‎Is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a big red flag?

[Frankolala]

It's better that you tell your spouse that you're a gambler than keeping it as a secret till the person finds out by themselves. It shows that you are hiding something and if your spouse doesn't like gamblers, it becomes a red flag but if gambling doesn't mean anything to him/her, you're on the safe side. I will like my spouse to know that I'm a gambler to know if we can get along or not before getting married.

[Hardyrobust]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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For me it is not a red flag because i don't see gambling as a sin, it is only when they are addicted to gambling that is when I will consider it a red flag . One thing also it is good for someone that is gambling to make it known to there partner that they are into gambling so that it won't be a surprise to them. So having a fiancée that is into gambling isn't a bad thing as long as they didn't keep it a secret.

[Akbarkoe]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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If she found out before marriage, I would definitely be marred and maybe rethink about marrying me, but fortunately before marriage I was not so outspoken about my gambling, so she didn't know, she found out after years of marriage and children, so inevitably she must have accepted in a state of upset, but fortunately she was not so angry and instead always reminded me to manage my emotions well, and fortunately until now my wife is the one who holds the family finances so I don't have the potential to spend more money on gambling.

[Davidvictorson]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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They say that like attract. Sooner or later you will be able to tell the type of gambler your partner is and whether they belong in your future or not.
The most important questions will be whether your spouse is an occasional gambler, or a frequent and what quadrant do you fall into. Another important question will be whether your partner is a responsible gambler or the opposite and what quadrant you fall into. The other question will also be how your partner reacts to a loss or a win and what side of the quadrant you fall into. Once these are answered you will begin to tell the color if flag that it should be.

[justdimin]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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I think it would depend on how they do it in general. I mean, if the person is a responsible human being by nature, and they gamble responsibly without spending excessive amounts of money and time on it, then there should be no problem because every person has the right or should have the right to do whatever they like to do as long as that thing is not creating any problems for them or for the people around them.

If I gamble but I do it moderately, I don't overspend on it, I don't spend hours in front of the screen or in a physical casino, but I do it occasionally when I got some time to kill and some extra funds, and I stop immediately if I lose or even if I win, then I don't see that being a red flag in me, or in any other person that I know.

However, if the person shows symptoms of addiction, they spend a lot of time or money on their gambling activities and tend to ignore other things only because of this habit, if they have previously had been into financial problems because of their gambling addiction or activities, then it is surely a red flag because such people can't be responsible, and I'm talking about actual responsibilities that they have to fulfill after they get married. A responsible gambler will always be a responsible person by nature.

[BRINIRHA]

Why is that a danger? We are gamblers so why shouldn't our partner be or not gamble?

Sometimes it's statuses like this that make relationships a little difficult just because we expect someone to be flawless and think gambling is a bad thing. As long as our partner doesn't overstep the boundaries and doesn't make the economic conditions that he/she has or when your partner doesn't make gambling everything why should it seem like a bad thing.

Unless there might be other situations where our partner is over gambling then we need to warn about it but that doesn't mean breaking up the relationship.

[Sammye3]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Like you said, occasionally so I don't see that it is an issue as long discipline is applied and the budget is not exceeded. I don't necessarily see gambling as a red flag when my fiance is a disciplined person, many people make money from gambling and also lose as well. So if it's something that he does occasionally, it shouldn't be a major issue.

Gambling might not be about betting in general, because most people still gamble on bitcoin and other personal aspect so I don't see why sports gambling is any different. There should be a mutual understanding between both parties and that should suffice.

[GeorgeJohn]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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that is why you need to be a genuine partner and whatever thing you are doing especially the thing that involve expenses or spending of finance you need to inform your partner earlier without your partner being noticed from a different way..

When you are sincere to your partner your Bond will be very strong but when you are not sincere you can break out from your relationship at any time because lies and  lack of trust... participating in gambling should be something that you need to let your spouse to be aware that you are involved into gambling because if she found out by herself it remain take it lightly with you or not so it is good or someone who is building home to build it with sincerity and  trust...

[nara1892]

This is why most people have a negative stigma against gamblers. This is because they believe they have no future due to the significant negative consequences they can experience. So, finding out that your potential partner is a gambler can be a serious consideration, as there are many divorce cases due to one partner's gambling addiction. If the person's involvement in gambling is minimal, it may be possible to recover, but if the addiction is already deep, it will be very difficult.

[Natalim]

Gambling these days is already widely accepted by the society, so I don't see a red flag with that, except if you found out that your soon to be spouse is a gambling addict, I think that will made me hesitate to continue marrying the person. She should treat her gambling addiction first before entering another chapter of her life.

But if she's just gambling occasionally, then I won't see it as a red flag. If gambling made her life more enjoyable after a day's tiring work, then who am I to get rid of that. Gambling is fine as long as it does not affect our personal lives.

[Versatile_choice]

At first, I will feel bad knowing that my spouse is a gambler. But I'm not going to take for the fact that my spouse is a secret gambler and just end things with him or her no" it doesn't make sense that way. And as a matter of fact, gambling is not a bad thing that's if you're doing it responsibly. But since I'm aware of the danger, I would advise him or her to limit from it.

But it's wrong to allow your wife to gamble, here in my country it is as if gambling is for men because you barely see woman gambling. And if they mistakenly saw you gambling as a woman you will be tag as irresponsible woman.

[passwordnow]

Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Well, I would be bias for this, I do it myself but when I get to know that my partner does it, it won't be good for me. But to be fair, as long as there's control and I know that my significant other isn't of much of a gambler who's gambling a lot then that settles it. So we both gamble and we're in disciplined and I guess that's a good relationship that we're going to enjoy but if it starts to show some bad signs, that's when we should discuss things a lot to avoid making it as a big problem that can stain our relationship.

[Japinat]

There is no wrong with gambling as long as its not affecting our finances and personal relationships, but if otherwise that could be a threat for the future marriage, then as early as now I will inform that person to cancel the wedding and prioritize first fixing his/her gambling problem.

But in reality, I don't see a problem if both of you are into gambling, as long as both of you are responsible and disciplined gamblers. In fact, that could create a strong bond for the couple, without leaving behind the job since it should always be prioritized more than an entertainment source like gambling.

[CryptoHeadlineNews]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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But if I may asked, is there anything bad about an individual gambling? And by that I mean inasmuch as the individual is not been irresponsible, but rather gambling what he or she can afford to lose, is there anything wrong about it? Because to be honestly speaking, I have absolutely nothing wrong with that. Moreover, I'm also a gambler, and I won't mind marrying a spouse that is into gambling with me. Because sometimes,  i have seen scenarios whereby the lady was more lucky than the husband when predicting Sport games, whereby if she predict she wins, but when you do, you might lose. So imagine having such lady as a spouse and depriving her of gambling. Because the how you would have kept losing without realizing you have a lucky by your side.

[Perfectbaby]

I have red about people who are gambler and yet they got married because they had a vision and a mission for gambling, thus they never allowed gambling ruin their relationship and families because they are gambling with remorse and conscience and also praying for a better days ahead for to win what they planned about their life.
At first, you must understand if there are other things your spouse is putting their money into apart from gambling and if they were able to do other things tangible even while still gambling then you should know and understand that such person(s) is a responsible gambler and hence has been able to control him or herself while gambling.

[Questat]

If you are a gambler, and your fiancee turns out a gambler as well, both have common interest so there is higher chances that both of you will have a strong connection. There is nothing wrong with occasional gambling, and losing at times that's still manageable.

But if you found out that she's on her way to gambling addiction, I guess that's something that you need to be alarmed. What she needs is not a spouse, but a helping hand that she can rely on when everything in her life has fallen apart due to severe gambling addiction.

But it still depends on you, yes its a red flag but love can conquer everything and help the person you love overcome gambling addiction if ever.

[JoyMarsha]

If they gamble responsibly, it is not a red flag for me. When it becomes a red flag is when they don't have control over their gambling habits. They tend to gamble every time they have a little money in their hands, without remembering that there is something like tomorrow, when they will need to feed and take care of their family.

Someone who gambles a whole lot without control. Marrying such a person is a disaster because you can't stop or change them from the way they gamble.

[Bitcoin.com97]

Gambling already has a bad impression to people,so finding out your supposed spouse is a gambler is going to break your heart,if I'm told about the habit ,I will only watch closely to see how much of attention and money that is been invested ,if I notice it's becoming an addicted gamblers than that is when the panics comes , because in these society many couples are now gamblers ,everyone want to get rich quick ,but if I find out my spouse secretly does gambling,I will not be a happy about it especially when I don't know the level of his gambling habit.

[jeremypwr]

‎Knowing your fiance or fiancee is a gambler is not a big red flag I don't think.
That's like saying it's a red flag if someone drinks; moderation is the key and being responsible.

[topbitcoin]

I gamble and my wife knew I was gambling even before we got married and she was fine with it as long as it didn't hurt our finances badly because I always told her how much I spent on gambling every month and she tolerated it.

So in this case it depends on the gambler and his partner themselves because if the gambler does not control his spending on gambling then maybe the partner he has will find it difficult to accept this so and this can affect the relationship because his view will lead to taking care of himself from gambling alone cannot let alone take care of our partner.
Because marriage is not just about binding but responsibility and the reflection of responsibility in uncontrolled gambling already reflects that the gambler failed.