Gambling Addiction Needs Compassion, Not Judgment

[Japinat]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

[sotelorene]

I know sometimes it takes more than discipline to abstain from addiction but we should be very careful with the way we go about gambling and the money we use in gambling. In my opinion, I think someone can only be addicted when they give themselves to been addicted what I mean by this is that, people who becomes addict are the reason , they caused it , they are the engineer of it because if you don't gamble regularly and if you don't use money meant for other necessities which can make you chase loss if been lost how will someone become an addict? Off course it is not possible.

[Oshosondy]

If you like or do not like, you may not be blaming those that are addicted in gambling, but know that those that have not been gambling addicts before and those that do not like gambling will blame the person that is addicted to gambling. It many not be all of them, but many of them will blame them. If you know you are addicted, know the kind of people that should know about it. Not everyone should know that you are addicted to gambling or know about your personal life and your short comings. Families can know and some a good friend that you know. But when someone is foolish, let him accept that he is foolish.

[mirakal]

I agree with that, if someone seeks advice here, that means he trusts the forum and sees the members here as family.

So we can be careful with our words, but the thing is, not everyone is the same, there are people who do not react the way we want, and the fact that we are all anonymous here makes it challenging to seek advice.

With that, I think the best people to talk to are those you know and can trust, like friends and family.

[DPHOR]

The problem there is that most people easily judged those who are gambling without them knowing that they are facing difficulties with their life, and yes, when gambling we don't know when we automatically becomes addicted to gambling which we should be that channeling our efforts and focused towards a responsible gambling. Majority of people who are gambling do not really know when they gradually becomes addicted to gambling because they don't have focused and also, do not know when to stop, and when not to gamble, and again; we blame those who are addicted due to their characters and attitudes in regards to how they gambles but without knowing that when someone is getting addicted they wouldn't know so when seeing someone in that condition what they should be doing is to at least, help such person to regain back their insanity.

[libert19]

Every addiction needs compassion; this world is wild west, people often only realize what hole they have dug themselves into after falling to a great length. This is why awareness is necessary, and dangers of things (gambling or otherwise) must be preached to public.

... in regards to how they gambles but without knowing that when someone is getting addicted they wouldn't know so when seeing someone in that condition what they should be doing is to at least, help such person to regain back their insanity.

I think you meant, 'sanity' there and nah I wouldn't be going much far in helping somebody as sad as that may sound, just be understanding and if they seek advise I might give according to my knowledge and move on with my own life; I have mine to live but if it's a person I really care about this may change.

[Strongkored]

We cannot control what people say about us, so when we dare to open it to the public and expect to get advice but the response is not as desired then we also have to be able to accept it, and actually expecting advice from outsiders who do not know about our lives completely is not recommended, because addicts need professional treatment and help from those closest to us.

[rbynxx]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

But how about when the conventional methods tends to no avail? Well, we can't control what has other got to say tbh and that's the harsh truth we have to endure because everyone has their perspective but yeah I agree with you on that, the one that understands will truly be gentle. Everyone of us has its own problems and if you can understand one then you can understand others even if you haven't had that kind of situation before, hope you get me. It's easy to judge a situation until you get it yourself.

[stadus]

We cannot control what people say about us, so when we dare to open it to the public and expect to get advice but the response is not as desired then we also have to be able to accept it, and actually expecting advice from outsiders who do not know about our lives completely is not recommended, because addicts need professional treatment and help from those closest to us.

That is true because we are in a forum where freedom of expression is important, so anyone can agree or disagree depending on how he sees it.

That is why to avoid this, maybe what is important is to just focus on how not to be addicted, because in the first place that is already required when we sign up in casinos. We agree with “responsible gaming”, which means we know the risks and the consequences if we are not responsible.

[Orpichukwu]

I can only make a gambling addict take responsibility for his actions and know that they are the reason why he gets addicted, but I cannot be sending abusive words to him when I know fully well that he is already in more serious trouble and my bad-mouthing can make him more emotional, but we are all not the same; there are those who can't send a message without adding insult and attack. They consider it as a way of telling the person that he is wrong.

[cryptoaddictchie]

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

Thats right. Addiction is a serious disease for everyone, some might thought of this as just psychological effect or simple things but those people who really into it are getting hard time to stop or get out of that situation. We cant simply judge them its so easy to stop but mind couldnt easily accept it.

Its so hard to control I might not been into serious addiction but seen some of my relatives got worse due to it so I know the feelings.

[LFC_Bitcoin]

Gambling addiction deserves compassion not judgement because it is a serious mental health condition not a lack of willpower.

Shame and criticism make the problem worse and discourage people from seeking help. Understanding and support give people a better chance to recover, rebuild their lives and regain control.

[Dr.Bitcoin_Strange]

It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

I agree with you that no body would want to be addicted to gambling but actually this addiction does not just happen, it takes time before it finally becomes out of control, so those days when the victims are gradually noticing the changes in their gambling behavior, they should have change their ways but instead they still could not stop themselves until it's late. You said the reason is because of the person's weakness in gambling, yea, but this person saw it coming and could have stop it from the beginning. However, I don't judge addicted gamblers, I can advice the person on the steps that will help them.

[ArabBTC]

I know sometimes it takes more than discipline to abstain from addiction but we should be very careful with the way we go about gambling and the money we use in gambling. In my opinion, I think someone can only be addicted when they give themselves to been addicted what I mean by this is that, people who becomes addict are the reason , they caused it , they are the engineer of it because if you don't gamble regularly and if you don't use money meant for other necessities which can make you chase loss if been lost how will someone become an addict? Off course it is not possible.

The thing is no matter what, a gambler cannot control himself from being addicted, once you start gambling you must become addicted, the only way one can chose not to become addicted is to completely avoid gambling from the onset, once gamble and taste lose or win you will definitely want to gamble again, if you lost your reason for gambling again will be to recover the lost funds and that will make you lose more and that is how the circle will continue and u will become addicted, on the other hand if you win that joy of winning will definitely make you gamble more with the mindset that you will win more before you know it you will become completely addicted, so to me one can’t easily decide not to get addicted but if one should be addicted it’s better he/she finds a way to suppress the urge so it won’t be every time that he will be gambling and one sure way of suppressing gambling urge/addiction is by creating love for something else that will consume the gamblers time and distract his mind from gambling.

[DrBeer]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

I disagree. In my opinion, people who found themselves in trouble through no fault of their own deserve sympathy.
But problems like gaming addiction-we bring that on ourselves by stubbornly ignoring the risks, warnings, and others’ negative experiences. It’s almost like alcoholism or drug addiction. You know it’s risky; you know how it’s highly likely to end, but you stubbornly ignore it all, fooling yourself into thinking, "I’ll get lucky; everything will be fine for me". And in the end, by deceiving yourself and ignoring those around you, a person drives themselves into this situation. The question is: do they really deserve sympathy? I doubt it...

P.S. But this is just my personal opinion, based on my own views

[freedomgo]

Gambling addiction deserves compassion not judgement because it is a serious mental health condition not a lack of willpower.

Shame and criticism make the problem worse and discourage people from seeking help. Understanding and support give people a better chance to recover, rebuild their lives and regain control.

We have lots of topics here in the forum about gambling addiction, and I notice some users really do not show compassion to a person who is addicted.

I think that is just the way it is, not everyone is on the same side, but for me, being a gambler and having been in that situation many times, I feel sad when seeing something like that. Instead of offering good advice, some resort to victim blaming, but like I said, it is what it is.

[sunsilk]

For the first time gambling addicts, I think that it's applicable. But for those who probably had 2nd or 3rd time, that's already a choice to mess themselves up and become addicted to gambling.

It's possible that a lot have worried already to these gambling addicts and have received love and suggestions on how to overcome it.

But, if they are only listeners and doesn't apply what are being told to them. It won't make a difference because it should be them that must help themselves first.

I agree that we have to be careful with the words we say to them but, expect that not everyone is going to be friendly to them. So, it can't be avoided if some people are rude.

[Botnake]

For the first time gambling addicts, I think that it's applicable. But for those who probably had 2nd or 3rd time, that's already a choice to mess themselves up and become addicted to gambling.

It's possible that a lot have worried already to these gambling addicts and have received love and suggestions on how to overcome it.

But, if they are only listeners and doesn't apply what are being told to them. It won't make a difference because it should be them that must help themselves first.

I agree that we have to be careful with the words we say to them but, expect that not everyone is going to be friendly to them. So, it can't be avoided if some people are rude.

If I care, I would not judge whether it is the first time or second time being addicted, because it is still addiction.

In fact, when you get addicted many times, it means you are in serious trouble and with that, they deserve more help. Aside from family, which is the easiest to approach if the gambler himself is not ashamed of his situation, we can also suggest going to a professional, there are pros who help addicted people.

It may not be free, but it is better than spending money regularly because of addiction.

[swogerino]

You will never really understand how serious gambling addiction is unless you experience it yourself. We have all seen some topics and news about people being reported as gambling addicts. Sometimes we just laugh, sometimes we blame them for their stupidity instead of showing compassion.

I say this because I experienced it myself. It is not easy to be addicted and no one really wishes to be addicted, it just happens. We who experience this are victims of our own weakness in gambling, lack of emotional control and bad decision making.

So we have to be careful with the words we throw at someone, especially when we know they are already in a delicate situation. It becomes easier to understand them when we try to understand the situation they are really in.

I know how it feels as I was heavily addicted myself not that long ago and anytime I have seen a gambler addicted I felt exactly that, compassion, I never judged them yet I prayed myself in silence for God to help them like he helped me overcome this troublesome time of my life. People who judge other not only in gambling but also in work as I suffered that too, just because I was better than them and I say this in full modesty I was subject to all sort of machinations and attacks which I proudly overcome again with the help of God, these very people are insecure in themselves and that is why they may attack or judge people, my advice to all people being subject to such things just remember the old saying "let the dogs shout while the caravan goes forward" and not feel bad about it.

[CryptoYar]

Thanks for sharing so personal. People dont really know what it means to be addicted to anything because they havent been addicted to anything.
Thing that is judgment is true. I've seen people in threads here mocking someone who lost money to gambling as if that was some kind of moral failure on their part as opposed to what it is. No one gets up in morning intending to be a drug user. It takes place slowly, one excused bet at time, until control is lost. People who havent experienced it dont get that, it is difficult. Your advice about picking your words carefully is more important than people realize. A harsh remark towards a person who is struggling can drive them away from seeking help, rather than draw them towards it.