Friendship vs Sectarianism

[Whiteronin]

I think I now have a clear understanding of what friendship is. The human psyche is "developed" in such a way, that friendship always requires a shared, noble goal. The absense of such a goal ("the meaning of life") also triggers a need for alcohol and other drugs (people say that they drink because of "boredom"). And when normal, non-sectarian companies of friends arise, people in them inevitably become interested in politics, then some of them begin to criticize authoritarian governments, and then the governments punish them for it—I'm talking about Western autocrats (deep state), among others. Consequently, normal and natural friendship is usually replaced by sectarian and drug-fueled "friendships."
I know women who go to dance clubs and make friends there; it seems obvious to me that dancing itself is of no use or interest to anyone, but making friends is essential for everyone. Thus, dancing is a very effective way to improve one's social skills, but to use it, one must be sufficiently irrational— he/she must internally believe that dancing is a wonderful thing which can save the world. Overall, I believe that dancing for women is roughly the same as beer, football, and fishing for men.
What I have described above is the cause of "idiocracy" and injustice in general; as the singer C C Catch sang, "good guys only win in movies."

[Findingnemo]

So many irrelevant things in one post, I just don't understand what to make out of it. Women/men or anyone else goes to club to enjoy not to make friends and hanging with them is also a part but it's not the sole reason. They just want to enjoy it, whether for drinking, make out later or anything worse like gold digging which all comes in with an excuse to begin, humans are social but as well as most selfish animals.

[hafiztalha]

When friends have mutual respect and goals then the friendship become rewaeding but it is not necessary that friendship always require the activities like you have explain dancing, there are people who enjoy these activities for their own personal entertainment and also they form long lasting friendship to them but it is not accurate to say that all friendship required objectives. All these activities like football dancing, fishing, they give us enjoyment and make us stress free for certain time and also help us to build relationship. When there is lack of purpose then then mostly people become exposed to unhealthy habits but that doesn't mean these outcomes are inevitable. Human relationships are very much diverse and any healthy relationship is based on trust and mutual respect.

[Whiteronin]

When friends have mutual respect and goals then the friendship become rewaeding but it is not necessary that friendship always require the activities like you have explain dancing, there are people who enjoy these activities for their own personal entertainment and also they form long lasting friendship to them but it is not accurate to say that all friendship required objectives. All these activities like football dancing, fishing, they give us enjoyment and make us stress free for certain time and also help us to build relationship. When there is lack of purpose then then mostly people become exposed to unhealthy habits but that doesn't mean these outcomes are inevitable. Human relationships are very much diverse and any healthy relationship is based on trust and mutual respect.

I am almost sure, that the pleasure from dancing or fishing occurs only because the mind gets the confirmation of its goal - new friends appear. People would not enjoy dancing or fishing, if they do this alone.

[Agbamoni]

Findingnemo made some valid point that I think you (Op) should listen to. Friends can be found anywhere. It can be found in your work place, school, church, bank, shy place with social gathering. The essence of having Freind is do that we will have soneine to share common interest not common habits. Sinking, drinking and drugs are habit. It shouldn't be used to identify who are our friends.

[Mhizlove]

Findingnemo made some valid point that I think you (Op) should listen to. Friends can be found anywhere. It can be found in your work place, school, church, bank, shy place with social gathering. The essence of having Freind is do that we will have soneine to share common interest not common habits. Sinking, drinking and drugs are habit. It shouldn't be used to identify who are our friends.

In addition a true friendship is not by where you people meet but by the kind of influence you both get on each other. A good friend will always respect your values, stand by you during your darkest times and encourage your growth instead of pushing you into making bad decisions. Having common goal or interest can bring people togethe,but you see respect, trust and genuine care makes friendships last longer, even though you both don agree on everything, a true or real friend will always support each other and wants the best for one another. In the end, one genuine friend that truly about your growth and wellbeing is much more better than keeping alot of friends that won't add any value to your life and growth.

[Majestic-milf]

So many irrelevant things in one post, I just don't understand what to make out of it. Women/men or anyone else goes to club to enjoy not to make friends and hanging with them is also a part but it's not the sole reason. They just want to enjoy it, whether for drinking, make out later or anything worse like gold digging which all comes in with an excuse to begin, humans are social but as well as most selfish animals.

I was struggling to also grasp the meaning of what he's trying to pass across so you're not alone.
So people go to bars to just make friends and not for the main purpose? See the thing is everyone has their way of thinking and friends are made anywhere so it's not because of a person's beliefs that begets friendship else you'd mean those in a particular sect should get or make acquaintances?

[Dunamisx]

Sinking, drinking and drugs are habit. It shouldn't be used to identify who are our friends.

The first thing to use as a tool is to identify who your friends are, because it will be the pointer to who you are, so we have to be conscious of those we walk around with and so call our friends, we should be sensitive in life and not anything we see coming our way should be allowed to penetrate to us, because some can bring luck or bad luck to us depending on their kind of nature and mission around us.