Gambling turn into slavery.

[nara1892]

It's fundamentally difficult to help gamblers overcome addiction. In the case you described, the OP even neglected his family, as you mentioned. From this, it can be concluded that, let alone us, who are nobodies, even his own family can't be a catalyst for his awakening.
Such gamblers usually only come to their senses after experiencing significant losses, and even then, it's only temporary, unless they've truly experienced a significant downturn.

[danherbias07]

He needs major help from those who specialize in this field. Gambling addiction.

I mean, it's not like it can be saved by mere talk anymore. What he needs is to be in a facility where he cannot access gambling. Possibly no internet or just limited to talking with friends and family. Also, no going out, so there's no urge that will come in.
According to how you describe it, this is a deep gambling addiction, and mild help like groups who are sharing their experiences is not going to be helpful anymore. I bet he is also denying any help now and probably lying to his teeth about his loans and debts. Recovery will only be found in facilities where they specialized on treating this problem.

[tech30338]

It's fundamentally difficult to help gamblers overcome addiction. In the case you described, the OP even neglected his family, as you mentioned. From this, it can be concluded that, let alone us, who are nobodies, even his own family can't be a catalyst for his awakening.
Such gamblers usually only come to their senses after experiencing significant losses, and even then, it's only temporary, unless they've truly experienced a significant downturn.

Some are.really hopeless , they even come to a friend asking for help but they can't help.themselves, we are just here to give advice, but still what to be done is for him to do what is needed like, stop what he is doing and limit gambling slowly, because if not those unfurtunate things will keep on happening.

[bitLeap]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

You've done your best as a friend, but remember not to get too involved in other people's family matters. I understand that sympathy and concern have limits, and sometimes the best thing you can do is give them space to reflect on their decisions.

[Porfirii]

These cases are very complicated, and trying to help without knowing very well how to do it can do more harm than good.

The first thing I would do is contact a specialist with provable experience in gambling addictions, and let him advise me. Then, if your friend keeps turning a deaf ear, and it's a hopeless case, perhaps the fairest and most sensible thing to do is to directly focus on helping the well-being of his family, if he proves unable to do so.

[memehunter]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

It is a very difficult situation to see your friend like this. IMO, you should connect him to any professional gambling addiction counselling services, they are professionals and might be able to convince him in a better way to go through a rehab process.
Now the problem does not lie in the individual capacity anymore (imo, we are already over that point) it is more of a psychological disorder and a professional help is desperately needed.
  

[Dunamisx]

Gambling is not what cause seem to be irresponsible, even if such person stop to gamble today, he will still be found misbehaving around because he lacks being disciplined, gambling shouldn't be an excuse for us to be irresponsible in anything that we do, to gamble is just an entertainment and we have to plan ahead in every decision we are taking, there are people like this that like taking things for granted.

[Rockson1]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Your friend needs help but he must first start by helping himself by admitting that he is addicted, he has gone far and can only be helped if he help himself, addiction in gambling becomes a life destroyer if one does not watch it, every addict start gradually or with the mindset that I will win the house back but later become a slave to the house, in a situation as this one, the addict has to be talked to although he might listen and still go back to it, I think he has to help himself first followed by helping him to get a counselor or should I say a therapist because this type addiction that has involved borrowing money is now a chronic one that need iron hand to tackle if not the man will do something dangerous one day to quench his urge.

[Loyang]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

It will not be easy to bring a person who is at the end of his rope, but it is not impossible. If you had done what you are trying to do now, he might not have been in this situation or it would have been possible to bring him back with a little effort.

But at this moment, the things you need to do to bring him back to his previous position are to always be with him and stop him from gambling and keep him busy with sports from time to time. I personally believe that if a person is busy with sports every day, he will definitely be able to get himself out of this type of addiction and will be able to get himself out of all other addictions.

[Taskford]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

If he's not listening to his family then do you think that he will listen to you?

Much better if you coordinate your concern to his family and see if they can do something.

If the addiction level is so high like he can't control his activities and he's now engaging on something illegal then much better to seek help of professionals. Rehabilitation centers will provably help your friend and maybe if he's inside of that institution he can slowly forget about gambling.

[Shishir99]

As far as I understand, the situation is too bad and it seems out of control already. I don't know what can be done. I don't know if Gambling is legal or illegal there. If it is illegal, get some help from the police. The only way to save him is lock him up in the jail. I don't know what can be done. If a men forget that he is a Men, and he has some responsibility, then there is a problem. If I don't care about my son, my wife or my other family member, then nobody in this world can stop me.

I know that the person will realize his mistake one day. But that would be too late. They won't be able to recover from that situation anymore. Or even if they recover at some point, that would be too hard and late.

[Odohu]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Your friend is addicted to gambling and that is rather unfortunate. Have you tried talking to him, like giving him some valuable advice on why he should adjust his gambling? If you have tried to talk him out of it and there is no positive result, I will advice you to take him to seek the help of an expert that will rehabilitate him. They will be able to help him reprogram his mind because addiction is a psychological problem that needs the services of people who are experts in that area.

[Sanitough]

That is the worst part of addiction, and I’m glad I was not able to reach that level despite the fact that I was also addicted before.

I think when someone does not listen anymore, there is only so much we can do. A gambler sometimes needs to learn from his own mistakes, but sadly that lesson may come the hard way. If he still has parents or family who care for him, and gambling addiction is already destroying his life, then maybe rehab should be considered already because it looks like he is way out of control.

[dansus021]

At this point the person who can help him is himself, in my opinion he just need a some motivation. Your friend isn't a bad person he has a hijacked brain. Gambing should be fun and we as player need to control it and never ever to join to the addiction, Im personally addicted to gamble. Its keep on my mind but I need to stop at some point if I look back just this year I personally already lost 1.6K is due gambling and I had enough Its been a 2 month.

Like my other post said that He is chasing the dopamine, Do gamble for fun only and if you can do that just dont do it.

[pawanjain]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Never give up on him is what I would say. Such people are addicted and need our help although they don't ask for it.
They might think we are trying to burden them by repeatedly trying to make them stop gambling.
But only we know that we are doing it for their own good. So the only thing is to keep trying using different ways.
May be try out different tactics, can be good or bad ways too as long as the person quits gambling.

[Zadicar]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

At least you do your part as a friend or being concerned but as said that you've been ignored and still continue what to do. Well, there's nothing we can do with that but to let things happen as they dont listen out for some advises. People would eventually be having that realization but its just sad that everything would be too late. This is why its important that before you do gamble then make sure that you do make yourself responsible and doesnt compromise anything specially if you do have your own family then it would be just that normal that you would be needing up to be careful when it comes into your actions. Gambling isnt bad as long you dont compromise things because on the time that you wouldnt really be able to give the needs then you are already an irresponsible father and a husband. You wouldnt really be able to realize it once you do still have the money but on the moment that you would be losing it all then this is where you would be having the regret but its too late.

[Webutxo]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

I'm not trying to be sarcastic but there are some people that you can't save because they know what they are doing. I can like something to the point that I will be willing to die for that thing but I draw the line where my family comes, this is not just about gambling even if it's an investment and it's going to cost my health and my family, I will run off and never look back, no sane man will want to do anything that will affect his family unless he is a coward.

Things can be hard for the family if they depend on him but they can do without him, they should just let him go and focus on their self. There are people that has experience something like this, they let go of the gambler and with time, he forgot about gambling and come back to his senses. Today, if you tell the guy to come and gamble now, he will refused. If you hang out with him to ball house to gamble and you give him money to try his luck, he will refused.

[Maslate]

I think if every bit of help still fall on deaf ears, then the only person who can help him is just himself, that is if he's willing to leave his addiction and change for good. But as a friend, you shouldn't stop caring for him as well, as in times like this, what the gambler needs is the biggest support system no matter how he denies it and still argue that everything is still in control.

My worries are on his family. I just hope his wife will extend so much patience and understanding this time especially that he's not on his best self, as a husband and a father to his kids.

[Achalugo BTC]

Some are.really hopeless , they even come to a friend asking for help but they can't help.themselves, we are just here to give advice, but still what to be done is for him to do what is needed like, stop what he is doing and limit gambling slowly, because if not those unfurtunate things will keep on happening.

Some persons are just ignorant of it, they need help but they can't make a move to help themselves, its not a bad for one to advice people that needs help in gambling but advice works better when someone acts on it, that means if you gave one advice on how to act or follow so that they won't gamble recklessly, you expect them to act on what you told them and if they didn't, then they are not ready to get out of the situation and such case, its best to leave them that way until they are fully ready.

[imthegreat]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Until your friend gets to some point, let's say the bottom, from which he can push off, he will not be able to be convinced by you or anyone else that he really needs help, I watched an interview about a problematic gambler who also mentioned slavery, because he said that when he was in a period of severe addiction, the first thing he did was top up the deposit, and only then did he make sure that the food was in the refrigerator and the rent was paid. And he said that it was as if it wasn't happening to him, as if something was controlling him, and I think that this is something other than psychological slavery really.