitimate. I don't know for sure, but since the young man is 19 years old, he is an adult and responsible for his actions.

This story illustrates the disparity in thinking between strict parents who cling to rigid beliefs despite poverty and children searching for a way out of their impoverished lifestyle.

If this story is related to religion, then why not use money that 19yo adult won for religion? Make a donation or help people. If that guy return money to gambling, there will be no winner in this situation except casino. If I was a strict and religious father I would ask my child to share those money with other people or make huge donation to church. I would ask him to give all the money without leaving anything for himself. But, it will be up to my child to decide what to do with the money, ask he is an adult, grown up person and must make responsible decisions himself.

[Negotiation]

Sometimes, even a small amount of wealth earned through halal or legal means is more valuable to parents. For them wealth that comes from sacrificing principles is considered more of a curse than a blessing which is why they are against gambling. But for a 19 year old young man getting out of poverty becomes the main goal he sees reality in the light of the present while his parents see life through the glasses of their long cherished reforms. Therefore as an adult a person has the right to make his own decisions and when you understand that a certain information will disturb their peace of mind or cause them unnecessary anxiety then it is a kind of maturity to keep it to yourself.

[SatoPrincess]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

[WhoYouCantKill]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

[SatoPrincess]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

I also understand the high poverty rate and cost of living in the country. That’s why I don’t believe someone most likely a middle class person would ask their son to turn down 38m winnings for “religious” reasons. From the link in the OP, I can tell that it’s a rage bait post to get people talking, nothing else.

[Somegory]

Sometimes, even a small amount of wealth earned through halal or legal means is more valuable to parents. For them wealth that comes from sacrificing principles is considered more of a curse than a blessing which is why they are against gambling. But for a 19 year old young man getting out of poverty becomes the main goal he sees reality in the light of the present while his parents see life through the glasses of their long cherished reforms. Therefore as an adult a person has the right to make his own decisions and when you understand that a certain information will disturb their peace of mind or cause them unnecessary anxiety then it is a kind of maturity to keep it to yourself.

I want to know what principles we are talking about here? The principles that the boy doesn't have? If the parents are the winner they can easily say no and walk away but since the boy doesn't have those principles they should just let him be.

That money could be a breakthrough for that family starting from.that time he won, if they throw that away they might never achieve anything in their lives ever again, because I am very sure that this happened in a developing country, it's always that part of the world.

Gambling can make one lose morality, become indiscipline or even start stealing, but can't be compared to someone who scams others or hacks people account and move their money, if you have a strong mind you can beat gambling at everything apart from winning money.

[TopTort777]

Sounds like a made up story to me. 38 million naira for many is a life changing amount, and since the boy is over 18 years old he is quite capable of making his own decisions. IMO, the best thing to do is to be there for your son and guide him so he doesn’t squander the money on childish things.

I’m sure you understand how we Africans can be sometimes, I mean when it involves religion. Some African parents can be so religious that they can actually risk throwing away some life changing opportunities just to guard their religious beliefs, I’ve seen such play out severally so I’d completely believe a story like this one, cos I know anything is possible in Africa.

I also understand the high poverty rate and cost of living in the country. That’s why I don’t believe someone most likely a middle class person would ask their son to turn down 38m winnings for “religious” reasons. From the link in the OP, I can tell that it’s a rage bait post to get people talking, nothing else.

I also think this story is a made up or it is very dramatized. After hearing his fathers saying that he must return those money, dude could have said that he is mature enough to take his own decisions and return nothing. End of story. It is nowhere said that he has returned money. My parents also told me things I disagree with and would do different than they want. I dont make drama out of it and share it in internet. Moreover, I a already much older than 18

[nara1892]

In this day and age, where we all know and understand that earning money is incredibly difficult, is there really anyone who would refuse such a large sum of money for nothing? Honestly, I'm not entirely convinced by this father's attitude. But if it's true, then yes, this father's principles are truly strong. He refused a life-changing amount of money simply because he disliked gambling. If that's true, then such people are truly in the minority.
On the other hand, if this news is true, then this father's attitude demonstrates just how bad gambling is in the eyes of some people.

[swogerino]

In this day and age, where we all know and understand that earning money is incredibly difficult, is there really anyone who would refuse such a large sum of money for nothing? Honestly, I'm not entirely convinced by this father's attitude. But if it's true, then yes, this father's principles are truly strong. He refused a life-changing amount of money simply because he disliked gambling. If that's true, then such people are truly in the minority.
On the other hand, if this news is true, then this father's attitude demonstrates just how bad gambling is in the eyes of some people.

I don't want to sound like the bad guy in here but if the father really didn't accept a life changing amount and decided to still live a normal average life then his decision in this case is wrong. If it happened to me I would see this as an opportunity to change me life for the better and invest that money in good investments like real estate or just add it to have a nice bank balance to rely on difficult days as difficult days are always right behind the door. I admire this father honesty but nowadays this decision to me looks like throwing away a very good possibility to change your life for the better.