Why Do Marriages End in Divorce?

[Bigjoe33]

What's even more telling is that most people in this thread seem to put the blame on women, saying they marry for money, dont respect their husbands...It's almost as if men are always innocent and somehow the ones who suffer the most in marriage. LOL

I guess most of these people are either unmarried or are rather patriarchal husbands. A responsible man who truly respects his wife will understand that marriage is a two way relationship, and both sides are responsible for the problem in the relationship.
No offense, but only cowardly and irresponsible men blame their partners.

I think the common misconception that happens to marriage failure is improper dating, when you didn't get the chance to understand and love your partner for who they are and the most important is having a clear goal in common that nothing can stop until you fulfill

The proper love issue is another big problem leading to so many divorce I'm our society.  So many people get into marriage because of money, some because they are looking for someone who can always provide for them. Some are just looking for care for the main time but they don't truly love this Person. Some for men just got into the marriage because they are looking for whom to make out with on bed, no love or affection, and sometimes, there is an unwanted pregnancy, and then they Marry, and because there is no love, they can't handle it.

Some partners see some character from there spouse that they don't like, but they don't speak up, or they tend to manage it, believe she/he will change, and eventually they get married, and there is no change. There are just so many problems leading to divorce, and that's why it is paramount that you must marry RIGHT..

[Mr_Brilliant$]

That excuse of because one of them stopped communicating and to warrant the other to go and cheat is just pure nonsense. I believe the core belonging and values of marriage has been lost that people just do as they like. But it is beyond yourselves. Coming together to form a family is something huge and that is fact. But people do like it is just not worth the effort and sacrifice that they do as they like. The core values of marriages has been lost, that's why you see many divorce today.

[Judith87403]

The proper love issue is another big problem leading to so many divorce I'm our society.  So many people get into marriage because of money, some because they are looking for someone who can always provide for them. Some are just looking for care for the main time but they don't truly love this Person. Some for men just got into the marriage because they are looking for whom to make out with on bed, no love or affection, and sometimes, there is an unwanted pregnancy, and then they Marry, and because there is no love, they can't handle it.

Marriage goes above love because love can bring a man and a woman together but what will make them stay with each other for a long time has nothing to do with love anymore. Tolerance and forgiveness is among the things that can help couples live with each other till the end. To be honest, no matter how you love a person, as time goes on your love for those people begins to decline but what makes you never to leave is the commitment you have with that person. When Marriages crash, people will begin to say that both couples doesn't love each other but how is it possible that two people that doesn't love themselves went ahead to marry. Love is already what brings two people together but it takes more than that love for them to work together.

[Anayochukwu]

Someone said that most marriages end in divorce now because women are now WOKE and thinking about the stories my grandmother told me about her marriage I think that's true, women back in the olden days tolerated a lot because they were so dependent on their men for everything and they weren't working to earn so they were even tolerating even a cheating partner and they loved blindly too. Women of this Generation are independent and they don't tolerate a cheating partner, I'm talking about women because most divorce cases that I have seen are because its either the man is cheating or they are abusing their partner and no woman is ready to tolerate that like our mothers did.

[Unknown Op]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

So many reasons contribute to the high rate of divorce. One of them is the increase in women's rights organizations. These groups are campaigning about the need for women to have equal rights with men. This has caused women to challenge cultural beliefs and to seek more respect in marriage.

Social media has also contributed to the rise in divorce. Most couples tend to copy behavior they see on different social media platforms. This has led to the transfer of culture and behavior, which includes divorce. In some countries, divorce is common, while in others it is forbidden. Social media has made people in some areas, like Africa, copy European divorce culture.

Infidelity is another reason. In the past, people were faithful to their partners, but this has changed over time. Now married women and men cheat of thier spouse without remorse. Their partner divorces them if they find out their unfaithfulness.

I do not think that divorce rate is high because of women's rights organizations. The main purpose of these organisations is to empower women and encourage them to recognise their rights, let them know about safety and dignity and also how to be treated fairly in a marriage. If one of the partners in a married life refuses to give basic respect or equality, then for sure the marriage ends in divorce. The real problem is unhealthy relationship rather than assuming that the women right organizations are the cause of this. It is true that social media has raised the expectations of people very much. Seeing other people's happy married life, their unrealistic lifestyles and the relationships that can create dissatisfaction in a relationship. Another reason for breakups is infidelity because trust is the most important part of any married life. We cannot blame social media for the damage, but more important is to understand the deeper problems.

[Swordsoffreedom]

You made a very valid point, when a woman has made money on her own, men are the first on their drop list. She doesn’t need a man that’s what most women says after making money. Women naturally don’t like being with men unless for their own selfish. Most are with men today because they depend on that man to survive. If they had other options of surviving, they won’t be with men. These days women from different regions are also leaning foreign cultures on social media about marriage equality and intolerance in marriages, and this has influenced many of them into divorcing their marriages without second consideration.

No, when women earn their own money, the first people they leave are those who don't respect them, not the men who truly love them. Women are just like men. They will keep what still has value and make their live better. They have no reason to stay with someone who look down on them or treat them badly.

Marriage is responsibility for both side. Its not relationship where one person is expected to put up with the other.

You have every right to leave your wife if she cheats on you or treats you badly. But there's nothing wrong with her leaving you if you do the same.

[Nasdel4]

Knowledge is the foundation for any endeavour which includes marriage. A lot of people go into marriage for different reasons and most times it's done blindly which at the end of the day could be disastrous. Most people don't realise it's a forever thing until later on especially when they start seeing certain changes they weren't used to at first. Financial difficulty, lack of morals and core values, impatience, lack of communication and so on are the problems but how can this be solved or reduced drastically?
We need to counsel young couples before marriage and enlighten them on the challenges they might face and how to overcome them.
They should understand that it's for better and for worse, meaning that it's not always going to be good so when the going gets tough they have to understand that it's part of the play.
Parents should set good examples for their children to follow because in a society where divorce isn't a trend, people will automatically not see divorce as an option.

[SuperBitMan]

You made a very valid point, when a woman has made money on her own, men are the first on their drop list. She doesn’t need a man that’s what most women says after making money. Women naturally don’t like being with men unless for their own selfish. Most are with men today because they depend on that man to survive. If they had other options of surviving, they won’t be with men. These days women from different regions are also leaning foreign cultures on social media about marriage equality and intolerance in marriages, and this has influenced many of them into divorcing their marriages without second consideration.

No, when women earn their own money, the first people they leave are those who don't respect them, not the men who truly love them. Women are just like men. They will keep what still has value and make their live better. They have no reason to stay with someone who look down on them or treat them badly.

You are right, however we still have some women that we immediately move on if they become rich in the future, and they will look for a man that is rich like them, especially if the man they are with is not rich.
I have seen this kind of situation before the man love the wife so much and was very instrumental in her educational journey when she became rich she abandon the husband, and look for a rich man.
Women sometimes don’t stay with you because you love and respect them, they stay with you because you are the one providing everything they need.

[Ab de villiers]

The proper love issue is another big problem leading to so many divorce I'm our society.  So many people get into marriage because of money, some because they are looking for someone who can always provide for them. Some are just looking for care for the main time but they don't truly love this Person. Some for men just got into the marriage because they are looking for whom to make out with on bed, no love or affection, and sometimes, there is an unwanted pregnancy, and then they Marry, and because there is no love, they can't handle it.

Some partners see some character from there spouse that they don't like, but they don't speak up, or they tend to manage it, believe she/he will change, and eventually they get married, and there is no change. There are just so many problems leading to divorce, and that's why it is paramount that you must marry RIGHT..

Love and marriage are both important decisions in life and both should not be made under emotional or social pressure and money should not be given much importance in this matter because time in life does not remain the same and there are ups and downs because marriage is not about two people but about two families, two thoughts and two lives. Therefore, it is important that when a person chooses his life partner, he should first look at his temperament and morals and most importantly, see whether he is responsible or not. Getting married just because he is getting old or what society will say is the most wrong thing. True love is felt over time, especially in difficult situations when patience and respect for each other are needed. More divorces occur due to stupidity in people when they make decisions based on emotions instead of their minds.

[Fiatless]

No, when women earn their own money, the first people they leave are those who don't respect them, not the men who truly love them. Women are just like men. They will keep what still has value and make their live better. They have no reason to stay with someone who look down on them or treat them badly.

Marriage is responsibility for both side. Its not relationship where one person is expected to put up with the other.

You have every right to leave your wife if she cheats on you or treats you badly. But there's nothing wrong with her leaving you if you do the same.

All you have spoken is true, but the bolded part caught more of my attention. I live in a country where women are not treated equally with men. If a woman cheats, she would be disgraced, but a man always gets away with it. In some rural communities, women who cheat are sent out of their husband's house shamefully. A man would want to divorce his wife for cheating, and he would get the support of the community, yet he also cheats on her. He who comes to equality must come with clean hands. I tell people that I would divorce my partner if they cheat, but only if I am not cheating.

You are right, however we still have some women that we immediately move on if they become rich in the future, and they will look for a man that is rich like them, especially if the man they are with is not rich.
I have seen this kind of situation before the man love the wife so much and was very instrumental in her educational journey when she became rich she abandon the husband, and look for a rich man.
Women sometimes don’t stay with you because you love and respect them, they stay with you because you are the one providing everything they need.

Humans act differently. Some women could act that way. Meanwhile, some wives treat their husbands well no matter his condition. I know women who earn more than their husbands and still respect and support them.

[Decimetre]

Marriage is a union of two strangers but bound by decision to stay together.  Whenever marriage happens, someone has to decide to be the fool because two wise people don't last in marriage because they observe every error and they will react to every provocation. Marriage demands more. There are people who went into marriage without proper analysis, due to their selfish interests or peer pressure even when they know they're not fully ready mentally, emotionally or otherwise. So many falling or broken marriages happen because of what they see online, influencers selling narratives that even them don't practice in order to generate traffic and grow their pages.  Social media has destroyed morals and rendered marriages in shambles.

For marriages to last we have to go back to our forefathers way of  marriages, when a man understands that the family is his responsibilities and the woman understands her role and respects the man wholeheartedly. Until we revert to the origin and reason for marriage, we will continue to record high divorces happening in our society.

[Callido]

You have every right to leave your wife if she cheats on you or treats you badly. But there's nothing wrong with her leaving you if you do the same.

In marriage, there is always an option to leave. Nobody is bound to anybody for life, marriage is supposed to be a blessing, not a curse, not a place to exact violence, and every union is blessed, immediately it becomes a curse, it is the right time to leave. Some marriages are not meant to be fixed, women are mostly the victims, and most of them end up losing their lives, a recent case happened, and i don't advise ladies to stay with a violent partner.

Cheating partners are fixable, i have witnessed it, and both partners are still happily together, that doesn't mean everybody can tolerate it, and i also don't support gender based cheating, what goes for the ladies goes for the men as well.

[Rabata]

The number of divorced marriages nowadays is alarming and it got me thinking is it that people easily fall out of love or is that they aren't patient enough to work out issues. Maybe it is because they stop communicatin one of them cheated. Why are marriages failing today and what can we do to better?

There are many reasons for the increasing number of divorces these days. In my opinion, people do not want to respect anyone. They will not bow down even if they make a mistake. What they are doing is leading them to a worse situation. The main reason for the storms between husband and wife in the family is that there is not enough understanding between them. If there was good understanding, they would never have left each other. The ego has grown so much that they are not ready to make any concessions to anyone. They think that if one partner can be changed, they will be the happiest, but the reality is completely different.

Divorce can never be the solution to any problem. If there is any incompatibility in the family for any reason, then it should be communicated to the other. One should understand where the problem is, but without doing that, if only divorce is considered as a solution without considering what is going on inside someone's mind, then the real problem cannot be solved.

[Nanga Parbat]

You’re spot on, I think women of this days are not marrying for love, they’re more interested in the financial benefits that comes from marriage and getting divorced, which is why they’re more likely to getting divorced when there is a benefit attached to divorce, and the men are the once who stands to loose more in a marriage.

Women of this generation, are more likely to get divorced because they don’t want to respect a man, or want to be under a man, women now wants to be in control, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have the good once available.

Not because of one particular problem,but due to number of small issues that become the reason of breakup. You are right here now marriages are often settled by looking each others financial stability. Any ups and down greatly affects the relationship.

But i have noticed one major reason that is becoming increasing ratio of divorce. And that is people are greatly influenced by social media couples, their way of gifting, proposing, living, romance and dealing with each other attracted them alot. Under the influence of media many youth decided to get married and started living fantasy life. But when they start their practical life they realize  that all their imagination or expectations are not working well. Or might be they have chose wrong partners. So they should move on as early as possible. Rather staying with compromises or accept the reality they prefer to nd the marriage. In these days social media play major role in this regard.