Gambling turn into slavery.

[MAAManda]

Gambling addiction is indeed that dangerous, the first phase will lose productive time, the second phase will lose money, the third phase will lose the trust of those closest to you & the final phase is losing yourself (in a more sadistic sense a.k.a su*cide). That's the need for self-restraint & not considering gambling as a way to make money consistently. In your friend's case, I think it will be very difficult to wake him up, hoping not to hear any bad news from him anytime soon.

[Sammye3]

When gambling addiction has gotten to the extent where family and loved ones are neglected, it is chronic addiction and that person might not recover from it. One question I would always ask people who intend to help their friends stop gambling is "does he have a paying job or a skill"? Having a job that pays monthly should reduce the urge to gamble as its also a form of distraction too.

Most chronic gamblers you would see do not have a job which is why they gamble. They see gambling as the only option to financial freedom and the only hope for a change. My advise is "give him a reason to believe that there is a way to financial freedom other than gambling", that should be all the hope he needs to figure it out on his own.

[TheUltraElite]

There is no fullproof method of getting a gambler off gambling it is like getting a drug addict off their choice of drugs.

But you can try showing them the amounts they have spent and the amount that they might have made back and the gross difference between the two. This realization might help deter them from gambling further.

Ultimately it is the family support that becomes the only thing that can actually help apart from professional help which is hard to drag them to.

[Slow death]

In complicated cases like these, the only solution is for you to muster the courage (and a lot of courage) to risk telling everything to his family. Of course, this could make you hated by him and probably hated by his family if they are confused people with perception problems. Also, in the worst case scenario, you could be sued and imprisoned for slander and defamation. So it's a path I consider very risky. Another path would be for you to constantly tell your friend to seek urgent medical help. He might also hate you and stop talking to you altogether.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

He absolutely needs help, but unfortunately, people like that finds it difficult to change because they have not yet accepted change on their own. I would have suggested that if you want to help him, then take him to a rehabilitation center but my fear is that you might end up wasting money to do all that and he will not change at the end of the day, because his mind is not yet made up. The possibility of getting a positive change in this kind of situation is only if the addict is willingly ready to change.

[Fiatless]

When gambling addiction has gotten to the extent where family and loved ones are neglected, it is chronic addiction and that person might not recover from it. One question I would always ask people who intend to help their friends stop gambling is "does he have a paying job or a skill"? Having a job that pays monthly should reduce the urge to gamble as its also a form of distraction too.

Most chronic gamblers you would see do not have a job which is why they gamble. They see gambling as the only option to financial freedom and the only hope for a change. My advise is "give him a reason to believe that there is a way to financial freedom other than gambling", that should be all the hope he needs to figure it out on his own.

If he doesn't have a job, where does he get the money he is using to gamble? Oh maybe he borrows the money since op said he is a debtor in the main post. Unemployment could make someone addicted to gambling if he begins to see it as a source of income. However, most gamblers have jobs because you need money to gamble. The case is that some of them see it as an alternative source of income. Any chronic gambler who doesn't have a job will have to borrow to finance his addiction.

[Royal Cap]

Hearing your words reminded me of a friend of mine. Although he was not addicted to gambling, he was very badly involved in Yaba addiction.The situation was such that he would buy Yaba even if he borrowed it. At first everyone thought he could quit if he wanted, but later it became clear that addiction gradually changes a person completely. The most difficult thing was that he himself understood that his life was being ruined, but still he could not get out.

And in the case of your friend I think that you being by his side is also a big deal. Many people lose everyone in such a situation and become completely alone. So I think any addiction is equally dangerous, be it gambling or drugs, In my opinion the most important thing now is to make him feel reality, because many times people do not want to realize their loss until they reach the bottom.

[Yorubek]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

In reality, gambling addiction can slowly destroy a person life or family. When a person becomes addicted to gambling, he does not have good sense. The gambler mind only thinks about gambling. He does not care about his children, wife or family members. The gambler does not care about what they are doing how they are doing, etc. The gambler faces financial losses through gambling. As a result, the gambler starts gambling beyond his means and has to take out a loan to repay the lost money. Gambling is for entertainment, it is good to gamble with the money you have lost, it is not right to choose to earn money.

[Makus]

What can you do if I may ask asides from trying to advise or make him see reasons not to continue I'm such a damaging lifestyle. For people that have damaged their mind to this point there is little to nothing that you can do change their mindset but the first thing you can try is therapy. If there's a way to take him to a rehab and also stop him from using mobile devices for a particular period of time then maybe this addiction can be curtailed but in my experience people like that find it very difficult to agree to doing such things and you cannot force him if he's not willing.

[Moreno233]

Maybe he is thinking he can continue to gamble, that one day he might make it from gambling, but that is delusional despite that it can happen, the probability that it will happen is one in a million.

Just keep correcting him is what you can do, but make sure you correct him with bad news about gambling addicts and how gambling addicts will always argue until they are significantly affected badly.

I think it is beyond that considering the wordings of the OP and the effect gambling is having on him as described in the post. The friend is displaying characters that makes gambling appear like a problem to him and not what he has hope that he will benefit from. All of us have hope that we will win, but not all of us will allow gambling affect our business, our jobs and even have negative impact on the family. The friend need to take a break and re-examine his approach to gambling before he end up with a broken home.

[Proty]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Your friend really needs prayer because he is deeply addicted to gambling and it may only take the garage of God to pull him out or save to be able to save him from gambling addiction. When addiction has gotten to this level, no amount of advise that you will give to him that will yield fruits. The only way you can be of help to him is if you can be able to make him see reasons how gambling is affecting him negatively .

[Cryptomultiplier]

Maybe he is thinking he can continue to gamble, that one day he might make it from gambling, but that is delusional despite that it can happen, the probability that it will happen is one in a million.

Just keep correcting him is what you can do, but make sure you correct him with bad news about gambling addicts and how gambling addicts will always argue until they are significantly affected badly.

I think it is beyond that considering the wordings of the OP and the effect gambling is having on him as described in the post. The friend is displaying characters that makes gambling appear like a problem to him and not what he has hope that he will benefit from. All of us have hope that we will win, but not all of us will allow gambling affect our business, our jobs and even have negative impact on the family. The friend need to take a break and re-examine his approach to gambling before he end up with a broken home.

I think it might be quite difficult to convince this gambling addict into taking a break, but something needs to be done as a friend who is concerned and have witnessed how devastating the effects of gambling is.
Perhaps a more drastic and swift approach like stealing or confiscating his mobile device either with or without his knowledge is a better step to make such a friend open his eyes to the current reality of the harm he is causing to himself and family and relationships around.

The main goal is to try and separate this friend in question from his device if that's his medium for gambling or try to persuade him to take a forced vacation that would help reset his brain, instead of trying to spend more money on seeking professional help that may do so little to help in the instant.

[qwertyup23]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Unfortunately, this is the fear that is sought to be avoided whenever you enter the gambling experience. Being addicted to the point of clouding your judgement; unable to discern your responsibilities to yourself and your family are the ultimate downfall of this habit.

What is the remedy if a person manifests these symptoms? To be honest, external help by seeking rehabilitation and constant support from your friends and family are essential for this cure. Not to mention, the person also needs to commit of changing his habits because if he still justifies his actions then the chances of him relapsing is high.

What can you do if I may ask asides from trying to advise or make him see reasons not to continue I'm such a damaging lifestyle. For people that have damaged their mind to this point there is little to nothing that you can do change their mindset but the first thing you can try is therapy. If there's a way to take him to a rehab and also stop him from using mobile devices for a particular period of time then maybe this addiction can be curtailed but in my experience people like that find it very difficult to agree to doing such things and you cannot force him if he's not willing.

This kind of problem entails a collective and joint effort not only from rehab but also from your own family members as well. It may sound selfish that you would involve your family (in which you failed to fulfill your responsibilities) but this would be recommended way to deal with this kind of extreme situation.

[Pandorak]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Honestly, it’s very difficult to give advice to gamblers who have reached this stage, i call them “crazy gamblers”. People like this don’t care about anything anymore, their addiction has clouded their judgment, and they no longer care about the risks that could ruin their lives. Imagine, your friend isn’t just destroying themselves, but also sacrificing their family, the very people he supposed to protect and take responsibility for, it’s utterly irrational. I once knew someone who behaved this way, the only thing they ever asked for was a loan.

[Floxynice]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

The first step to recovery is self-awareness. If your friend recognizes that he is already in deep shit, he will take your advice, and everyone will have hope that he will voluntarily make himself available for any counsel that will lead to his quick recovery.

But if that is not the case, he may try to resist any help offered to him. You just have to constantly talk to him and see if you can appeal to his conscience. Maybe one day, he will realize that he is addicted and slowly destroying his life.

[Queen uloma]

When a person starts neglecting his wife, children, responsibility and even start borrowing anyhow just to continue gambling, it simply means that gambling is controlling him instead of him controlling gambling. The thing is that many addicted gamblers does not really realize how deep they have gone in gambling until they have lose almost everything. Some of them believe that one big win can solve all their problems, Meanwhile that kind of mindset alone can push them to be in debt and lose everything.  You  really tried in  advising him because many people in this life does not really care about other people instead they will watch you lose everything and still make mockery of you. but the truth is that you can’t force someone to change when they’re not ready to accept that they have problem so for me, I think you still need to continue to advise him calmly without insult. And try to make him understand that gambling is not an investment or a source of  income, it’s for fun.

[Shadiq]

There is no better medicine than beating. Leave it, I was kidding!

In the situation you have mentioned about your friend, it is certain that he is now out of control, he is not able to be controlled by himself anymore and it is difficult to be controlled by others. Such people need to be brought out of addiction in a different way.

Try to get him addicted to some other thing which is comparatively less harmful than gambling. Then get him addicted to something less harmful than that thing. In this case, he will get rid of his previous addiction and get into a new addiction. In this way, gradually bring him back to a good addiction. If you try to get him free from addiction, then you will fail. Such people must have some addiction to some thing or the other, it has become his habit. Change the subject of addiction without changing him.

[macson]

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The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

If you have done what you can do, I think that is enough because you are just his friend, you are not responsible for his life. That is enough for you after all the efforts you have done have not yielded results and I think that the decision is still in his own hands, whether he listens to what you do for the last time or he is to be destroyed and then regret what he has done. You are not responsible for anything, so I think that if you turn around and don't care, no one will blame you for that.

[Johnlomape]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

This is real gambling addiction and it is unfortunately to see that he has become irresponsible to his family and his mind has left his obligation to take care of his children and wife. Addiction is something that can be very hard for victims to control especially when it has become access and uneasy for the victim to control their action. This case is more critical than what I can conclude on because not being responsible as a father is something that people need to ask questions on what must be wrong.

[Yeesha]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

This is a big problem, but at least you've try your best, but still you can continue advising him may be he might come into his senses. But, sincerely speaking, I don't even know what to call his condition, because it is beyond addiction, or better still, I should said addiction disorder or severe addiction. If a gambler reach these stage, they gamble out of compulsion, even if they try to control themselves, it will be as if something inside them is inspiring, motivating, encouraging, as well as pushing them to gamble. His condition is not only going to affect him alone, but it definitely destroys many lives. Because it is going to affect the wife and his children physically, psychologically, and emotionally. But the least you could do as his friend is to continue reassuring his family, just to ensure their peace of mind and prevent them from being devastated or depressed.

But let's be realistic, sincerely speaking, there is no way you will be able to help him recover as long as he is not willing to do so, because as long as he doesn't admit his mistakes, that clearly means he see nothing wrong with what he is doing.