Gambling turn into slavery.

[Orpichukwu]

And it appears that your friend is the only one earning and supporting the family now that he has gone wild for gambling. Things are crazy with the family; if you have tried your best, the internal family should also be involved if they already are not. I'm referring to his parents and siblings; maybe they could help talk some sense into him, and if it doesn't work, you guys should seek professional help. Unless he refuses, then the wife should figure out a way to free the children from that suffering. Maybe the grandparents could help, and they should allow him to bear the consequences himself.

[sokani]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

There's a popular proverb that you can take a camel to the stream, but you cannot force it to drink water. Your friend's situation is like that. First, he must acknowledge that there's a problem and be ready to fix it. But if he doesn't, and it's just you showing concern and trying to get professional for him, I don't think you will get anywhere.

[Stable090]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

That’s terrible, and I don’t even know what to say about this, his addiction is already getting out of hand, and I feel he needs to be taken to hospital. No matter how you advise a person like this, he isn’t going to listen, his addiction has gotten to the level of him ignoring his family member’s.

How will a reasonable person ignore the child which he borns, how are you going to ignore your family members just because of gambling, and the funniest part is that he is not even making money from gambling, because if he is making money he won’t be borrowing money just because he wants to gamble.

Have tried to talk to him about his gambling addiction before? If you have not done that before, then it’s better you approach him, and see what he is going to say about that, but someone like this will find it difficult to stop gambling.

[Sandra_hakeem]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

I've personally seen and discussed these type of scenarios on and off the forum and it just don't make sense to me. The truth is, when you allow a habit to replace the irreplaceable, the displacement that comes with it can turn a grown and responsible man into a degenerate. When you start noticing a shift in priorities, it's already too late.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

It's like trying to rescue someone who drove himself onto a bridge and fell off; chances are that you might drown with him.

[Rubuchi]

There's a popular proverb that you can take a camel to the stream, but you cannot force it to drink water. Your friend's situation is like that. First, he must acknowledge that there's a problem and be ready to fix it. But if he doesn't, and it's just you showing concern and trying to get professional for him, I don't think you will get anywhere.

what I was expecting from the friend was to call on the guy’s family and work very closely with them to revive the guy from the dire condition he is currently suffering from and if you truly want to help him, then that should be done in a way and manner it will be effective. That is why we’ve been countlessly told to beware of gambling addiction because in worse cases it can make somebody look mad . My advise is that he should not give up on his friend yet and should still devise other means to get him treated back to normal.

[Cantsay]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

People like this are usually of the opinion that they have a chance of winning a huge amount of money if they keep playing.

If possible, I would advise you to carefully approach this friend of yours and try to get him to see what is happening around him and also talk sense into him to realise that he is chasing something that might not happen even if he keeps gambling for the next few months, and he'll only just keep destroying the precious things he already has. The reason I said a careful approach is that a lot of gamblers might not take it as good advice, they might think that you are trying to get them to miss their luck of winning that huge amount.

[Hispo]

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The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

If all your advice is falling in deaf-ears and he does not actually cares about his own situation, then realistically there is nothing you can do about it.

You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped, all you can do is checking on him, letting him know you will be there when he realizes he needs help and may need support from someone to overcome his gambling addiction. Even if it is your friend, you realistically have no duty to assume the consequences or make your life more difficult because of the choices of someone who is not even parr of your family.

Just check on him once or twice per week, or so. So he will know he is not completely alone. But do not try to control his life.

[abaeze]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

As a good person or friend, you can continue your efforts or stop because your friend is not listening to you. So you can discuss this matter with your friend's family members. However, you need to remember that you can often get into trouble because of these disobedient friends.

Therefore, gambling uncontrollably is not right and it is wisest to gamble with the money that if lost, will not cause any problems in daily life or on family members. But the condition of many gamblers is such that at some point they become addicted to gambling and it has a serious impact on themselves and their family members, which often becomes irreversible.

[tabas]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Can't help with that person but to see him personally destroy his own family with his bare hands. He might wake up on his dreams but seeing that his family is starting to get hunger and asking him what they should eat or if he loves them. Those are going to be music but loud to his ears. If it's still not going to work, forcing him into a facility of rehabilitation is the end game but he has to cover all of those expenses or if someone from his family loves him to get recover or simply wants him to stay as is and that's the kind of love that's hard to accept.

[Rgram]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak.

I think the word here is addiction not slavery. Slavery is rather a hash word to use in this context.
You don’t have freewill or own properties as a slave and I’m sure your friend has both.

The one thing you could do for your friend is to be there for him. Try to make him go for therapy or possibly, see reasons why his gambling habits is so dangerous to his well being and finances. Maybe they don’t get to stop immediately but, you get to remind them how gradual reduction in gambling funds would count as a win towards fighting addiction.

[tread93]

It’s called pure addiction, nothing else. Sadly, your friend has become addicted to gambling. Now, his addiction is not only hampering his own life, but the whole family is suffering because of it. He needs rehabilitation to get rid of this addiction. He has a family, so he needs to take responsibility for them.

Ask him to take up a job and repay the lenders in small installments. If he wants to live freely again, these are the things he has to do. Sadly, casinos widely circulate posts about big lucky winners while promoting themselves, but people are unaware of those who regularly lose everything in these casinos. As a result, people keep gambling in the hope of winning a massive amount with just a few clicks.

Feeling sad for your friend’s family.

Man, I mean obviously there are far more messed up situations that can suck way worse than having a family member who gambles away the family fortune, or perhaps gambling multiple family fortunes with no real experience. This is the kind of situation I want to be in lol

[OsaiEmma]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Honestly, I'll say just pray for him of ur a religious person. It's difficult to help someone who isn't really seeking or asking for help. There is diz adage that says, u can take a horse to d stream to drink water, but u can't force it to drink from it. U can start by advising ur friend, make him see d harm this is causing, let him intentionally and genuinely want to change, then he'll need a psychologist who can guide him. That's all I can think of in diz situation.

[LastKiss]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

He has already reached a very dangerous stage of addiction. Destroying his own family because of gambling is definitely not a good thing, if he still wants to change he should seek professional help for rehabilitation. With proper treatment from an expert I hope he can reduce his gambling addiction altough completely forgetting about gambling is impossible but the way he treat gamble at least will be different.

Honestly, I'll say just pray for him of ur a religious person. It's difficult to help someone who isn't really seeking or asking for help. There is diz adage that says, u can take a horse to d stream to drink water, but u can't force it to drink from it. U can start by advising ur friend, make him see d harm this is causing, let him intentionally and genuinely want to change, then he'll need a psychologist who can guide him. That's all I can think of in diz situation.

It is very difficult to change someone who is already at that stage especially when even his wife cannot do anything to help him. It is better to slowly remind him and make him realize the truth, such as how much wealth he has wasted on gambling. Over time, he may begin to realize that gambling is what made him become like that because he lack self control. Once he understands the consequences seeking professional help will become important.

[Tetu100]

If all your advice is falling in deaf-ears and he does not actually cares about his own situation, then realistically there is nothing you can do about it.

You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped, all you can do is checking on him, letting him know you will be there when he realizes he needs help and may need support from someone to overcome his gambling addiction. Even if it is your friend, you realistically have no duty to assume the consequences or make your life more difficult because of the choices of someone who is not even parr of your family.

Just check on him once or twice per week, or so. So he will know he is not completely alone. But do not try to control his life.

That's the way it is. The particular person that is involved need to accept the fact that he's in trouble and needs help to get fine otherwise every of your efforts just to get him save or be on his feet again will be a waste of time. This is a very good example of this popular saying that say you can only take a horse to the river but can't force him to drink water.  Meaning you can only try your possible best as a friend but you can not do anything against his wish, you also need his cooperation  to make it work. And again, this is the more reasons gambler's needs to start gambling with a responsible mindset because when things get to this point it's very difficult to fix back.

[Kelward]

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Can't help with that person but to see him personally destroy his own family with his bare hands. He might wake up on his dreams but seeing that his family is starting to get hunger and asking him what they should eat or if he loves them. Those are going to be music but loud to his ears. If it's still not going to work, forcing him into a facility of rehabilitation is the end game but he has to cover all of those expenses or if someone from his family loves him to get recover or simply wants him to stay as is and that's the kind of love that's hard to accept.

I agree that the friend should be admitted into a rehab because his addiction has gone beyond what a friend can advice and talk him out of, since he has the mind to ignore his own family's wellbeing that means that he has lost his sense of reasoning. There are different stages of addiction and he's is at the top, if a person can bear to watch his family suffer and continue on his destructive part then he truly needs professional help. Problem is that professional help costs money and if somebody is not there to pay the bill that would be another problem except if their government have a free facility for addicts.

[viljy]

In a situation where creditors are already coming home to the debtor for money, and the addicted gambler is hiding from them and still continues to gamble, the only thing that can be done is to forcibly send him for treatment. Although the chance that he will recover from addiction is small. It's gone too far. Alas, treatment is not a panacea, and very often after treatment, addicted gamblers start gambling again. Whereas such people are generally contraindicated from gambling.

[Outhue]

This is sadly one of those addiction that you will have to use every means possible to save this man, if anyone cares and love this man they will have to go to any length to save the man, rehabilitation, threat, violence if possible. I can still remember the story of Huo Yuanjia the warrior of china who was mistakenly addicted to drugs, he never wanted it but his enemies found a way to force him to take it and he battled to break the addiction for a while, it nearly killed him, he had to lock himself in a room and throw the key outside, this went on for weeks before he finally beat it, if the addicted wants to break free, the problem is already at 50% cured.

[Bitcoin.com97]

I think the worst part of it now is that your friend sees gambling as an Escape root , like all the money he is looking for in the world only gambling can give it to him , and greed has crawl in , I just pity his family, dealing with such person comes with a lot to do , one his mindset need to  be change , he need to face his reality, he need to be disciplined if possible stay away from anything related to gambling, I know it’s going to be hard but alot of work need to be done , gambling addictions  is the worst that can happen to anyone talk more of a family man .

The truth is that, gambling addiction doesn’t only affect the the individual involved, the effects goes beyond just the addict but also extends to their immediate family and friends. The moment that one begins to view gambling as the only alternative escape route from financial lack and insufficiency, it switches from just being a mere bad habit to a psychological crisis, and the only way to win such battle would be to completely change that mindset.

It does affect them sometimes, because they do have the urge to stop at some point but what has eaten one deep is not alway easy to stop , there was a time I won big amounts with small money , I think that was the highest amount I have won , I was so excited to a point I increased my stake and invest more time because I wanted more ,I have played with good amount for 3months without winning again and the other money is finished, I began to advice myself to take a chill pill because I was losing money , mind and time even family and friends because whoever advices me to take it  easy I get angry And stop communicating with them , I just believe all my desire , betting was going to give it to me and the funny part I felt my winning was close ,I know I was gradually getting addicted but I actually fought so hard to stop and channel that energy to something else that is how I overcame  that situation.

[rachael9385]

And it appears that your friend is the only one earning and supporting the family now that he has gone wild for gambling. Things are crazy with the family; if you have tried your best, the internal family should also be involved if they already are not. I'm referring to his parents and siblings; maybe they could help talk some sense into him, and if it doesn't work, you guys should seek professional help. Unless he refuses, then the wife should figure out a way to free the children from that suffering. Maybe the grandparents could help, and they should allow him to bear the consequences himself.

There is a possibility that the internal family has done what they can to make sure that he stops this damaging addiction but they can only do what is within their capability. For such a person to quit gambling he needs to put in a certain level of personal efforts otherwise there will be nothing others do that will be able to help him out.

[B-BossMan]

Am just curious of what I can possibly do to help a friend that has turns into a slave in gamble. He no longer care for his family perhaps his kid's have been sent away from school and he didn't give a fuck about it, his wife complains all day concerning his attitude towas them, he barely stay or spend time with his family, a lot has gone wrong so to speak. And the craziest of it is that most times people come looking for him at home because of the money he normally borrowed from them which I believe was used to fund his addicted Gambling life style.

The truth is that my friend is at the edge of destroying his family by himself if something isn't done on time. To be honest I have tried all I could but it seems falling on deaf ears.

Honestly speaking your friend is already facing or dealing with a very serious gambling addiction that is gradually controlling his life entirely, since it getting to the sage of family responsibilities. When someone actually get to a point where they no longer cares about his family or children's education,keep borrowing money up and down, and at the end of it they still be chasing gambling gambling activities, then it has seriously gone beyond normal or regular gambling, if care is not taken, he may continue sinking deeper into a debts and damage his family relationship and even his cordial relationship with some friends and other relatives.

However, it's better you advice him, that he shouldn't lend money or you yourself don't lend him money to pay his debts or cover for his mistakes, because that usually keeps the gambling cycle going alive, instead, be honest with him, let him be aware that you care so much about his well-being and his family, but you cannot support the gambling lifestyle as a friends anymore. I know someone that is also a gambling addiction but when he noticed people around him are not  longer helping him continue the habits, he realized that he's not doing the right thing.