Gambling turn into slavery.

[KiaKia]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

This is gambling addiction at its peak, now what's left is for him to engage in crimes to fulfil his gambling activities, this is how they always end up, once they are out of options or people around them stop giving them money,  they turn to crime.

Sometimes you have to be cruel to kill this addiction, but if they are not the one asking for someone to safe them from the addiction the battle is always twice harder to fight, someone needs to talk some senses into this person.

Like I've said you need to apply force at times to shake it out of them, if possible get them arrested and moved to a military Barack, a place where fear will grap them first and they will have to surrender their listening ear, this is where to strike them with reality.

I have seen this worked on youths, I don't know how old this person is but might still works.

[suzanne5223]

Firstly, understand that no matter how you try to help, your friend won't just stop gambling, so you'll need to approach the person privately and calmly when s/he's not gambling or stressed.
Don't lend the person money or cover for him/her so they can see their mistakes.
Advise the person in leaving the gathering or company that always triggers the idea of trying the game by maybe staying indoors for days, while you let him/her know the real concept of gambling.
If you have tried different means and the issue persists, I will advise you to seek professional help.

[swogerino]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

That is what gambling does when it becomes like that, many families have become shuttered completely because of compulsive gambling by irresponsible people, they do not care about anyone as you say even their own child becomes a burden for them and the only thing that makes them somewhat happy is gambling, no matter if it is slots, poker or sports, they just need to gamble to feel alive. In this case though unfortunately the only way to save him is to force him into professional recovery and little by little to make him come clean again. The debts can always be paid little by little but family you cannot recover once the trust goes away it is extremely difficult if not impossible to get it back. No talk directly to such persons have direct impact onto them, as I said the only way to help them is to bring him to professional recovery.

[Samlucky O]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Maybe his gambling lifestyle has become critical, maybe he needs to go to the rehabilitation center for treatment. When Gambling is beyond control rehab is the only solution, or he needs someone to council him and advice him about gambling and how to control addiction. And I believe this advice should come from a person he normally listens to or a person that he respects so much. Maybe he can give a listening ear to him. When gambling addiction gets to this point, it takes only the grace of God and good advice plus the victim needs to work on himself before his gambling addiction will reduce. Sometimes we don't even need advice to stop gambling. You just need to say no and begin to work on yourself and gradually you will see improvement. How it works is that whenever the urge to gamble comes, you divert it to something else, constant doing that will help calm the situation.

[Frankolala]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's are sent from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of distroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

This is gambling addiction at its peak, now what's left is for him to engage in crimes to fulfil his gambling activities, this is how they always end up, once they are out of options or people around them stop giving them money,  they turn to crime.

I believe that this guy wouldn't accept that he is addicted to gamble. If you ask him, he will tell you that he is trying to recover his losses without knowing that he has been addicted to gambling. There's no way out than what others have suggested above that he should stop gambling.

[Ever-young]

He absolutely needs help, but unfortunately, people like that finds it difficult to change because they have not yet accepted change on their own. I would have suggested that if you want to help him, then take him to a rehabilitation center but my fear is that you might end up wasting money to do all that and he will not change at the end of the day, because his mind is not yet made up. The possibility of getting a positive change in this kind of situation is only if the addict is willingly ready to change.

Most of the times, it gets really difficult to help an addicted gambler, as it’ll require the addict to truly and personally accept that they really need help before they can truly be helped. Yeah, seeking the help of a professional, plus family support can play a vital role, but in the long run, it still requires the willingness and commitment of the victim to really receive help from whoever is in the position to help them, because even if they manage to succeed at that time without the addict’s willingness, it’ll only be a temporary victory as it’ll take a matter of time to return back to the habit.

[Akbarkoe]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

It is better to take him directly to a professional he should really be given immediate action so that his addiction does not get worse, you or anyone else will not be able to cure him properly, he must be isolated and rehabilitated so that his addiction can subside.
You may not be able to wait long, and must inform his family if you don't want to completely ruin everything.

[knuckey]

It's not easy to wake up someone who has lost their mind. If I were in this position, I would help a friend or relative who is in the worst condition. Although some people will feel disgusted because their lives are ruined by gambling and it will sooner or later destroy their families too. I think if you have a friend like Nina, immediately take them to the doctor to get treatment.

[hyudien]

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You've tried everything and still nothing changes, basically you've done the best you can but when someone is addicted any advice is useless. The only thing that will change him is himself or when everything has run out. At this point the realization of bad gambling behavior usually sets in.

[uneng]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Then he will have to lose in order to give importance to what he had previously. There isn't a magical trick you can use in order to revert the situation. It's up to your friend to decide what to do for his life. He is responsible for that, and since you have already tried to advise him, all you can do now is to hope he can change his mind before it's too late... His family can't remain in a situation like that forever, being negatively impacted by the bad choices of the patriarch.

[Junii]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

I can feel your pain.Your friend is already showing serious addiction signs because gambling has started controlling his decisions and emotions even responsibilities. When a man stops caring about his children wife debts and peace at home just to continue gambling it means the addiction is already damaging his mind and priorities.

The hard truth is you cannot force him to change if he still believes nothing is wrong. Most gamblers only wake up when they finally feel the consequences of their actions. But one thing you can do is stop supporting the behavior indirectly. Do not lend him money do not cover his debts and do not make excuses for him. Sometimes protecting an addicted person too much only helps the addiction continue.

What may help more is a serious honest conversation from people he still respects like close family or trusted friends. He also needs professional help or support because gambling addiction is psychological not just financial.

At the same time try supporting his wife and children emotionally because they are suffering the most in this situation. If possible help them financially as well.

[Findingnemo]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

When someone goes to such an extent, the better thing to do is to save the family, for that they need to leave the addict then they can at least have peace of mind if not the money. The wife is working one or just stays at home? If it is later then it is going to be very hard on the family but still they can survive the struggle if they don't have to deal with an addict everyday.

[AmaGold70]

This must be a very high level of gambling addiction. This is actually why we always talk about avoiding gambling addiction, because the end result is always very detrimental.
I suggest you visit those areas where your friend use to go, and bet, then let them know what your friend's family is passing through as a result of his addiction, and also try to know the places he borrows money from, and tell them not to borrow your friend money since he uses those money for gambling.
As you keep advising your friend, if your humble advice is yielding no result, you can decide to turn the humble advice into quarrel, maybe he might come back to his senses then.

[coin-investor]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

It seems this is a hopeless case, but don't give up yet, people like this when they hi rock bottom will ask for help, it's better for you to be at his side when that time comes, just keep giving advice and checking on him, and help his family also so when the time comes you and his family can help him and guide him to the right path to recovery.

[Mahiyammahi]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

That's a serious issue for your friend. It needs to be solve sooner. Well there's a lot of rehab you and your friend's Wife/Family and sort out this. Cause this gonna become bad in future. Those who gamble's like this they are mentally unstable and usually to escape from reality they teds to take drugs which leads them into destruction.
I've a friend of mine similar like your's , only diff is he has no wife and children. Even though I find similarities with your story. I've tried to stop him lot's of time. It's like he has gone deaf not even hearing a single word of mine.

Recently his all sorts of earning has been stopped and I tried that he won't get any helps from his friends or family. I think sometimes extream suffering can open their eyes. Cause when he would feel the needs of money his sense would come eventually. Also if he is able to keep away from gambling for funds it's also a good sign to notice.

[rbynxx]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

His wife should know he either want to be saved or it's all over for him. The latter seems easy but saving him will definitely difficult unless she really need some experts to help alongside her. Well, fret not, you did all you could and that's enough I guess and it's not your responsibility anymore to come and look for him, he has a family already and he knows to himself that he is responsible on all his dealings. If I was the wife I'll distance myself first, that man is not easy to deal anymore.

[DiMarxist]

This is the worst state any gambler can find himself if you ask me.Going through your thread I feel for him especially his wife and kid but this is not what only ordinary talk can solve because this is a chronic case of gambling addiction which, can only be cured via rehabilitation by professional psychologist which should do a mental evaluation of this guy. Because when ever someone has gone to up to the extent of borrowing money for the purpose of gambling then there is a serious problem that should be addressed in such a gambler.

[Achalugo BTC]

Firstly, understand that no matter how you try to help, your friend won't just stop gambling, so you'll need to approach the person privately and calmly when s/he's not gambling or stressed.
Don't lend the person money or cover for him/her so they can see their mistakes.
Advise the person in leaving the gathering or company that always triggers the idea of trying the game by maybe staying indoors for days, while you let him/her know the real concept of gambling.
If you have tried different means and the issue persists, I will advise you to seek professional help.

I completely agreed with you, leading your friends to the path that will help him and protect him from endangering themselves the more is very important, as your advice is a solid and acceptable one because there is no help or support if you lend him some money, as you might be making matter to be more worse, that is to say that instead of them to change positively, you are giving them the room or the opportunity to justify they action and this not a helping hand at all.

[jeremypwr]

Sounds like your friend's gambling problem is taking over his life; sad to read about this.
I hope he’s able to get the support he needs and turn things around before it gets any worse.

[aoluain]

Its likely at this stage that the OP's friend is not yet ready for help. He is currently in too deep
and feels he can still turn his losses around.

And there are losses for sure, the giveaway sign is that people are coming round his house
looking for the money they loaned him. Gambling really becomes a problem when the losses
start accumulating as the gambler looks to chase those early losses.

It could be futile but the OP has to try keep talking to him. He needs help but it could be very
difficult to get him to realise that.