‎Is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a big red flag?

[danherbias07]

It's situational, or it depends on the woman.

Some women do like a bad boy, and they will turn it to a good one. They like the challenge of turning them into a different guy when they are with them.
Also, let's face the fact that gambling has become a norm nowadays. With sports betting getting bigger because of the sudden popularity of football all over the world, I think many men are into gambling, although some are doing it occasionally, like during the Finals or events like the World Cup.

I think a woman will worry more if the men they are marrying doesn't like men's things. No sexism intended.

[mirakal]

There are a lot of red flags to consider before marrying, and if everyone who wishes to marry will stick to them, I guess no one here on earth would decide to settle down and marry someone. There are always solutions to every red flag, both of the couple should work on them first prior entering marriage life.

But with your question, its never a red flag just knowing him/her a gambler. Everyone can be a gambler and still be a good and responsible partner. But if the person is already losing oneself because of uncontrollable gambling addiction, that is a serious case. Marriage will never be a solution, but rehabilitation center will.

[lombok]

There are a lot of red flags to consider before marrying, and if everyone who wishes to marry will stick to them, I guess no one here on earth would decide to settle down and marry someone. There are always solutions to every red flag, both of the couple should work on them first prior entering marriage life.

But with your question, its never a red flag just knowing him/her a gambler. Everyone can be a gambler and still be a good and responsible partner. But if the person is already losing oneself because of uncontrollable gambling addiction, that is a serious case. Marriage will never be a solution, but rehabilitation center will.

I concur that a serious case of gambling addiction cannot be cured in marriage. couple should receive professional assistance in making the recovery. This is a very serious condition in case one is no longer able to differentiate the needs and wants. Medical rehabilitation should be taken into account, before making the big step, marriage.

[EluguHcman]

Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?

I would not want to see this discussion different from the ones we discusses here about husband and a wife and gambling.
Well this one is about fiancee and fiance with a very technical question if are you going to marry the spouse after just learning he/she is a gambler.

In my case as a man and as a gambler, I will like to go closer and observe her gambling lifestyle and if she is a response gambler I don't have problems with that as I hope she can quit anytime without stress.

What if she is addicted? Of course I will try to make her stop but if she refuses, then marriage cancel else, it will be like you are internationally putting your home on fire with such a partner.

[Makus]

A lot of people don't take their financial lives jokingly, if you are getting married to someone there are a lot of things that you need to know about how your partner handles money. Gambling is not entirely a bad thing but the reason why some people get concerned and feel unrest is because they know that it is possible for those that are involved in gambling to develop an addiction to it at some point. Although not everyone gets addicted but for most people there is a high chance that they would make careless decisions with money.

[Orpichukwu]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Someone gambling does not automatically make them irresponsible. If they have been gambling before I met them and their life doesn't look like one who has lost hope or doesn't have direction, I won't have any issue with that as long as the person is not borrowing or selling properties or doing some illegal activities to make sure they are able to gamble. I won't see it as a red flag; we can work things out and manage their gambling habit.

[cryptoaddictchie]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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Well if the money came from her purse then I cant argue with her but if its the funds I gave for house budget like food, billing and important one and she used to gambling then thats a different story. Cause that money alloted for something and she shouldnt spend it on vices that are like gambling which we all knew is addicting and not good. Wives should spend their money wisely and avoid such stuff like this. Its okay if we are rich but if not nonsense expenditures.

[fullfitlarry]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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It depends, in the beginning when you know that he or she is a gambler then you still go with the relationship, then it might be ok with you. And you might be a gambler too that's why it's ok with you to have a wife or a husband that has the same activity with you.

But if the person didn't tell you everything and then you just discovered it when you are about to tie the knot, then that is a big redflag to me. Unless you really love that person that you are really willing to accept him or her and move on with your marriage.

[Peanutswar]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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I guess at the first start you are having a talking stage and you both wanted to know more each other is most likely you both open up this kind of matter, do you? because if not and you propose to them, I guess you accepted already the flaws and red flag like this. Also having a boundary is just normal what are the dos and don'ts. Now if you already accepted them for sure you accepted this kind of hobby of them right so there is no doubt in your side. Unless you are just carried away with your emotions to them and not being practical and you set a side yourself.

[yhiaali3]

Here in my country this is unacceptable because gambling is rejected in society, so most likely if a woman or her family finds out that her fiancé is a gambler or addicted to gambling, he will be rejected without a doubt.

But in other societies it may be acceptable, especially if the gambler is not heavily addicted to gambling or if he is wealthy, then gambling will not be a problem for the woman because women love money and as long as the man is able to satisfy all her desires, she will not mind getting married even if he is a gambler.😍

[Joeboy]

Like I would always say, gambling isn't a bad thing at all... It's a hobby... And in this case, it depends of if my spouse is addicted to gambling or not...The truth is that everyone has their hobbies same as me, so if it is just an occasional hobby that is done responsibly and within limits then honestly there is nothing wrong since moderation is already involved.. Gambling addiction is always the problem, because marrying an addict is same as marrying problem coz you wouldn't have peace of mind... There will always be dishonesty, stealing and whatnot and that can even lead to divorce or separation..

[Don Pedro Dinero]

‎Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?

Hypothetically, yes. But I don’t know any women who are gamblers. If she were a gambler in the sense we see around here – someone who goes to the casino, can’t control herself and spends more than she can afford – that would be a huge red flag, and I wouldn’t even consider marrying her. If she were someone like Leo Margets (a professional poker player who has won a lot of money over the years), of course it wouldn’t be a problem.

[Fivestar4everMVP]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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A person engaging in gambling is not a problem but how the person engages in the activity is where the problem will be, some people I know casually engages in gambling and that's not a problem at all because they often do this just to have fun while also trying their luck to see if they could win a dime or two, and the only time the participate in the activity is only when they have some extra money to throw away, this is how myself gambles, and I know this is a the reason why for over 9 years now, she hasn't find out that I sometimes gamble, if I was a chronic gambler, she would have known am a gambler by now and that would have possible caused issues for us.

So how the person engages in gambling is very important, some one who is already addicted to gambling is a big red flag to marry because raising a family is very stressful, now include stress from gambling losses to that, there is a big chance you will face alot of trouble being married to a gambling addict if you don't get him or her to stop.

[Pi-network314159]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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If your fiancee that you intend marrying is an irregular gambler, then it's not a red flag because you can work on the relationship and she might stop entirely if you wish, but id she's an addict that finds it difficult to stop gambling despite the warning and threat you gave her, then it's plainly a reg flag and not something you should bother trying to make an impact. It's better to avoid something early than regretting later.

[Rubuchi]

It's better that you tell your spouse that you're a gambler than keeping it as a secret till the person finds out by themselves. It shows that you are hiding something and if your spouse doesn't like gamblers, it becomes a red flag but if gambling doesn't mean anything to him/her, you're on the safe side. I will like my spouse to know that I'm a gambler to know if we can get along or not before getting married.

the moment you are hiding something from somebody just know that what you are doing is something wrong and probably unacceptable. If you find yourself hiding from telling your spouse that you are a gambler and an addict for that matter it is because you know that she will not be happy to hear that you are a gambler because every gambler, especially those who are already addicted to the act are mostly judged to lack of financial discipline and management. When somebody lacks that financial discipline and manage, it will be difficult for he or she to manage his family without having different financial crisis for one reason or the other.

[Darker45]

When I was a small kid, or perhaps even until now, gamblers are generally frowned upon. The impression is that gambling is a vice. And it seems it's the worse kind of vice because it involves playing with money. Other vices like drinking or smoking don't have the risk to bankrupt the family. And so I understand if many would consider being a gambler as a red flag.

To me, however, it's about the character. Notwithstanding the general impression, there are indeed responsible gamblers.

[mindrust]

Depends. If she is completely irresponsible with her finances then it is definitely a red flag. I wouldn't trust a person like that but then many females are -gambler or not- irresponsible with their finances.

If she was playing occasionally to have fun only, I could accept that since I also play occasionally but I am definitely not irresponsible. So if she was like me, it wouldn't create a problem. Since we are all gamblers here, the real problem is to find someone who would like us imo. We should worry more about that.

[Outhue]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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If it all started before we get married then my partner is doing well, because one thing is certain here, woman will not want to settle down with a losing gambler, if it's the other way around maybe this person is financially boyant the female won't say no, and won't also care if they are gamblers or not.

In the world of women, everything is welcome if you areaking good amount of money, it's why men don't take women very seriously anymore, women of today will know that a man is into crime and still choose to settle down with such man, I've seen ladies dating serial killers, one was caught and sentenced and the picture spread online, every women start wishing they can get to know the serial killer because he is good looking.

[Yablee0]

A woman will not bother if they are about to marry a gambler if the man is rich. Woman will only complain if the person is not man enough financially.

But if the man is struggling and still just coming up, the woman might still be saying something if gambling is affecting the person. If the person is gambling responsibly, it is highly possible the woman will not complain, but most will complain.

It is good to be rich 🤑.

Indeed it's really good to be a wealthy man honestly, because riches cover so many wrongs than being broke. However, even if your wife to be or even you wife find out that you are a gambler, even though not too addictive as the case may be, she will still want to make out issues from it because maybe she will see it as a reason you're aren't meeting up to expectations at home. But if the reverse is the case, as far as you are good to do financially everything is fine even if you are the worst gambler on earth.

[Africolo]

‎Just as the topic implies, I wonder how big a red flag it is, if you find out or your intended spouse funds out that you occasionally still gamble as a habit or gamble as a part time hobby of sort.
Hence the question, is knowing your fiance or fiancee a gambler a real big red flag when deciding to marry them?
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If you are just finding out that your fiancee gambles without informing you earlier before you discovered it, is extremely bad because we all know how gambling works, it goes as far as interfering with our moods and how we associate with people when we loose, now imagine you have a fiance who has gone out to bet heavily and lost the game then he or she comes back home and transfer the aggression on you without you knowing what has transpired.

As for me, it's a red flag because my partner can't be gambling as myself because she would definitely use my project money for gambling and end up being frustrated, the addiction and frustration that comes with gambling is what is bad especially when one don't have self control and sticked to budget. Though she might be of advantage if she is always winning and have self control but I can't marry a gambler as a wife, what lesson will she teach the children?, that's the bigger question.