Do we need to care much about loneliness at old age?

[acener]

Loneliness doesn't always mean that they are alone, they could still feel it even if there are people around them.
And of course getting married or having a partner doesn't always mean that you wouldn't feel lonely when you grow old, being financially secured doesn't also mean that you wouldn't feel it.
I know some people who have money to spend, they would seem to be happy while they are with their friends but how about when the party ends?

[Royal Cap]

Getting married and bearing children is a good thing. If not that many marriages are failing today, it is an institution that even God himself has ordained. God saw Adam lonely in the garden of Eden and he created a wife to help him despite that they later deviated from the instructions of God. The prayer should be to marry and caring and kind partner who really came into your life to build a future together, it feels so good because even at your lowest moment they will still be by yourself to support you.

Having money is another important part of life and marriage because if you have money you can actually have a beautiful marriage. Most marriages that are crashing is based on financial reasons because when one partner is unable to provide or support again, it gradually becomes a big issue.

Marriage is not just about love or money, but understanding and sharing responsibilities between two people is also highly essential. Financial stress can truly cause problems in a marriage but it is not just about money that leads a marriage to break up.  Sometimes even if the income is poor, if the two of you live within your means and talk freely about money the relationship can be considerably more stable. For example if one person's income is low, it is considerably more productive to make a budget together rather than blaming the other, In the end money is vital, but understanding the relationship regarding money is much more important.

[Marykeller]

As far as this life is concerned, everyone should be concerned and prepare for old age because a time will come when you have wealth, be healthy, but still, you feel empty(lonely) and incomplete inside because you have no one to talk to, to keep you company, and to get things done for you without stressing yourself anymore.

In this life, nothing is more painful than living as a lonely person when you have no one who can take care of you during your downtime or be the one to bury you when you die. Each one of us needs someone close to us as family; that's why we marry and think of having children who will take care of us at old age

[Charleslie]

There is this social anxiety that people always talk about... which is loneliness at old age. The society has made it look like if you do no marry that you will be very lonely at old age. Is this really true?

I have come to understand that phrase is just to create tension in order for people to consider getting married. We do not own the future, even if you are married, one of you might leave each other in the future either as a result of death or a divorce.

Again you can get old together with your partner and they end up being sick for years which means that you will need to take care of them till they die naturally but what about you who took care of the person... ain't you lonely?

I think the society should stop creating social anxiety because the best security anyone can give themselves is to be financially stable at old age, it's only when you don't have money at old age that you will feel the real loneliness if you don't have a partner and even if you have a partner but you don't have money, you will still feel some kind of loneliness because you might not be able to afford some basic things of life.

We should think more about building wealth than being too futuristic about how our old age will look like. Life is not promised and people can change. The person you started a beautiful life journey with can even become cruel to you at old age so we should focus on more important things which is wealth creation.

I think society should stop putting too much pressure on people about how their old age must look. We are always told to worry about having a partner or someone who will be there for us when we get older. The truth is, growing old without money can be difficult. Even if you have a partner, life can still be hard when you cannot afford basic things or take care of yourself. People can change, and the person you started life with may not always remain the same as you always think. Life is unpredictable, and nobody knows exactly what the future will bring. So instead of worrying too much about who will be there for us in the  old age, we should also prepare ourselves financially.

[Dreadboost]

Loneliness doesn't always mean that they are alone, they could still feel it even if there are people around them.
And of course getting married or having a partner doesn't always mean that you wouldn't feel lonely when you grow old, being financially secured doesn't also mean that you wouldn't feel it.
I know some people who have money to spend, they would seem to be happy while they are with their friends but how about when the party ends?

Life can be frustrating at times. We will have this and lack the other things in life. I know people who have the finances in old age but remain lonely because they lived all their lives chasing money. In the process, they chased away the people who loved them. And there are people without finances yet are happy and well taken care of in old age.

Money is important. Knowing a lot of people is also important, but neither can fill the space of loneliness if the right people are not around us.

[KingsDen]

There is this social anxiety that people always talk about... which is loneliness at old age. The society has made it look like if you do no marry that you will be very lonely at old age. Is this really true?

Yes, that's true, so have a partner to enjoy your old age.

I have come to understand that phrase is just to create tension in order for people to consider getting married. We do not own the future, even if you are married, one of you might leave each other in the future either as a result of death or a divorce.

Death, you marry again. Divorce, you re-marry.

Again you can get old together with your partner and they end up being sick for years which means that you will need to take care of them till they die naturally but what about you who took care of the person... ain't you lonely?

If your partner gets sick, you hire a nanny or so to help in taking care of your partner.

I think the society should stop creating social anxiety because the best security anyone can give themselves is to be financially stable at old age, it's only when you don't have money at old age that you will feel the real loneliness if you don't have a partner and even if you have a partner but you don't have money, you will still feel some kind of loneliness because you might not be able to afford some basic things of life.

You were talking about life in old age and marriage, why did you divert to having money.
Well, having money is good and with money you can have people to spend your old age with.

[Mr Reporter]

Yes, we should care about loneliness in old age but not the point of being afraid of growing old or making decisions just to avoid being alone and loneliness can affect a person’s emotional and physical well being so building good relationships throughout life is more important.

At same times being alone is not necessarily the same as being lonely, some older people enjoy their independence and peaceful life’s, so what really matters is having a good relationship with family and community knowing that they are people who are always their for you eventually anytime you need their support.

[Pearl_20]

I think the society should stop creating social anxiety because the best security anyone can give themselves is to be financially stable at old age, it's only when you don't have money at old age that you will feel the real loneliness if you don't have a partner and even if you have a partner but you don't have money, you will still feel some kind of loneliness because you might not be able to afford some basic things of life.

Money cannot give you the happiness and companionship you need at old age because you don't have that close person who understands you very well and have become part of you. There is nothing wrong to on building wealth at your youthful age because you can get married at any time if you're a man but it's not the same with women.

If you're lonely at old age, life can become miserable for you especially, when you're poor. But if you get married and have kids, they might become rich in the future and give you a better life because nobody knows tomorrow. If you have a partner at old age, you wouldn't feel any lonely because s/he will be there with you. Getting a life partner is not only about getting rid of loneliness at old age but also to give birth to kids and have a family of your own. Husband and wife are to assist one another.

You're very correct, Money can't give you companionship and loneliness is real, money is good but it won't give you people to talk with, money I believe helps with basic things but it does not remove human loneliness.

I also suggest that keeping people around you, like extended family, children, church members and few friends should be encouraged so that if in the place of death you can only feel that loneliness for that particular season but after grieving you'll still be surrounded by loved ones you'll take care of you and make you feel loved. Loneliness is all about connecting with one another, It's not about marriage there are people who are still married and lonely so marrying right and having a good partner should count as well.

[ASloveapg]

Getting married and bearing children is a good thing. If not that many marriages are failing today, it is an institution that even God himself has ordained. God saw Adam lonely in the garden of Eden and he created a wife to help him despite that they later deviated from the instructions of God. The prayer should be to marry and caring and kind partner who really came into your life to build a future together, it feels so good because even at your lowest moment they will still be by yourself to support you.

Having money is another important part of life and marriage because if you have money you can actually have a beautiful marriage. Most marriages that are crashing is based on financial reasons because when one partner is unable to provide or support again, it gradually becomes a big issue.

Marriage is not just about love or money, but understanding and sharing responsibilities between two people is also highly essential. Financial stress can truly cause problems in a marriage but it is not just about money that leads a marriage to break up.  Sometimes even if the income is poor, if the two of you live within your means and talk freely about money the relationship can be considerably more stable. For example if one person's income is low, it is considerably more productive to make a budget together rather than blaming the other, In the end money is vital, but understanding the relationship regarding money is much more important.

And this is why you must be careful in choosing a life partner, marriage is about understanding and sharing responsibilities between two people, but a wrong life partner can destroy your life. You may be financially well-off, family-wise too, but when you marry a wrong life partner, he or she can destroy everything for you. On the other hand, you may not be very stable or influential financially, but if you choose a right life partner, both of you can work together to create everything. And that is why you need the right life partner, that is, it has two sides, either you will be destroyed by it, or you can achieve everything in life by choosing the right life partner. That is why I will never advise anyone to rush into marriage, but rather take your time and choose the right life partner, because this one decision will determine your future, and this is the biggest decision in every man's life.

[Agbamoni]

Yes, we should care about loneliness in old age but not the point of being afraid of growing old or making decisions just to avoid being alone and loneliness can affect a person’s emotional and physical well being so building good relationships throughout life is more important.

At same times being alone is not necessarily the same as being lonely, some older people enjoy their independence and peaceful life’s, so what really matters is having a good relationship with family and community knowing that they are people who are always their for you eventually anytime you need their support.

Better old in a way that taking care of myself won't be an issue. When I'm too old to move about, I don't want to be alive anymore. Old age is a sign that someone has lived a good life on earth, but I also think about the physical sufferings and the pains that come in old age. Sometimes it's not worth staying that old.

I agree on the difference between being alone and loneliness. People don't really have to be around you all the time to feel at home. Loneliness is a disease. Even if people surround a person, they can still feel lonely.

[Sarah Jordan]

Sure, it's good to care about loneliness in old age.
And that's why if you have a family, build your family with love, bring everyone close. Not just in the family, the environment where you stay in build love, show love to the people and that feeling will be reciprocated to one's old age. Like you said regarding creating wealth very important too. So yes loneliness should be cared about in old age cause no one wants be alone when that time comes.

[In_cu_bent]

The real loneliness at old age is when you feel so empty inside because you could not live a fulfilled life. If you could not build a house, buy a car and own investments that is the real loneliness. Every other person can disappoint you at old age. There's no assurance that your spouse will threat you nice at old age even if you have been good to them all through your life. Children may not even recognise the sacrifices that you made for them to become successful. Build a family but don't live with the idea that they will be there when you are old because life happens, people can change no matter how much you love them or they love you.

[Jet Cash]

I think you need to differentiate between chronological old age, and metabolic old age. I'm 84 chronologically, but I feel I've just hit middle age metabolically. I've got so many projects and interests that I still stay active, and I can get up from a chair over 50 times without using my arms or and support other than my legs. I believe that that is one of the indications of a strong metabolism. These days many people under 50 cannot lift themselves with just the use of their legs. Because of my interests I seem to have a lot of real interpersonal interactions, and I get quite a lot of exercise. It is my belief that health and financial stability are more important than the pursuit of wealth.